I didn't want to read this fast. I tried to take my time with it and really understand the words and history. That said, I enjoyed and was intrigued by a lot of the primer. I agree with other reviews that the last 1/3 felt a bit tacked on--especially the last few pages, which felt like an odd place to end the book (on working + buddhism). It felt like it needed a more important wrap up imo. I didn't realize that, of course, like many religions, women seem to be an afterthought so it just goes to show you that even the most "hippie" of religions still have their downfalls.
I liked quite a few beliefs (tenets? realms? truths? these all seemed to be present). Specifically, on what makes you not a buddhist, there were four seals that one must believe in:
-all compounded things are impermanent
-all emotions are pain
-all things have no inherent existence
-nirvana is beyond all concepts
They seem odd at first, but when I dug a little deeper I got it. And while I'm a skeptic of all religions, including this one, the notions are something I can get behind.
I also liked their basic rules of what not to do while practicing (which I'm only writing from memory, so will likely be wrong).
-don't lie
-don't gossip
-don't have an ego
-don't overindulge
-don't destroy life
The "don'ts" seem simple enough, and yet they all seemed to ring a bit of truth. We've all told a white lie, or gossiped about someone, or felt entitled, or drank too much, or killed a bug. So it's just something to be mindful about. Check.
I was delighted to read more on Metta, a meditation practice I have enjoyed for years now and even got Luca liking it. When he requests to do it at night, I'm delighted. Mainly bc it's so selfless and focuses on simply wishing others to be well, healthy, safe, and at ease. What more can you ask for from a 7yo...or a 41yo?
In a time where distractions are everywhere, and I contribute to them with the job that I do--I've been practicing more and more to let them go. To simply do the dishes and just do the dishes, without NPR on in the background. To take a walk without headphones. To stare at the walls. To slow down and be bored. To sit in my garden and watch the bird fly by. The feelings you get from it aren't always great. They can be a bit uncomfortable, but also a bit surprising and even enjoyable. I can't do it all the time. Sometimes I simply want to watch that next episode and turn my mind off or have music on while tidying the house. But something really rang true to me in this book that reaffirmed all this mindful stuff is the right way for me: that to feel awakened and alive you must be a human being, instead of a human doing.
This might be the corniest review I've ever written.