I'm counting this one as finished, even though I skimmed the homeschooling sections.
If I could design a book that I expected to be exactly my niche, this would be it. Out of the box solutions for a kid while still being in the school system? Check! Complete rejection of the school SYSTEM as a monolithic thing? Check! Complaints about how forking damaging schools often are? Check! Aesthetically pleasing cover? THE ICING ON THE CAKE.
But this book was so extremely disappointing. There are a few chapters that are helpful, mostly around the idea that hey, you don't just have to accept what the school hands you, and then a lot of chapters that aren't, including an ableist rant about how learning disabilities are overdiagnosed (it's an odd take clearly centered around the author's bias against the word "disability" because on one hand, she's like, yeah, these kids have these learning ~dIfFerEncEs~ but they're definitely not disabilities! No, Susan, they are. AND THAT'S OKAY. Like she's so close to being insightful and then just... isn't. Oddly enough everything in that chapter could be equally used to make a case for why "rethinking school" is a good thing to do. It doesn't need the ableism to be a strong argument. But she chooses to take it there. It's weird).
Other suggestions include being sure to teach your kid to read before they start school (because that's developmentally appropriate and in keeping with the arguments elsewhere that kids all. learn differently), using flashcards and academic instruction for preschoolers, "after-schooling" subjects in which your kid is needing additional support or challenge (at the same time she argues against homework), volunteering as a regular helper in the classroom before asking for "accommodations" in assignments from teachers, using the word "accommodations" to mean "flexibility in assignments" when "accommodations" it's an actual legal thing that students with disabilities are entitled to by law and not a special consideration, and so on, and so on...
Her response to homeschooling parents dealing with defiance is at some points "you're responsible, you're the teacher and they're bored" (this seems valid, this is the main critique of the public school system and honestly something every teacher should take to heart) and then in the next breath "IDK, we never deal with defiance, my kids would never, you need therapy." And let me say for the record, therapy is GREAT. Normalize therapy for everybody. But the way it's used in this book feels like the typical weaponized "get counseling" that's thrown around in the same way religious people say "you need prayer/I'll pray for you" and also in a way that is dismissive and ignorant of the fact that not all therapy is created equal, that bad therapy is worse than no therapy, and that maybe the whole conversation is beyond the expertise of the author and outside the needed scope of the book.
I know some people have added this book as a result of me adding it. If you can easily get it from the library for free, like I did, have at it. Skim it. There are some out of the box ideas. Not as many as I was hoping from the title, and too much other garbage to wholly recommend it.
If you're looking for a book along these lines with less wading through nonsense, Heather Shumaker's It's OK to Go Up the Slide is aimed at school agers and deals with questioning the system in a much better way. Peter Gray's Free to Learn is also helpful. I also found a lot of insight into education and parenting in general in The Brave Learner by Julie Bogart, which is aimed at homeschooling families but is applicable to all.
Updating because I finally found a resource that captured what I wanted from this book — RaisingReaders on Instagram is a PHENOMENAL resource on deschooling even for those who aren’t homeschooling.