Research has shown that strong, adaptive, and supportive parents are the best at insulating their children from all but the biggest catastrophes and preventing stress. What Kind of Parent Am I? uses a specially created survey to empower parents to deal directly with their unique challenges and become the best parents they can be.
Parenting is a very complicated task, that requires not only a lot of time and dedication, but also an introspection process in order to settle down problems created by our parents and even grand-parents family environments. Bad and toxic parenthood doesn't have to do with financial and social status, but most probably, is usually more frequent in environment where various addictions and limited financial possibilities are predominant. In What Kind of Parent Am I by Dr. Nicole Letourneau different parenting styles and risks are evaluated through individual questionnaires revealing not only the problem, but leading to at least one possible solution to correct the situation. Some cases rely on the mistakes and failures of our parents. Some of them are just the result of our pressures and adverse social and economic situations. In every single situation, the victim is always the child which doesn't have to pay for it. A quote mentioned in the book is revelatory about the ways in which we have to try to raise our children: 'Let's raise children who won't have to recover from their childhoods'. Strong family and social networks, a permanent contact with educators, psychologists and pediatrician, a positive attitude keen to correct the misgivings of the past. The earlier it starts the more reversible the process is, therefore the proper feedback and support is necessary to eliminate the toxic risks. Written based on the knowledge of the everyday life situations, this book serves as an inspired guidance in the complicated world and relationships of parents and their children. With the main encouragement do not hesitate to ask for support and the right resources for correcting your relationship and attitude. According to the author, parenting is a 'balancing act: it requires you to pull back at times but also to pay close attention to your child'. The most important question in this case is: 'Am I the parent my child needs me to be?'. The answer may differ from a development period to another, but it is always relevant to update the content based on various circumstances and the specific children history. This book offers practical guidance and inspiration to parents worried about the weight of the past into their parenting while offering a serious scientific psychologic background for different choices and decisions regarding the education of children from the very beginning onwards. Disclaimer: Book offered by the publisher in exchange for an honest review
What parent doesn’t ask this question from time to time? Most parenting books give you advice for their type of parenting style but this book gives you quizzes to take to see what types of toxic stress you may be leaching into your parenting first. I know what you’re thinking. I thought the book was being rude at first. I was thinking, “oh great, so I take the quizzes and it confirms I’m the crappy parent I think I am, thanks a lot.” As a reviewer though I have to give a book the benefit of the doubt.
If you have a lot of stressful situations going on in your life you may be saddened by some of your test results BUT the book doesn’t just say “that’s not good for your child” and leave it at that. It delivers the results gently and most importantly, gives suggestions for where to turn to improve things.
The chapters (and topics) are Trauma History, Serve and Return Parenting (give and take), Socio-Economic Risk, Depression, Addictions, Abuse and Violence, Reflective Function (understanding feelings, thoughts and behaviours), Social Support and Co-Parenting and a summary chapter.
I'll admit I'm not a parent yet but I'm always interested to read parental books. Now reading this book makes me question what type of parent will I be? This book was a good and recommend read.