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Happily Ever After Again: Hope, Healing & Love For Second Marriages
Are you struggling with your marriage? This powerful book from author and relationship coach, Sharilee Swaity, is a comprehensive resource for helping couples still struggling with baggage from their first relationship to heal and move forward. Written primarily for couples in the first years of their second marriage, this book would also be suitable for those considering marriage to understand the pitfalls and issues to come. The book helps the reader answer questions such as "How do you know you still need healing?", "How do you forgive?" and "How do we stop patterns of previous relationships from happening again?"Written for both men and women, certified relationship coach, Sharilee Swaity, offers hope to the hopeless when it comes to marriage. Throughout the book, she shares her own rocky journey from divorce to marriage to almost divorcing again, Swaity understands all of the struggles, but offers hope and strategies for getting through the hurdles and rekindling your marriage.The second half of the book focuses on making the current marriage strong. Based on studies and research, the author takes the reader on a journey toward a more intimate marriage based on the three keys to a strong friendship, connection and passion. Learn why being both friends and lovers is the key to a successful connection and gain some powerful tools for building a connection even when you may feel like strangers. Determine how personality affects your marriage and how to live with someone even if they seem like your opposite! Finally, learn some practical strategies for improving your blended family.
Practical as well as insightful, every chapter ends with 1-2 thought-provoking questions designed to put the chapter's ideas into practical action.
Sharilee's book is a breath of fresh air and a source of hope and a future. No remarried husband, wife or stepchild can afford to miss reading this book.-- Alex Cross, Retired Pastor, Wayside Gospel Chapel This book was previously published under the name, Second An Insider's Guide to Hope, Healing & Love.
Practical as well as insightful, every chapter ends with 1-2 thought-provoking questions designed to put the chapter's ideas into practical action.
Sharilee's book is a breath of fresh air and a source of hope and a future. No remarried husband, wife or stepchild can afford to miss reading this book.-- Alex Cross, Retired Pastor, Wayside Gospel Chapel This book was previously published under the name, Second An Insider's Guide to Hope, Healing & Love.
220 pages, Kindle Edition
Published April 28, 2017
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August 15, 2017
I read this book via an Amazon-US KINDLE unlimited download.
As a romance author who is also a voracious book reviewer, I read a wide variety of genres for all ages; so, naturally my favorite genre to review is romance. Romance has a multitude of subgenres, and of these, second chance romances is one of my favorites.
In reading a second chance romance the characters involved have gone through a traumatic experience such as a horrendous separation or even worse a divorce, which causes them to carry a lot of baggage around afterwards. When they finally do find someone they’re fearful about history repeating itself, and it doesn’t if it’s the guy or the woman, they both shared the same apprehensions about falling in love again; although the woman feels it more. They must overcome their trepidations if they’re ever going to have the HEA they desire.
In this book, the author, Sharilee Swaity, doesn’t deal with a fictional romance; she deals with real life situations and real people. And in doing this the author analyses the reasons from why married couples have disagreements in their relationships to why their marriages fall apart.
To accomplish this the author includes real life stories and studies in addition to her own personal second marriage experiences which also includes her husband’s. I loved reading the honest advice she gives to have a second marriage not have the pitfalls the marriage might have had. There is a definite need to in knowing how to overcome conflict before it gets out of control, and to resolve any disparities which might exist between either half of a marriage to the other.
Perhaps there’s some truth in Frank Sinatra’s song “The Second Time Around”:
Love is lovelier the second time around
Just as wonderful with both feet on the ground
It's that second time you hear your love song sung
Makes you think perhaps that love, like youth, is wasted on the young
Love's more comfortable the second time you fall
Like a friendly home the second time you call
Who can say what brought us to this miracle we've found?
There are those who'll bet love comes but once, and yet
I'm oh, so glad we met the second time around
Who can say what brought us to this miracle we've found?
There are those who'll bet love comes but once, and yet
I'm oh, so glad we met the second time around
For having given her readers palatable information for the possibility of a second marriage being successful, in an empathetic manner, how can I not give Ms. Swaity the 5 STARS she deserves.
As a romance author who is also a voracious book reviewer, I read a wide variety of genres for all ages; so, naturally my favorite genre to review is romance. Romance has a multitude of subgenres, and of these, second chance romances is one of my favorites.
In reading a second chance romance the characters involved have gone through a traumatic experience such as a horrendous separation or even worse a divorce, which causes them to carry a lot of baggage around afterwards. When they finally do find someone they’re fearful about history repeating itself, and it doesn’t if it’s the guy or the woman, they both shared the same apprehensions about falling in love again; although the woman feels it more. They must overcome their trepidations if they’re ever going to have the HEA they desire.
In this book, the author, Sharilee Swaity, doesn’t deal with a fictional romance; she deals with real life situations and real people. And in doing this the author analyses the reasons from why married couples have disagreements in their relationships to why their marriages fall apart.
To accomplish this the author includes real life stories and studies in addition to her own personal second marriage experiences which also includes her husband’s. I loved reading the honest advice she gives to have a second marriage not have the pitfalls the marriage might have had. There is a definite need to in knowing how to overcome conflict before it gets out of control, and to resolve any disparities which might exist between either half of a marriage to the other.
Perhaps there’s some truth in Frank Sinatra’s song “The Second Time Around”:
Love is lovelier the second time around
Just as wonderful with both feet on the ground
It's that second time you hear your love song sung
Makes you think perhaps that love, like youth, is wasted on the young
Love's more comfortable the second time you fall
Like a friendly home the second time you call
Who can say what brought us to this miracle we've found?
There are those who'll bet love comes but once, and yet
I'm oh, so glad we met the second time around
Who can say what brought us to this miracle we've found?
There are those who'll bet love comes but once, and yet
I'm oh, so glad we met the second time around
For having given her readers palatable information for the possibility of a second marriage being successful, in an empathetic manner, how can I not give Ms. Swaity the 5 STARS she deserves.
July 23, 2017
I loved this book on second marriages. As someone who has been married and divorced, this book spoke so much to me. The author examines everything from why our marriages broke down to why we have conflict in our marriages. I appreciated the stories, studies, and life lessons the author included. The book was positive and encouraging. It also gave genuine advice on how to navigate marriage.
She also guides you on how to ensure this second marriage is a success! Some great insights on how to resolve conflict, how to deal with personality differences and parent stepchildren.
She made second marriages sound palatable, possible and even desirable. If you’ve given up on marriage, read this book.
She also guides you on how to ensure this second marriage is a success! Some great insights on how to resolve conflict, how to deal with personality differences and parent stepchildren.
She made second marriages sound palatable, possible and even desirable. If you’ve given up on marriage, read this book.
September 30, 2017
Second marriages are complicated. You may be in love, but there’s all that history with the exes, the blending of past lives, dealing with custody issues and resentful stepchildren, and the fear that this marriage won’t work out either. In this book, Swaity offers advice and exercises to help people in their second marriages deal with the pitfalls. She shares her own experiences, plus those of several other couples, along with her research. What’s here is fine, but I wish she had delved deeper into these issues and made her exercises more challenging. Also, as one of many people who never had children because my husband already had kids and didn’t want to have any more, I wish she had addressed that situation.
April 28, 2019
Very down to earth
My husband and I have been thankfully, very happily married in both of our second marriages for almost 14 years. I enjoyed reading this book, because parts of it were very relatable. I enjoyed the honesty that the author used in writing this book and feel that people can gain a lot of insight from what she has to say.
My husband and I have been thankfully, very happily married in both of our second marriages for almost 14 years. I enjoyed reading this book, because parts of it were very relatable. I enjoyed the honesty that the author used in writing this book and feel that people can gain a lot of insight from what she has to say.
May 14, 2022
A simple book that gives tips, examples, and hope for dealing with challenges for remarried couples.
The author admits that she's not a psychologist or a psychiatrist, but writes about her own experience and personal research.
The author admits that she's not a psychologist or a psychiatrist, but writes about her own experience and personal research.
May 31, 2020
I found this book helpful in the beginning, but it quickly takes an acute turn into dealing with stepfamilies / mixed families, specifically step-parent, step-child, and step-sibling relationships, and that is not something that applies to my situation. So I wish the author and publisher had been more up-front, because I feel like I wasted some time with a book that did not fully apply to me. I kept waiting for the advice to direct back toward the couple (which it does at various points throughout the book), but it's sprinkled with a bit too much of the step-family content to *not* mention that is a main focus out the gate.
In addition, this is decidedly Christian content, so be aware. Would not recommend to readers who'd prefer to have their therapy and their faith kept separate (myself included). Though I'm giving two stars because I appreciate that this book is willing to tackle ground not visited in many books about marriage or divorce or whatever comes after.
In addition, this is decidedly Christian content, so be aware. Would not recommend to readers who'd prefer to have their therapy and their faith kept separate (myself included). Though I'm giving two stars because I appreciate that this book is willing to tackle ground not visited in many books about marriage or divorce or whatever comes after.
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