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128 pages, Kindle Edition
Published March 16, 2017
In suicide, the unconscious fantasy often revolves around settling old scores from unfinished and unacknowledged battles of childhood. These are memories that reside in that part of the patient’s mind of which he is unaware and of which he has no understanding. Freud (1909) described these memories as ghosts which compulsively haunt the patient. ‘That which cannot be understood inevitably reappears; like an unlaid ghost that cannot rest until the mystery has been solved and the spell broken.'
The painful reality, which every therapist needs to come to terms with, is the fact that it is always within the patient’s power to kill themselves. [...] There may come a time in the therapy that the therapist has to communicate this reality to the suicidal patient. This statement to the patient in no way implies that the therapist does not care or condones suicide. On the contrary, it implies that the patient will only move on from the suicidal state of mind if the therapist can take the risk of letting the patient be responsible for his or her own life. Psychic change can only take place when the patient is free to act and the analyst is free to analyse. If either the patient or the analyst is operating under external pressure, coercion or moral blackmail, the best that can be hoped for is compliance rather than real permanent psychic change.
The word crisis has come to connote a situation with potential for danger; but the original meaning is broader – it is a turning point, a crossroads, a state of affairs in which a decisive change for better or for worse is imminent. The pre-suicide state of mind is a mind in crisis that is balanced between acting out a destructive fantasy or learning from the fantasy. Suicide may always remain an option for some suicidal individuals, but it is our belief that some resolution of the underlying conflicts will play a crucial part in reducing the suicidal potential.
In therapy with patients who were searching for sexual reassignment surgery (SRS), we found that several of them had displaced their impulses to mutilate themselves onto surgeons, so that one component of their fantasy was self-mutilation by proxy. Both the self-mutilator and those mutilating by proxy projected rage against the mother onto the body. Perhaps paradoxically, these patients who were pursing SRS often identified the surgeon with their mother who they felt hated their masculine body.
Alessandra Lemma's (2015) clinical work with patients who requested SRS found that beneath the delusion that gender could, in fact, be assigned' surgically through SRS, these patients had found a way of representing, unconsciously, the incongruity of the subject's gender identity.