Why Men Don't Have a Clue and Women Always Need More Shoes

by Allan Pease

Do you know the top seven things men do that drive women nuts? Or the real reason women cry more than men do? What are men really looking for in a woman - both at first sight and for the long-term? These are only the starting points for Barbara and Allan Pease as they discuss the very real - and often very funny - differences between the sexes.
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Genres: Nonfiction, Psychology, Self Help, Relationships, Love, Inspirational, Personal Development

333 pages, Hardcover

First published January 1, 2002

About the author

Allan Pease is an Australian author and motivational speaker. Despite having no education in psychology, neuroscience, or psychiatry, he has managed to establish himself as an "expert on relationships".

Originally a musician, he became a successful life insurance salesman, he started a career as a speaker and trainer in sales and latterly in body language. This resulted in a popular sideline of audio tapes, many of which feature his irreverent wit.

His best-selling book Body Language brought him international recognition. It has been followed by several others. He is quite well known in Australia and during the 1980s he was an occasional TV analyst for political debates where he would analyze the body language and overall performance of the contestants.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Allan_Pease

Reviews

[Donna · Rating 1 out of 5]

My boss likes to bring me these horrific examples of gender discrimination to raise my blood pressure. Unsurprisingly, it works! Crap-ass piece of hooey.

Women are from earth. Men are from earth. Deal with it.

[Ali · Rating 2 out of 5]

There's still plenty of room out there for more decent gender relationships books with useful advice and not afraid to tell things like they are. This unfortunately was not one of them.

The book starts out promising enough. This discussion about nagging was genuinely interesting. I also liked the discussion of differing gender 'point scoring systems', even though I've heard it a few times in other places. The suggestion of each person scoring actions in their relationships for a set period of time then comparing notes also seemed like a decent idea.

There were also many moments of unintended amusement because the book was clearly a product of the late 90s/early 00s. It seemed like there was some joke about the Clinton-Lewinsky Scandal every 2 pages. Even better, I could just imagine so many of the people I know getting absolutely infuriated at all the non-politically correct ideas and language. "How dare they talk about gender as if its a fixed, binary concept?", "These suggestions of men and women viewing the world in different ways are soooooooooooo ignorant", "Women are more emotional? Triggered!", ect.

What I didn't like was the entire last half of the book. They literally had a quiz giving points to how attractive women are (with questions like how much skin they show or how often they wear heels), and then had that tell them if they are good at getting men, or 'just one of the boys'. That was genuinely stupid, and as a man, also incorrect. Then man quiz was similarly useless. I found the talk about retirement a little better, but pretty useless for myself because (1) I'm young (2) I don't base my identity off my job.

Also, a lot of the 'gender advice' they gave was very culturally specific. The biggest example of this was a strangely long and detailed section about why men prefer peeing standing up, which is something that doesn't apply to much of the world where men don't pee standing up. Which shows its not a gender based concept. The entire section about lying was similar.

All in all I was so turned off by the women attraction rating scale thing it lost 2 stars from 3 to 1. The Clinton jokes brought it up to 2. Much of this book is no longer true beyond a specific American culture from 15 years ago, but it does have a few ideas worth thinking about.

[Erikka · Rating 3 out of 5]

At first, this book seems like a bunch of stereotypical gender stuff. But if you actually read it thoroughly, you will find that it is quite well-researched and delves into actual science-founded differences in how the sexes communicate. My husband and I don't have any major communication issues, but we still found it very thought-provoking and it inspired several conversations. We did skip a couple chapters, namely the sports chapter (neither of us are sports fans), the one about his mother (we skimmed it because his mom is pretty cool), and the retirement chapter (again, skimmed it because we're in our early 30s--we have time to think about the emotional toll of retirement later). We enjoyed the chapter about the scoring system most because we both realized what each person considers to be an important contribution to the relationship and how disparate those things are.

I was a bit annoyed by the "if you want to fix it, fix it" attitude towards plastic surgery on 215 (I think women should be encouraged to embrace their age rather than hide from it) and the lying chapter (p 250) which used the defense from the movie "Liar Liar": it's ok to be blunt and hurtful like a dillhole because I'm "just being honest." Was your opinion solicited? If not, you aren't being honest. You're being an ass. Otherwise, some of the information seemed a bit outdated (the book is 10 yrs old) and some of the wording was "sexist with good intent" (it read as sexist but you could easily tell it was simply poor word choice and not intentional).

Most couples could benefit from this book, especially if it's read with your relationship in mind.

[Aneth Davidd · Rating 5 out of 5]

The book is a practical guide on how to overcome gender differences between males and females, especially in relationships (romantic, family, marriage, etc). I enjoyed reading this book, it is written in an easy to read and follow format. Sections were divided into lessons categories that I could easily relate to.

[هاجر · Rating 3 out of 5]

I learned a lot from this book. Some points made sense to me. Others, with all due respect are complete BS (sorry not sorry).

I hate that they use a ranking system and give numbers to how "attractive" men and women are.

They also hint at getting plastic surgery or "fixing something about yourself if you don't like it". Which personally I'm against but that's just me.

It's true, that looks are important as well as personality but they didn't emphasize the personality aspect enough in my opinion.

Some parts almost seemed racist as well, where they implied that women with blonde hair and blue eyes are deemed to be most attractive because they look "child-like" or whatever... Yeah, no that's just obviously the authors type. God didn't create Asian women and African women and women from all other parts of the world to come second to the Western woman (stereotypically speaking) that was the most annoying part for me.

[Caitlin · Rating 5 out of 5]

I loved this book, very interesting. I read it as part of the required course materials for my Psychology of Gender class. We focused mostly on issues from the evolutionary standpoint. Interesting to think about how men and women are the way they are because we have evolved this way and are now described in this novel.
I also loved the humor throughout the book.
Only negative comment would be that some of the solutions offered by the authors for the relationship issues seemed highly unlikely (to me) to be effective. Other than that, great read, especially for class.

[Murs · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very good to read, very true and just very interessting. made me alot of laugh as well.

[Chelsey · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book really helped me understand why men and women are so differently. Its a great book to read if you are into Psychology and understanding why the brain thinks a certain way.

[Michelle · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is an easy to read, somewhat simplistic, intro into the world of sex differences. There are two camps on this issue: camp one thinks males and females are the same, only nurture causes the differentiation of behaviors. Camp two, the one backed by science and logic, is that males and females are different on a biological level, are born different,and stay different. Different is good. Different doesn't mean one is better than the other.

My main issue with this book,and many other books like it, is the attempt to say that "all women are bad at X", "all men are bad at X". As men and women are different from each other, that is also how different men are from men and women from women.

[Ms. Reader · Rating 4 out of 5]

This amusing and straight-to-the-point book was entertaining to read and interesting to learn from. Though several "facts" felt out of date and slightly bias, and a good chunk of the details are obvious and common sense to the average person, but the book mostly remained on point and covered some good grounds on the differences between men and women, why we clash and why we are also so compatible. It's a good read for couples who need a little help in the conflict department, and need a better understanding why their partner is the way he/she is.

[Randolph Breschini · Rating 4 out of 5]

Woah...MUST reading for everyone...Definitely learned about my past and what was going on...and it was MOSTLY WRONG...Bahahaha!

[Candleflame23 · Rating 4 out of 5]

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It is all about the relationship between men and women, by giving some answers on some of the issues that have confused both men and women in order to have a steeple relationship ,
I highly recommend it


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يتحدث عن كل ما يمكن أن يعكر صفو علاقة الزوجين
ببعضهم البعض من خلال طرح أهم مايدور في ذهن
النساء من أسئلة تجاه الرجال والعكس صحيح وعلى
ما يبدو لي أن جل مشاكل الطرفين يكمن في عدم
إصغاء أحدهم للأخر.

استمتعت بالقراءة خاصة وإنه مكتوب بحس عالي من
الكوميديا .


#تمت_القراءة
#أبجدية_فرح 4/5

[Dale · Rating 3 out of 5]

Starts out strong, ends up tiresome (a review of the audiobook)

Read by one of the authors, Allan Pease
3 discs
3 hours

Why Men Don't Have a Clue and Women Always Need More Shoes starts out with a bang, delving into a lot of the differences that drive men and women crazy. These are mostly humorous and mostly full of good advice. But, we never do find out about women and shoes, nor do we find the answers to some of the questions posed in the opening section, such as, "Why don't women initiate sex more often?"

There is interesting commentary on the reactions of men and women to retirement, why men switch the channels so often and the comments on men's behaviors in public restrooms is dead on accurate. However, I felt cheated that so much of the book (about 1/3 by my estimate as a listener) is about the physical characteristics that of the opposite sex that interest men and women. I felt that this was not germaine to the topic at hand and really offered no new insights - is anyone really surprised that men like breasts, long legs, sensous mouths and long, full hair? No. I didn't think so...

Read more at: http://dwdsreviews.blogspot.com/2010/...

[James · Rating 1 out of 5]

On first impression, it's a book of insights into relationships. At closer examination, it's a very simplistic, ignorant, overly superficial analysis of men and women, with the only explanation for gender-specific behaviour offered being what we used to do when we were monkeys and neanderthals - in other words, it can't be helped. There is almost no reference to society's conditioning or the real psychological processes that govern the development and maintenance of individual behaviour. It's undeniable that the male and female brain are different, but the book concentrates more on getting laughs rather than anything properly scientific or psychological. I must admit that I did guffaw a few times but there is much more to gender differences than a few hormones and genetics.

[Donna Girouard · Rating 3 out of 5]

There's a great deal of useful information in this book, but you will have to overlook the stereotyping, some of which is hasty generalization. For example, the ability to read maps is not dependent on gender (this statement is being made by a woman who can, in fact, read a map). Also, the section on farting, though humorous, is also inaccurate. Perhaps, during the more prudish 1950s or so, more women were offended by their husbands' farting, but I don't see this today. In fact, in my marriage, it is my husband, not I, who is shy about it (and other bodily functions).

Anyway, there's enough good information in here to make this book a worthwhile read. I especially like the chapter on the "points system."

[Noha Sherif · Rating 4 out of 5]

I saw my self in between these lines especially " The parent has conditioned the child to automatically respond the way they do. The child has been taught it’s not necessary to respond after the first request and that your standard is for you to remind, persuade or demand several times before you expect them to comply. The child has trained you to keep repeating your demands and they think you don’t really want them to act." I really keep saying to my children .. why I have to repeat myself 1000 times

[Liz · Rating 3 out of 5]

I read this for brain candy, and I'd say it's definitely a light, enjoyable read. However, it does also have its bits of insight about the opposite sex. I think what you get out of this book depends on how seriously you choose to take the claims which are made in it. Also, it gives some information which is not relevant to a 21 year old, such as how people deal with retirement. Entertaning and fun overall.

[Shirin Abdel Rahman · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is not A DATING BOOK!
this books is to help women to understand men and vice verse.
In case you are a woman then in this books you will find an answers to a lot of questions like:
1-Do really men care about sex only?
2-Are monogamy and commitment a nightmare to men?
3-Why men are scared of marriage?
and a lot of other question,i would recommend this books to any single girl or any girl who want to understand men!

[Aasim Waheed · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very interesting book about how and (sometimes) why men and women differ. A good amount of humor keeps the book an easy read. I enjoyed specially the last chapter on retirement because I had never looked at retirement from that point of view. I'd recommend this book to all, specially busy professionals who generally dont get time time think about a lot of the little but important issues touched directly or indirectly in this book.

[Russianwitch · Rating 4 out of 5]

It's been a while since I've read this book but what I remember from reading it is a sense of enjoyment.
I don't like self help books on the whole. But this isn't a self help book despite being able to function as one.
The language is clear and the authors are funny enough that reading what could have been rather dry subject matter becomes entertainment.

[Eleftheria · Rating 5 out of 5]

Πολύ ευχάριστο στην ανάγνωση αλλά κυρίως μου έδειξε και μου έμαθες "τα κινέζικα" που μιλάει και καταλαβαίνει ο άντρας μου. Σίγουρα είναι από τις γνώσεις σταθμό στη σχέση και στη ζωή μας!

Το συνιστώ ανεπιφύλακτα σε όλους όσους συναναστρέφονται ανθρώπους και ακόμη περισσότερος σ' αυτούς που έχουν ή αναζητούν μία συντροφική σχέση με διάρκεια!

[Dirk Lapere · Rating 4 out of 5]

I like all their books. Easy to read, they get the poits across. Maybe not all points are totally correct, but overall the book makes you aware of the fundamental differences that exist between the sexes. These books should be compulsory reading for future brides and grooms (particularly grooms who tend to be more oblivious to this).

[Ray · Rating 3 out of 5]

Some humerous truths were covered while discussing the "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" differences between men and women. It reminded me of an old one-man Broadway show called "Return of the Caveman".

[Alvi Harahap · Rating 4 out of 5]

Why Men Don't Have a Clue and Women Always Need More Shoes starts out with a bang, delving into a lot of the differences that drive men and women crazy. These are mostly humorous and mostly full of good advice. So, just read it guys:)

[Noor · Rating 4 out of 5]

One of the truely good books about human relations and the art of communicating and understanding the other.
I specially liked the chapter about retirement, found it really inlightening!

I certainely recommend!

[Maria Elmvang · Rating 2 out of 5]

Not as good as their first book. Some of the information was spot on, other bits really, really, really far off... but then I guess it doesn't help that I severely lack the shoe-desire gene ;)

I liked the real-life examples to show what their theories looked like in practise, but thought there were too few of them.

All in all a fairly easily read book - more accessible than Men Are from Mars... but once you've read either that or Alan and Barbara's other book, there's no real reason to read this one as well.

[Kecia · Rating 2 out of 5]

Imagine every pop psychology magazine article you've ever read...and you'll get the gist of this book. It's jam packed with stuff but nothing new or enlightening. No depth at all.

I was offended by the way the portray men in this book too...as couch surfing, farting, liars. I'm sure there are men out there like that but the men in my social circle have evolved from or hunter gatherer ancesters...if only by a little.

[Jessica · Rating 1 out of 5]

Ugh, no. Just no. Perpetuates and deepens dreadful stereotypes and repeats long dismissed “wisdom.” Examples: “housewives should be thanked and appreciated for the small things they do each day to keep them from becoming nags.” “Men should be given 30 minutes of fire-gazing time when they come home tired from work.” What the what? Who TALKS like that anymore? Yes, the book is dated, but it’s also OUT OF DATE and just wrong for men and women to act and treat each other as equals.

[Rashad Raoufi]

its just tad bit cliched regarding gender roles and preferences etc, indeed some might even accuse it of being streotypical and even offensive at certain points. but it can be useful as it at least attempts to give some understanding of the differences in genders and social interaction. its a humours,easy and enjoybale read most of the time.

[Dilla · Rating 4 out of 5]

Buku ini menerangkan tentang perangai lelaki dan wanita. Mengapa sukar lelaki nak memahami wanita dan sebaliknya. Contoh-contoh yang diberi lebih berkisar dari kaca mata Barat tetapi kita boleh kaitkan dengan adab Timur. Selepas aku baca, barulah faham beberapa perkara. Kejap-kejap lepas baca, "Oh, macam tu sebenarnya." Hehe.