Family Jewels: A Guide to Male Genital Play and Torment

by Hardy Haberman

CBT is a BDSM activity that either makes men cringe with fear or lights up their faces with delight. This book is a 'guide' to this form of play with excellent info about the following topics: basic male anatomy, negotiation and safewords, play benefits and risks involved, safe sex play and cleaning CBT toys, and also descriptions of various CBT toys. This book is very entertaining and informative.

Genres: BDSM, Sexuality, Nonfiction, Reference

140 pages, Paperback

First published May 31, 2001

Reviews

[Emma Sea · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was a great book.¹ Excellent flow, really readable, packed full of information. Haberman has a hugely enjoyable writing style; very conversational, yet confidence-instilling. And I got such a sense of caring and genuine enthusiasm from his words.

There's an anatomy primer, terms glossary, safety guidelines, risks and symptoms of injury etc, rundown on types of play (compression, impact etc), and a discussion of lots of different toys and how they might be used.

But my favorite bit was the 'recipes' pp. 63-120. This is pure genius. Here Haberman writes rather delicious story-type scenarios, which show how genital play might be performed with different pieces of equipment, in a safe manner, paying attention to the needs of the bottom, incorporating all the safety tips etc which Haberman has previously introduced.



or how about how to review safewords immediately before play, in a very sexy way;



All of Haberman's recipes are delicious, and many require no specialist equipment at all; other than the willing cock and balls, dammit. Now if only I could get my hands on a set of those . . .


¹Please note, I'm not involved in any way in BDSM, so this is a review of the book from an interested outsider's pov. I cannot comment about the accuracy of the information in it, and I have no way of putting any of this into practice, so I can't speak to its use as a teaching tool (which I'm quite disappointed about. Genital torture seems like such fun after reading this. Especially the cowboy scenario with the velcro pp. 84-90).

[Danny Tyran · Rating 5 out of 5]

I enjoyed this "How-to" book. It contains everything that is necessary to understand what to do and avoid: basics of BDSM plays (safeword, discussion on limits), anatomy of male genitalia, health and safety tips, ingredients (toys) and methodology. And the recipes (CBT scenes) demonstrate that we can have fun torturing the genitals of another man or having his own tortured.

The POV is unusual: second person. “You like the thought... Your boy likes it too...” This is the teacher explaining his students what to do.

Speaking of CBT scenes, even though I loved the scene with the two boys back to back, I’m not sure that shoe polish on whipped skin is good for it. It’s not made of animal grease anymore (at least, not only). It’s usually made from a mix of natural and synthetic materials, including naphtha, turpentine, dyes, and gum Arabic, using straightforward chemical engineering processes. Shoe polish is usually flammable, can be toxic, and, if misused, can stain skin. Naphtha and turpentine on chafed skin? Hum! And it wouldn’t be a good idea to smoke above shoe-polished balls then. If the desired effect was just to color the balls in blue, he could have used natural coloring for food. But maybe shoe polish is less painful than real blue balls.



I looked for Betadine on Internet, to know if it exists without that yellowish color. Nope! There is iodine in it. That’s what gives it that color. Looking for that, I discovered that you can get Betadine soaps, shampoos, sprays, in very small bottles (4 fl oz) and in almost big enough to bath you in (1 gallon). lolll I only knew the domestic little bottles. But there is another as effective disinfectant that is colorless: chlorhexidine-alcohol. The producers of Betadine call it Betasept. You can find it at the same places than Betadine. No, I’m not a seller for that company. That’s just for your information.

This book doesn’t include electroplay though. I was a little disappointed by this but the author gives a reference for another book ( Juice: Electricity for Pleasure and Pain) that could provide the information needed.

If the author is as meticulous and caring as his examples of scenes show, I wouldn’t hesitate to entrust him with my genitals. ;)

Obviously, this is not a novel, but it reads quite well. Even a novice could read and understand it. I had an old copy of this book. I don’t know whether the latest edition have fewer typos, but there were many in my version. So I remove half a star for that and the fact that there is no mouth-watering picture of the "meals" (photos of the results). But I didn’t find anything else wrong with this book and I enjoyed it, so I round it up to 5 stars.

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[Selvaggina, · Rating 5 out of 5]

Before this, I avoided any kind of genital play. Now I'm way excited.

[Bat Boy · Rating 5 out of 5]

I cannot tell you.

[Matt]

Um... I don't remember deciding to read this.

[Gemma]

I've not had occasion to put any of this into practice, but it seems like a sensibly-written book. Not fantasy material, but practical advice and good sense suggestions.