The High Cost of High Control: How to Deal With Powerful Personalities

by Tim Kimmel

You may not see it happening, but when relationships are reduced to a contest between the powerful and the powerless, no one wins. Manipulation, power plays, and domination destroy the trust and affection we have for each other. But you can escape this losing game by reading and following the rules of healthy relationships. The High Cost of High Control helps you understand the various types and causes of controlling behavior, from passive manipulation to aggressive control. You will learn how to break free from the pain caused by controlling personalities - your own and others' - and develop or restore secure, lasting relationships. Christian parenting, family and relationships expert Dr. Tim Kimmel provides biblically based insights and stories of real people that will help you enjoy authentic relationships uncompromised by the manipulative power of over-control. The only way to win the power game is not to play at all.

Bonus Section: 101 Ways to Identify and Manage a High Controller

Genres: Parenting

237 pages, Kindle Edition

First published August 1, 2005

About the author

Dr. Tim Kimmel is one of America's top advocates speaking for the family. He is the Executive Director of Family Matters, whose goal is to build great relationships by educating, equipping and encouraging families for every age and stage of life. Tim conducts conferences across the country on the unique pressures that confront today's families. His conferences include: Home Improvement: Building a Great Marriage, Basic Training For A Few Good Men, Raising Kids Who Turn Out Right, and Parenting 101. In addition to conducting Family Matters' conferences and keynote speaking, Tim and his wife, Darcy, are speakers for FamilyLife Ministry's Weekend To Remember conference.

Not only is Tim a well-known speaker, he has authored many books including: Little House on the Freeway (featured in the Billy Graham crusades), Gold Medallion Winner Grace Based Parenting, Raising Kids for True Greatness, 50 Ways to Really Love Your Kids, Raising Kids Who Turn Out Right, Why Christian Kids Rebel, The High Cost of High Control, and Basic Training For A Few Good Men. He has also developed several video studies including The Hurried Family, Basic Training For A Few Good Men, Raising Kids Who Turn Out Right, and Grandparenthood: More Than Rocking Chairs.

Tim has been a featured guest on radio and television programs such as Dayside on FOX News channel, Dr. James Dobson's 'Focus on the Family', 'The 700 Club', Moody Broadcasting's 'Midday Connection', and 'Family Life Today.' Tim also hosted his own nationally syndicated talk show for five years called 'Tim Kimmel Live'.

Reviews

[Dan Absalonson · Rating 5 out of 5]

Insightful book on the ways we control others and let others control us. I learned a lot.

[Jessie Filer · Rating 4 out of 5]

Everyone I know should read this book. We are all influenced by controlling tendencies, whether we’re the controller, controlled, or both. The author begins by discussing control, what causes it, and the destructive effects it has on relationships. He moves into the different types of controllers. He talks about the solution to control, which is grace, and gives practical advice for how to handle a high controller if you’re being controlled and how to deal with your own controlling tendencies.

[Breanna Chanson · Rating 5 out of 5]

Tim Kimmel's other book, "Graced Based Parenting" helped me learn about the kind of parent I want to be. So I followed it up with this one to learn about the number one thing that would prevent me from being that. I highly recommend both.