I'd rate this 4.5 stars, if I could, but I'll round up because it left me with such a good and positive feeling. This is basically a pep talk from a coach who's "been there." Zadoff was very overweight, a chronic overeater for most of his life. At Age 27, he finally recognized his problem as a disease, much like alcoholism, and treated it as such, finding a therapist and other support groups. This book is a very easy-to-read group of notes about what he's learned along the way and what has worked for him in changing his lifestyle. I found it very enlightening and had many "aha" moments while reading it. It all made a lot of sense to me.
There were lots of quotes that inspired me, some of which I saved here that will keep my focus in the right place--an eating plan rather than a diet:
"In hindsight, I see that dieting was nothing more than a quick fix. Diets were really about one thing: losing weight so I could get off the diet. Nobody goes on a diet with the intention of staying on it for the rest of his life. What I really wanted was to be cured, get off the diet, and go back to--what exactly? I never asked that question. It was too frightening."
"I'm a junkie with food. That means I can't handle certain foods, much like an alcoholic can't handle alcohol."
"Let's say I go crazy at dinner...I do not launch into a series of calculations, plans, and promises. I do not pull out a digital scale and get on it naked. I don't go on a diet. Instead, I do something radical and completely counterintuitive. I let it go. I know that dinner is over--good or bad, successful or unsuccessful. It's over...
Each meal is its own individual performance with a beginning, middle, and end. And the good news is I only have to eat one meal at a time."
"The same principle applies to each day's food...I'm not owed any food from a small meal last week, nor do I have to undereat to compensate for a big meal last night...It's just Wednesday, so I eat Wednesday's food. Simple. But not easy."
"In hindsight, I see that dieting was nothing more than a quick fix. Diets were really about one thing: losing weight so I could get off the diet. Nobody goes on a diet with the intention of staying on it for the rest of his life. What I really wanted was to be cured, get off the diet, and go back to--what exactly? I never asked that question. It was too frightening."
"What I know now is that my head was hungry. My disease was hungry. My body was quite full...Real hunger is satiated with a healthy, moderate amount of food. Head hunger is insatiable."
"Alcohol, drugs, food, sex--any substance used addictively--functions like amber, entombing you at the level of emotional maturity you're in when you first begin to rely on the substance. Overeating seemed like it was helping me to cope with my life, but it was really crippling me. Rather than processing uncomfortable emotions, I was anesthetizing myself with food...As a result, I never acquired the skills of adulthood. My body got big, but inside I was a little boy."
"As soon as you stop [overeating], you'll begin to experience the feelings that led you to eat. It's built right into the process, or at least it was for me. As my friend Mindy says, 'Don't worry about finding your feelings. They'll find you.'"
"...an addict is someone who reaches for a physical substance to solve a spiritual and emotional problem. My problem has little to do with food and weight. Those are simply the manifestations of a disease. My real problem is the way I react to life."
"The secret of my success is a new way of life. I wish it were a diet. That would be a lot easier."