I prayed for this child, and the Lord answered my prayer. He gave me this child. And now I give this child to the Lord. 1 Samuel 1:27 ERV
Do you remember when you first held your newborn daughter and sensed the awesome responsibility and immense privilege of parenthood? God gave you this precious gift to care for and to love, and He may have even whispered to your heart, "She is yours."
Now comes the hard part—raising her up from a baby to a happy, healthy adult—and remembering that everything you have is God's, including your daughter.
Wynter and Jonathan Pitts want you to know you are not alone. The proud parents of four young daughters, they've gained a wealth of valuable insights on the unique challenge of raising girls. They've been right where you are and now they want to share what they've learned with you.
With this practical advice and encouragement, you can help your daughter develop awesome relationships with God, with you, and with the world around her.
Start this journey by making this commitment to God: Lord, she is Yours and I trust You with her.
Jonathan Pitts is an author, speaker, and executive pastor at Church of the City in Franklin, TN. Prior to pastoring, Jonathan was executive director at The Urban Alternative, the national ministry of Dr. Tony Evans in Dallas, Texas. Jonathan lives in Franklin, Tennessee with his four daughters.
This book is not really specific to daughters, but teaches some good parenting habits. Here's the things I'm taking away from this and hope to remember:
1. The title, "She is Yours," is a great reminder that my daughter is the Lord's before she's mine.
2. God is the one who works heart change, so trust that he's leading her well, despite my good habits and mistakes.
3. The kindness of God leads us to repentance (Rom. 2:4); this should inform the tone of addressing disobedience.
4. Rules without relationship leads to rebellion.
5. Error increases with distance; I must be intentional about staying close to my daughter.
6. Model what godly friendships are like and discern healthy boundaries for my daughter and her friends.
**I received this book for free from the publisher through Netgalley. My review and opinions are my own.**
I truly believe that one of the hardest things for Christian parents to do is to hold our children, love them, treasure them, while acknowledging that they are not really ours - they belong to God. We have them in our care for a short time, to train and prepare them, and then they will leave. How do we instill in them a love for God and love for others? How to we hold on loosely, remembering that God may have plans for them we don't see coming?
These are some of the questions that Jonathan and Wynter Pitts, parents of four daughters, try to answer in their book. Divided into three sections - her relationship with God, her relationship with you, her relationship with the world around her - She is Yours looks to the Bible and the author's experience for direction on how to raise daughters. It's a good book, but there isn't much in here that can't be found in other parenting books. While most of the advice in the book is good for parents of either gender (there really isn't much in the book that's actually gender specific), the aim of the book at parents of daughters makes it less appealing for parents of sons. Also, and I admit this is a personal issue of mine, I much prefer to read books by parents who have been-there-done-that than by parents whose oldest child is, at most, in her young teens (the age of their oldest is hard to tell from the book, but I'd guess 12 or 13). A good book, but not a great one.
Good reminders and I liked the perspectives from both parents. Parenting is tough people....we need all the encouragement we can get to raise Godly girls!
I really enjoyed this one! Even though it's written for parents of girls, I think it can relate to ALL parents. Sometimes we get caught up thinking if we only do (fill in the blank) our kids will be (insert desirable outcome), but really it's not up to us. She is His... not ours.
A must read for any parent of girls. Wonderfully written by the parents of 4 girls who set out to provide sound Biblical encouragement to other parents about recognizing the beauty God has placed in each little girl. This book provides readers with insight into three different relationships their daughter will encounter: Her relationship with God, the parent, and the people around her throughout life.
After reading this book, I have found that my prayers for each of my little girls has changed. I see them differently. They are not mine, they belong to God. What a privilege to hold their hands along this journey!
As the mom of four girls myself, I can't begin to tell you what an encouraging and refreshing read this book is! So much wisdom and guidance for raising daughters here. I also really appreciated how both dad and mom (Jonathan and Wynter) share their perspectives throughout. This is one of those godly and helpful resources for every parent to read and re-read again!
As the parent of a four-year-old daughter, I selected this book because I believed it would offer valuable, faith-based guidance on how to discipline and raise up my child, especially in regards to her spiritual needs.
I'm definitely not going to say I chose wrong, but I'm not certain I chose best.
She is Yours is a lovely premise with a ton of valuable insight into the reality of raising girls or even just raising children in general. The authors are parents of multiple daughters and so I approached their book with a good deal of optimism and hope about the wisdom that would be shared. And, indeed, they are full of wisdom, and humor, and love. I loved that they approached sensitive issues with tenderness and strength while also taking the time to highlight the inherent humor in parenting. Anecdotal books are some of my favorites, and this one did not disappoint in that regard.
My only issue with She Is Yours is not the advice offered or the insight into raising up girls in particular. Nor was it the spiritual instruction, which, as a Jesus follower, I thought was both comforting and incredibly helpful. It was simply how often the conversation of what young girls need was so traditionally binary in terms of gender. I do not fall into the category of people who believe that gender is purely a social construct (although cultural and society are certainly huge influences on presentation), but I would have liked to see the authors offer a bit more range in that regard as opposed to espousing more traditional views about what is necessary for girls to thrive.
With that being said, I did love how the authors lifted each other up and promoted the necessary roles they play in their children's lives. The fact that they wrote this book together speaks volumes about their wisdom as parents and admiration for each other, and I'm glad I took the time to read it.
She Is Yours is a beautifully written book of wisdom and encouragement. It reminds us that we can fully trust God in the raising of our girls, because they are His. God is our partner in parenting. She Is Yours is full of practical advice for raising girls to become happy, balanced, well adjusted adults. She Is Yours is written by husband and wife, Jonathan and Wynter Pitts. They are the proud parents of four daughters and they are Christians, so the advice they give in She Is Yours is from their own experience, and is biblically sound. Raising children can be challenging. However, raising girls presents its own unique set of challenges. She Is Yours includes nineteen chapters, divided into three parts: her relationship with God, her relationship with her parents (or those in the parenting role), and her relationship with the world around her. Each chapter discusses areas that are important in every girl's life. Included are scriptures, truths to apply, practical tips and advice; and most importantly, prayers to pray for and with your girl(s). Whether she is an infant, a preschooler, a teen or young adult, readers will find a wealth of insights for raising their girl to be a wonderful woman of God, one who will be filled with kindness and love. I highly recommend She Is Yours. It's a fantastic book and definitely one to share. Because we know that as we trust God with our girls, we are not alone in raising them. God is right there with us.
*Disclaimer: I am blessed to have been able to read and review She Is Yours. I received an Advanced Reader's Copy from the publisher in exchange for my honest review. The opinion stated is my own. I have not been compensated in any way.*
This book is an easy read. It is split into three sections, Her Relationship with God, Her Relationship with You, and Her relationship with the World. While I wouldn’t say I learned anything new, this book was full of great reminders to parents, not just of girls. Some key ideas front his book: ❤️ The main title, “She is Yours” and the extension “and I trust you with her” is repeated in each chapter, typically at the end of chapter prayers. This is one of those “easy to say, hard to do” type of pretty quotes that people like to repeat. ❤️ our children learn more about a relationship with Christ though our modeling than through our telling. It’s not just about teaching them the Bible, it’s about leading them to experience a relationship with the Lord. ❤️ we should be actively and continually praying for the spiritual development of our child and their future spouses. ❤️ we need to make an active effort to hold our children close, even as they grow. And we need to make active listening a priority even when they are little. ❤️ If we do not make an effort to fill their “spiritual shopping carts” with healthy ideals and mindsets, the world will be quick to step in and do it for us, and we will likely be unhappy with the results. I’m sure there were more excellent points, however I didn’t make a list and I can’t think of more at the moment. 😂 Suffice it to say, this book is a good read for Christian parents who desire to “raise their child in the way they should go.”
As parents, we strive to make sure our kids know all they need to know. We teach them their numbers and letters, how to sweep a floor and feed the family pet, how to drive a car and how to balance a checkbook. But how often are we teaching them how to pray, study God's Word and live for Him? While we make sure they become safe drivers, are we making sure they become solid Christians?
In She Is Yours, Jonathan and Wynter teach us how to lead our children. They share their real life experiences and practical ways to help raise your child in the way of the Lord. Each chapter ends with a prayer, and each prayer ends with "She is Yours, and I trust You with her." Words that are medicine to this mama's heart as I pray for my baby away at school.
While Jonathan and Wynter's book is written about daughters, since they have 4 beautiful daughters, every single thing in this book can be applied to your sons as well. Every parent, whether a parent of all girls, parent of all boys, or parent to boys and girls, should read and reread this book. I read a lot of books and I can honestly say this is one of the best, if not the best, parenting book I've ever read.
Reading She Is Yours is going to make you laugh, cry, but most important, it will change the way you parent forever. Pick up a copy She Is Yours today!
This is definitely a book worth reading if you're raising girls. Written from a Biblical perspective, this books delves in what we as parents might face in raising young girls. The Pitts have 4 daughters all with different personalities, and their advice, stories and encouragement opened my eyes and helped me in how I raise my daughter. They teach you to pick your battles and as a mother of a 1 year old precious baby girl, this advice has really helped me in how I discipline my daughter. The prayers offered up for our daughters are humbling and might cause a tear or two as we have a duty to rear our daughters in the nurture and admonition of the Lord for they are His, and He has graciously given us these gifts to raise.
I will be referring back to this book from time to time to remind me of some important points in rearing daughters as well as the prayers for our daughters. Thank you to the Pitts for writing this helpful book.
Page 204-205 If all these things happened to Jesus, then I have to brace myself for the fact that some of them may happen to my girls. Following him is not always an easy, comfortable, and rewarding journey (in the immediate.)
But we can hope in this: God as many promises for our girls. Here are a few: - Peace (John 14:27) - joy (John 16:20) - Hope (I Timothy 4:10) - Forgiveness: (I John 1:9) - Everlasting Love: I John 3:1 - Eternal life (John 3:16)
Page 215 “Keep _____ as if it were working, because it will work!
Fill in your blank. It may be… -Trusting that God has your daughters heart -Believing that God is working all things together for your good -Loving beyond what you feel like you have the capacity to do -Disciplining as if it makes a difference -Encouraging, knowing that you are your daughters greatest human asset - guiding with the Lord as your pilot - Praying as if your parenting journey depends on it, because it does”
Written by the parents of 4 girls who are still in the trenches but still able to advice from a place of been-there-done-that but still in this journey with you. I love that the dad has something to say. Women aren't raising girls in a vacuum, fathers are in this journey too and have something to share and learn. I love that they don't pretend to be perfect or have all the answers but have learnt lesson and are sharing their journey to encourage others. I love the anecdotal stories that accompany their advice and encouragements. The prayers, oh the prayers. Praying for the children in our lives is so important and they also guide us and lead us in this as well. This book is not just for women and mothers this is a book for both parents to be encouraged together in leading their daughters. I received this book free from NetGalley and Harvest House Publishers for my honest opinion.
This book started off as a 2 star and finished for me as a 3.5 star read. I'm not sure why, but I had trouble getting into it and really enjoyed it as I continued. It was a book that I got lots of "nuggets" out of rather than wanted to highlight lots from each page. My favorite was the questions at the end of each section in the book (I just wish there'd been more). I found them to be quite thought-provoking. Some favorite questions of mine were: "Are you establishing the importance of knowing God in your home versus knowing about God? In what ways are you encouraging your girls to get to know God personally for themselves?" "How would you rate your listening skills? Does your daughter have your ear?" "How much time do you invest in meaningful and ongoing conversations with your daughter?"
A good (not great) book written by both mother and father detailing their experiences thus far in their parenting journey. It was much more personal anecdotes rather than concrete ways of raising your daughter in the ways of God.
I also couldn't completely connect with this family as their family dynamic is much different than my own. Their oldest (12 or 13) is an actress and all their girls are public schooled so a good portion was directed on how they send their girls out into the world praying for good influences for them and praying they will be the "salt and light" for others children in the public school system.
One thing I did enjoy and appreciate were the heart felt prayers at the end of each chapter asking for specific protection and grace for our daughters.
Must-read to all the girl moms out there no matter what age.
This husband and wife team have four daughters and they share their victories and struggles with raising their girls. They share their hearts and provide such great encouragement. Parenting is a blessing and a huge responsibility, but the authors remind us to not try to do it in our own strength; we are to lean on Father God. Because ultimately, our girls belong to Him and we should trust Him with them.
I especially love the prayers at the end of the chapters. Each one helps us point our hearts and thoughts toward handing our daughters back over to God.
This book was amazing! Jonathan and his late wife, Wynter, dive into all the areas of your daughter's relationships (with God, as parents, the world around) and how to entrust those areas to God. This is an intentional approach to raising daughters. Each chapter ends with a prayer and this sentence: She is Yours and I trust You with her.
I have to say that this book brings tears to my eyes as I think about this mother not being here for her 4 daughters. She absolutely poured into her daughters in the short time she had with them. But as stated, she gave them to God. This book is a legacy and one that I will read again and pass on to my daughter.
I got this book after hearing about Wynter Pitts' tragic passing, and I was so touched by her voice. Her heart shines through as she powerfully and lovingly talks about raising strong, godly young women. I definitely recommend this book for any mama raising a girl or girls, especially for those times when the responsibility of setting a godly example seems particularly daunting. This is a book I will likely come back to in the coming years as my daughter grows. Thank you God for Wynter's life and impact on generations of girls and women. I recommend this book!
I started reading this book when my youngest daughter was experiencing her first baby cold, as a young mom I started feeling guilty for not having everything under control and then this book came up. I understood that in motherhood we don't owe our girls but we do have a responsability of drawing them to Jesus.
I loved the sincere way the Pitts talk about there journey and how sometimes a house of little ones can be chaotic, and I learned from them how to pray for my girls.
After each chapter there's a little prayer that read from the heart touches heaven.
I moved through this book slowly, but enjoyed the authors stories and encouragement. It’s especially meaningful to realize that the wife suddenly died two years after this book was published. Her faith in God’s plan for her daughters is all the more sobering with that knowledge.
“When it hurts to watch, trust Him. When you don’t understand, trust Him. When you don’t fully understand where the path is leading, trust Him. He is clearing the path that He meant for her to walk.”
I was a little disappointed with this one. There was nothing specific to girls and their femininity, roles, gifts etc, everything could have been related to sons too.
Also, there were a lot of personal stories that I personally struggled to relate with.
I listened to it on Audible and the female narrator sounded like an automatic voice - it was not good to listen to. The male narrator was good. Might be better to read this one on paper/kindle.
Jonathan and Wynter Pitts share from their heart on how to lead and raise girls through prayer and example. I love the prayers at the end of every chapter - every part of their sharing involves laying your heart and daughter before God. While this book was written for parents of girls, I took many of the prayers and prayed over my son.
Excellent read for anyone who wants to raise their daughter to love Jesus. Easy to read and full of Godly wisdom. A bit bittersweet to read though, hearing Wynter telling stories of raising her daughters, knowing Wynter is with Jesus now. She left QUITE a legacy behind! Well worth the read! I will be reading this again as I raise my daughter.
Such an encouraging read as a mama to girls. I love that the book reads like a prayer at the end of each chapter, reminding the reader that prayer for our daughters is one of the most important things we can do for her.
Dear Lord, thank you for giving me my beautiful girls, even in my fears for their futures I am given hope in the fact that She is Yours and I trust you with her.
Would give it 10 stars if I could!! Love this book and all of the godly wisdom for raising girls that it contains. The prayers, the real life experiences, the ideas for tasks -everything has truly helped me refocus and be aware of my focusing while raising my three girls!
This was an excellent book. It's written for parents of girls, however, any parent will glean some incredible information out of this book in order to be the best parent you can be with any child. Filled with scripture and wisdom this is a must read.
I really liked this book. It gave me many good things to think about when it comes to my daughter and how I raise her. She is watching my walk with God, she’ll learn a lot through what I do. It also reminded me to be intentional in spending time with her and doing the things she loves.