A digitized ARC of this book was provided to the reviewer by the author, in exchange for an honest review.
In writing this book Dr. Ferraiolo has clearly walked the hard road of Epictetus and his philosophical descendant Marcus Aurelius. Like Marcus, Dr. Ferraiolo wrote his Meditations for himself primarily. But where Marcus was writing only “ta eis heauton” (to himself), Dr. Ferraiolo has deliberately chosen to share these Stoic exercises with the rest of us. What you get is in the tradition of Marcus’ Meditations, if Marcus were being coached directly by Epictetus, in the gym with him, urging him to crank out another rep. This is a book that promises upfront to challenge its readers by confronting and provoking them: “Do not be frightened by the unpleasantness, and try not to take the criticism personally.” (Introduction). Iron weighs what it weighs. The only way to make the iron feel light is to lift it, over and over.
Meditations consists of 30 “books”, each comprised of 10 meditations. In this sense, a “meditation” is a one paragraph exploration of a theme or area of focus. Think of it as a specific type of exercise: this is a deadlift, that is a back squat; these are ring dips, that is a power clean. Book I focuses directly on what the Stoics call “the dichotomy of control”: what is up to us; what we can actually control in our lives. We start with our own “attitudes, values, and efforts directed at mental discipline”, and then widen outward to our family, friends, acquaintances, society at large…
Book II continues in this vein, but rather than talking about control directly, focuses our attention on how we react to not only the world around us, but also our own internal representation of the world and demonstrates that all of these mental wounds are self-inflicted. This is bog standard Stoicism, but presented in modern, uncompromising language that is as simple and effective as a squat rack, a straight bar and plenty of iron plates. Everything you need to get mentally strong is here, you just need to get under the bar and move the weights.
Subsequent books circle through Stoic concepts, frequently reiterating and elaborating on ideas we’ve already encountered. Like a properly designed weight routine the “same but different” approach imposes greater demands on us and allows us to get stronger by rising to the challenge.
On the one hand, you don’t need to come to Ferraiolo’s Meditations with any understanding of Roman Stoicism. On the other hand, if you do know your Epictetus and Marcus, and if you’re truly paying attention, you will realize that reading this book and doing each exercise with focus and attention requires a Stoic approach. Are you upset or “offended” by something Dr. Ferraiolo has written? Does it hit too close to home, or disagree with your opinions? Does it slaughter one of your sacred cows, or maybe just make fun of you for curling in the squat rack? What causes this upset? The very act of reading Meditations on Self-Discipline and Failure will demand that you pay attention to and identify where the source of those reactions really lies.
This book is a well planned, gym-tested, properly periodized approach to developing the only strength that really matters. It’s right there in your path. Pick it up. Get stronger.