This groundbreaking book from sex educator and YouTube phenomenon Laci Green has everything you’ve ever wanted to know about sex, sexuality, pleasure, and your body.
Let’s be honest: most of us think about sex A LOT, and we have plenty of unanswered questions: What’s the best way to talk to my partner about what I want? How do I figure out my sexuality? How do I have sex safely? What does an orgasm actually feel like?
Laci Green—a sex educator and YouTuber who’s been hailed by Time magazine as the millennial Dr. Ruth—has built a platform of millions of followers by answering sex-related questions frankly, nonjudgmentally, and hilariously.
Now Laci brings her signature style and voice to a comprehensive book about the multitude of issues and concerns that go along with sexuality: anatomy, consent, LGBTQ issues, STI and pregnancy prevention, sexual empowerment, healthy relationships, myth-busting, and more.
Sex Plus is the first book of its kind: empowering, sex-positive, and cool. Comprehensive, honest, and vetted by a range of medical experts, this book will help you take control of your sex life.
I've spent the last couple of month reading books about sex. Here, I said it. I have a good excuse though - I run sex education workshops so I kind of need to keep educating myself.
But what I believe Laci would say to me is "you don't need an excuse". This book is excuse-less. And that's exactly why I appreciate it so much.
It tackles one subject after another by providing scientific info, personal stories (which make it all sound relatable) and adding an emphasis on the normality of it all.
I don't have many 'buts' but... one thing triggered me. Laci talks about body image issues and mentions eating disorders (rightly so!). But the list of 'symptoms' is... so 2010. You don't have to exercise several hours a day or/and eat less than 1000kcal a day to have a disorder. Sure, these are all extreme signs but this is NOT how we should teach people to recognize eating disorders. I hope this message manages to get through and maybe, possibly, the publisher will update this section in the print version. I really hope so. It's a shame such a GREAT book contains such harmful passage.
To end things on a nicer note - I really like the fact that Laci included a chapter about relationships, which is something other books dealing with sex have gave up on. It's not preachy, it just helps to wrap your head around healthy and unhealthy relationships.
Overall: great but PLEASE fix this ED thing. I felt so sad when I read it...
I (male, hetero, married) think this is an excellent book with information relevant to everyone. If I have children, I will be requiring them to read this book before they start dating. I also really want to give copies to my two brothers-in-law and my sister-in-law (teenagers with a highly doubtful sex education--they lean towards abstinence only).
Despite the greater than average knowledge I have about human physiology and human sexuality (I'm an engineer, but read a lot about a lot of different things), I learned some new things about how our sexual organs function. I also learned that if I listen to medical descriptions and discussions about sex in the morning drive, I get a bit weirded out, but not if I listen in the afternoon drive.
This book gave me a lot of insights into sexuality, and gave me some language to discuss various things with my wife. We have good communication, but there are some sex related topics/ concepts I didn't know how to discuss because I didn't have fully developed conceptions of the ideas until going through this book. While I've been big on consent, I didn't realize "consent culture" was a thing.
I appreciated the female focused orientation of the book. It's not as common as it should be. I think it can help men who read this understand a bit about the general unbalance of power between the sexes and how simple actions--like the raising of their voice, or being "persistent"--can cause someone to fear for their safety and give coerced consent. The random essays from others were a good inclusion.
Overall, I hope this book will be used as a textbook for sex education in the future. If I can get past my own internalized stigmas, I also look forward to sharing this book with others.
This is the book I wish I'd had growing up. Thank you, Green, for your open minded approach to sex ed that promotes a world that allows for people who want to have sex, those that want to wait until marriage, those that are not interested in sex, all of the colors of the LGBTQ+ community, people with and without kinks, and people of every color, shape, etc. In other words, thank you for promoting a judgment- free zone in which everyone's individual needs and wants are valid. Growing up in a religious family, sex was a taboo subject. You weren't LGBTQ+. You stayed a virgin until marriage. You dressed modestly, to show others that you respected yourself. When I started dating - what seems like much later than most of my peers - I really struggled with shame and guilt associated with any kind of physical attention. I wish I'd had a book similar to this growing up; that might have helped answer a lot of questions and dispel a lot of my relationship anxieties.
4.5 stars This is such an important topic. Definitely recommend for everyone, people just discovering sex and also people who have years of experience.
Laci Green holds a special place in my heart. I was raised in an evangelical conservative Christian household and my parents never talked to me about sex. I am a twenty-year-old woman and I have never had any conversation about sex with my parents. They barely talked about puberty and menstruation so that when both started happening, I felt ashamed and deeply confused. My home life wasn't great, to say the least, and as I grew up I started questioning my parents and my religion and turned to YouTube for information.
In the secret of my room, I began watching videos about atheism and sex and it felt like I was doing something forbidden, something that would make my parents take away my internet access forever if they found out. Youtubers like Laci and Jaclyn Glenn taught me about sex and atheism respectively and I have so much to thank them for.
Sex and sexuality fascinated me as soon as I started learning about it, probably in part because of its forbidden nature. I remember going to the library and checking out books on sex education in secret, hiding the cover while reading in between classes. Laci fostered this love in me and gave me a foundation on which to build.
Sex Plus is a nice introduction to a lot of topics related to feminism, sex, gender, and LGBTQ+ issues. I knew a lot of stuff already, but I still learned a lot, and it never hurts to revisit these topics. Having watched Laci's videos helped when reading the book because I feel as if I have some sense of who she is and could hear her voice while reading (she reads the audiobook which is fantastic, but I didn't want to miss out on any diagrams!) Sex education to me is so incredibly important and valuable, and this book should be in every American high school library.
It's always extremely refreshing when someone talks about taboo topics openly and freely, and the importance of being told "you're normal and healthy" cannot be overstated. I'm so glad I had Laci's videos when I was younger, and I'm so glad she wrote this book and I hope it helps her reach an even wider audience. Someday when I have kids they're gonna be given this book.
I'm only writing a review because I never thought I'd actually be enjoying an educational book, and I feel like I have to somehow justify it to myself.
None of the schools I went to taught sex ed, and from the sound of it, schools in America aren't doing a very good job of it either. Honestly, what Laci's doing here is important public service. Not only do I wish I had this book as a teenager (would've made my life so much easier) but I learned plenty from it as an adult as well.
I need more books like this! Not only is informative and can answer almost any question about sex, but it talks about more than sex. About relationships, abuse, fantasy. The whole thing!
So. This is a sex education book intended to be read by teenagers. I have mixed feelings... I think it has a lot of great info in it! I wish she didn't feel like she had to use the F-word to be relatable to teen-agers, or maybe that's not why, but why? I just find the F-word to be very offensive and unnecessary.
This book is not just about sex. I was pleased by the chapters about having healthy relationships (with or without sex) in general, and especially the ones about understanding abusive relationships and the different kinds of abuse that can occur- especially because young women are at the highest risk of being in one. When I was a teenager, I probably just thought of physical abuse, but there's more than that, and she gives very real examples, short and to the point. It would be easy to look at your own relationship and say, "hey, he does that to me!" There are things I think are nice to spell out to a budding wannabe-in-a-relationship teenager. It even talked about how to ask someone out on a date and good conversation topics to get to know people.
There is a chapter about sex toys and another about masterbation, and she talks about pleasure centers and where to give and receive pleasure. But I would not say this book is intended to be erotic in anyway- just down-to-earth informative. There are no pictures that I would say are inappropriate, and I'm pretty prudish.
Would I have my kids read this? No. I could see myself reading most of it to them and talking about it with them. It would be a great way to start open communication about this. I really think that it would have been good for me to know more, maybe not as much as is in here, but a lot more as a teenager, and maybe more of the actual sex stuff when I was closer to being married, since I'm an abstinence until marriage kind of person.
This book isn’t really necessary for any adults that have had sex but I judged this book & bought it because of the cover. It took sooooo long to get through because it wasn’t interesting to me at all. It’s basically sex Ed in a book, so would be a good thing for middle schoolers to read instead....but I don’t see this being allowed in school classrooms so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
This book was banned in Connecticut. It has the ability to be a great resource for many individuals who are victims of abstinence only education systems.
Excellent resource as an introduction to sex ed, covers a lot of ground in an approachable and easy way. Will keep in back pocket as a resource for teaching and speaking about sex with young people.
While this book is aimed I would say at a younger crowd, it’s always nice to be informed. To have information about sex and all that goes with it at your finger tips can truly benefit anyone who’s got a question. From relationships, to sex toys, to the proper terms and names for all your bits this book is full of information for everyone. Even as an adult it’s good to be informed because chances are you weren’t taught this stuff properly and it could give you the correct tools to have meaningful educated conversations with your children or young adults in your life.
After hearing of this book at a YA seminar on “What’s New in YA” for libraries, we bought it for our library. It’s a snap to read and very accessible for any age of reader. It is FANTASTIC! It is packed with information from front to back that will keep you turning pages. It’s been a second since I had Sex Ed, so this was like a refresher course with information that: you never heard in your class, you should know if you are lucky enough to be having sex, if you want to know how to have sex healthfully, I could go on and on... So far my review mainly looks at an adult perspective, but I peddle books in a high school venue, so would I want my students reading this book? ABSOLUTELY! Every word. Having said that, I will say that there is one chapter I quite enjoyed myself but wonder if parents might question. That would be the chapter on sex toys. My argument is this: if as a parent, you are hoping for your child to avoid teen pregnancy, STD’s etc., what better way than a sex toy? Curiosity is tamed but it is low risk for the scary stuff like AIDS! I also come from the perspective of a mother of two teenage girls who both have boyfriends. I am in the thick of it people! It has something for everyone and everyone should read it.
Fantastisk og gennemarbejdet bog!! Jeg er positiv overraskelse over bogen! Gode læring punkter! Både til den yngre men også den ældre læser!
Et minus fra mit vedkommende og det kommer an hvem du er når du læser den! Så var den hængt meget op hvad USA gjort og gøre m.m. Og det ikke så brugbart når man bor i Danmark!
I adore Laci Green and love sex education so this was an obvious choice to pick up. But because I already knew everything mentioned for the most part it ended up being rather boring to get through. I really love the way this book was put together though and will be donating my copy to my local library so that the people who need access to this kind of content will have it. Great stuff!
In Sex Plus, Laci Green covers everything from basic reproductive biology, to LBGT+ issues, to kinks, to dating, to consent, to....you get the idea. This book is a great introduction to the sprawling world of human sexuality.
Despite loving this book, I feel that I was definitely not the target demographic for it. The information it covers is very basic stuff, and if you have even a casual interest in sex education, this is stuff you probably already know pretty well. I wouldn't recommend this book to a reader who already has a working knowledge of human sexuality and is trying to increase their knowledge. I WOULD recommend it to any teen or pre-teen, parents, teachers, adults who come from a more conservative background, and any adult who lives or works with teenagers.
I love the casual, conversational tone Green uses throughout the book. It makes what can often be a sterile topic much more approachable, as well as it creates a lower barrier for entry for readers who are might not have an expansive education on the subject matter. My one criticism on the language she uses is the fact that at the time I'm writing this review only 3 years after the book was published, the vocabulary is already dated. Green uses a lot of "internet speak" in what I'm guessing is an attempt to relate to her younger readers. At best, it comes off as an adult trying to sound hip to kids (which is literally what it is). At worst, it unnecessarily dates a book that could be a really wonderful resource for generations to come. It doesn't necessarily detract from the content of the book, but it was distracting to read and I suspect that will only increase with time. Again, I actually like that it's written in conversational language. I just wish Green had been a little more conservative with the use of words and phrases like "lolwut" "#progress" "soo uh YEAH that was a thing" "you do you bb."
The visual layout of this book is top notch. I've read books where pictures and diagrams are placed smack dab in the middle of a sentence, forcing the sentence to continue on the next page and it can get annoying flipping back and forth trying to relate the information to the graphic. In contrast, all images are very well placed in this book. It also makes great use of headings, subheadings, bullet points, and white space. The result is that the book flows nicely from subject to subject without any jarring interruptions. My one criticism would be the use of some of the more cutesy graphics like heart shaped bullets, bras, etc. Again, I think the intention here was to appeal to teen girls but it comes off as more cringey than anything.
Even though I didn't personally get much new information from Sex Plus, I still think it's a super important book and a great resource for sex-positive information. It's a fantastic way for teens and young adults to learn about their bodies and navigating their sexuality in a healthy, nurturing way. I also think it's a great way for adults to pick up the language they need to play a more active role in their children's sex education, as well as support them through any challenges they may be facing like questioning their sexual or gender identity, body image issues, relationship violence, and more.
This book was so great! It covers a wide range of sex topics and does a pretty thorough job with each considering it is just one book. It give so much good information for young people just starting out, but also goes into a lot of detail about more practical sex topics. 😜 So I am not sure how much I would recommend it for sex education of young teens. Depends on the chapters. It covers body image, consent, and periods, which feels more targeted at the young; but also sexual positions, how to give a good blow job, and intro to kink. Personally, as a mother of young daughters, I feel like the former is good for age 10-12, and the latter is good for ages 16-18. This book is probably most appropriate for naïve adults. 😅 Which I used to be. Where was this book 1o years ago?
This book is also very biased against religion. This book continually cites examples of how conservative religion can damaged people in regards to sexuality. And as someone who comes from a conservative religious background this is very accurate. My perception of sex was extremely warped for a long time. And I know others who have permanent psychological damaged from conservative religions. But not everyone will feel this way, so be warned.
I also really appreciated Laci's casual tone. I listened to the audiobook and she read it herself and she kept everything really comfortable. I have never seen her youtube channel before.
I wish I'd had access to this book as a teenager for all the legitimate sex health questions I could never ask my parents. It also made me realize that the unit on sex in my high school health class was better than most but nowhere near adequate.
Laci is a sex educator who believes in comprehensive education that focuses on consent, communication, and safety. I think that high schoolers could get a lot out of this book on their own, but it would also be a useful tool for parents to start laying a foundation for sex positive communication with their kids as soon as puberty starts kicking in.
This book runs the gamut from reproductive anatomy to sexuality, STIs, contraception, alternatives to penetrative sex, relationships and dating violence, and recognizing consent.
Overordnet en god bog, men fine introduktion til emnet, man skal bare bare opmærksom på hun ikke er ekspert, men mere en som går meget op i emnet og har en masse viden om emnet, hovedsagelig fokus på USA. Man skal derfor også være konstruktiv kritisk med hendes blanding af fakta og egne meninger. Jeg er især kritisk overfor hendes holdning om, at præventionsformerne amning og at trække sig ud før fyren kommer, kan være 100% effektiv hvis det gøres korrekt og er bedre løsninger. Men derudover så var det interessant at høre om hendes tanker om problematikker og mulige forbedringer omkring seksualitet, sex, seksualitetsundervisning og prævention kan gøre for de amerikanske unge, og emnet abort.
Oh gosh. I have no idea where I got this book recommendation. I assumed it was from somewhere that I trusted or something. Anywhooo. The idea of this book is good, a comprehensive review of sex. I thought it would probably be educational to learn about, especially for the couples that I help as a therapist. Yikes! No. I've read quite a few books now on this topic for school and this was the worst one by farrr. Very biased about things (labeling certain things as wrong, certain things as right with not much to back up the claims) also the author does not have any credentials in sex educating (besides that she does it on youtube) or sex therapy. Not a fan.
I can and will recommend this book to everyone. The way Laci covers Sex Ed in this book is amazing. Each chapter of this book is short, yet vital to certain aspects of sex education. I learned so many fascinating things in this book about sex, the human body, relationships and sexuality. It's really great to see accurate information in sex education in a positive light. Not only is this informative but Laci is amazing and the way she writes this book is very much down to earth and makes sex a non taboo topic, her writing is almost like a cool older sister. As a teen I am very much thankful for this book, but I recommend it to anyone who wants to be more educated and knowledgeable.
I thought Lacy Green was good as the Narrator. I thought Sex plus had a lot of good information in it. Towards the beginning of the book it talks a little about male and female Anatomy which I found interesting.
I am trying to think of what I liked about sex plus. There is so much to like for me. Towards the end of the book she talks about abusive relationships which I thought hat a lot of good information.
When I listen to a book its still hard for me to think of what I listened to or what I liked about a book. I thought sex plus was a comprehensive book about sex, the body, relationships.
And I want to listen to it again so I can remember more of what I listened to.
I skipped over some portions of this because it contained information I already knew and therefore was redundant for me, but there were some things that I wasn't that educated on / needed to brush up on that were helpful. Though I don't always agree with things that Laci says, I've always appreciated her presence in the youtube world and I think that this is a really good contribution to sex education - people REALLY need more books like this, and it helps that it comes in such a cute little package. Seriously, the cover of this is so adorable.
This book gives fantastic information that is not readily available in schools or councilors like it should be. Sexual education is one of the most important things to be taught at a young age, and yet it is not taught due to the stigma and women-shaming around it. Thank you, Laci, for writing this book for young girls and boys out there to read when the adults around them have failed to teach them important information they need to know. Also, I looove the cover.
what I NEEDED as a teenager!!! I expected it be a bit raunchier. But it was great, I wish I had this when I was younger I think growing up would have gone a little more smoothly. I would recommend this to anyone between the age of 13/14 - first year in college. Honestly, even teenage boys so they can learn all about their future companion. It’s also LGBTQ+ friendly. Answered a lot of questions I know I had at some point in time.
3.5/5 stars I really enjoyed listening to this book. It was funny but also educational. I learned so much about sex, relationships, identity and the body that I never knew. I also think this book was very body positive and that was really nice to hear. It also made me feel empowered as a woman to hear all about sex and not have it be associated with shame and embarrassment. It was overall a very enjoying and educational listening experience and I think other could benefit from it as well.