At the Eleventh Hour: Caring for My Dying Mother

by Susan Carol Stone

When Blanche Stone was diagnosed with bone cancer, her daughter interrupted an unusual life--in a Buddhist monastery--to return home and become a full-time caregiver. With practical wisdom, humor, and an eye for telling detail, Susan relates their experiences sharing a house, dealing with finances, participating in family and holiday rituals, finding ways to ease Blanche's discomfort as her health declined, gratefully accepting the support of the local hospice, and coming to a greater appreciation of each other as individuals. Readers of any faith (or none) can benefit from these accounts of living moment by moment, responding without preconception to each evolving situation, embracing one's own needs along with the needs of a person facing death. Susan shows how such living within a sacred place where there is room to honor and be awed by what is at hand, however difficult, and where one gains the freedom to enjoy it all. At the Eleventh Hour presents a model for how children can offer parents the gift of a "good death." In its natural weaving of spiritual truths into the daily fabric of life, it is an eloquent expression of how being present to dying expands the capacity for living. And, like a wise and supportive friend, it can lift spirits and be a reminder that, hard as it is, it's okay--and sometimes even fun. (In this way, it is similar to Tuesday's with Morrie which has lifted the spirits of millions).

200 pages, Paperback

First published August 1, 2001

Reviews

[Katherine · Rating 4 out of 5]

A memoir of caregiving written by a Buddhist practitioner whose experiences of caring for her dying mother provide her (and us) with many lessons about living in the moment.