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Wanted: How to Create a Relationship that Really Works
Authored by a couples counsellor, Wanted provides the blue-print on how to be your best self in relationship. Aimed at both men and women at any stage of a relationship, Wanted is a practical guide you can return to again and again. Perhaps you're confounded by your partner's behaviour and need guidance or you're concerned that your relationship has become stale. Maybe you feel short of a bonding skill or two or just want to take stock of your relationship patterns. Whatever your reason, when it comes to relationships, this guide will maintain its relevance.
True to its title, Wanted details the importance of feeling wanted in a relationship and challenges you to consider whether you would want you. If your answer is "no' or half-hearted, Wanted proffers the changes that are necessary to acquire a healthy self esteem. A healthy relationship with your self is a continuous theme throughout the book, nudging you towards self awareness and competency in a partnership. Through the often sad and sometimes funny real-life narratives of the author's relationships and those of her clients, you're sure to find meaningful connections to your own journey. If, like many people, you struggle with challenges like mistrust, ongoing conflict, poor communication and weak boundaries, you'll find the tools herein to turn your relationship around. You'll learn how to master what the author calls 'Allies' - of which there are 14; trust, respect, listening, reciprocity, tenderness, resilience, freedom, delight, energy, disruption, responsibility, friendship, belief and passion. You'll also recognise the "Opponents" that disable relationships and come to know the toxic power that comes with being passive aggressive.
Real in substance, Wanted navigates delicate subjects including how to recognise when a relationship is over, reflection points to find closure and guidance on how to break-up with compassion and grace. It also tackles the sometimes awkward subject of sex and intimacy in a way that promotes open sharing, vulnerable disclosure and enticing discovery.
Finally, Wanted offers a unique understanding of love and argues that love should be our endgame rather than the elusive experience we often seek at the outset of a relationship.
"I found myself tucking away interesting nuggets of insight and advice to use in areas where my own relationship might be lacking. If you don’t find yourself nodding along to the author’s discernment of how relationships can break down, smile at her recognition of some of your partner’s behavior patterns, or whince at an example or two of your own, then you’ve attained that rare thing - the perfect relationship."
Paul Richardson, Bloomberg News
"Inspiring, actionable advice to “participate as your best self” in relationships." Kirkus Indie
True to its title, Wanted details the importance of feeling wanted in a relationship and challenges you to consider whether you would want you. If your answer is "no' or half-hearted, Wanted proffers the changes that are necessary to acquire a healthy self esteem. A healthy relationship with your self is a continuous theme throughout the book, nudging you towards self awareness and competency in a partnership. Through the often sad and sometimes funny real-life narratives of the author's relationships and those of her clients, you're sure to find meaningful connections to your own journey. If, like many people, you struggle with challenges like mistrust, ongoing conflict, poor communication and weak boundaries, you'll find the tools herein to turn your relationship around. You'll learn how to master what the author calls 'Allies' - of which there are 14; trust, respect, listening, reciprocity, tenderness, resilience, freedom, delight, energy, disruption, responsibility, friendship, belief and passion. You'll also recognise the "Opponents" that disable relationships and come to know the toxic power that comes with being passive aggressive.
Real in substance, Wanted navigates delicate subjects including how to recognise when a relationship is over, reflection points to find closure and guidance on how to break-up with compassion and grace. It also tackles the sometimes awkward subject of sex and intimacy in a way that promotes open sharing, vulnerable disclosure and enticing discovery.
Finally, Wanted offers a unique understanding of love and argues that love should be our endgame rather than the elusive experience we often seek at the outset of a relationship.
"I found myself tucking away interesting nuggets of insight and advice to use in areas where my own relationship might be lacking. If you don’t find yourself nodding along to the author’s discernment of how relationships can break down, smile at her recognition of some of your partner’s behavior patterns, or whince at an example or two of your own, then you’ve attained that rare thing - the perfect relationship."
Paul Richardson, Bloomberg News
"Inspiring, actionable advice to “participate as your best self” in relationships." Kirkus Indie
246 pages, Kindle Edition
Published February 6, 2017
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