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Just before her thirty-seventh birthday, Rose Ainsworth has her first attack of baby fever. She adores children, especially her sister’s kids, but she’s facing a dilemma. Not only is her husband refusing to commit to becoming a parent, but her friends are drowning in the joys of mothering. She feels cut off and, worst of all, she’s worried that maybe she isn’t motherhood material. Rose’s journey through the potential pitfalls and prospects of parenting is a roller coaster ride—a journey that many women travel as they work, play and listen to their biological clock ticking away. The Pregnant Pause does for women who are considering motherhood what Bridget Jones's Diary did for single women in their early thirties—it unites them around shared experiences and invites them to recognize that they are their sisters' keepers.

222 pages, Kindle Edition

Published June 24, 2017

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Jane Doucet

4 books55 followers
Jane Doucet is a Canadian journalist whose articles have appeared in myriad national magazines, including Chatelaine and Canadian Living. She lives in Halifax, Nova Scotia, on Canada's East Coast with her husband.

In 2017, Jane self-published her debut novel, The Pregnant Pause, about a married woman who is turning 37 and trying to decide whether or not to have a baby. In 2018, The Pregnant Pause was shortlisted for a Whistler Independent Book Award.

In 2021, Vagrant Press, the fiction imprint of Nimbus Publishing, released Jane's second novel, Fishnets & Fantasies, about a married couple in their late 50s who open a sex shop in tiny, tourist-friendly Lunenburg, Nova Scotia (population 2,300).

In spring 2023, Vagrant Press re-released The Pregnant Pause, and in fall 2023 published her third novel, Lost & Found in Lunenburg, which combines characters from her first two books. Jane's fourth novel, Blood Typed, a contemporary murder mystery, will be released by Vagrant Press in 2026. Learn more at www.janedoucet.com.

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Profile Image for Alanah.
315 reviews1 follower
July 19, 2024
DNF at page 72.

What an awful main character! I can't stand the condescension, disrespect, and judgmental voice this book has. The passage that solidified this book is not for me is this from page 58:

"Rose had to admit that she felt much the same way about a wife taking a husband's last name as she did about abortions that are used as birth control: she was pro-choice, but she could never do either herself, and she always felt a twinge of disappointment and disrespect for the women who did."


What the fuck?? First off, people DO NOT use abortions as birth control - that is a very dangerous, conservative, bullshit statement - and secondly, you are not pro-choice if you disrespect others when they make a choice you wouldn't.

In addition to this statement, she refuses to learn her colleague Rima's fiance's name - Madangopal Gopalakrishnan - calling him either "what's-his-name" or "Mad Max", and says Rima "would be better off sticking with her two-syllable surname" Kumar. Hello, microaggression.

I wanted to give this novel a good try, as the author is local and a colleague lent me her copy, but I will not be finishing it.
Profile Image for Genevieve.
14 reviews
January 29, 2018
This book is a great piece of fiction, but also very relatable....especially for women in their 30's and 40's that don't have children that are surrounded by friends with and expecting children... It's a book that lets us feel like we are not alone. Our feelings are legit and just because we don't have children...for whatever reason...that we should not be made to feel like lesser beings.
Doucet uses Rose, a fictional character, to get this point across, but this is a real sensitive topic. Women of all ages, and of all varying "situations" should read this book and gain a little perspective.
Profile Image for Barbara Carter.
Author 9 books59 followers
August 29, 2018
Bright, interesting cover! Catches the eye. A great asset!
I knew I’d like this book by the opening sentence: Shortly before Rose Ainsworth’s thirty-seventh birthday everything went to shit.
What better than a story of life falling apart, of taking the journey with someone as they search for answers?
I loved Rose’s thoughts! Her observations. The questions she asked about whether she should become a mother. A question every woman faces at some point.
And also society’s pressures of what a woman should be. What a family should look like.
This is a book about examining such issues. Making us think about our beliefs and experiences. But always in a gentle sort of way.
This book is a light, fun read. Not my usual kind of book, but I like supporting local authors whenever I can. I usually read non-fiction and much darker material. But this book had the depth to hold my interest and I enjoyed the break.
Just to add a bit of personal trivia: Rose is my middle name, my daughter’s middle name, and my granddaughter’s middle name. So the author had a plus there, too.
If you’d like to help support and promote a local author, check out this book.
And here’s a little rhyme to end this review….
Tick tock,
Biological clock,
Should I have a baby to rock?
Profile Image for Jen Robley.
53 reviews5 followers
September 27, 2021
Another great book by Jane Doucet. I just love “ Rose”. I love her the way I love “ Bridget Jones”. The Pregnant Pause made me stop and think about how I have talked to my “ Rose” friends . I was a young mom and I was the first one in my social group to have a baby and I’m positive that I was a bit of a pain in the butt , but that’s what this book did. It made me “ pause” and reflect upon my “ pregnant “ conversations and beliefs and outlook. Additionally it also made me laugh out loud and nod my head in agreement !
Profile Image for Kayla Hounsell.
Author 2 books25 followers
June 16, 2019
In The Pregnant Pause, Jane Doucet tackles a big topic in a lighthearted way. As a 30-something with no children, I related to every word start to finish. For women in similar circumstances, The Pregnant Pause will let you know you're not alone, for women who do have children, it will teach you what not to say to your friends who don't want kids!
Profile Image for Aren Morris.
100 reviews4 followers
May 9, 2022
I'm not usually a reader of comedy but I do love to support local authors and this book was so entertaining. I identified and LOLed with so many moments experienced by the protagonist Rose as she works through whether or not she wants to have a baby. #thestruggleisreal Looking forward to reading her second novel 'Fishnets & Fantasies'.
1 review
January 29, 2022
Just after Christmas, I started with The Pregant Pause, written by local Halifax author Jane Doucet. This author’s first novel was a delight to read! I identified and LOLed with so many moments experienced by protagonist Rose as she worked through whether or not she wanted to have children. #thestruggleisreal Looking forward to reading her second novel Fishnets & Fantasies later this Spring as part of book club.
Profile Image for Natalie Thompson.
272 reviews12 followers
June 23, 2021
At first I was just going to put this book down and read it some other time. But I’m glad I stuck with it. I am an almost 35 year old and pregnancy and baby talks break me! My husband and I struggle with infertility… so those topics depending on my day/mood can either be ok or it totally devastate me!! This book was great… and found myself relating to Rose!! This book made me feel that I’m not alone and that no matter what my feelings on this topic is legit. The conversation between Rose and Rima spoke to me… I’ve had those conversations. I have been hurt many times. I have my own family/in-laws that don’t understand and still be insensitive…. Thank you Jane for writing this book… I really needed that today…. With my own battle!! And being reminded that I am not alone!!
Profile Image for Sarah Butland.
Author 22 books79 followers
May 6, 2023
With a powerful plot and relatable characters, The Pregnant Pause asks the question many women struggle with and teaches the importance of simply letting go of the answer.

Should Rose be a mom? She has no idea and, like the law of attraction promises, the topic will not stop presenting itself as she closes in on her 37th birthday.

This novel touches on the value of relationships, ignoring them on occasion and the art of being true to yourself, Rose explores all options. She feels she is missing something and time is running out, but her younger partner Jim isn't ready yet.

A fabulous look at family, individuals and adventure.
2 reviews
July 15, 2021
I was looking for something to read while spending time at the cottage. My plan was to pick it up while I was there, do some reading and leave it for next time. That didn’t work! Once I started, I had to take it home with me to finish.

I really enjoyed how authentic the characters were. Although lightheaded and downright funny at times, the underlying message is both serious and worthy of discussion.

Having worked in a male dominated career field for many years, I was able to relate so well to many of the main character’s struggles.

I was glad to have bought this book at the same time as Jane Doucet’s second novel, Fishnets and Fantasies, so I was able to read that on the heels of the Pregnant Pause.
Profile Image for Lydia Omodara.
233 reviews11 followers
September 25, 2023
On the eve of her thirty-seventh birthday, Rose Ainsworth finds herself at a crossroads. With her most fertile years ebbing away, she feels she must decide once and for all whether or not she wants to have a child. The only trouble is, Rose has no idea. 

What follows is a story which chronicles a year in Rose's life in which she wrestles with a decision she knows will define the rest of her life, turning to friends, family, Dr Phil and her dentist in hopes of knowing which choice is right for her and her husband, Jim. 

Rose's story is a topical one which I'm sure many women will relate too. Now that society isn't hyper-focused on driving women down a singular path to marriage, motherhood and domesticity, and women have the freedom to choose their own destiny, it can feel impossible to know which choice is the right one: whether they will get just as much meaning and joy from other things or whether they will always regret not having a family. Throughout the novel, Rose encounters many a common enemy of the childless woman -  the tactless colleague, the nosy old woman and the overbearing mother-in-law among them - and her journey highlights how friends having babies forces you to examine your own life, choices and future. 

Unfortunately, Rose as a vessel for this story just did not work for me. She is such an off-putting character - a judgmental, condescending prude who sneers at literally everything other women say or do - from refusing to sacrifice a career when her children are born to having a baby shower for a second child. She seems disappointed in almost every version of motherhood she encounters and her inner monologue is littered with criticisms and snide remarks. For example, when thinking about her colleague taking her fianće's last name, Rose notes that 'She always felt a twinge of disappointment and disrespect for the women who did.' 

Later on, she behaves appallingly when a younger colleague, Yuki, turns to her for support, opting to shame Yuki and make her disapproval clear when Yuki is feeling incredibly vulnerable. This episode,mout of the whole narrative, left a really sour taste in my mouth; was the author really expecting me to root for such a callous, selfish person? 

The author casually reinforces the idea that men are incompetent and women are martyrs, as if this old-fashioned dynamic should be taken as read. For instance, Rose's sister Daisy does not feel that she can visit Rose because her husband 'won’t notice when the toilet paper and milk run out', while Rose does all the cleaning herself in preparation for a visit from Jim's parents because 'if Rose gave him additional tasks, his brain would short circuit and she’d have to retrain him, a job for which she had neither the time, interest, nor energy.' This is such a regressive, harmful portrayal of both men and women, and one which I was surprised to see. 

Other problematic elements of the book include Rose's micro agressions - she can't remember the name of Indian colleague's fiancé despite being told at least a dozen times and thinks said colleague should keep her shorter, less foreign-sounding name. She also muses on adopting with a completely sincere white saviour complex: 'The more Rose thought about it, the more the idea of jetting off to Haiti or Ukraine to rescue an infant from an orphanage seemed heroic and romantic.'

Minor characters such as Yuki and another colleague, Rima, are so undeveloped that they might as well not be there, and even Jim, Rose’s husband, is given little in the way of discernible characteristics. Every conversation between him and Rose feels stilted and unnatural, not the easy patter of a comfortable long term couple, and I never had any sense of a deep bond between them. Rose herself doesn't have much to her either, and the author spends much of the novel adding new tidbits in an effort to make her seem more like an actual person. 

Furthermore, the plot felt very episodic and contrived: literally everything that befalls Rose is an opportunity to reflect on whether or not she wants a baby and, after a while, it was rather repetitive and tedious. 

On a final note, is this story taking place in the mid-00s? Rose and her sister are described as being born in the late 1960s but Rose is 37, not in her 50s. 

Thank you to NetGalley and Vagrant Press for the opportunity to read and review an ARC of this book.
Profile Image for Carrie Tanner.
11 reviews
November 29, 2023
What a great read with relatable characters with relatable situations. I grew up close to where Rose did and still live in Nova Scotia, so it was lovely reading about our beloved province.
Profile Image for Pascale.
412 reviews
February 21, 2019
3.5 stars.
I am not a fan of chick lit, far from it but this novel isn’t a love story and it made it a lot more palatable. I really enjoyed how a book centred on the question of whether or not to procreate, and how it affects relationships.

Profile Image for Emilie Pothier.
2 reviews
July 8, 2017
I just finished The Pregnant Pause and absolutely loved it! Jane Doucet has written a compelling story with sincere characters that handles difficult topics with a touch of humour. I know that as I grow older I will be very grateful to have read a book that talks about the struggle of deciding whether or not to have children, and teaches that neither choice makes you any less of a woman.
Profile Image for Sue Slade.
513 reviews31 followers
September 19, 2020
I enjoyed The Pregnant Pause. I found it to be a well written, quick and humourous read. A perfect vacation book with a very attractive cover.
Profile Image for Ann Davidman.
Author 3 books4 followers
August 2, 2017
Not knowing whether to become a mother or live a childfree life is often a lonely road.
And unless you’re one of those women who can’t decide it’s hard to know what it’s like.
Jane Doucet does an excellent job inviting you into that world with The Pregnant Pause.
If you want a friend because you’re lonely in your indecision you’ll find a friend in Rose.
Rose is the woman in the book who can’t figure out what she wants. Rose became real to me
immediately. I know Rose. I like Rose. I wish Rose had called me for help as I have helped women for 25 years deciding what to do about motherhood. I know I could have helped her. If
you want to get a picture of what women go through who can’t make a decision
about motherhood read this book. Or give this book to a friend who you know is
struggling to decide. We need more books like this that are fiction but real and relatable.
Profile Image for Sue.
Author 22 books56 followers
July 5, 2017
Does she want to have a baby? As her 37th birthday approaches that’s what Rose keeps asking herself. She loves children, but also loves her job. She and her husband don’t have much money, and he won’t commit until she’s sure one way or the other. He feels no pressure. He will still be fertile for many more years. Plus he’s not getting harassed by parents, co-workers and even strangers who want to know why she hasn’t reproduced yet. Nor is he the one to whom his mother gave a book of baby names for Christmas. In this enjoyable novel, Doucet hits all the familiar notes: nosy questions, friends who become obsessed with their babies, baby lust, and doubts about being a good mother. Women who don’t have children will nod in sympathy. This self-published book by a long-time Canadian journalist could have benefited from another run through the copy editor to deal with tense inconsistencies and add more life to the wooden dialogue. Much of the humor fell flat for me, but bravo to Doucet for offering a novel in which children are not guaranteed.
1 review1 follower
October 4, 2018
I read The Pregnant Pause from front to back during six hours on a plane while traveling back from Paris. I could not put it down! Funnily enough, this was my 37th birthday gift from my spouse (read the book, you'll understand ; ) Smart, relevant and well written, Jane has really captured the emotion, humor and polarity that women face when determining if, and when, motherhood is in their cards. I hope one day Jane blesses us with a sequel; I am dying to hear the next chapter for Rose!
14 reviews
May 21, 2024
A fun light read, more like a 3.5. I enjoyed following Rose’s journey to possible parenthood and meeting the characters in her life that influenced her thinking. Some of the characters introduced were fleeting and I would have liked to know more (ie Vincente). Glad I finished this book on Mother’s Day!
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1 review
July 1, 2017
The Pregnant Pause will speak to any woman - or anyone in her entourage - who at some point in her life has wondered whether to have children or not. Jane Doucet found the right words to express all hesitations, feelings and rationalities brought about by this fundamental life question. Rose's story is subtle, recognisable and funny all together! The Pregnant Pause is a very enjoyable read!
Profile Image for Cap.
19 reviews
February 16, 2021
this was amazing. a great read that i think everyone should read whether you have kids or not. not everything is black or white; and choosing to have kids is a huge decision in which many people take too lightly in my opinion. thank you for a this refreshing read!
Profile Image for Michelle Marie  McGrath.
134 reviews5 followers
April 11, 2020
This is such an important topic that doesn't enough airtime in fiction or movies. A woman without children is still portrayed in either a suspiciously negative or pityingly patronising light. Rose, the main character is in her late 30's and exploring whether or not she wants to have a child. Her husband is not keen and her friends seem to be totally immersed in motherhood. The story explores all of the stereotypes that still exist for women who get to a certain age in a relatable and sometimes humorous way. An enjoyable read for women who may be on the fence about motherhood.
Profile Image for Becky Davison.
128 reviews
November 14, 2020
I should have read this sooner! A wonderful read by local author @janedoucetauthor which I devoured in a day. This book may not resonate with all readers, but as a 41 yo female without children, it had some familiar situations. I was lucky to speak with the lovely Jane on the phone before diving in! Awesome read!
Profile Image for NoMo Book Club.
107 reviews13 followers
August 30, 2024
The Pregnant Pause introduces us to the central character of Rose, who works as a magazine editor in Toronto, as she tries to make sense of whether or not to have a baby. As she turns 37, she finds herself in the grey zone of not knowing whether she will, if she can or when she might - or even if she wants to. Married to a younger man in no rush to make his mind up, Rose is tormented by the calculations of weighing up when is the right time versus how much time she has left. An all-too familiar story for many 30-something women.

Circumstantial reasons for childlessness often get overlooked. But more women are childless due to life plans not working out than any other reason - an estimated 80% of cases. A partner who isn't keen to start, not having sufficient living space, not having quite enough money, needing to work - these are amongst the real and relatable issues that Rose (and many other women) run up against as their fertility window closes. Ambivalence is another reason that also doesn't get discussed often enough - Rose shows that sometimes it is hard to even figure out if we really want to be mothers or if we are just going along with societal expectations.

Jane Doucet has done a wonderful job of raising these reasons for potential childlessness within the storyline. Although, it is never entirely resolved if Rose actually wants to be a mother more than anything else, but is being forced into a compromised acceptance that it might not happen due to her unwilling partner, or if she could quite happily live with him childfree. But this indecision and lack of clarity is in itself true to life - the ambivalence that brings many women to finally end up without children doesn't have clear, set boundaries.
Profile Image for Teena in Toronto.
2,467 reviews79 followers
August 22, 2023
Rose and her husband, Jim, have been married for a few years and living in Toronto. Her 37th birthday is coming up (Jim is a couple years younger) and it seems like everyone around her is having babies. Since she's getting older, she knows she has to make a decision soon about whether she wants kids or not. Jim has made it clear that he doesn't want kids but she's not sure. She loves her sister's three kids and has seen how having kids has changed her friendships once her female friends have had kids. Throughout the story, she waffles back and forth about what the right decision for her and Jim.

This was a cute story and I liked it. The writing is in third person perspective with the focus on Rose. I've always known that I never wanted kids so it was interesting to read Rose's arguments to have or not have kids. The story takes place in Toronto so I knew the neighbourhoods Rose was talking about. I'm originally from Nova Scotia, as is Rose, so I knew the places where she was when she went "home" to visit her sister, Daisy. As a head's up, there is some swearing.

Blog review post: http://www.teenaintoronto.com/2023/08...
Profile Image for Megan.
1,088 reviews
May 31, 2024
This book is cute and well paced. This is Doucet’s first book and, having read her second book before this, I will say that she is growing as an author. The characters were somewhat one dimensional and the plot seemed a bit thin, that said it was a quick and light read. I really liked her second book so I will seek out the newest one.
1,479 reviews
August 18, 2023
The characters were annoying to read. DNF


******I received an ARC for my honest opinion from NetGalley.*********************
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