080- The Official TED Guide to Public Speaking-Chris Anderson-Management-2016
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—— “When the audience sits down and listen to your speech, they give you something very precious, something that you can't take back once you give it, that is their time and precision. Your task is to make the most of those minutes. "
"TED Talks: The Official TED Guide to Public Speaking" was first published in the United States in 2016. It discusses the ideas and techniques of how to conduct an effective public speech.
Chris Anderson was born in Pakistan in 1957. He studied at Oxford University. The company he founded: Sapling Foundation · Future plc · NDO · Future US · Business 2.0. Representative works: "The Power of Speech", etc.
TED (Technology, Entertainment, Design) is a private non-profit organization in the United States. Founded by Richard Wurman in 1984. In 2001, Chris Anderson took over TED, founded The Sapling Foundation, and operated the TED conference. The purpose of the TED conference is "to spread all ideas worth spreading ".
If we want to overcome fear, then we need to understand what makes us fearful? We are afraid of speeches and may be worried that a failed speech will cause everyone to negatively evaluate us. Of course, the reason for everyone ’s fear may not be the same, this is just a possible incentive.
Assuming this is the core reason why we are afraid of public speaking, then we need to improve our psychological endurance and be able to face other people's negative evaluations with more tolerance. If we can do this gradually, we can not only improve our speaking ability but also benefit from other aspects of life.
If when one person speaks, it always makes other people laugh sincerely, then that person's social relationship is usually not too bad. The discussion of some issues, of course, requires a serious tone and attitude, but the problem is that if seriousness has become a norm, it will bring social pressure to others.
The person who radiates this pressure may not feel it, but bystanders will feel it. I have been thinking about how to make myself a more humorous person. Seriousness may make people feel reliable, but it makes people feel inaccessible. What is the core of humor? How do you not vulgar and aggressive humor? Some humor is based on the ridicule of others. I don’t want to do this unless the object of ridicule is myself.
A speech may involve many sentences, many stories, and many facts, but I think the most important point is that when most of the audience listen to the speech, can they remember a sentence firmly. If it can, then this speech is successful. And if the audience does not leave any traces in their hearts after the speech, or a bunch of messy disturbances, then the speech is a failure.
Articles are written for a specific purpose and read by others as the priority is similar to a public speech. The authors hope that readers or audiences will gain something after receiving the information. This is the original intention of writing and speaking. If the author can influence the reader's point of view in some form, the author's influence will expand. This is somewhat similar to what missionaries do.
People tend to be closer to what they are familiar with. This is true whether it is for people or things. So, not so much, we still know a lot of truths and still have a bad life, but rather, we have not repeated these truths enough times in our hearts.
I only listened to it once and may forget it later. I have only heard it 10 times and may think of it occasionally. When we have heard it 100 times, we may recall it when we use it. And after hearing it 1000 times, this principle may become our unswerving creed in life.
On July 19, when I was an internship on WeChat, as soon as I entered the department, my tutor asked me to do a 30-minute sharing with 20 colleagues in the group. The theme is not limited, but I hope you will learn something new from my speech. I later shared with you an academic article I published. But in fact, the effect is not good, because everyone lacks relevant background knowledge, so after listening, they did not get any useful information from it. This has taught me a profound lesson.
You need to know who the audience is and what they want from you. Are they outsiders with no relevant technical background? Or an expert who knows this kind of technology in this industry better than myself? Do they hope to have a preliminary understanding of this unfamiliar field through my introduction? Or do you want me to talk about my specific practices carefully so that they can evaluate my work? If you completely ignore the background of the object and the purpose of the speech, it is a waste of listeners' lives.
This gives us an important reminder. That is, during the speech, don't involve too many specific things. Because specific things often need to have a certain knowledge background, and the audience is likely to have not done their homework, which is a lack of foreshadowing.
We need to abstract these specific affairs and abstract some higher-level conclusions. That is the methodology we usually talk about. The audience is likely to be more interested in these more general conclusions, because they do not need to do homework in advance on certain specific facts, but can also transfer the conclusions to their lives. On the contrary, if you spend a lot of energy, talk about your school, teacher, and a specific person. People will get bored. After all, it has nothing to do with them.
The learning process of human beings is a process from concrete to abstract and then to concrete. And what the audience wants from the speaker is the abstract part. As for the numerous and trivial details, the listeners are not very interested. The speaker enjoys himself and speaks happily, while the listeners are bored. This is the biggest accident of speech.
We may wish to make such an assumption if you want to delete only one sentence of your speech. What words will you leave? Then this sentence is the subject of your speech. Every sentence in your speech should be used as a foundation for this sentence. If it has nothing to do with it, then you should delete it. We need to always remember the fact that the time of the audience is very precious. Never extend the speechless time for personal pleasure.
In Chinese education, speech is usually not a very important component. Based on my personal experience, I think that for most students, there is little chance to exercise their public speaking ability before entering undergraduate. It is a very difficult thing to hope that our education system will change in the short term. But I think we can start with the family.
If we become parents in the future, then we should consciously exercise the children's speaking ability in their spare time. Even if there are only two children in the audience, their father and mother. I think this is also a very good opportunity to exercise public speaking.
The speaker is like a temporary leader. The audience gave him full freedom. Allow him to take the listener wherever he wants according to his ideas. If the speaker hasn’t figured out where he wants to go, how can he hope that the audience will be satisfied on this journey? With its faint and fascinating things, it may happen occasionally because of good luck. But after all, it doesn't always work.
I often make such mistakes. Seeking big and perfect. I tend to cover a lot of aspects in my speech, but every aspect is hurried to the end. So I always think that I am not a good speaker. Nor is he an insightful person.
A good speaker can give readers a deep impression of something after the speech. And an insightful person, in a lot of complexity, can clearly distinguish what is most important, make appropriate choices, and only present the necessary things to the audience.
So always keep a clear head and know that I want to provide value to the audience before giving this speech. Instead of bringing everyone together to satisfy my desire to express. When this basic principle is clarified, we need to think next. If I am an audience, what do I care about? What kind of information do I want to obtain? What is interesting to me? What makes me think?
In eye contact, I did not do well. My habit is to look straight ahead in front of my speech and look at the wall opposite me. Do not make any eye contact with any audience. Because I was worried, I might be affected by the expressions of some viewers, which would interrupt my thinking. When looking at the white wall in front of me, I often calm myself down as if there is no one underneath.
When I give a speech, I tend to ask a classmate to record a speech video for me. I will come back later to watch these speech videos. Sometimes it feels unnatural. This is not natural, and part of the reason may be because there is no eye contact between me and the audience.
I am not a person with a natural sense of humor. But it has been trying to cultivate this ability in the day after tomorrow. This effort has been carried out for several years but has not produced obvious results. I plan to find some theoretical books on humor to learn, but I haven't found a good reference book so far. Is the way I am looking for wrong? Or is there less theoretical research in this area?
I think humor needs to be supported by wisdom. Random humor may be more difficult than answering a question accurately. Because when you answer a question, you often think about it in the past. The scenes that the humor has to deal with may be unexpected, and we must respond promptly within seconds.
Sometimes, I feel that I am too focused on the technical aspects, to give people a sense of contortion. This will make the audience feel that I am very false and arrogant, self-righteous, no one in the eyes, and there is a lot of suspicion of performance. This can be disgusting. Once people have negative emotions towards you, don't expect them to use reason to absorb the essence of what you are saying.
The story is a virtual reality, and its abstraction makes it better to unite humans than concrete single events. Although we have not experienced some kind of happiness in a person, we can share the joy of others. Although we have not experienced some kind of pain, we can also sympathize with the sufferings of others. An educational story may want to reveal the truth to people, but it will not straightforwardly tell the answer.
It has never even defined a standard way to tell a standard answer, but it is contained in the story. When people independently realize a new insight from the story, their feelings will be stronger than being infused with a certain concept. They will feel that this is a manifestation of his wisdom, rather than passively accept the preaching from the speaker.
Sometimes this is where parents fail to educate their children. Parents tend to give their children a conclusion directly. That's enough. But the point is that some parents' words are very different from their teachings, and their daily behavior is opposite to the advice they give to their children. This is one of the reasons why children are most disgusted.
Conversely, a parent may never directly give a certain rationale to his children, but through their behavior, or through each story they tell, they gradually and profoundly shape their children's worldview and values. This is probably a Socratic method of education. Parents are not preachers, but leaders.
It's kind of like writing narratives when we were kids. The teacher repeatedly emphasized that we must sublimate the theme at the end, not just the event itself. At the time, I felt that this requirement was very formal, so I was puzzled why it was necessary to extract a meaning. Now I think there can be an answer. Because if you only focus on describing the problem itself, it doesn't make much sense to the reader, because he didn't personally experience the things you experienced.
Only when you are detached from the specific events you have experienced and refined some more general conclusions through your wisdom, can readers take your story as a kind of heuristic evidence and transfer it to your own in life. Readers may be educated to test the value of your point of view. In this way, what you are talking about becomes a kind of giving to the reader, rather than pure sharing, then the reader will have an incentive to read your article.
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