How to Read People Like a Book: 50 Uncommon Tips You Need to Know

by Murray Oxman

Who would have thought that someday we'd be coining a new axiom? Remember this old one? Never judge a book by its cover. Here's a new one for Never judge a book by its size.

It's only natural to wonder if a book this small could really offer that much in content and substance. Please allay your Murray Oxman has a writing style that somehow puts more help in a few pages than you would believe possible.

And perhaps you're "Just what makes this book special; worth my hard-earned money?"

Well, here's your It's all about revealing insights into human nature. If you're at all interested in what makes people tick, you'll love this very special small book. It's a great read.

Enjoy!

Genres: Nonfiction, Psychology, Self Help

86 pages, Hardcover

First published January 1, 2002

Reviews

[Nicolas Peterson · Rating 4 out of 5]

this book was a quick read (it only took me an hour) and yet it had several good insights that I was able to apply to myself and others. Even though I disagree with the author on some fronts, I would encourage anybody to read it once.

[Noor Abu Hassan · Rating 3 out of 5]

Like it ... useful with good ideas.

[Mai Radhiallah · Rating 3 out of 5]

Entah kenapa ya saya merasakan buku ini bersifat provokatif sekiranya dibaca pada tahun 2020. Di tahun 2020 ini, mengkritik atau kata pasarnya "mengjudge" orang menjadi suatu kesalahan besar. Mungkin sebab itulah Murray menjudulkan bukunya sebagai 50 uncommon tips. Kalau di twitter, pandangan-pandangan yang bersifat provokatif seperti ini akan mengguna-pakai hastag unpopular opinions. Tips pertamanya sahaja telah menyata lantang tentang manusia boleh menjadi sangat manipulatif. Kata Murray, manusia akan menyokong idea dan perbuatan kita tetapi mereka mengharapkan sesuatu. Lihat tips pertama ini sahaja buat saya rasa kenapa Murray memikirkan hal-hal prejudis?

[Devina Dutta · Rating 5 out of 5]

Informative, straight and well explained, this book is small but with a very very powerful personality.
Its your secret instructive manual whenever you are confused about people or en route to meeting some new people for a deal or something!
for people who like it short and straight!

[Matt Hess · Rating 4 out of 5]

this book is a nice quick crash course on how to read people and a basic idea of what to expect from people with the traits you discover. it also adds advice which makes it a little more personal. definitely worth a read.

[Erikar Lebang · Rating 3 out of 5]

Wanna see people in better way? This one is the secret!

[Charles Bonar · Rating 5 out of 5]

Must Read Book!! Must Read people's mind too!!

[Sizarifalina · Rating 4 out of 5]

Quite accurate. An eye opener. Definitely to be reread.

[Emmy · Rating 5 out of 5]

My complete Human Bible!

[Betsy · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book was a waste of my time. I got that feeling several pages in, but convinced myself to read through the rest of the pages so I could make sure to give it an honest chance. It didn't get any better.

The tips are long-winded pontifications with obtuse points.

This book is NOT a book on how to read people like a book. It's more of a book of Aesop's fables or philosophical statements about how your own perspective needs to change in order to make life better.

Maybe I was misled by the title.... I was hoping for insight on how to better listen to people and how to understand people more deeply.

The author recommends reading this book through thrice to get the most of of it. I COULD do that, but given my dislike for his writing style and the lack of information I was hoping to find, I will be happily returning this to the library without opening it again.
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[Yes, I want to grow · Rating 2 out of 5]

خدعت بطريقة تصنيف مكتبة جرير و لكن لا بأس بذلك. هو كتيب صغير، لذلك ترددت في كتابه مراجعة عنه حتى قرأت ملخلص الكتاب اللي في الخلف “و إليك قاعدة جديدة من أجلك: لا تحكم على الكتاب من حجمه"

- تحدث الكتاب عن ٥٠ صفة كالعدل و الوقت و العاطفة ،و التفرد و المسئوليه … الخ

- كتاب جميل و خفيف.

[أبو صالح 909 · Rating 5 out of 5]

كتاب جميل.العنوان ممكن يخدعك،لأنك لن تجد صور تخبرك عن لغة الجسد؛مجرد خمسون نصيحة للتعامل مع الحياة بصفة عامة،والنَّاس بصفة خاصة.لن تجد هذه النصائح والخواطر مجتمعة في كتاب واحد مثل هذا الكتاب.

[Mokshika · Rating 4 out of 5]

A well written concise book. Great pick for beginners in human psychology.

[K. Mosher · Rating 5 out of 5]

Read it and learn its ways for your own edification.

[Rasha · Rating 3 out of 5]

جيد نوعا ما ، وصغير تنهيه في جلسة واحدة

[Andy Subb · Rating 4 out of 5]

I would recommend this to everybody, good tips for the basic and complex function that you can apply to everyday life

[Mark · Rating 4 out of 5]

This like book turned out to be a pleasant little surprise. Normally I would not have picked up a book like this because the title advertises itself as a potential tool to manipulate people, but as a teacher, I thought maybe it would help me understand where some of my students are coming from.[return][return]On one level, the book does exactly what it advertises by describing and cataloging behaviors observed in others.[return][return]On another level, the book teaches you to recognize when others are trying to manipulate you.[return][return]On a much deeper level, the true beauty of this book lies in the fact that it holds up a mirror to see ourselves. It collects a vocabulary to label traits we observe in others, and in turn, we recognize them in ourselves. In discovering how others attempt to manipulate others, we discover how we try to manipulate others, often unconsciously to protect our own hidden needs and fears.[return][return]In the end, this little book provides a few tools to help dig through the many layers of tarnish the false self builds up so that we may risk being our true self.

[Nick · Rating 3 out of 5]

The title is wrong. It doesn't teach you to read people like a book unless you you've read a lot of anecdotal short stories and emerged with a broader view of the world but no clearer understanding of it. The book does give some approaches for dealing with various behaviours, but I would have found it much more informative and useful if the behaviours had been approached from the perspective of psychology, anthropology and sociology rather than with what seems to me to be a zen buddhist cultural/religious perspective. The cultural/religious assumptions and faith oriented world view cloud the issue of what really motivates the behaviour and thus also brings into question the appropriate responses for dealing with that behaviour. So while this book is useful for bringing to your attention a range of behaviours you might not have noticed or had to deal with before, because it doesn't properly address the underlying motivations it doesn't really give as much help dealing with people as you would like or expect from the title. That said, I'm still glad I read it, and I found it very thought provoking. Well worth an hour or two of your time.

[Christine Shan · Rating 4 out of 5]

The title didn't match the content, but it was thought-provoking. I had to put the book down and take a deep breathe because the descriptions in the book actually reflected my behaviour. After reading the book, I still don't get "how" to read people because most the concepts are vague without specific reference.

[becky]

ok...i know i read this book...but apparently i don't know how to read people like a book...so i should read it again. I remember recommending this book to several friends...if you read it, tell me what you think =)

[Kelly · Rating 4 out of 5]

Interesting reading, learnt heaps about my self and the people I deal with everyday. This book is very black and white about peoples behaviour, finally a book that does not offer excuses for the things we do.

[Thomas K · Rating 5 out of 5]

How to read body language

[Yulia · Rating 3 out of 5]

It's a very interesting subject, so I read it. But then I forget about it just like that.

I read it last year but don't remember any of the tips.....maybe it's just me

[Ahmad · Rating 3 out of 5]

Very nice and each page pushes you to read the next one.
Most of the time I read it loud to my friends.

[Chhunna]

Can anyone tell me how to read this book? I cannot find a read function for reading?

[Ayodele]

i enjoyed this one...it was very direct, succinct and freeing.
thanks

[Melia · Rating 2 out of 5]

Satu-satunya kalimat dalam buku ini yang membuatku tertohok:
Jarang ada manusia yang pernah berhenti cukup lama untuk berterima kasih karena telah diberi kehidupan.

[Nada | ندى · Rating 3 out of 5]

short and smart

[Yellow · Rating 2 out of 5]

At some point the book felt too theoretical. Got some good ideas though. What I didn’t like is that the author was too general to the extent the ideas could be misunderstood or misleading.

[Deborah · Rating 3 out of 5]

Not sure what to think of this one. it's certainly a quick read. Perhaps I need to read it again.