แค่ 1 นาทีมีคนชอบตลอดชีวิต

by Patrick King, จิรประภา ประคุณหังสิต (Translator)

คุณอยากเดินเข้าไปในห้องที่มีแต่คนแปลกหน้าและกลายเป็นเพื่อนของทุกคนทันทีหรือไม่ ทำไมคนบางคนจึงหาเพื่อนได้ทุกที่ ใครๆ ก็รักอยากเข้าหา เหล่านี้คือคำถามตั้งต้น

Genres: Nonfiction, Self Help, Psychology, Relationships, Personal Development

199 pages, Paperback

First published April 27, 2015

About the author

Patrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist, in other words, a dating, online dating, image, and communication and social skills coach based in San Francisco, California, and has been featured on numerous national publications such as Inc.com. He’s also a #1 Amazon best-selling dating and relationships author with the most popular online dating book on the market, and writes frequently on dating, love, sex, and relationships.

He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk, perfected and honed through three years of law school.

Reviews

[Lesa · Rating 3 out of 5]

I think I would like this book more if the advice didn’t feel as “manipulative “
I was listening to the audiobook in case some of my students who are on the autism spectrum needed tips…it would be good to have a few recommendations for audiobooks or podcasts for them.

There were some decent tips, but some unclear advice ( “don’t cross the line” — well, how will they know?)

[Rick Yvanovich · Rating 4 out of 5]

It's funny sometimes when you pick up a book on impulse and then find it resonating so well. I found my head nodding away as multiple points echoed what was covered in 3 training courses I'd attended and / or delivered in the recent past - motivation, delegation, communication each of which had covered elements of rapport which is what this book is mostly about.
In short, this was a good read

[Wes Martin · Rating 1 out of 5]

According to Amazon, Patrick has published 18 books in the last 12 months. I think when you're churning out books at that pace, especially when you're as young as Patrick is, your books naturally are going to be extremely shallow - "Connect Instantly" was no exception. Overall, the advice of the book seems geared towards in-the-moment interactions, but offers little in terms of the self-awareness, humility and character necessary to create and sustain meaningful relationships.

In short, if you have absolutely zero social skills, this book may give you a slight boost in making a decent impression on others, with 99% of that value coming solely from chapter 9. However, if you have a genuine desire to improve in your ability to relate to and connect with others - specifically in the age of "connection economy", this just isn't your book. Honestly, you'd be better off just watching an episode of "The Tonight Show with Jimmy Fallon" and emulating Jimmy's techniques for creating authentic relational equity.

[Crystal · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good tips, could be reduced even more

I am thinking that this material was created for a quick video, post, or worksheet turned into a book. It has terrific tips, but mostly spread out between long explanations. Condense most of the material into a few graphics, and you get the gist.

[Kevin S. Frye · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great read for self-improvement.

Anyone wanting to engage better, communicate more effectively and be more genuine should read this - more than once. Love the attitude and language used here. Thanks Patrick! I look forward to the next one.

[Becky's reads · Rating 4 out of 5]

It was one of the shorter books but still educative.

[Bryce Larsen · Rating 4 out of 5]

Quick, enjoyable read. Great insights on connecting with others.

[Danial · Rating 5 out of 5]

Patrick is a social scientist. His insight expands your knowledge, which in turn reduces your self limiting belief and makes you look at things differently. Thanks Patrick!

[Brian Smith · Rating 3 out of 5]

Quick read with some interesting ideas for starting conversations with patients, and more generally good to reflect on how I come across and what questions I ask

[Freeread · Rating 4 out of 5]

ความจริงใจ ดูดีภายนอก พูดจาเข้าหู คิดถึงคนอื่น ช่วยเหลือเล็กๆ

[Gabby · Rating 3 out of 5]

Meh

[Steph Ferguson · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a great book for someone looking to make friends. It contains lots of helpful tips on how to be more likeable, meaningful and connected with the people around you. I usually don't have problems myself with making friends. But I am guilty of doing some of the things that this book talks about. Like the book says if we were all honest with ourselves we do judge a person in the first 60 seconds of them entering into a room whether we mean to or not it just happens. And the goal of this book is to help you make the best of that 60 seconds, because unfortunately we don't always get a second chance. So I suggest taking a look and reading this book by Patrick King and maybe it will give you a better idea of what you can do to help yourself be better judged.

[Jeff Selles · Rating 3 out of 5]

Sorry, author did not connect instantly with me.

I started out reading and liking the author's style. I even highlighted some points. However, I feel he went over and over and over the same points like a gabby nuisance. I observed that it wasn't until exactly 20% of the book passed before the first technique was presented to improve likability (that's location 290). I didn't continue reading.