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Bored and lonely, 15-year-old Hélène decides to pay a visit to her father's mistress. Within days, she is captivated by Tamara, a Russian émigré whose arts of enchantment include lingering kisses, sudden dismissals, and savage, rapturous reunions. As long as she submits to Tamara, Hélène is permitted to stay near her: reading forbidden novels, meeting Tamara's bohemian friends, and learning more "refinements of depravity" than the gossiping matrons of her provincial French town could imagine existed.

241 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 1951

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Françoise Mallet-Joris

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Françoise Mallet-Joris is the nom de plume of Françoise Lilar, a Belgian writer.

She is the daughter of Suzanne Lilar

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570 reviews202 followers
April 14, 2008
The fact that Mallet-Joris wrote this novel in 1952 when she was only 19 is amazing to me. The psychological awareness that she has in her descriptions of interactions between characters is fascinating. I thought about this novel and Tamara long after having finished it. Is Tamara a pathetic figure or a tragic character, or both? Take my advice and skip Terry Castle's intro at least until after you've read the book. I believe Sarah Waters would've written a more appropriate and engaging into, but she was relegated to a blurb on the front cover of the edition that I have.
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372 reviews41 followers
August 13, 2016
There's nothing especially remarkable about this book except for two things: that the narrator, Helene, is genuinely likeable and that it (uncomfortably and unfortunately) is easier than you would think to really like someone who is aloof and only likes you on her own terms (if she likes you at all.)

If I hadn't personally known what it's like to be attracted to emotionally distant people who are (when you get down to the nitty gritty of it) not worth one second of your suffering over them I might have been more irritated by The Illusionist.

Tamara, the older woman our narrator is hopelessly (and I do mean hopelessly) fascinated and possibly in love with, is a few shades shy of psychotic. She has never quite gotten over her affair with a woman named Emily so she takes out most everything that makes her miserable on other people, especially Helene.

Like anyone else who understands that indifference, not hate, is the complete opposite of love, Helene appreciates it more when Tamara treats her badly. Rather than think the older woman just doesn't care, Helene decides she is hurtful so she can "reduce her to despair." Malice is far preferable to nothing.

Tamara is so unpredictable that Helene never knows which version of her she is going to encounter each day: "I wondered if she would have the closed look of her bad days, or the charming look of melancholy which sometimes clouded her eyes, or a smile that I had never seen, but which would be my revenge if I could glimpse it for a moment, that shameless smile of a woman..."

Later on, an understanding and surprisingly sympathetic outsider advises Helene: "Listen, there are people who are in love, miserable and worthy of pity...say what you will, there's nothing very loving and gentle about her."

Sometimes you need an outsider (or maybe a book that speaks to you) to remind you that not everyone is worth falling in love with, no matter how oddly appealing she may be. Easier to listen to than follow, but this kind of advice (so starkly laid out here and with Tamara as such a good example of what not to like) can stand out when you distance yourself a bit from it all.
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269 reviews30 followers
June 14, 2018
I'm frustrated by this book. I wanted to like it much more than I did. The writing was terrific, I enjoyed the era and setting of the book. The plot was interesting.
I'm not a prude, so I don't object to the lesbian relationship or to the D/s relationship. I understand the culture and that age gaps weren't really an issue at the time. But it still felt too manipulative and emotionally abusive. Also, the father irritated me a lot. He seemed cold and distant and was oblivious to his daughter's activities. I know people were considered adults/mature at a much younger age back then, but I still think he might have paid more attention to what was happening around him.
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486 reviews45 followers
December 11, 2025
"But the most intolerable thing was not his presence, not the idea that Tamara was unfaithful to me or loved someone else, nor even the quite frightful feeling of my sudden loneliness. What hurt me most was to imagine the kind of love they made together, to imagine Tamara. It seemed to me that she was lowering herself, that she was gainsaying everything I admired in her: her hardness, her energy, her mocking superiority. But now, here she was, she had a lover like other women had, a lover that she kept at her side not out of interest—which was, I thought, whv she endured mv father—but rather out of some queer feeling of gratitude, of affection, maybe of desire. If so, then she was not as different from other women as I had imagined. Otherwise, how could she take pleasure in a love-making that she did not control, in which she did not play the dominant part? Could it be that she experienced with that stocky, curly-haired young man the same pleasure in submission that I experienced with her, a submission of which I was a little ashamed? I did not want to believe it. Rather than imagine her thus fallen from glory, I preferred to accept the painful thought that she was keeping Max there out of sheer perversity, just to reduce me to despair."
Profile Image for Violet.
557 reviews61 followers
March 3, 2015
Surprisingly good book. Provocative, very well written, complex characters and quite unexpected sense of humor. Deliciously outdated dialogue, where all women are queer and one wakes up in a gay mood. But it just simply ads to the charm.

The ending was perfect.

The only thing that peeved me a bit - I've listened to English audio-book. The story takes place in France by the Belgian author, and well, I did not expect translated dialogues to have accents. Yet the narrator gives a phony French accent to each and every character. I would understand that Tamara as a Russian, would have an accent, but why must everybody speak in bad English?
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38 reviews
August 2, 2024
I was little bit disappointed because I expected it to be like "Olivia" by Strachey. The important similarities lay in the adolescent mindset of Hélène and her limitless imagination as to where her relationship with Tamara is headed. She believes that "by a systematic derangement of [her] imagination it would be possible to attain the high states of poetic consciousness" (p.61). Nevertheless, the enlightenment happens at the very end, it seems, when she identifies the toxins in their relationship: "I was at last free (...) And alone in the darkness, I began to laugh." (p.250)
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42 reviews
November 17, 2025
Le Rempart des Béguines est un roman d'apprentissage à travers lequel le lecteur suit les joies et les déboires d'Hélène, une jeune fille de 16 ans. Le père d'Hélène est trop occupé par son travail, tant et si bien que, dans sa solitude, Hélène se noue d'amitié avec la maîtresse de celui-ci, Tamara. Assez rapidement, cette amitié se transforme en admiration et en amour passionnel: 

'Je ne sais combien de temps dura le silence pendant lequel j'observai Tamara. Comme éblouie par le soleil, je ne voyais pas ce visage enfin révélé et j'arrivais seulement à en délimiter les contours. J'aurais pu demeurer longtemps dans cette espèce de torpeur [...]'

Le lieu des béguines devient le lieu du béguin et c'est cette relation à Tamara qui va déclencher le processus d'Hélène vers la maturité. Elle en percevra des signes de douleur physique par les coups de Tamara et la fièvre de la scarlatine. Le roman se termine sur le carcan patriarcal par excellence, mettant en échec toute fin heureuse pour Hélène et Tamara: le mariage de son père.

Mallet-Joris reprend les codes du roman d'apprentissage pour aborder le thème de l'amour entre femmes. On y retrouve également tout le champ lexical de l'amour maternel suite à la perte de la mère biologique. Cela semble assez courant finalement, avec, par exemple, Olivia de Dorothy Strachey, ou encore quelques écrits de Colette et de Virginia Woolf.

Or, il me semble difficile ici d'empatir avec Tamara, qui est de 20 ans l'aînée d'Hélène et la maîtresse de son père. De fait, on ne peut que constater les dégâts des théories d'Adler sur l'homosexualité féminine et sa représentation dans la fiction (théories reprises
par De Beauvoir dans Le Deuxième Sexe II). Cela est bien dommage puisque la prose reste captivante.

'Le chagrin, on peut l'accepter quand on ignore de quoi exactement il est fait, quand il vous surprend, tombe sur vous comme un poids énorme et une inévitable. Mais quand on en connaît tous les détails [...] Comment faire pour garder son sang-froid, refuser certains sacrifices, signer sa propre condamnation?'
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22 reviews
May 8, 2025
the narrative🙇‍♀️🙇‍♀️ illicit affairs slash lolita but make it lesbian
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7 reviews
November 21, 2024
4.5. I was captured first by the synopsis of this novel, and then by the first sentence. I read this book very quickly. As a lesbian, I enjoyed this (perhaps in forty years this book will be more disturbing due to its problematic content but considering it was written in 1952 and by a 19-year-old, I may well forgive it). The underlying, and sometimes overt, eroticism of the book was lovely and the content simply made me struggle to put the book down. The prose entranced me, for it is both simple and beautiful. To be a little sentimental, this is the kind of book I would like to read aloud to a lover. Despite the ending, which is only mildly satisfying (hence, -0.5), I really enjoyed this book, namely Tamara and Hélène's interaction in the final chapter (and many of them throughout the story) and the subtle androgyny - or masculinity, as Hélène called it - of Tamara. Hélène's distress over Tamara's desire for the stability a male partner would bring her and H's feelings of betrayal felt very real and relatable.

Would read it again and recommend it to any lesbians who don't feel too disturbed by the age gap.
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Profile Image for Carole.
616 reviews
November 28, 2009
This book, written by a 19 year old in 1952, is not really to my taste. The protagonist is a 15-year-old girl drawn into a D/s-like relationship with her father's mistress.

This is actually a classic work of lesbian literature. It is beautifully written, but is, for me, a difficult topic.

What is the most surprising thing to me is that a 19-year-old could write this in 1952, get it published, and write it well enough to have it become a classic, translated into other languages.

If you are into feminist literature -- or lesbian erotica -- you may well find this book to your taste. It's very erotic, very well-written, very thought-provoking.
26 reviews2 followers
October 30, 2007
hot! i think the line from the description, "As long as she submits to Tamara, Hélène is permitted to stay near her," has it backwards, though; oh, the pain of being let down by one's first top, how tragic!
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August 7, 2008

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993 reviews5 followers
December 12, 2023
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"A compelling novel of secret love"
The Loving and the Daring is a perceptive novel of a young French girl's awakening from innocence to a love that was forbidden. Written by Belgian writer Francoise Mallet when she was just twenty-one, Le Rempart des Beguines was published in 1951 and translated as The Illusionist. Taking place in Gers, France, she wrote a sequel in 1955 exploring the same themes of social class and lesbianism in Belgium titled La Chamber Rouge (The Red Room).

Fifteen year-old Helene spends a great deal of time alone, her only parent a father devoted to political life. She is slightly scandalized to find he has a mistress - talk has spread through town - an exotic Russian-born woman named Tamara. An artistic bohemian, Tamara was an artists model who moves through relationships - the artist who discovered her once married her, this ended when she left him for Emily, who devastated her when she left for another man - but the artist continued to 'keep her', paying all her bills. Helene contrives to meet her, and they become friends. Such a free spirit, it is not unusual for her to greet Helene with a kiss, and within a few visits their relationship becomes so casual as to spend the afternoon in bed, trying things that Helene was told were unhealthy. That's as racy a description as you get. Helene soon finds herself powerfully in love with her virile energy, authority, even her cruelty, and the town gossips when the two are together. Tamara suggests a seaside trip, where they can be open - visiting lesbian bars and meeting friends who accept the couple are lovers. The father remains unseeing, simply happy that Helene is has a female influence in her life. The time comes when he proposes to Tamara - perfect for Tamara's financial security and adding respectability for the father - if Helene can only overcome her possessive love, the three can carry on their affairs.

Well reviewed at the time, this serious exploration of romantic awakening gives a lot less passion than the cover would suggest. Taking place in France, where a love between women seems not unnatural, this is very much emotional rather than sexual. I must say the inner life of a teenage girl's tempestuous jealousies tired me after a while, but the story was unique and interesting as a time-capsule of sorts - like Patricia Highsmith's The Price of Salt (Carol) from 1952, this is an early look at lesbian love - along with titles like Gore Vidal's The City and The Pillar (1946), a classic novel of gay love.
In that sense recommended.
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114 reviews
March 23, 2023
I really wanted to like this book. I loved that it was written by a 19 year old in the 50s in Europe. But by the end of the book, I really just didn't like a single character, and it left me incredibly unsatisfied. The only redeeming aspect was that I think it did paint an accurate picture that the worth of a woman back then was mostly tied to her place in society, usually in connection with a man. If Helene wasn't so miserable, I probably would have enjoyed it much more. The way she viewed her relationship with Tamara reminds me of my own experiences of early whirlwind romances that were more toxic than healthy. I think part of the point was the ignorance of her youth, and that played well. But I kept waiting for her to have some sort of deeper substance to her, and it never happened. Anyway, I'm glad to never have to read about Helene, her father, or Tamara ever again.
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6,858 reviews30 followers
September 26, 2025
4 stars. Shout out to Open Library because I’ve been wanting to read this book for a few years now. It’s not on e-book and the paperback is damn near $30 for a used copy. I was able to borrow this from Open Library and read it on my iPad and I’m so glad that I did.

This was a lot to digest but in a good way. It’s beautifully written and is good at scenery and painting a picture. Helena is a fascinating character and it was intriguing to see everything from her eyes. Tamara, oh my goodness, Tamara. She’s seductive and manipulative and yet there’s something about her that is just so…sad. She’s complex to say the least. This book was often times uncomfortable due to the relationship between Helena and Tamara but I thought it was a good character study and that it felt brutally honest. So happy that I finally was able to read this it was absolutely engrossing.
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10 reviews
September 12, 2021
I had heard of this author but never read her books before. This one was her first book, published in the early 50s and has been a real treat! Considering the year of its release, the subjects treated are controversial and I suspect the book was talked about vehemently among literary circles at the time. A young teenager, Hélène, lives in a small town in Belgium, with her distant businessman father and house staff, after the death of her mother. After discovering that her father has taken a mistress, she finds herself attracted to the newcomer and embarks on a secret relationship with her.
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161 reviews3 followers
July 20, 2024
Excellent style, interesting psychological insight, very much a book about “leaving the province behind” and a darker side of the coming of age. In a way, this is the anti YA. Problematic in many ways, but it really belongs with the story and the era this is from. Might have received an even higher score if there hadn’t been those stupid French accents in my English language audiobook. Overall 3.5 stars
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28 reviews
July 28, 2024
Such a deeply complex internal-analysis of the narrator's self through her (abusive) love interest. And vice-versa, at times. It reminded me of Bergman's "Persona", in an abstract way.
Fantasy, limerence, abuse, anguish, grief, happiness... all of it was explored beautifully, and the writing style itself was fascinating. It's one of those books that just stays with you, I think - I still hear the echoes in my mind from time to time.
57 reviews
January 9, 2022
Another of 2021's classic reads, written in 1952 and has a wonderful vintage charm to the prose. Very lyrical and smooth. It's a fairly slow moving book, but the protagonist Helene is a delightful observant narrator that draws you into her world, unreliable at times, and offers a window into her world and experience nicely. A good 4 stars.
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139 reviews4 followers
June 5, 2023
Groundbreaking for the time & well-written, but a very toxic & unbalanced relationship...

Definitely don´t make my mistake of reading without doing research, because while this was impressive from a literary standpoint having been written by a 19-year-old, this was not the kind of queer rep I was looking for lol

1,355 reviews
July 23, 2024
Je suis une lectrice un peu "midinette" et j'ai besoin d'avoir de la sympathie pour au moins un personnage du roman, ce qui n'est pas le cas ici. La relation homosexuelle entre ces deux femmes, qui ont vingt de différence, est décrite avec pudeur...mais on a du mal à y croire ! Et les accents sadomasochistes n'arrangent rien !
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94 reviews
October 7, 2025
fucked up but entertaining ig... also found out she's french belgian not french french.. so there go my jokes about the french in relation to this :/ but ok hats off to her for writing this at 19 in 1950s belgium i guess
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December 7, 2025
Hate the blurb on the cover.. first and foremost this is an abuse story and GOD it is hard to read due to the subject matter. However, It is so well written and I want to hug Helene. I don’t know how a 19 year old girl wrote this. Insane. Never reading again but was so important to read
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20 reviews
March 9, 2025
you have to watch that film 【Le rempart des Beguines 1972】
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136 reviews3 followers
August 5, 2025
modern day booktok dark romances WISH they could do age-gap toxic power dynamics like this
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131 reviews5 followers
December 14, 2014
I was both impressed and irritated by this book. Impressed by the literary skill of its young author; irritated by the cliched D/s setup, which included a violent beating: in a hetero relationship this could have led to a prosecution! In fact, reading the other reviews, I am amazed that no-one else seems aware of how this would look in a work of fiction involving a man/woman relationship. Somehow, when it's a lesbian couple, the usual bets are off.

Mallet-Joris does include some beautiful passages, with excellent evocations of youthful longing balanced by spare, realistic description, especially of the goings-on in a sordid lesbian bar. However, I found the ending a rather disappointing copout; the older woman, Russian emigre Tamara, decides to marry Helene's father and end the bohemian lifestyle that so attracted Helene. Although it was published a while ago (1955), surely Tamara could have found a sustainable way of living that would enable her to keep her independence. Helene quite properly loses respect for Tamara - in this regard, it's a very good coming-of-age story; Helene "grows up" once out of the affair.

All in all, although I have severe reservations about the novel (hence only 3 stars), it has stayed with me and I still have a lot of time for it.
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4 reviews1 follower
May 14, 2023
do i wanna be her, be with her, be abused by her?.. neither.

finally, gay bitches in literature can have awful and intense relationships too! stand aside, bunin, and 99.9% of classics!

in all seriousness, i enjoyed her descriptions of inner life of a teenager, they felt real.
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