Finding Peace: A Workbook on Healing from Loss, Rejection, Neglect, Abandonment, Betrayal, and Abuse

by Troy L. Love

Human beings are wired for connection - physically, emotionally, neurologically, and spiritually. When something happens to damage our most important relationships, there can be lifelong consequences. Finding Peace is the fusion of a fictional storyline and a workbook that describes the Core of Peace, a model of healing from the wounds of loss, rejection, abandonment, betrayal, neglect, and abuse. This book is for anyone serious about healing these attachment wounds, ready to become honest about changing their life, and willing to be vulnerable. The book explores the lives of 8 different characters who meet together for eight weeks to explore the underlying reasons why they battle depression, anxiety, depression, body image issues, and relationship challenges. The reader accompanies them in their journey to uncover the truths about who they are and how they can find lasting peace and joy from within. They discover how the shadows of shame hijack their lives. They learn about a powerful meditation that can heal deeply. They learn about challenging the negative messages that seem to be tattooed on their hearts. They explore how connection can provide courage and healing and ultimately find lasting peace.

266 pages, Paperback

Published May 31, 2017

About the author

The self-love torchbearer with a knack for spiritual growth is a psychotherapist, educator, consultant, and keynote speaker dedicated to helping individuals and organizations cultivate greater peace, joy, and authentic connection. Troy is the founder of Finding Peace Consulting, an organization dedicated to helping individuals and professionals heal the wounds that hinder living purposefully, love, and belonging.

A three-time Amazon best-selling author and TEDx speaker, Troy’s work integrates timeless spiritual principles with modern neuroscience to illuminate the path from shame and disconnection toward compassion and wholeness. His Finding Peace Workbook, now in its second edition, has become a trusted resource for clinicians and individuals seeking practical tools to heal attachment wounds and transform negative core beliefs.

He earned his Master’s Degree in Social Work from the University of Pittsburgh and currently serves as the Clinical Director of Yuma Counseling Services in Yuma, Arizona, where he leads a team committed to trauma-informed, attachment-based healing.

Troy’s extensive training includes certifications in Sexual Addiction Treatment and Breathwork, as well as advanced practice in EMDR, Brainspotting, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, and Addiction Recovery. Drawing on over two decades of clinical experience, Troy is known for creating safe, transformative learning experiences that invite both vulnerability and growth.

In addition to his clinical work, Troy hosts The Finding Peace Podcast, serves as an Adjunct Professor at Arizona State University, and regularly provides trainings and workshops on trauma recovery, healthy relationships, and emotional resilience.

He has been recognized by CIO Today as an Inspirational Icon Promoting Emotional Wellness for his compassionate leadership and innovative contributions to the field of mental health.

At his core, Troy believes healing happens through connection. Whether working one-on-one, teaching in classrooms, or speaking to audiences across the country, his message remains the same:

“You are not broken. You are wounded—and wounds can heal.”

Reviews

[Linda · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was suggested to me by a friend and while reading the first chapter, I could not stop wondering - why my friend decided that this book is for me. And then suddenly it all made clear. This book helped me to identify my wounds and I see it as the first step toward healing. I'll take baby steps to exit the darkness I interface with every day.

[Haley · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really enjoyed this book, reads easy like fiction but has some great insights that I think would apply in just about anyone’s life.

[Jennifer Holik · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent workbook especially for those just stepping into self healing work. Chapters are short and engaging. Workbook pages and activities are thought provoking and healing. Highly recommended!

[B L Lewis · Rating 5 out of 5]

I'd recommend this book to EVERYONE. It's full of simple , yet effective exercises , intertwined with such a beautiful story of 8 individuals who come together for group therapy. You serve as the 9th member . You'll both laugh and cry, but most importantly you'll get to the root of your deepest issues. This is a must read, and I think Oprah should cover this !

[Andrea M · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book helps the reader identify core emotions and the shadows of shame. These emotions and our subsequent efforts to numb or ignore them destroy our peace. The author shows a path to healing based on noticing and expressing the pain so that love and compassion can come in and fill its place. One quote that I liked was "Even though my negative core belief states I am not worthy of respect, I am open to the possibility that one day I will believe that I am wanted and can be respected."

[Michael · Rating 5 out of 5]

I didn’t expect a workbook to feel this personal. It honestly felt like I was sitting in the room with the group, listening, relating, and slowly opening up parts of myself I had buried for years. This book didn’t rush healing. It respected it. That alone made me feel safe.

[Nancy · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book met me in a very tender season of my life. I’ve read a lot about trauma, but this was the first time I felt seen instead of analyzed. The exercises are gentle but powerful, and the story format helped me stay engaged when my emotions felt heavy.

[Grace Donna · Rating 5 out of 5]

Finding Peace helped me name wounds I didn’t even realize were still controlling my reactions. The way the author weaves story and reflection made it easier to face painful truths without feeling overwhelmed. I found myself pausing often, just to breathe and let things sink in.

[Dammy Lee · Rating 4 out of 5]

I appreciated how human this book feels. It doesn’t talk down to you or promise instant transformation. It walks with you. Some chapters made me emotional because they mirrored my own experiences with neglect and rejection almost word for word.

[Pella · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is not a book you rush through. It’s one you sit with. I worked through it slowly, sometimes revisiting chapters when old feelings resurfaced. Each time, I felt a little more grounded and less ashamed of my story.

[Godly · Rating 5 out of 5]

What stood out most to me was the focus on connection. The idea that healing happens in safe relationships felt deeply true. I’ve started approaching my relationships with more compassion for myself and others, and that shift alone has been life changing.

[Paul Tomi · Rating 4 out of 5]

I’ve struggled with anxiety and self worth for most of my adult life. This book helped me trace those struggles back to early attachment wounds in a way that felt clear and validating, not blaming. It gave language to feelings I never knew how to explain.

[Knny · Rating 4 out of 5]

The exercises are practical and surprisingly calming. I found the grounding tools especially helpful during moments when my thoughts felt out of control. This book didn’t just help me understand my pain. It helped me manage it in real time.

[Samuel Jackson · Rating 4 out of 5]

Reading this felt like being gently invited into healing rather than forced into it. The fictional group made me feel less alone, like my struggles weren’t strange or isolated. It reminded me that brokenness is something we all carry in different ways.

[Vicky Kaushal · Rating 5 out of 5]

Finding Peace gave me hope without being unrealistic. It acknowledges how deep wounds go, while still offering a path forward. I finished the book feeling more compassionate toward myself and more confident that healing is possible, even if it takes time.

[Best Reader · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book helped me slow down and listen to myself in a way I never had before. Instead of telling me what I should feel, it gave me space to discover what I actually feel. That was uncomfortable at times, but incredibly freeing.

[Joe Frost · Rating 4 out of 5]

I’ve done therapy, journaling, and self help books for years, but this one connected the dots for me. Understanding how early wounds shaped my adult relationships brought so much clarity and relief. I no longer feel “broken”, just wounded and healing.

[Judy · Rating 5 out of 5]

What I loved most is that this book feels compassionate, not clinical. It speaks to the heart while still offering structure and guidance. The group setting made it easier to open up emotionally without feeling exposed or alone.

[Allysha Snow · Rating 5 out of 5]

Amazing insights. I'm so grateful for the knowledge gained from this book!

[Sarah · Rating 4 out of 5]

it is just what it says- Easy reading workbook that can help heal emotional wounds.