Just finished this book and it reminds me once again, that we know we are connected to one another, and our current and historic social structures do not work in encouraging individuality in terms of what each person brings to the whole, but squelches that individuality in the name of conformity; predictability and everyone ‘being’ the same.
Somé does not condemn western culture and religion outright; he does learn and come to see that the western structure does not conducively, let alone genuinely serve people, whatever their stripe. Yet, it takes those severe and painful experiences to make us come to understand what we are really dealing with and question – if we are willing to see and be honest with ourselves- where we are in that situation and why we are there.
Somé recommends ritual in where conflicts are resolved in a community circle as it is the community that witnesses what the conflict (really) is and gives the participants in the conflict the opportunity to focus on the conflict and resolve it, rather than conflate the conflict to be(come) of a personal nature, where one person is right and the other is wrong. Somé’s point about pain needing to be in the background in order to thrive (page 286) is a very potent point. It’s when the pain is exposed and examined by people, where pain can no longer exist, because so many people know about it(the situation causing the pain) and looking at it, that extinguishes its existence!
Yet a crucial point and challenge in Somé’s book is that community is the key! Community has to want to know, appreciate and utilize each member’s innate gifts, in order for the community to survive, and thrive! Therefore, people must want to recognize and encourage their own and other people’s gifts and engage them honestly, in order for the individual and community to survive, and thrive! Hierarchy squelches that because it is based on people not being honest with themselves, let alone with other people. So hierarchies are set up to uphold and maintain ‘order’ while people have to sacrifice, ignore, squelch who they are to barely but dishonestly (to themselves, and subsequently) others, survive… and we wonder why we have human time-bombs.
It’s a very informative and insightful book!