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How To Get A Man Without Getting Played: 29 Dating Secrets to Catch Mr. Right, Set Your Standards, and Eliminate Time Wasters
How to Attract Men Worth Dating and Get the Guy You Really Want When it comes to finding a suitable mate for a passion filled, committed relationship, one of the things men want most in a woman is self-possession, or said another way, womanly poise. When high-quality men come across a woman with poise they crave her respect, her approval, and most importantly, her love. Men like this understand that a woman’s poise reflects her self-worth. And they know that a woman can only act with poise when she’s placed a higher importance on her dignity and well-being than she does on ANY man. It is this unique female attitude that drives a man wild with sustainable desire, the kind of desire that makes him eager to commit to a woman and claim her as his own. How to Attractively Set Standards with a Man and Make Him Want You Even More When a woman lacks poise she generally gives too much of herself, and usually at the most ineffective times when dating a man. She is too lenient with men in the beginning stages of a new romance, and she's prone to compromising her standards just to keep a man in her life. Women like this unknowingly chase men, as they become frantic, frustrated, and foolhardy whenever the guy they want begins to pull away or lose interest in them. A woman with poise never chases or throws herself at a man, nor does she make things easy for him by clearing her schedule "just in case" he calls or comes around. Instead, a woman with poise maintains her mystery, sticks to her standards, and uses her feminine charms to invite men to either pursue her passionately or leave her alone. How to Date like a High-Value Woman and Be Irresistible to Mr. Right It’s easy to show class and character when things are going your way with a guy. But your ability to remain unfazed amid his disrespect or disinterest is what really helps him determine whether you are a high-value woman or not. A man will not always act in ways that are favorable to you. Sure, some men are scumbags, but not all men who act thoughtlessly towards you should be categorized this way. Therefore, if you want to separate the good guys (the Mr. Rights) from the time wasters (the Mr. Wrongs) it’s important to act with poise. This book was designed for women who want to go from being powerless to being irresistible to men. In it, you’ll discover the secrets to having more confidence and power with men and dating as you learn the beliefs, attitudes, dating rules, “love habits”, and seduction secrets of the high-value woman. Here's what you're going to learn What to say when you want to "slow things down" with a guy without losing his interest in you.The most seductive first date "good deed" that can CAPTURE a man’s desire and make him desperate to see you again.The #1 key to conquering a man’s heart during the early dating stages. (This is something most women only figure out after YEARS of painful trial and error.)How to get a boyfriend by avoiding a HUGE relationship-killing mistake most women make within the first few weeks of dating.The single most irresistible feminine attitude that easily overwhelms a man’s emotions and makes it IMPOSSIBLE for him to get you off his mind.How to get a man to treat you like a top priority (instead of his Plan B) once you start dating him.
132 pages, Kindle Edition
Published March 4, 2017
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Bruce Bryans
52 books190 followersBruce Bryans writes books for men and women who want to become both irresistible and irreplaceable romantic partners to the opposite sex. This is the focus of all of his books.
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January 1, 2019
Very helpful
I was a little skeptical at first, but soon changed my mind. I learned a lot in this book, about myself and my subconscious dating behavior. This is a must read for the woman who finds herself in the dating world. Trust me, you will not be disappointed. Going to read his other books as well.
I was a little skeptical at first, but soon changed my mind. I learned a lot in this book, about myself and my subconscious dating behavior. This is a must read for the woman who finds herself in the dating world. Trust me, you will not be disappointed. Going to read his other books as well.
February 5, 2020
I JUST HAVE TO SAY
This book reads like it’s a little dated but still offers great, easy to digest information.
MY RATING ★★★☆☆
RATING EXPLAINED
3 - Good Book. Has all the right mechanics but it's just a little average. It's probably been done before or maybe it's not my cup of tea but I see the appeal and the potential. Many others may enjoy reading it but I wouldn't recommended this one too readily -especially if you're short on time.
REVIEW
Odds are if you’re reading this or looking to read this it’s because you’ve been played before and are looking to see what you can do to stop this and from that standpoint this book will work for you.
I think it’s important to note that Bryan’s intended audience is the “nice girl” looking to get Mr. Right and his view is very much from the standpoint of defined gender roles. Bryan’s idea of nice girl and sassy woman are my personal equivalent of a doormat and a lukewarm attitude so when reading about his expectant reactions for “any red blooded man” I was a little put off. I am, however, aware that I’m not his intended audience but I still think there’s good mailable advice in this book and if you can exercise your imagination then it can be a baseline to contour the advice to your specific lifestyle and needs.
This book was originally published in 2017 so I’m honestly surprised that there’s so much advice that is anti-online communication. It talks about texting from a view point of early 2000s and not from the viewpoint of our current social structure involving widely used social media and online dating sites.
Baring all this in mind I really do think the book has a lot to offer and says some things that many of us need to hear in no uncertain terms to raise the bar and hold ourselves to our own standards. For instance, having standards to begin with. Bryan’s elaborates on things like: Hardening your internal beliefs, not accepting last minute plans, being open to other dates, having self-respect and not being desperate, recognizing and acting on warnings, and exuding class/poise to be precious and valuable to a man (activate your imagination).
There is one line in the book that just hit me like a ton of bricks, “If you entertain men out of boredom, loneliness, or to validate your desirability then you are training yourself to accept less than what you really want.” And I just think that is so well put regardless of who you are or what you’re looking for; if you’re using people to fill a gap then you need a new hobby.
This book reads like it’s a little dated but still offers great, easy to digest information.
MY RATING ★★★☆☆
RATING EXPLAINED
3 - Good Book. Has all the right mechanics but it's just a little average. It's probably been done before or maybe it's not my cup of tea but I see the appeal and the potential. Many others may enjoy reading it but I wouldn't recommended this one too readily -especially if you're short on time.
REVIEW
Odds are if you’re reading this or looking to read this it’s because you’ve been played before and are looking to see what you can do to stop this and from that standpoint this book will work for you.
I think it’s important to note that Bryan’s intended audience is the “nice girl” looking to get Mr. Right and his view is very much from the standpoint of defined gender roles. Bryan’s idea of nice girl and sassy woman are my personal equivalent of a doormat and a lukewarm attitude so when reading about his expectant reactions for “any red blooded man” I was a little put off. I am, however, aware that I’m not his intended audience but I still think there’s good mailable advice in this book and if you can exercise your imagination then it can be a baseline to contour the advice to your specific lifestyle and needs.
This book was originally published in 2017 so I’m honestly surprised that there’s so much advice that is anti-online communication. It talks about texting from a view point of early 2000s and not from the viewpoint of our current social structure involving widely used social media and online dating sites.
Baring all this in mind I really do think the book has a lot to offer and says some things that many of us need to hear in no uncertain terms to raise the bar and hold ourselves to our own standards. For instance, having standards to begin with. Bryan’s elaborates on things like: Hardening your internal beliefs, not accepting last minute plans, being open to other dates, having self-respect and not being desperate, recognizing and acting on warnings, and exuding class/poise to be precious and valuable to a man (activate your imagination).
There is one line in the book that just hit me like a ton of bricks, “If you entertain men out of boredom, loneliness, or to validate your desirability then you are training yourself to accept less than what you really want.” And I just think that is so well put regardless of who you are or what you’re looking for; if you’re using people to fill a gap then you need a new hobby.
April 26, 2020
“You are precious to men”
A quick read to the qualities to a high value woman. Amongst all the advice I have since found in similar books, podcasts and you tube videos, I really like how the author has gathered the key points of what I already knew and turned into an easy to read guide. Sure he could go further and delve into detailed discussions but I thought ebooks like these are best kept at this length.
My fav quote: “if a man wants to be with you he will make his presence in your life both consistent and dominant. You won’t have to chase him, check up on him, or call him to get closure. You will know based on his enthusiasm, attentiveness and the amount of effort he takes to wedge himself in your life.”
A quick read to the qualities to a high value woman. Amongst all the advice I have since found in similar books, podcasts and you tube videos, I really like how the author has gathered the key points of what I already knew and turned into an easy to read guide. Sure he could go further and delve into detailed discussions but I thought ebooks like these are best kept at this length.
My fav quote: “if a man wants to be with you he will make his presence in your life both consistent and dominant. You won’t have to chase him, check up on him, or call him to get closure. You will know based on his enthusiasm, attentiveness and the amount of effort he takes to wedge himself in your life.”
April 15, 2022
This is a beginning dating book best suited to women new to dating or nice girls who have been mistreated by men in the past. For women with strong boundaries and confidence this will not be useful but it's still well written.
Some Highlights
1. Never chase a man
2. Don't be too accommodating for a man before he has proven himself
3. Take your time getting involved with a man
4. Act feminine and soft/ know your worth
5. Don't accept low level behavior such as last minute requests for a date
The book is worth a read if you fit the above description. I didn't learn anything from this book, lots of it is common sense and some of the advice is outdated.
Some Highlights
1. Never chase a man
2. Don't be too accommodating for a man before he has proven himself
3. Take your time getting involved with a man
4. Act feminine and soft/ know your worth
5. Don't accept low level behavior such as last minute requests for a date
The book is worth a read if you fit the above description. I didn't learn anything from this book, lots of it is common sense and some of the advice is outdated.
June 20, 2018
Great!
Interesting and easy to understand through examples so you can just go ahead and try. I read this book looking for ideas on how to counsel my daughters when they B.B. to me for advice. It can be tricky to answer some of their questions but here I found great ideas to apply next time they call for help!!
Interesting and easy to understand through examples so you can just go ahead and try. I read this book looking for ideas on how to counsel my daughters when they B.B. to me for advice. It can be tricky to answer some of their questions but here I found great ideas to apply next time they call for help!!
March 25, 2018
Interesting
I gave this book 5 stars because it hit on a few things I was/am guilty of doing when I meet men. I am 36 years old, single and no kids and want to date but no man I meet stays around long.
I gave this book 5 stars because it hit on a few things I was/am guilty of doing when I meet men. I am 36 years old, single and no kids and want to date but no man I meet stays around long.
July 11, 2018
Gave useful info for the “nice girl”
Not sure if all of these methods work but it definitely gave me food for thought. I wish I read this book before my last relationship could have prevented a lot of misunderstanding. Oh well! Definitely checking out this authors other books
Not sure if all of these methods work but it definitely gave me food for thought. I wish I read this book before my last relationship could have prevented a lot of misunderstanding. Oh well! Definitely checking out this authors other books
January 17, 2019
Love his books!
Bruce Bryan’s is a man who knows his stuff! All his books are well worth the read. Learn how to be a high value woman! Has changed my whole perspective and quality of life.
Bruce Bryan’s is a man who knows his stuff! All his books are well worth the read. Learn how to be a high value woman! Has changed my whole perspective and quality of life.
December 16, 2019
Great book
I've read a couple of relationship books including another by this author. He reinfored many things I have learnt as well as taught me a thing or two.. more importantly the rationale and male perspective was enlightening. Highly recommended.
I've read a couple of relationship books including another by this author. He reinfored many things I have learnt as well as taught me a thing or two.. more importantly the rationale and male perspective was enlightening. Highly recommended.
January 4, 2020
Speaks Truth in love
This is the 2nd book I’ve read from Bruce Bryans and I love how honest and transparent he is in regards to both genders. He offers very concrete examples and insights that will help most women attract a high-quality man.
This is the 2nd book I’ve read from Bruce Bryans and I love how honest and transparent he is in regards to both genders. He offers very concrete examples and insights that will help most women attract a high-quality man.
November 23, 2020
I didn't know that
While ready this book, I had quite a few Aha moments. I wasn't taught how to deal with men and have failed so many times. I recently tried some of the information in the book and ultimately felt better about myself. I plan to read some more of these books.
While ready this book, I had quite a few Aha moments. I wasn't taught how to deal with men and have failed so many times. I recently tried some of the information in the book and ultimately felt better about myself. I plan to read some more of these books.
March 23, 2017
Finally I get it - I'm precious as a woman and to get a quality man, I have to set boundaries and act like I believe it. This book made so much sense and was even better than the last dating book I read which I gave five stars to. The book was written simply without too much fanfare and hype, but it certainly got the message across. I'm changing my way of doing things and it makes me feel good about myself. I also understand the male psyche so much better now.
May 29, 2017
Makes a lot of sense. Women tend to make ourselves into doormats to please others, especially men we are interested in. Stop it! Stand up for yourself! Set boundaries!
July 26, 2017
Great read
Love this book! It has really helped me and I am going to put it in practice. Never settle for less.
Love this book! It has really helped me and I am going to put it in practice. Never settle for less.
January 17, 2018
Great book
Taught me a lot about myself. A positive book for any woman who is looking to date successfully. Recommended for young and old alike.
Taught me a lot about myself. A positive book for any woman who is looking to date successfully. Recommended for young and old alike.
July 4, 2019
Meh. Boring with no real tips.
July 18, 2019
By doing my research in the world of relationships, this has helped me discern what i am doing right and what i should being doing instead
December 3, 2019
I thought this would enlighten me after having just a bad time at dating. However, it told me that I was doing most of all the right things.
It was helpful and yet not.
It was helpful and yet not.
December 19, 2019
It's lightweight, and pretty basic? Keep looking - you'll find something more worth your time and money with more interesting, deep insights.
December 29, 2019
Book review
Easy to read. Makes sense. I will be reading other books written by him as this one was that good.
Easy to read. Makes sense. I will be reading other books written by him as this one was that good.
February 13, 2020
Another Great Read
I enjoyed this perspective. Although he refers to 29 dating secrets it’s simply dating wisdom that women should absolutely learn. This is a good tool.
I enjoyed this perspective. Although he refers to 29 dating secrets it’s simply dating wisdom that women should absolutely learn. This is a good tool.
October 20, 2020
Good stuff
Needed a refresher ... dignity matters, glad I tear this book again - I needed to remind myself of why I shouldn’t care or should be irresistible
Needed a refresher ... dignity matters, glad I tear this book again - I needed to remind myself of why I shouldn’t care or should be irresistible
August 21, 2021
Små fine råd til hvordan man (måske) finder kærligheden
January 21, 2022
awesome read
I love this simple easy integration into daily life, and a reflection on how we might be precious to men. Thank you!
I love this simple easy integration into daily life, and a reflection on how we might be precious to men. Thank you!
February 7, 2023
Good short read about common sense tips for women. Info that should be passed down from mom's to daughters but perhaps not shared like it was in past. All about being respected.
February 4, 2024
Khá hợp lý và có tính áp dụng
Điểm trừ là ko có ví dụ dễ hiểu và văn phong rất khó hiểu và vòng vo
7-8/10
Điểm trừ là ko có ví dụ dễ hiểu và văn phong rất khó hiểu và vòng vo
7-8/10
September 26, 2025
short simple read with advice you’ve probably already heard before, but that doesn’t make it any less true. good but nothing revolutionary.
March 23, 2017
Interesting
This is a very good, informative book about the way a man's mind works. I found it difficult to fully comprehend how women can or should change in order to please a man. Looks like I have to change who I am? Can that be done, no I don't think so. I'm not sure. Still sad to know that men like women opposite to who I am. Not really sure if this will work for really loving nice women. Maybe if your hard hearted it'll work. Not for me though.
This is a very good, informative book about the way a man's mind works. I found it difficult to fully comprehend how women can or should change in order to please a man. Looks like I have to change who I am? Can that be done, no I don't think so. I'm not sure. Still sad to know that men like women opposite to who I am. Not really sure if this will work for really loving nice women. Maybe if your hard hearted it'll work. Not for me though.
March 2, 2018
Straight to the point quick read...just to summarize everything know yourself worth and don't be desperate..
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