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The Space Between
New York Times bestselling authors, Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D., unveil the secret for couples to recover the joy and wonder that belongs to every human being in The Space Between.When two people understand that there is a "space between" each other and learn how to care for one another in deeper ways, their relationship will dramatically improve. And, the quality of their relationship determines the quality of their lives.
112 pages, Kindle Edition
Published June 9, 2017
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Harville Hendrix
85 books245 followersHarville Hendrix, Ph.D., is the author of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, a New York Times bestseller that has sold more than two million copies. He has more than thirty years’ experience as an educator and therapist. He specializes in working with couples in private practice, teaching marital therapy to therapists, and conducting couples workshops across the country. Dr. Hendrix is the founder/director of the Imago Institute for Relationship Therapy. He lives in New Jersey and New Mexico.
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April 18, 2021
O carte bună, pe care o recomand. Pe alocuri mi s-a părut un pic prea optimistă, dar unele pasaje, precum cel cu Grindina și Țestoasa, cel cu "O frustrare este o dorință deghizată", acele exerciții în care să rememorăm amintiri dragi cu partenerul, să ne aducem aminte ce anume apreciem la partener și acele confirmări zilnice mi-au plăcut.
April 10, 2022
Seemingly excellent relationship advice but cringe-worthy context
I bought this book for an elaboration of practices developed since “Getting the Love You Want.” There are excellent chapters on Safe Conversations, Zero Negativity, and Affirmations.
Most of the rest of the book seemed to detract from this content. As a biologist I found most of the scientific metaphors and metaphysical claims challenging to follow to downright inaccurate. I am going to advise my husband, a political philosopher studying equality and democracy, to skip the chapters discussing the history of these relational ideas in Western culture. I so, so wished the authors had partnered with (or read more from) real experts in neuroscience, evolution, ecology, social science, and normative ethics before allocating so much of the book to building this tenuous framing involving nature, culture, the brain, etc. I think they might actually be heartened by how much good research has already been done here (it would have been nice to point readers in that direction).
I still think the core ideas could be good, so I do not regret the purchase.
As others wrote, the book reads like a pamphlet, and I suggest it should be even shorter.
Also be aware that the book seems to be missing a good copy editor, but it is not too hard to read past the problem areas.
Warning: The Kindle version is riddled with typos and I believe does not support bookmarking or highlighting. Under no circumstances should it be given as a gift.
I bought this book for an elaboration of practices developed since “Getting the Love You Want.” There are excellent chapters on Safe Conversations, Zero Negativity, and Affirmations.
Most of the rest of the book seemed to detract from this content. As a biologist I found most of the scientific metaphors and metaphysical claims challenging to follow to downright inaccurate. I am going to advise my husband, a political philosopher studying equality and democracy, to skip the chapters discussing the history of these relational ideas in Western culture. I so, so wished the authors had partnered with (or read more from) real experts in neuroscience, evolution, ecology, social science, and normative ethics before allocating so much of the book to building this tenuous framing involving nature, culture, the brain, etc. I think they might actually be heartened by how much good research has already been done here (it would have been nice to point readers in that direction).
I still think the core ideas could be good, so I do not regret the purchase.
As others wrote, the book reads like a pamphlet, and I suggest it should be even shorter.
Also be aware that the book seems to be missing a good copy editor, but it is not too hard to read past the problem areas.
Warning: The Kindle version is riddled with typos and I believe does not support bookmarking or highlighting. Under no circumstances should it be given as a gift.
August 24, 2021
O carte care la prima vedere pare simplă, dar exercițiile din ea necesită o adevărată mobilizare de energie, curaj și vulnerabilitate pentru a putea aplica conceptele.
O recomand tuturor cuplurilor.
O recomand tuturor cuplurilor.
November 25, 2025
«من و تو؛ جدایی یا پیوند»
ذات طبیعت بر اساس زوجیت و دوگانگی بنا شده، طبیعت پر است از تضاد هایی که کنار یکدیگر وجود دارند!
همسرانتان را برای اینکه این گونه هستند سرزنش نکنید!
از این گذشته شما او را انتخاب کرده اید!
سعی کنید رویکردتان را در مورد تفاوت ها تغییر دهید!
به محض اینکه حس کند شما وی را میپذیرید،احساس عشق او بیشتر میشود، و فضای رابطه تان بهبود می یابد!
پذیرش تفاوت بزرگ ترین چالش ماست، از ان ها انتظار داریم مثل ما فکر کنند، رفتار کنند و واکنش نشان دهند،و زمانی که اینگونه نیستند،ما با رفتار غیر قابل قبول انها شوکه میشویم!
باور داشته باشید یا نه این نیازمند ان است که ما همسرانمان را نشناسیم!
باور به شناخت قطعی همسرتان را رها کنید!
لذا بهترین راه شناختن همسرتان «عدم شناخت» او است!
تحمل ابهام یکی از نشانه های سلامت روان است،این نشناختن همسر به ما کمک میکند تا مغز خود را یکپارچه و تقویت کنیم!
و این کنجکاو بودن به طور شگفت انگیزی مهارت گوش دادن عمیق به همسرتان را که خالی از برچسب زدن یا قضاوت کردن است، را تقویت میکند...
۲۲:۲۲
۱۴۰۴/۰۹/۰۴
خونه
ذات طبیعت بر اساس زوجیت و دوگانگی بنا شده، طبیعت پر است از تضاد هایی که کنار یکدیگر وجود دارند!
همسرانتان را برای اینکه این گونه هستند سرزنش نکنید!
از این گذشته شما او را انتخاب کرده اید!
سعی کنید رویکردتان را در مورد تفاوت ها تغییر دهید!
به محض اینکه حس کند شما وی را میپذیرید،احساس عشق او بیشتر میشود، و فضای رابطه تان بهبود می یابد!
پذیرش تفاوت بزرگ ترین چالش ماست، از ان ها انتظار داریم مثل ما فکر کنند، رفتار کنند و واکنش نشان دهند،و زمانی که اینگونه نیستند،ما با رفتار غیر قابل قبول انها شوکه میشویم!
باور داشته باشید یا نه این نیازمند ان است که ما همسرانمان را نشناسیم!
باور به شناخت قطعی همسرتان را رها کنید!
لذا بهترین راه شناختن همسرتان «عدم شناخت» او است!
تحمل ابهام یکی از نشانه های سلامت روان است،این نشناختن همسر به ما کمک میکند تا مغز خود را یکپارچه و تقویت کنیم!
و این کنجکاو بودن به طور شگفت انگیزی مهارت گوش دادن عمیق به همسرتان را که خالی از برچسب زدن یا قضاوت کردن است، را تقویت میکند...
۲۲:۲۲
۱۴۰۴/۰۹/۰۴
خونه
November 21, 2020
Scurtă și la obiect, o sinteza a relațiilor, în special a Spațiului dintre noi și cum ar trebui sa fie acest spațiu, cum sa îl facem sa fie un spațiu sigur și plin de respect reciproc, recunoștință și grijă pentru partener și pentru cuplu, cu o energie bună care determina și calitatea relației.
"O frustrare este o dorință deghizată."
Comunicarea asertivă: oglindire, validare, empatie, ascultare activă - o "armă" puternica în orice tip de relație din viata noastră.
"O frustrare este o dorință deghizată."
Comunicarea asertivă: oglindire, validare, empatie, ascultare activă - o "armă" puternica în orice tip de relație din viata noastră.
March 12, 2018
Everyone should read this book
A valuable tool that really helps create safe conversations and promote the well-being of each and every relationship we have, wether with our significant other, family, friends, coworkers and children. It is based on Respect, Empathy and Consideration.
A valuable tool that really helps create safe conversations and promote the well-being of each and every relationship we have, wether with our significant other, family, friends, coworkers and children. It is based on Respect, Empathy and Consideration.
September 9, 2021
The content is good and presented in general aspects - more like a guide - but it still feels short. It's best to be read while in a couple, so you get to experiment the ideas together.
What I loved about this book? It's like I can hear Helen's soft voice reading it to me, so tender is the approach.
What I loved about this book? It's like I can hear Helen's soft voice reading it to me, so tender is the approach.
October 29, 2018
A little optimistic but good ideas to shoot for nonetheless. I definitely like the safe conversation technique and will pass that on to clients. I have met them in person and they are truely lovely people so if they are practicing this it’s sure worth a shot
May 15, 2021
Going to re-read this book right now.
I loved this book so much. It resonates at so many levels. I have heard of these authors for years. So happy to finally have this book in my hands.
I loved this book so much. It resonates at so many levels. I have heard of these authors for years. So happy to finally have this book in my hands.
February 16, 2020
An interesting story about couple’s therapy, tools, ideas on how difficult situations should be overcame. A description of Imago therapy with practical examples.
August 28, 2020
" Dacă frustarea e reformulată ca o dorință, acest lucru invită la găsirea comună a unei soluții convenabile pentru amândoi - efort care se poate face în Spațiul dintre noi."
July 25, 2018
I enjoyed reading this book.
It's short, you can read it just in several hours (during your flight as I did.)
Basically, it's a summary of Hendrix ideas and it's useful if you want to get acquainted with them.
It's a list of practices which you can try with your partner, family member, anyone.
I found some of them pretty useful (as I've tested it with my significant)
I do not agree with some of the practices as well (and it's ok) as I think that it'd better add smth about healthy borders & healthy egoism here, not only about empathy & compassion.
& also a lot of practices between seems to be unnatural for my view ( I prefer when it comes itself in the flow of openness and honesty of both sides), but if you stuck a bit and need some ideas of fixing your relationships - it's a nice book to check, if you didn't stuck, you also may find some new things to try.
It's short, you can read it just in several hours (during your flight as I did.)
Basically, it's a summary of Hendrix ideas and it's useful if you want to get acquainted with them.
It's a list of practices which you can try with your partner, family member, anyone.
I found some of them pretty useful (as I've tested it with my significant)
I do not agree with some of the practices as well (and it's ok) as I think that it'd better add smth about healthy borders & healthy egoism here, not only about empathy & compassion.
& also a lot of practices between seems to be unnatural for my view ( I prefer when it comes itself in the flow of openness and honesty of both sides), but if you stuck a bit and need some ideas of fixing your relationships - it's a nice book to check, if you didn't stuck, you also may find some new things to try.
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