Oprah Winfrey's latest book is a book to be read and re-read often. The book is sectioned into 10 chapter groups - Awakening, Intention, Mindfulness, Spiritual GPS, Ego, Forgiveness, Broken Open, Grace and Gratitude, Love and Connection. The order is quite telling; notice that "Ego" is right in the middle, followed by forgiveness. If we envision these topics as a bell curve, it's an uphill battle to learn to deal with the Ego, after learning it, things get gradually easier.
At the end of her book, Oprah writes, "In order to experience life, you’ve got to start asking life’s big questions;" her book is an attempt to help. What I really like about this book is that it features an array of answers to each question, complimentary pictures that express each topic visually, the reader can zoom in on the topic from various angles.
Here are very few that impressed me the most:
Eckhart Tolle: "... The real truths of life are never entirely new to you because there is a level deep down within you where you already know all the things, all those spiritual truths that you read or hear and then recognize them. Ultimately, it’s not new information..."
Michael Bernard Beckwith: "... Everyone is spiritual whether they know it or not..."
Jack Kornfield reminds us to ask ourselves, "... “What’s my best intention?” Because if you listen to your heart and ask, “What’s my best intention?” it will answer..."
Much beloved Ram Dass tells us how he found out that a Maharaji he met could read his mind, "... And he was loving me, all of me, all the stuff of me that I never wanted anybody to know..."
To my surprise, David Brooks was also one of Oprah's guests. Then again, not surprisingly Brooks offers from his immense knowledge quoting the great theologian Augustine, (Question and answer), "What is sin?" “We sin when we have our loves out of order.”
It's a brilliant definition. If an elderly female relative asked us whether an "old-fashioned" hat or brooch given by her late husband still looks good, most of would come up with a little white lie because we would not want to hurt her feelings. "Our loves would be in order.” The white lie would not be sin.
Considering that Augustine died more than 1,500 years it is astonishing that he was able to define it so clearly. Because the world is getting overpopulated, today even little sins which are real sins by Augustine's definition, have a huge impact. Just think of the environment. Dumping trash, not standing up and speaking the truth... the list is endless.
I knew Arianna Huffington's story, how she overworked herself when creating the Huffington Post, and it was good to find it again in this book. If the price for success is too high it's not the success we are looking for, plus our journey will be interrupted.
Anne Lamott articulates what so many of us think at times (certainly I do), "... and you can say anything. I say to God sometimes, “You have got to be kidding.” Or I say, “Would it be so much skin off Your nose to cut this person a little slack?..."
Deeply, deeply moving is Timothy Shriver's statement, "... Normal. The tyranny of that word, it’s just, like, it’s a cancer in the culture. Are you normal? Are you fitting in? Are you like everyone else? My God, it’s terrifying. And yet we all feel that..." which led him to his work for the Special Olympics.
Oprah's elaborations of the dangers of "Egos" hit at the core of many problems (again, I was reminded of what I see on social media platforms)
"... ask, “What role does the ego play in this situation?” This is the essential question we should all be asking ourselves whenever we encounter difficulty..."
and, "... The ego has the power to influence or derail every aspect of our lives. Accepting this as truth opens the door to where the real work begins..."
Which leads me to describing one of the most powerful pictures, placed in the chapter group "Ego." (p. 101)
Most of us have seen in real life what the picture shows: a beach, with gentle waves rolling ashore. A couple of rocks of different sizes lie on the beach. The waves have washed out the sand around the rocks. I see two interpretations:
1) The waves are washing away the foundation around the Egos. By law of physics the rocks themselves enable the process because they "stand in the way."
2) At the same time this process will also break down the "Egos."
Hence: Does it make sense to deny that all of us are part of the universe? Or, try to insist on the power of our Ego?
The picture reminds us that the depicted egos won't last.
And, it is in this way that Oprah's book creates a puzzle readers can put together themselves. If we are not in the mood to hear from one of the featured guests we can skip their contribution until we are ready.
Last but certainly not least, I want to mention Sister Joan Chittister's contribution, "... I was about twelve and we came home and my little parakeet was gone. ... my heart was breaking. And I got into bed and I put my face down in the pillow and I sobbed...
... I realized it was my mother. And then I felt somebody on the floor on the other side, and I realized it was my father, and they had their arms around me...
And, as I look back over the years, that’s when I learned that humanity is about identifying with somebody else’s pain, with being there..."
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This is a beautiful book about the BIGGEST QUESTIONS and it is user-friendly! Love the way how it is designed, planned, structured.
Even though it's "only" a book it is a kind of interactive book. In a too noisy world, retreating with this book (a real book, not an app) and pondering the many offerings may lead us to discovering our own soul. Ideally, we should do a lot of pondering outside, in synch with nature.
5 stars,
Gisela Hausmann, author & blogger