A guide on how to STOP ARGUING: Protect quality time, prevent bickering, preserve love, enjoy life.

by C.J. Kruse

In our world today, a surprising amount of friendships, businesses, and marriages are failing, simply because two or more people cannot figure out how to be at peace. Arguing is the culprit, leading to precious time being wasted, resentment, polarization of contrary viewpoints, and it usually doesn't even bring people an inch closer to forming a plan, or making a final decision. This book will take you through the steps of argument prevention, covering some essential truths, as well as exploring some more constructive alternatives to arguing. It also gives pointers on how you can stop arguments that have already started. Time is precious. It is our most valuable resource. Let's quit wasting our precious days, hours and minutes with pointless bickering. You (and your loved ones) deserve better than that! Any step you take towards harmony will have a dramatic return-on-investment in relationships that matter most to you.

Genres: Self Help

75 pages, Paperback

Published January 31, 2017

Reviews

[Barbara Ann · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is an interesting book that can be used to improve the quality of life and promote a calmer, more peaceful environment. Kruse talks a bit about the types of arguments. Some are necessary like those in a court of law or in politics to present the positions on different sides of an issue. He points out the most arguments fall into the category of bickering, those that are based on unimportant issues that focus on the negative.

Kruse discusses the reasons that many people get into arguments that don’t even involve them and place themselves in a position of power. One must know when to pull back and resist the temptation. His tips include focusing on the positive, writing things out on paper, negotiate for a compromise solution, changing the subject, keeping silent or going off to be alone. The author also encourages readers not to attack the person directly or blame, appeal to authority or resort to agreeing with the common opinion. Rather than being concerned with coming out on top, taking the high road rather than maintaining a path of resistance that will lead to more conflict.

This short book is not didactic but presents common-sense philosophy and practical advice on how to keep things on an even keel and avoid arguments most of the time. Recommended for readers ages twelve and older.

[Alyson · Rating 2 out of 5]

Pretty uninspired self-help book, but a quick read with a few useful tips. Granted, I'm not exactly the target audience for this book; it seems to focus more on relationship bickering, and people who don't know they are complicit in their constant arguments with their partners. I bought this on a whim to try and gain some new tactics on how to not engage in pointless bickering with my grade-school aged son. Some of the tips are transferable to be sure, so it was not a waste of time (about an hour to read it), but it also was largely irrelevant for my very specific needs.

Now, beyond that it is simplistic but easy to read and probably will provide some solid insight and tips for some people. But it does not have a lot of clout behind it and reeks of pop-psychology. Not useless, probably not a bad place to start for some people who just need to stop arguing about everything, but definitely not a resource I would actually trust either.

[Mary · Rating 5 out of 5]

Informative

I choose this rating because this book has a lot of good information. It makes you take a step back and look at yourself, then shows you how to change how you talk to people. Thank you

[Geoffrey Holdermiller · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good book to start

I liked the things said in this book. It was thorough and helpful for my situation with my partner. Thank you

[Kandice Middleton-Day · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very Helpful

This book was very helpful. I️t was very insightful. I️t offers the readers options on how to deal with difficult people.

[Caleb Kruse · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was excellent. So many great observations and insights. I've gotten my girlfriend to read it. We still argue sometimes, but we at least know better than to blame each other now when it happens. We know that we're making our own dumb choice when we continue to argue, which honestly is a big step for us.

[Eleymis · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loved it!

Great book, definitely helps and taking notes also! I can really use the tools he described in the book to help me get in touch with myself and establish while maintaining peace.

[Cheryl Arant · Rating 1 out of 5]

Very few examples of how to accomplish this

The book gives very few examples of how to accomplish this. Giving more life scenarios would have been greatly appreciated.

[garrett poindexter · Rating 5 out of 5]

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