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The Day I Stopped Drinking Milk: Life Lessons from Here and There

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Extraordinary stories about ordinary people’s lives
Over the years, Sudha Murty has come across some fascinating people whose lives make for interesting stories and have astonishing lessons to reveal. Take Vishnu, who achieves every material success but never knows happiness; or Venkat, who talks so much that he has no time to listen. In other stories, a young girl goes on a train journey that changes her life forever; an impoverished village woman provides bathing water to hundreds of people in a drought-stricken area; a do-gooder ghost decides to teach a disconsolate young man Sanskrit; and in the title story, a woman in a flooded village in Odisha teaches the author a life lesson she will never forget.
From the bestselling author of Wise and Otherwise and The Old Man and His God, this is another heart-warming collection of real-life stories that will delight readers of all ages.

223 pages, Kindle Edition

First published January 1, 2012

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Sudha Murty

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Sudha Murty was born in 1950 in Shiggaon in north Karnataka. She did her MTech in computer science, and is now the chairperson of the Infosys Foundation. A prolific writer in English and Kannada, she has written nine novels, four technical books, three travelogues, one collection of short stories, three collections of non-fiction pieces and two books for children.

Her books have been translated into all the major Indian languages and have sold over three lakh copies around the country. She was the recipient of the R.K. Narayan's Award for Literature and the Padma Shri in 2006.

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430 reviews35 followers
May 21, 2013
This was one of the most simple and elegant books I have read in a long time.
A very simple prose but highly effective and gripping. No use of complex word and grammar. Simplicity of this book touched my heart.

Sudha Murty is always been my favourite author, however I have read her books in Gujarati translation and have always been close to my heart.

The title of this book can be misleading, the fact is, The day I stopped drinking milk is one of the story in this book along with some others. Actually these stories are not work of fiction but they are actual experiences of Sudha Murty.

These lively stories are real, filled with emotions, lessons and are heart touching. As I progressed with the book, I loved each story more than the earlier one. This book teaches us the lessons of humanity; it teaches us how to become a good human being. I wish I could put some of the lessons in my life to make it a worth living.

I would recommend this book to every individual who want to read a simple but inspiring tales.
Profile Image for Darshana Unnikrishnan.
81 reviews144 followers
May 7, 2014
i really liked this book. this book is not a literary treat with complicated usage of words. the language is very simple. it is just a collection of sudha murty's experiences over the years working for the infosys foundation and also from her personal life. it is told in a very simple manner. some of the lessons are worth learning and some are worth pondering about.
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89 reviews3 followers
August 31, 2013
Sudha Murthy is a social worker and a writer. I read her book, ‘The day I stopped drinking milk’. This book is about her life experiences. There is a proverb, ‘A wise man learns from the mistakes of others, the fool has to learn from his own’.
What I learned from this book is that the world has become a place of personal gain and selfishness. Sudha Murthy recounts two of her experiences in which she helped two youngsters complete their education by providing monetary aid. After these two people completed their education and became successful they do not even acknowledge her help. When they meet her after a few years by chance they pretend not to recognize her.
Sudha Murthy writes her experiences in the form of short stories, in no particular order. The book is written in a very simple language with no frills. Few of the stories were interesting but most of them were written more in a report format. It would have been more captivating if there were a little bit more showing & telling. She fails to paint a picture of her memories to the reader and we are not part of her world. There is also very less dialogue, reading through most of the stories was more like reading a text book. I feel that she is much better at writing magical stories for children rather than her life experiences (http://soumyagudiyella.blogspot.in/se...)
Profile Image for Kamala.
8 reviews4 followers
November 22, 2012
Absolutely LOVED this book. Sudha Murthy's work is admirable because she's so disarmingly honest. Most social workers (especially people who donate on such a large scale) are guilty of being extremely proud of their work and their contribution, so much so that they feel the world revolves around their own humanitarian tendencies to the exclusion of all else. But here is someone who is so qualified, doing such good work and doing it very matter-of-factly with a quiet kind of confidence and ability. This book contains a series of essays, thoughts and reflections that occurred to Sudha Murthy during the course of her social work. It's interesting because of the unusual situations, the interesting people she's met and the way she's handled it all. Every story is exceedingly well-written, in such a simple, engaging style. There's never a dull moment. The book is not an excuse for her to trumpet Infosys' virtues (though it could very well have been just that had anyone else written it). There is no holier than thou attitude here. The first story is especially mind-blowing. There is a deep and gentle wisdom in every page. Highly recommend this!
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660 reviews107 followers
September 24, 2013
The Day I Stopped Drinking Milk : Life stories from here and there is a recollection of 23 life experiences by Sudha Murty. She has narrated them is a simple flowing language and as with every story Mrs Murthy writes, they reach the core of the heart. The characters are ordinary people she has met in office, at home, in her village, during a journey and so on. Most of us would also have met such people whom we would have forgotten but with all credit to her, she has narrated the incidents in first person and we can also relate to and learn a lot from them.

In Bombay to Bangalore, Chitra remembers the train journey which she had undertaken when she was 13-14 years old, how her life changed after the journey and shows her gratitude. Rahman’s Avva is about Kashibai who is uneducated but far advanced in human values. Ganga’s ghat makes us realize that anyone can do social work like Ganga who provides bathing water in a village. The Day I Stopped Drinking Milk is about a family in Odisha who want to offer her something to eat or drink but she is unable to accept the glass of milk they offer her. How the perceptions of people regarding India have changed in the United States in 30 years is what Changing India is about. Genes talks about “how only diseases and not honesty and integrity are passed down to the next generation through genes”.

Helping the dead is about a group of young people who form a voluntary organization to help poor people who have nobody to cremate of bury their dead ones. Three ponds is about the sacrifices of three different women for providing water to others. No man’s garden is about a rich farmer growing vegetables in a wasteland for the poor and needy. Sticky bottoms is about her friend whose only concern is talking about himself. Too many questions is about how the managers try to come in between the donor and the receiver. Gift of sacrifice is about a young cowherd who sacrifices his life for his village while giving the message from a soldier to the captain. Bad Help is about how helping somebody may be lifelong burden for him to carry. Sharing with a ghost is about a young man who learns from a ghost that “in life sharing is important”.

Foot in the mouth is about people who gossip and how they find people to gossip about. In Miserable success, we realize that being successful doe not necessarily mean being happy. In Shraddha, we realize that in the eyes of God, girls and boys, sons and daughters are equal. In Lazy Portado, we learn that as a student, we should study, get knowledge, learn skills and work hard. Uncle Sam is about a person who regrets his going to America. You should have asked me is about how people want their egos to be fed. A mother’s love is about how a mother climbs a hill and jumps down in order to be with her baby. Do you remember tells us that we remember all that we consider as important.

The last story in the book is Life’s Secret Lessons wherein the author learns seven lessons in life.
First lesson: Only children tell the truth and are real judges of one’s talent.
Second lesson: You cannot substitute many things in life with money.
Third Lesson: Wherever there is money, people like to take advantage of the situation and maximize their return.
Fourth lesson: If we keep collecting material things, it becomes a burden to the next generation
Fifth lesson: To be patient and to recognize people’s intentions.
Sixth lesson: We must stand up for ourselves and follow our heart, even if other people do not always agree with us or like it.
Seventh lesson: We should not hear other sounds and can concentrate on what we are doing.
Eighth lesson: When a person becomes a compassionate leader, they do not belong to one country.

A MUST READ.
Profile Image for Njkinny (Njkinny's Blog).
758 reviews187 followers
January 1, 2014
The Day I Stopped Drinking Milk by Sudha Murthy is a compilation of instances from her own life. She shares her experiences at different times and with different people in the form of short stories which are enlightening as well as an eye opener.

One of the few authors who have the skill to write
simply yet have an impact on their readers, Sudha Murthy has always fascinated me with her observations and her thoughts on matters most diverse. Here also she talks of different situations and gives us her own perspective to her experiences.

I liked and really enjoyed the very diverse stories compiled in this book but also didn't agree to some of her observations and conclusions.

A light and breezy read with no difficult terminologies to confuse you, I give The Day I Stopped Drinking Milk a 3.5 out of 5 and recommend it to all who are in search of a light book which entertains as well as teaches the readers a lesson in humanity and humility.

This review is also available on my blog http://njkinny.blogspot.in
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16 reviews1 follower
September 7, 2021
A book with multiple real stories some of which definitely would be life lessons for those who can relate to some of the stories.

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780 reviews308 followers
January 21, 2020
| Book Review | The Day I Stopped Drinking Milk.

"Whenever you want to give something to somebody, give the best in you, never the second best. That is what I have learned from life. God is not there in the temple, mosque or church. He is with the people. If you serve them with whatever you have, you have served God." - Sudha Murty.

When I spot Sudha Murty's book on a shelf, I buy it without even reading the blurb. My faith in her stories is something that makes me go back to her books time and again. What's even better is the fact that her books can be enjoyed by people of all age groups. It's simple, straight to the point and so full of morals. Though this book contained few stories from her other book (Here, there and everywhere), I did not mind reading them again. But tucked in between these familiar stories were new ones that made a significant impact on me. Those who know Sudha Murty, will already know how grounded she is as a person and her books share the same personality. She always stresses on honesty and kindness. To be a bit more human.

In this book, Sudha Murty talks about people who serve others without expecting anything in return. My personal favourite was Ganga Ghat where a poor old lady opens a bathing facility in her village without asking for help from others. She fetches water from a far away well and keeps it warm for homeless people who start coming in from all the neighbouring villages. In another story she talks about how an old man grows vegetables in his tiny scrap of land to distribute it amongst the needy ones who cannot afford to buy it from the shops. Contrary to these stories, she also narrates few of her personal experiences where people cheated her after taking donation from her foundation, or about the ones who shed their modesty once they taste money. Having supported bright students all her life, she still feels taken aback when few of them fail to be humble. Mrs Murty's books are always a portrayal of human emotions and this is why readers find it so relatable.

I finished this in a single sitting like how I did with all of her other books. When she speaks in such simple terms, it's hard not to breeze through it. I often think about how wonderful the world will turn out to be if everyone thinks of others as she does. Not only her stories are enjoyable but they leave a lasting impression on those who take her books seriously. We are all human but what makes us better is an ounce of empathy and helpfulness towards others. If I could, I would gift her books to all the children so that they can grow up to be responsible and warm hearted.

Rating - 4.2/5
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30 reviews15 followers
October 6, 2017
Sudha Murty is a lady of wisdom. The book is simple but the life lessons are torchbearer. Keeps you grounded. It’s about the human values and the lessons you learn through different experiences and people you meet along the way. I like the way she handles decision making; uninfluenced by anyone’s opinion, belief and mindset. Yet her deeds are so justified.

I love an anecdote she writes in one of the stories in the book which clearly explains her unorthodox and logical thinking.

“My father used to tell me a story. There was a person who used to perform puja every day and a cat used to trouble him during his puja. So, he told his son, Tie the cat and give it some milk every day when I do puja. The cat never troubled him again. After a few years, both the man and the cat died. The son took over and started performing the puja. Since the cat had died, he brought the neighbour’s cat, tied it and poured milk for the cat every day during puja time. The son had never understood why his father had asked him to give milk to the cat everyday. It had become a meaningless ritual.”
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1,154 reviews116 followers
April 9, 2024
One of those books you feel warm to have read. The stories are not all of good things happening that taught life lessons, but sometimes of mistakes the speaker has made as well.
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204 reviews33 followers
February 7, 2017
Sudha Murty is one of the few authors whose writing style, purity of thoughts and simplicity make you fall in love with the stories, the characters and reading itself! I have a read a few of her works before, books of short stories, "Gently Falls The Bakula"(remaining one of my favorite books till date and also an apt representation of Feminism for me) and reading her again just makes me wonder and beat myself for not having read more of her. As I complete these fantastic set of stories, I make a mental note and commitment to read more from her this year. Highly recommended.
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5 reviews13 followers
May 19, 2024
When I bought this book, I didn't think I would enjoy it so much! Mrs. Murthy says it like it is. No frills, no fancy words. Real stories are something else altogether; in a way they are better than fiction. I enjoyed every story, as simple as it was. Life's important lessons as written by Mrs. Murthy. Her penmanship conveys her own simple personality.
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217 reviews49 followers
February 3, 2024
This was my re-read.
Collection of short stories based on real stories encountered by author. Since I respect sudha murthy for her philanthropy works, I liked this book.
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Rating: 5 out of 5 stars

Genre: Nonfiction

Age Recommended: 11 and up

One woman. Twenty-three people. Twenty-three stories.

"The Day I Stopped Drinking Milk" is a book full of heartwarming experiences of the author, Sudha Murty, written as she walks the roads of rural and urban India and aspires to become the voice that many never had. She confronts the issues of child marriage and gender inequality in the workplace through eloquently written tales. She weaves the everyday life of men and women in India into short stories and each story has a unique takeaway that you'll never forget.

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My favorite one: The three ponds- Bhagavathi

There is an empty pond in a village. The people are very thirsty. The pond will never have water unless a daughter-in-law goes into the water and prays to the goddess. There is a wealthy man who has three sons but no daughters. His youngest son is off to fight in the war.

The people of the village come to him and ask that he let his youngest daughter-in-law walk into the pond so that they may have water. The wealthy man is very angry at this proposal and refuses immediately.

None of the people notice the daughter-in-law, Bhagavathi, listening to their every word. Who will save her from making the ultimate sacrifice to save her village?
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154 reviews8 followers
May 8, 2013
Although this book tries to inspire good in people, but somehow this book did not connect with me. I found the author's view highly biased and some of the stories could have been taken in a completely different way if the prospective is changed. For eg, she tells an instance in which she refused to give medicines to a lady who according to her wore diamond ear rings and came in a car. For all she could know, those ear rings could have been fake and the car may not necessarily belonged to the lady. There are lot of middle class families, who have the infrastructure from their earlier generations, but does not have the means to meet the high demands of today. The classification of who is needy and who is not can never be objective and based on a set of attributes, which unfortunately is repeatedly done as per the stories.

All this is my personal view, If you like a fairy tale beginnings and endings go ahead and read this book, but if you are a realist, you might be disappointed with this book
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193 reviews23 followers
April 15, 2020
This is a collection of short stories about real life incidences from the author's life. The way in which they are articulated and narrated is simply amazing.
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The author throws light on Relationships, human emotions, money and so much more. She subtly puts forth her own point of views adding the personal touch to each story.
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Reading about her journey and experiences has always been wonderful. This is again one such book which will make you realise the trivialities of life and the importance of cherishing it.
Recommended for all those who love reading about People and their experiences. Easy language makes it a great pick for beginners!
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1 review1 follower
January 29, 2013
Two star rating does't mean that I hated the book and one should not read it.. No book is bad when you look at it like I do. The stars mean - It's OK.
A light and easy read for a lazy afternoon. Won't take up much of your precious time. Hence, read it once.
Little kids to old men will enjoy these small and random stories equally.
The writer shares some of her rich life-experiences here in a very simple language. Cheers to her for that.
1 review2 followers
April 17, 2013
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This is the first book of Mrs. Murthy I have read. I dint expect it to be like a story book written for the kindergarten. It has got easy language, no complicated vocabulary. I am not going to read any other book of hers ever again. But for my kids I would recommend it certainly.
I still don't understand why she stopped drinking milk.
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5 reviews
February 7, 2013
The best part about Sudha Murthy books are that they are written in simple words. It feels like the author is conversing with you. The emotions are very apparent and you can empathize with the author. 'The Day I Stopped Drinking Milk' does just that. It is a good tea-time book. The author's experiences are well depicted and of course, it is a good endorsement for Infosys Foundation.
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37 reviews11 followers
October 7, 2012
Its the same thing that one gets when reading Sudha Murty everytime. Not the best from her non fiction, but the real experiences makes us think.For Sudhamurty fans a must read , for others go for her other works like - Wise or otherwise , Old man and his god etc.
30 reviews1 follower
August 30, 2012
I believe this book was ghost written, but nevertheless it had some good lessons. The writing was very effective in a quiet way.
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21 reviews62 followers
May 8, 2013
Nice read. Especially liked the story with the name "Shraddha".
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19 reviews2 followers
August 27, 2013
While the stories are short and simple. It felt like reading a Tinkle without pictures.
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68 reviews5 followers
March 25, 2021
These real life stories of Sudha Murty were amazing and are sure to left an everlasting effect on the readers. They are full of inspiration!
Profile Image for Deepali Jain.
14 reviews
February 21, 2022
This captivating yet straightforward book contains handpicked real episodes, written in the form of stories, of Sudha Murthy's own life, particularly those that left a lasting impression on her. It interweaves multiple moral lessons in its journey.

As I started reading it, I found it quite fascinating as half of the time we don't read storybooks by Indian authors. I felt warmly comforted by the back and forth mention of Indian names, places and a few regional words at scattered places.

As I moved forward, I would be honest in saying that the constant suggestive praise of Sudha Murthy herself in her self-written narratives didn't give me much of a good impression. But I still kept at it.

One superb quality of the book (as is of all Sudha Murthy books) is the simple and comprehensible language. I am an English language skills tutor, and so I recommended a few of my students to read her books since they would be able to grasp the written word and would also be able to notice grammar, vocabulary, etc. and eventually attain good fluency. If you or anyone you know is somewhere between elementary to mid-intermediate level in English, then reading precisely such books can prove to be highly beneficial.

By the time I reached the last of the stories, my perception of our author dramatically changed. I started feeling that she is just a lady who likes to call a spade a spade. She is not distinctively praising herself at junctions, rather just being righteous, benchmarking her own account of right and wrong. Her few remarks and opinions might feel outdated to the newer generations, and a few might come out as updated ones. Still, as you keep traversing from story to story, you will nonetheless end up having a good mocktail of underlying emotions.
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