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Relationship Breakthrough: How to Create Outstanding Relationships in Every Area of Your Life
Everyone faces the challenges of making relationships work. Whether with spouses, family members, friends, lovers, or colleagues, relationships have the power to make one feel happy, frustrated, or miserable. In Relationship Breakthrough, Cloe Madanes - an expert in creating healing, empowering relationships - gives listeners vital tools to transform their relationships and their lives. Madanes's cutting-edge methods produce real results and create rewarding, sustainable relationships. Using simple, step-by-step exercises and drawing on the examples of clients who have benefited from this technique, Relationship Breakthrough teaches listeners how to:
Overcome life's inevitable losses
Resolve long-standing family conflicts
Synchronize their needs with those of others
Create outstanding relationships in every area of their lives
This is the only book that ties the guiding principles of Tony Robbins's work with Cloe Madanes's revolutionary approach to relationship therapy. Our connections with the people in our lives have the capacity to bring us great joy, if only we understood the fundamental needs we all have, but sometimes express differently. Drawing on her trademark wisdom, empathy, and extensive clinical experience, Madanes shows listeners how to better understand their own needs and those of others, bringing clarity and insight into any relationship.
Overcome life's inevitable losses
Resolve long-standing family conflicts
Synchronize their needs with those of others
Create outstanding relationships in every area of their lives
This is the only book that ties the guiding principles of Tony Robbins's work with Cloe Madanes's revolutionary approach to relationship therapy. Our connections with the people in our lives have the capacity to bring us great joy, if only we understood the fundamental needs we all have, but sometimes express differently. Drawing on her trademark wisdom, empathy, and extensive clinical experience, Madanes shows listeners how to better understand their own needs and those of others, bringing clarity and insight into any relationship.
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First published September 29, 2009
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August 1, 2016
Solid book if you want to learn how to help people (or yourself) like Tony Robbins.
There are nine beliefs and patterns of behavior that restrict our possibilities for creating permanent loving bonds. These are what we have to watch Out for:
1. The expectations that create problems: Be careful of what you expect from a relationship. Your expectation might become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
2. The theories we invent: Beware of the theories you invent to explain your relationships. Remember that we become attached to our theories no matter how inaccurate they might be.
3. The power of helplessness: Avoid resorting to helplessness as a source of power. It's not the kind of power that is conducive to a happy, permanent bond.
4. The plan for our relationships: Remember that if you don't plan your relationships, someone else will.
5. The emotions that rule: Practice experiencing the emotions that you enjoy experiencing instead of continuing to react to people or situations that upset you.
6. The beliefs that limit us: Don't poison yourself with negative beliefs about yourself and others.
7. The values that guide us: Establish as your highest values those that are consistent with happy, permanent bonds.
8. The responsibilities we avoid: Take responsibility for your relationships, and remember that you can change them to what you want them to be.
9. The blame we assign: Stop blaming everyone and everything else your parents, your partner, your chemistry—for your problems. You have the power to choose to have the relationships you truly want.
There are nine beliefs and patterns of behavior that restrict our possibilities for creating permanent loving bonds. These are what we have to watch Out for:
1. The expectations that create problems: Be careful of what you expect from a relationship. Your expectation might become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
2. The theories we invent: Beware of the theories you invent to explain your relationships. Remember that we become attached to our theories no matter how inaccurate they might be.
3. The power of helplessness: Avoid resorting to helplessness as a source of power. It's not the kind of power that is conducive to a happy, permanent bond.
4. The plan for our relationships: Remember that if you don't plan your relationships, someone else will.
5. The emotions that rule: Practice experiencing the emotions that you enjoy experiencing instead of continuing to react to people or situations that upset you.
6. The beliefs that limit us: Don't poison yourself with negative beliefs about yourself and others.
7. The values that guide us: Establish as your highest values those that are consistent with happy, permanent bonds.
8. The responsibilities we avoid: Take responsibility for your relationships, and remember that you can change them to what you want them to be.
9. The blame we assign: Stop blaming everyone and everything else your parents, your partner, your chemistry—for your problems. You have the power to choose to have the relationships you truly want.
October 1, 2016
Chloe Madanes says that we cannot understand a person without also understanding their relationships, because so much of our experiences in life are derived from our interactions with other people.
Madanes then goes on to offer her own model for considering relationships. She does not give an argument for why her model of understanding relationships is the right one. But I do believe it's helpful. Over all this book is a contribution.
Madanes then goes on to offer her own model for considering relationships. She does not give an argument for why her model of understanding relationships is the right one. But I do believe it's helpful. Over all this book is a contribution.
April 17, 2015
Some really helpful information for making any relationship (spouse, children, parents, friend, co-worker, etc) better in your life. Makes you look at your own behavior and think, "crap, I do that!!!" :) Highly recommend!
May 12, 2024
"Революция на връзките" от Д-р Клое Маданес е книга, която дълго отлагах. Наистина не знам защо, тъй като след като я започнах не я оставих докато не я изчетох. А на следващия ден я започнах отново.
Авторката разглежда "перфектната" връзка без значение от нейното естество / дали професионална, приятелска, любовна или др. / и как тя е отражение на нуждите, които имаме ние и нашия партньор. Всичко е добре структурирано и обяснено, като освен размисли в книгата ще открием и примери, които Д-р Клое Маданес споделя от своята практика. А за финал има подготвени работни листове с упражнения, които да ни помагат сами да анализираме своите нужди и по-лесно да открием, кои са слабите места в отношенията ни.
Книгата ми хареса изключително много, всичко е поднесено логично и заключенията са простички, но ключови и могат да бъдат използвани във всички сфери на нашия живот. Важно е да определим крайната си цел и да се фокусираме върху нея.
Трябва да излезем от зоната си на комфорт, да направим компромис, защото връзка означава "ние" не само "Аз". Понякога външните конфликти всъщност имат много по-различен произход. Но когато знаем, че имаме проблем и работим върху него вече сме на правилния път.
Авторката разглежда "перфектната" връзка без значение от нейното естество / дали професионална, приятелска, любовна или др. / и как тя е отражение на нуждите, които имаме ние и нашия партньор. Всичко е добре структурирано и обяснено, като освен размисли в книгата ще открием и примери, които Д-р Клое Маданес споделя от своята практика. А за финал има подготвени работни листове с упражнения, които да ни помагат сами да анализираме своите нужди и по-лесно да открием, кои са слабите места в отношенията ни.
Книгата ми хареса изключително много, всичко е поднесено логично и заключенията са простички, но ключови и могат да бъдат използвани във всички сфери на нашия живот. Важно е да определим крайната си цел и да се фокусираме върху нея.
Трябва да излезем от зоната си на комфорт, да направим компромис, защото връзка означава "ние" не само "Аз". Понякога външните конфликти всъщност имат много по-различен произход. Но когато знаем, че имаме проблем и работим върху него вече сме на правилния път.
July 5, 2016
Appropriate for any relationship situation. I found this book through watching and listening to Anthony Robbins relationship DVDs and audio's. Chole uses a lot of examples from Anthony Robbins films (so it does help if you have watched the DVDs before reading or listening to this book). I chose to purchase the audio book as well as the kindle version so I could listen to it in my car, on the train and in waiting rooms and the reviewing the Se toons I wanted to work on using the kindle book. There are so many practical guides and homework tools for helping to overcome the root causes for conflicts in relationships and how to develop the skills to look deeper than the surface issues so relationships can be repaired. A great book and one I plan to re read/listen to time and time again when faced with relationship conflicts.
February 25, 2015
Sometime people get stuck in relationships that seem like they're going nowhere fast, from what I see. But SI expert Cloe Madanes shows how it may be possible to renew the love we once felt for the chosen life partner, the once favorite person, and how to get unstuck. The technique involved six human needs and life stages, thusly kindling again the passion we used to feel. This, through SI, we become "unstuck." Hooked on our love lives once more.
December 1, 2019
Breakthrough
The most outstanding book I ever read on relationships breakthrough. I am going to put everything in action and I am expecting to breakthrough in my life. What I noticed is that the system that is been taught in this book works.
Thank you very much Cole.
The most outstanding book I ever read on relationships breakthrough. I am going to put everything in action and I am expecting to breakthrough in my life. What I noticed is that the system that is been taught in this book works.
Thank you very much Cole.
June 1, 2019
Such a wonderful book
Highly recommended for everyone looking for better relantionships and then a better live. Go read it now, i love jt.
Highly recommended for everyone looking for better relantionships and then a better live. Go read it now, i love jt.
September 1, 2020
Chloe Madanes is a superstar - gorgeous work - have recommended this to a number of clients - so insightful to grow and flourish every kind of relationship in your life, highly recommend
February 11, 2019
I have a ridiculously long list of books on Audible. I go through podcasts and audiobooks voraciously. I almost never abandon a book before completing it.
I only got about halfway through this book before I stopped. I couldn't deal with it anymore.
The book appears to be random psychobabble where the author makes up unnecessary new terms and concepts, interspersed with stories of how great she is as a therapist. There is no entertainment, no personality, no humility and precious little in terms of practical takeaways listeners can use. The author would be well served by reading better books, such as Non Violent Communication.
I do NOT recommend this book. There are many better works out there, so don't waste your time.
I only got about halfway through this book before I stopped. I couldn't deal with it anymore.
The book appears to be random psychobabble where the author makes up unnecessary new terms and concepts, interspersed with stories of how great she is as a therapist. There is no entertainment, no personality, no humility and precious little in terms of practical takeaways listeners can use. The author would be well served by reading better books, such as Non Violent Communication.
I do NOT recommend this book. There are many better works out there, so don't waste your time.
August 2, 2022
Gives a lot of insights and ideas how to better understand and love significant ones and to create outstanding relationship.
I really like that book is not full of theory but provides examples for every idea.
I really like that book is not full of theory but provides examples for every idea.
July 18, 2023
Great for anyone working with clients or on their own relationship
A clear concise approach to navigating and working on relationships. The exercises in the book are easy to use and follow with your self and with clients
A clear concise approach to navigating and working on relationships. The exercises in the book are easy to use and follow with your self and with clients
January 1, 2025
Excellent book by Cloe Madanes, a leading therapist in the world.
Understanding others is the cornerstone for any successful relationship in the world.
I enjoyed the understanding of human needs and how to navigate challenges within a relationship.
Understanding others is the cornerstone for any successful relationship in the world.
I enjoyed the understanding of human needs and how to navigate challenges within a relationship.
November 26, 2019
i loved int
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
December 25, 2019
Half of this book is a load of bollocks
March 17, 2024
"Революция на връзките" е книга, помагаща да си отговорим именно на тези въпроси. Книгата е условно разделена на две части, наименовани "Анализ на предизвикателства във връзките" и "Как да работим за връзка, която искаме".🔷️
Засегнати са разнообразни теми, които загаднах по-рано, представени по един естествен до човека начин. Описани са реални ситуации от терапии между професионалсти и нуждащи се, помагащо на четящи да вле��е в обувките на страдащия.✨️
Засегнати са разнообразни теми, които загаднах по-рано, представени по един естествен до човека начин. Описани са реални ситуации от терапии между професионалсти и нуждащи се, помагащо на четящи да вле��е в обувките на страдащия.✨️
August 6, 2015
Has some good info and applicable tools. There are several aspects that guide you to pattern interrupts as well as how to understand the other person's world however I found the information was more general and a little vague. There are examples of how she used the tactics with clients but unless having that same exact issue I found it hard to pull from.
April 22, 2018
Brilliant.
This book is very simple. The examples Chloe gives and encounters with people and how she was able to resolve their conflicts and tap into their needs are very clear and very relevant.
I have read the book but yet have to work through the workbook at the end. I feel I need to read it again before I can do the workbook.
This book is very simple. The examples Chloe gives and encounters with people and how she was able to resolve their conflicts and tap into their needs are very clear and very relevant.
I have read the book but yet have to work through the workbook at the end. I feel I need to read it again before I can do the workbook.
November 4, 2009
Not helpful.
July 24, 2015
Diappointing
February 28, 2016
High level understanding of interactions. the examples explored were intense and gave quality applications
March 27, 2017
Really helped me understand how my own actions can impact situations, especially if I try new approaches to old issues.
Will definitely be listening to this audiobook on and off when needed.
Will definitely be listening to this audiobook on and off when needed.
January 3, 2018
This book gave a great number of tips about how to improve both personal and work relationships. I chose the book to see if there were skills I could improve upon to enable me to perform better one to ones with my team. I believe the tips/advice in the book are going to be very helpful and enable me to be a better person and also a better leader at work.
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