How to Fall in Love: A 10-Step Journey to the Heart

by Katherine Baldwin

Are you struggling to understand why you're single and why none of your relationships work out? Do you find yourself drawn to unavailable partners and to people who won't commit? Do you lose yourself in relationships or end up needing the other person too much? Do you find it difficult to meet eligible men or women or to find decent, reliable people attractive? Do you look on with bemusement as friends and relatives fall in love and tie the knot? Do you wonder if you'll ever meet your match? If the answer is ‘Yes’, this book will help. How to Fall in Love is a dating and relationships guide with a difference. It's for people who are looking for something deeper than superficial advice and who are willing to explore the real reasons for their singleness. It combines moving memoir with practical insights and tried and tested tips. In this book, Katherine Baldwin takes you on a journey of personal transformation, helping you to identify and challenge unhealthy relationship patterns and negative core beliefs, many of which will have deep roots, and to find the answers to your dating dilemmas within yourself. She helps you break ties with lost loves, let go of the fantasy of the perfect partner, become open to dating people who aren't your usual type and set loving boundaries for dating so that you’re open to love but protected from hurt. She encourages you to mature emotionally, build your self-esteem and make bold choices so that you can form a healthy, loving and long-lasting partnership. This book is about much more than dating and romance, however. It's about learning to thrive, not just survive. It's about discovering and fulfilling your dreams and about creating a life that's truly aligned with your heart's desires. If this sounds like something worth fighting for and you're willing to step inside and to do some work on yourself in order to flourish, this book is for you. The 10 steps in this book are based on Katherine's own transformational journey that enabled her to fall in love in her early forties after years of dating disasters, unhealthy relationships, obsessions with unavailable men, self-sabotage and singleness. At the start of her inner journey, Katherine was a high-flying adrenaline junkie who reported for Reuters from the Houses of Parliament and travelled the world with former Prime Minister Tony Blair, all the while bingeing on food to cope with stress, chronic low self-esteem and a bad case of imposter syndrome. She was wedded to her job, fiercely independent and had little time for romance. After working these steps and going on a journey of personal development, she is a woman in love who lives with her partner on the Dorset coast, walks on the beach, writes from the heart and coaches women and men to have healthy relationships with themselves and with others and to create lives they love. This revised and updated edition of the book features a new chapter about Katherine's engagement, in which she shares honestly about the doubts and dilemmas her partner's long-awaited marriage proposal threw up. It also includes a section on ambivalence about motherhood as well as the thoughts of some of the women Katherine has been coaching since the first edition of this book went to print in 2017.

258 pages, Kindle Edition

Published February 13, 2017

About the author

I have always loved to cook and have had the pleasure of starting many friends and family on their path to find their "inner cook". I catered for a company that produced television commercials until a job transfer moved me to another city and have written local cookbooks for years.

I had not given much thought to producing cookbooks online until the Amazon Kindle came along. I now have the time to devote to the projects and it is going to be a blast.

Reviews

[Sue · Rating 4 out of 5]

Baldwin was madly successful in her career. A journalist for Reuters, she supped tea with the prime minister of England, but she couldn’t seem to find a man to spend her life with. She had a lot of baggage to unpack before she could finally make a relationship work. Now a relationship coach, she offers steps to clear away the obstacles keeping the reading from finding love. I read this book because she is childless and written a great deal on that topic, one I write about, too. I’m not currently hunting for a man, but this book might be extremely helpful for some readers. Baldwin includes much of her own story, which is quite interesting and shows you never know what problems lie behind the successful façade.

[Tatiane R. Lima · Rating 5 out of 5]

How to Fall in Love is so much more than a self-help book. It is a beautiful, bold and sincere memoir. Reading this book, I connected with the author on a deep level and I saw myself and my story in its pages. I felt my own inner oak. I too have transformed my life and I'm building my own place in the sun. Like Katherine, I have a morning routine to keep me balanced and I've written down my dreams. I haven't found my partner yet but I know, just as Katherine described, that I wasn't ready for him. This book has given me more than hope. It has reinforced my own journey

[NoMo Book Club · Rating 4 out of 5]

Katherine Baldwin's book outlines a journey that starts with her feeling burnt out from a high-pressured journalism career, as well as being single and without children, at the cusp of her 40s and how she set about healing herself - and the guidance in her book offers readers the chance to do so too. I'm glad to say that Katherine’s wisdom on love did work and she’s now happily married to a wonderful partner. (Although just to add, there is absolutely nothing wrong in being single, so we're not promoting any social pressure to partner up here!)

Katherine states she was always ambivalent about having children. But, at certain points, she very much wanted to have a child and still experiences moments of grief that this hasn't been the path for her life. Ambivalence is often less acknowledged as a contributing factor for childlessness, so it's great to see her openness around this.

Asides from its insights on how to find and nourish a positive romantic partnership, How To Fall In Love is also an interesting book to read from the perspective of someone childless looking for their Plan B - it shows how you can turn life around, embrace the benefits of your situation and create a new direction for yourself. Katherine clearly has so much joy for the life that she is now living - it's really refreshing to read a positive book about the opportunities to form healthy relationships, move home, start a new career or whatever it is that your heart yearns to do, and witness this via the example of a childless woman.

[K.J. Simmill · Rating 5 out of 5]

A great read, full of personal feelings and soul. Whether you're in a relationship or not the advice within is valuable and inspiring.