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336 pages, Hardcover
First published November 7, 2017
“I want to see patients like you do.”
‘You already said that,’ I teased him.
“No, no, I mean, I want to look at people like you do.”
“What do you mean? How do I look at people?”
“You look at people with love,” Omari said.
O thought about Massiko’s words, that love looks around.
And the father’s words, “There is love in your eyes.”
And now Omari’s words, ”You look at people with love” – Well, p. 219.
I wondered what, if anything, was the point of Jesus being physically present in our world. What was the significance of Emmanuel—of God being With Us?
If we look at everything Jesus left undone when he departed from the earth, then his presence hardly mattered at all. People were still sick, they still died, they were still oppressed, and they still suffered.
So why did it matter that Emmanuel was here?
As I thought about it, the question became its own answer. Emmanuel’s value did not lie in what he did or didn’t accomplish while he walked the earth. What mattered was that he was here. – p. 294
During my time in Togo, I learned that the Togolese staff weren’t invited to the dining hall for lunch because the meal cost five dollars per person—which was reasonable for the Americans but prohibitive for the Togolese. Especially considering that in the village, two hundred CFAs bought you a plate of food big enough to feed two people, asking them to pay twenty-five hundred CFAs for one meal in the dining hall was absurd.
But the longer I was in Togo, the more I realized that it wasn’t only money that separated Togolese and American staff. The Togolese weren’t invited to attend our Sunday-evening church services, either—which, of course, were free. And instead of adapting to the Togolese diet and eating locally grown food, Hazel insisted on sending Massiko to Lomé for cheese and beef and milk and sour cream and other ingredients needed to make “American” food that weren’t available in Mango. (53)But there are bigger divides: much of the local population is Muslim, and one of the missionary practices is to call in the chaplains when someone is dying—and the chaplains, among other things, spend a fair amount of their death-counselling energy explaining that the patient will go to a fiery hell if they don't accept JC as their saviour. (I have very strong feelings about this sort of missionary.) It's clear that Thebarge is uncomfortable with this, but I don't think she knows how to fully address it, during her three months in Togo or in writing the book. Or other things: hospital staff practice intubations on a dead baby, and Thebarge wonders what the baby's mother would think if she knew; this leads to a story about the cadaver she learned from in PA school but falls far, far short of discussing the ethical implications—and differences—in any detail.