Mothers and fathers both influence the identity formation of their children in powerful ways. Mothers provide comfort, security and unfailing love (in a child’s mind.) Fathers provide approval, respect and a sense of value. Interestingly, many children feel differently about the love they receive from mothers versus the love they receive from fathers. They feel that their mother’s love is non- negotiable. In other words, they believe that their mothers have to love them because that’s what mothers do. We are the ones who always have the child’s back, always offer love and usually understand (even if we don’t.) This makes sense. At the beginning of life, a mother is there. She is the primary one who feeds a child and if she- the one the child comes to rely on first and foremost- doesn’t love the her then no one else in the world will love her.
In this companion eBook to my book Being the Strong Father Your Children Need I want to help Mom's understand how they can support their husband's on this journey of becoming great fathers.