Iubeste-te pe tine insuti. Patru pasi spre fericire

by Daphne Rose Kingma

Aceasta carte, publicata la editura For you, este scrisa de Daphne Rose Kingma, psihoterapeut de peste 25 de ani, conferentiar, conducator de ateliere de terapie si profesor de relatii ca forme spirituale. Poreclita „Doctorul inimilor“ de catre Cronica din San Francisco, este autoarea a 11 carti despre dragoste si relatii, printre care Despartirea, Descopera dragostea adevarata, Viitorul iubirii, Cum sa faci ca relatia ta sa fie mai placuta, mai profunda si mai pasionala si Nunti din inima.. Este invitata in mod frecvent la Oprah Winfrey Show, iar cartile ei au fost traduse in mai mult de zece limbi si s-au vandut in peste un milion de exemplare.

Poti sa-i iubesti pe ceilalti, sa ai grija de ei, sa-i incurajezi, sa-i sprijini, sa-i asculti, sa-i alini, sa glumesti, sa discuti in contradictoriu si sa plangi alaturi de ei - si sper ca asa si faci - dar toate darurile bucuriei, respectului si grijii pe care le oferi celorlalti, le meriti si tu. Ai nevoie de dragostea pe care doar tu poti sa ti-o dai.

Doar atunci cand ne putem oferi noua insine acea dragoste, putem impartasi cu adevarat si mai profund relatii iubitoare cu ceilalti. Cu blandete si profunzime, Iubeste-te pe tine insuti, ne face sa vedem cum ne sabotam pe noi insine. Incepem sa ne iubim daca urmam un proces simplu, in patru etape: rostim dorintele inimilor noastre, actionam pentru a le indeplini, facem curatenie in tiparele vechi si pornim pe o noua cale.

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction

126 pages, Paperback

First published September 1, 1996

Reviews

[Beth · Rating 5 out of 5]

Cheesy as it appears to read such a title, I really liked it. Made me think about who I am and what I really want for myself and in a partner.

[Emma · Rating 5 out of 5]

the cover looks insane and everything about this books sounds cheesy but it's one of the most well written and digestible books on love i have read. tbh i think everyone should read this

[Kami · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a very interesting book about how to open your heart to let room in for love. The four essential keys to discovering love in this book are Faith, Intention, Trust and Surrender. I think the hardest one for me is Surrender. It is hard for me to allow myself to be vulnerable and to let go, but that is the only way to be truly in love is to be open and vulnerable. It is scary. I don't want to be hurt. But I want to be in love. She has a lot of very good advice like understanding that each failed relationship taught me something to become who I am today and because of that they were each a gift and important to finding the true love that I long for.

Things that she mentions are to say "I'm going to surrender to love through some specific action." "Yes, here are all the difficult, scary, and absolutely devastating things that could happen now that I'm feeling so deeply connected. Because I'm feeling such joy, I could feel the most devastating sorrow if I lost this. But in spite of that sad possibility, I'm not going to let go of this love. In fact, I'm going to hold on to it, cherish it, and enjoy it for every minute it lasts." "I promise I'll tell you exactly what I'm feeling, and I am willing to hear exactly what you're feeling as our experience together unfolds."

I don't know if I am quite there yet, but I after reading this book I am closer to being truly ready to truly love someone. I am not going to be afraid. I will enjoy the ride and graciously be thankful for every day and each new experience.

[Luminea · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is an outstanding book, truly the most thorough and helpful book I have ever read about relationships. The author brought up so many eye-opening points and challenged me to look at my life and myself in depth. I feel grateful to have so much more self-awareness now and so many tools that will help me in healing, moving forward, and creating healthy relationships. This affirmed a lot of my beliefs and helped me to see where I am on the right track, as well as giving me new information to contemplate and apply in my life. I look forward to reading it a second time to further absorb these important messages and to work through the exercises in detail. What a fabulous book! I highly recommend it!

[Levi · Rating 3 out of 5]

An interesting take on how to find love with easter philosophical underpinnings. Kingmas offers some insightful tactics on developing a more comprehensive understanding of self as a means for opening to true love.

[Debbie]

I bought this book in 2000 and couldn't get into it. Then I started reading it in 2007 and couldn't put it down.

[Savana Rose · Rating 4 out of 5]

I'm learning it takes alot of work to find my true love!

[Jules · Rating 4 out of 5]

a must read for any fellow jaded folk looking to move to a more balanced state of openness. thought provoking, encouraging read.

[Dianne · Rating 4 out of 5]

I needed to read this book RIGHT NOW.