Connect Instantly: 60 Seconds to Likability, Meaningful Connections, and Hitting It Off With Anyone

by Patrick King

Create a bulletproof first impression and turn strangers into lasting relationships. Beat surface level small talk and truly connect. You’ve seen them –people who have the ability to walk into a room of strangers, instantly befriend everyone, and leave with 20 new contacts in their phone. What makes people open up, engage, and connect with them? They’ve mastered the first 60 seconds of any interaction. Learn the subtle signs people actually pay attention to. Connect Instantly is about breaking though the ice with anyone and setting the stage for friendships and relationships where there doesn’t appear to be anything in common. The first 60 seconds makes or breaks you and is the inspection you must always pass. You’ll learn what people are really judging and evaluating you on when you first meet them, and what makes them feel comfortable in the way they do with old friends. Network your way anywhere, anytime. This book is filled with examples, exact phrases to use, and illustrative exercises. It focuses on what to actually do when you find yourself meeting new people, what to say, and how to react and respond to them. The author of Connect Instantly, Patrick King, is a highly sought-after social skills coach, internationally bestselling author, and has been featured in GQ, Forbes, Men’s Fitness, and Huffington advice from a practitioner and coach and former social recluse. Learn to escape idle chit-chat and hit it off with anyone. • Three mindsets to get deep and personal quickly. • How to connect by speaking people’s specific language. • How to be positive without being cheesy or fake. • Why making someone an “expert” makes them love you. We live in a world of snap judgments – take advantage of it. • Foolproof ways to find similarities and common interests. • Cues to analyze and read people accurately. • How to appear genuine right off the bat. Rarely do we get second chances in life. People don’t have the time or interest to give you second chances. They’ll move on without giving you the benefit of the doubt. Mastering your first impressions will open your world up. Old friends will want to see you more, and you will generate new friends everywhere you go. You'll be first in line for every business opportunity because people will assume the best of you. You'll always be attractive to the opposite sex because of that impression. Relationships are key to happiness and life fulfillment, and you are making sure you have as many as you wish. Take advantage of all of your opportunities by clicking the BUY NOW button at the top of this page.

Genres: Nonfiction, Self Help, Psychology, Relationships, Personal Development

168 pages, Kindle Edition

First published April 27, 2015

About the author

Patrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist, in other words, a dating, online dating, image, and communication and social skills coach based in San Francisco, California, and has been featured on numerous national publications such as Inc.com. He’s also a #1 Amazon best-selling dating and relationships author with the most popular online dating book on the market, and writes frequently on dating, love, sex, and relationships.

He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk, perfected and honed through three years of law school.

Reviews

[Lesa · Rating 3 out of 5]

I think I would like this book more if the advice didn’t feel as “manipulative “
I was listening to the audiobook in case some of my students who are on the autism spectrum needed tips…it would be good to have a few recommendations for audiobooks or podcasts for them.

There were some decent tips, but some unclear advice ( “don’t cross the line” — well, how will they know?)

[Rick Yvanovich · Rating 4 out of 5]

It's funny sometimes when you pick up a book on impulse and then find it resonating so well. I found my head nodding away as multiple points echoed what was covered in 3 training courses I'd attended and / or delivered in the recent past - motivation, delegation, communication each of which had covered elements of rapport which is what this book is mostly about.
In short, this was a good read

[Wes Martin · Rating 1 out of 5]

According to Amazon, Patrick has published 18 books in the last 12 months. I think when you're churning out books at that pace, especially when you're as young as Patrick is, your books naturally are going to be extremely shallow - "Connect Instantly" was no exception. Overall, the advice of the book seems geared towards in-the-moment interactions, but offers little in terms of the self-awareness, humility and character necessary to create and sustain meaningful relationships.

In short, if you have absolutely zero social skills, this book may give you a slight boost in making a decent impression on others, with 99% of that value coming solely from chapter 9. However, if you have a genuine desire to improve in your ability to relate to and connect with others - specifically in the age of "connection economy", this just isn't your book. Honestly, you'd be better off just watching an episode of "The Tonight Show with Jimmy Fallon" and emulating Jimmy's techniques for creating authentic relational equity.

[Crystal · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good tips, could be reduced even more

I am thinking that this material was created for a quick video, post, or worksheet turned into a book. It has terrific tips, but mostly spread out between long explanations. Condense most of the material into a few graphics, and you get the gist.

[Kevin S. Frye · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great read for self-improvement.

Anyone wanting to engage better, communicate more effectively and be more genuine should read this - more than once. Love the attitude and language used here. Thanks Patrick! I look forward to the next one.

[Becky's reads · Rating 4 out of 5]

It was one of the shorter books but still educative.

[Bryce Larsen · Rating 4 out of 5]

Quick, enjoyable read. Great insights on connecting with others.

[Danial · Rating 5 out of 5]

Patrick is a social scientist. His insight expands your knowledge, which in turn reduces your self limiting belief and makes you look at things differently. Thanks Patrick!

[Brian Smith · Rating 3 out of 5]

Quick read with some interesting ideas for starting conversations with patients, and more generally good to reflect on how I come across and what questions I ask

[Freeread · Rating 4 out of 5]

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[Gabby · Rating 3 out of 5]

Meh

[Steph Ferguson · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a great book for someone looking to make friends. It contains lots of helpful tips on how to be more likeable, meaningful and connected with the people around you. I usually don't have problems myself with making friends. But I am guilty of doing some of the things that this book talks about. Like the book says if we were all honest with ourselves we do judge a person in the first 60 seconds of them entering into a room whether we mean to or not it just happens. And the goal of this book is to help you make the best of that 60 seconds, because unfortunately we don't always get a second chance. So I suggest taking a look and reading this book by Patrick King and maybe it will give you a better idea of what you can do to help yourself be better judged.

[Jeff Selles · Rating 3 out of 5]

Sorry, author did not connect instantly with me.

I started out reading and liking the author's style. I even highlighted some points. However, I feel he went over and over and over the same points like a gabby nuisance. I observed that it wasn't until exactly 20% of the book passed before the first technique was presented to improve likability (that's location 290). I didn't continue reading.