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Бих слушал родителите си, ако...млъкнеха за малко
Няма родител на тийнейджър, който да не се е питал: „Къде сбърках?“. Съвременните тийнейджъри несъмнено са своенравни и упорити. Наистина ли обаче са толкова неуправляеми, или просто ни липсва правилният подход?
Антъни Улф е клиничен психолог, през чийто кабинет са минали хиляди тийнейджъри и техните объркани родители. Според него тийнейджърството е болест, която просто трябва да се развие и премине. Родителите трябва да се въоръжат с търпение и да се опитат да облекчат симптомите. За щастие съществуват механизми за справяне с най-срещаните проблеми в общуването с тийнейджъри. В книгата има множество примери от живота, разиграни ситуации и диалози, които нагледно показват динамиката на общуването в съвременното семейство.
От книгата ще научите:
- какво да кажете и какво да премълчите, за да запазите диалога;
- как да не допускате емоциите да вземат връх (не забравяйте, че тийнейджърите са царете на драмата!);
- как да накарате децата си да свършат задълженията си;
- как да установите правила и да запазите контрола;
- как да се справяте с вечно променящите се настроения и негативизма на вашите тийнейджъри;
- да подобрите отношенията с децата си, без да отстъпвате пред исканията им (ура, възможно е!);
- как с разбиране и дисциплина да направлявате децата си през трудния период на съзряването.
Д-р Антъни Улф има докторска степен по клинична психология и от 25 години работи като детски психолог. Автор е на пет книги, посветени на възпитанието на децата и по-специално – на проблемите на тийнейджърите. Автор е на многобройни статии за известни детски списания, като „Фамили Съркъл“, „Парентс“, и списва месечна рубрика за „Чайлд Мегъзин“. Той е чест гост на национални телевизионни програми – като Фокс Морнинг Нюз, Тъдей Шоу, Си Би Ес Морнинг Нюз и др.
Д-р Антъни Улф е известен със своя достъпен и забавен начин на представяне на динамиката във взаимоотношенията родители - деца. Баща на две пораснали деца, Антъни Улф предлага практическа помощ за разрешаване на проблемите в общуването ни с нашите тийнейджъри.
Антъни Улф е клиничен психолог, през чийто кабинет са минали хиляди тийнейджъри и техните объркани родители. Според него тийнейджърството е болест, която просто трябва да се развие и премине. Родителите трябва да се въоръжат с търпение и да се опитат да облекчат симптомите. За щастие съществуват механизми за справяне с най-срещаните проблеми в общуването с тийнейджъри. В книгата има множество примери от живота, разиграни ситуации и диалози, които нагледно показват динамиката на общуването в съвременното семейство.
От книгата ще научите:
- какво да кажете и какво да премълчите, за да запазите диалога;
- как да не допускате емоциите да вземат връх (не забравяйте, че тийнейджърите са царете на драмата!);
- как да накарате децата си да свършат задълженията си;
- как да установите правила и да запазите контрола;
- как да се справяте с вечно променящите се настроения и негативизма на вашите тийнейджъри;
- да подобрите отношенията с децата си, без да отстъпвате пред исканията им (ура, възможно е!);
- как с разбиране и дисциплина да направлявате децата си през трудния период на съзряването.
Д-р Антъни Улф има докторска степен по клинична психология и от 25 години работи като детски психолог. Автор е на пет книги, посветени на възпитанието на децата и по-специално – на проблемите на тийнейджърите. Автор е на многобройни статии за известни детски списания, като „Фамили Съркъл“, „Парентс“, и списва месечна рубрика за „Чайлд Мегъзин“. Той е чест гост на национални телевизионни програми – като Фокс Морнинг Нюз, Тъдей Шоу, Си Би Ес Морнинг Нюз и др.
Д-р Антъни Улф е известен със своя достъпен и забавен начин на представяне на динамиката във взаимоотношенията родители - деца. Баща на две пораснали деца, Антъни Улф предлага практическа помощ за разрешаване на проблемите в общуването ни с нашите тийнейджъри.
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April 29, 2015
Probably the most helpful thing I've ever read. If I can follow the advice in this book I will survive the next four years. If you don't have a kid who acts like this, more power to you, but it it so nice to stop stressing constantly about whether "I should have showed her who's boss years ago" and if I don't do it now she will be permanently ruined. If he is right, which based on the results I've gotten so far I think he is, she will be fine and I can let that burden down at any rate.
Another one I'm going to buy - finally after floundering around for years I find three books in three months that actually tell me stuff I can use with my personal kid. This book is great - his basic point is that you don't need to fight every battle because by and large (with few exceptions, which he notes) your teen will turn out ok, they've already learned most everything from you, they just can't use it in your presence due to their basic allergy to parents and their insistent need to be their baby self when at home. And his examples of how teenagers "think" are hilarious, and support his argument that you CANNOT ARGUE WITH THEM AT ALL EVER.
Another one I'm going to buy - finally after floundering around for years I find three books in three months that actually tell me stuff I can use with my personal kid. This book is great - his basic point is that you don't need to fight every battle because by and large (with few exceptions, which he notes) your teen will turn out ok, they've already learned most everything from you, they just can't use it in your presence due to their basic allergy to parents and their insistent need to be their baby self when at home. And his examples of how teenagers "think" are hilarious, and support his argument that you CANNOT ARGUE WITH THEM AT ALL EVER.
January 18, 2022
Šī nez kāpēc kļuva par manu guļamo grāmatu - kā paņemu lasīt, tā miegs klāt. Šāda tipa grāmatas reti kad man lasās raiti un viegli, arī šī nebija izņēmums. Pavadīju pie tās ilgāku laiku, nekā tas būtu citkārt nepieciešams. Taču neskatoties uz to, saturs man iedeva pāris padomus, ko aizlikt aiz auss. Un interesantākais/ biedējošākais, ka dialogus, kurus var lasīt grāmatā, es redzu mājās, bet tikai komunicējot ar astoņgadnieku!!! Mans pusaudzis, protams, arī mēdz izcelties, taču daudz biežāk ar pusaudzību nodarbojas tieši jaunākais dēls.
Tas, ko es paņemu no šīs grāmatas ir būt atklātai, runāt arī par savu pieredzi, ļaut bērnam kaut ko noklusēt, ja viņš nav gatavs par to runāt un prast laikus pārtraukt domu apmaiņu, lai tā neizvērtos plašākā strīdā. Vecum vecā patiesība - gudrākais piekāpjas un tas nebūt nenozīmē, ka otrs ir uzvarējis!
Tas, ko es paņemu no šīs grāmatas ir būt atklātai, runāt arī par savu pieredzi, ļaut bērnam kaut ko noklusēt, ja viņš nav gatavs par to runāt un prast laikus pārtraukt domu apmaiņu, lai tā neizvērtos plašākā strīdā. Vecum vecā patiesība - gudrākais piekāpjas un tas nebūt nenozīmē, ka otrs ir uzvarējis!
March 15, 2016
A solid book on parent-teen communication, with a bit of slightly dated cultural content.
The only reason this book doesn't get four stars is because it contains a few eyebrow-raising statements that aren't exactly up to date. For starters, the assertion that girls don't really play video games is laughably absurd, especially in the wake of GamerGate. Slightly more troubling, however, is the short shrift given to gay teens. The chapter is woefully short, and focused almost solely on boys. Girls' queer sexuality is treated as a minor issue, as if it didn't happen very often, which is just not cool. The advice given boils down to "be accepting," which, if you're reading a book on parenting in the first place, you probably already are, or are willing to be.
The communication parts of the book, however, are top notch, and if you can forgive the author for his missteps, you can glean a lot of good techniques for actually communicating with teenagers instead of getting sucked into pointless arguments. After explaining why kids are mouthier these days, and why that's actually a good thing, Wolf devotes chapters to important things like knowing when to shut up, how to get your teens to do things they don't want to do, how to talk about sex/drugs/alcohol, and how to set rules/enforce consequences. Explanations of what phrases like "I hate you" and "It's not fair" actually mean, and how to respond to them without completely freaking out, are incredibly helpful. The main take-away here seems to be, "Don't start none, won't be none": no matter how much your teen tries to get you to engage in the argument, you just say what you want to see happen, make it clear that that's what you expect, and don't let anything they say in return derail you. You need to remember, at all times, that you're the grown-up, and make sure your parenting is clear, firm, consistent, and level-headed. Teenagers secretly want that, even if currently they hate you and think it's not fair.
The tone is what really make Wolf's advice shine. There were times, in the many examples he used, where I put the book down just to crack up for a minute, because the scenarios were so tongue-in-cheek hilarious or blown-up satirical. When you describe this book for people, make sure you indicate that it's slightly dated, and should be read mainly for the communication principles, but DO talk up the principles, as they are useful/helpful. This is also a really good book for parents who don't do well in impromptu confrontations and need to rehearse scenarios before they happen. Just make sure to supplement with something a little more recent, and/or for parents of LGBTQ+ teens if your RA interview reveals that this is needed/warranted.
The only reason this book doesn't get four stars is because it contains a few eyebrow-raising statements that aren't exactly up to date. For starters, the assertion that girls don't really play video games is laughably absurd, especially in the wake of GamerGate. Slightly more troubling, however, is the short shrift given to gay teens. The chapter is woefully short, and focused almost solely on boys. Girls' queer sexuality is treated as a minor issue, as if it didn't happen very often, which is just not cool. The advice given boils down to "be accepting," which, if you're reading a book on parenting in the first place, you probably already are, or are willing to be.
The communication parts of the book, however, are top notch, and if you can forgive the author for his missteps, you can glean a lot of good techniques for actually communicating with teenagers instead of getting sucked into pointless arguments. After explaining why kids are mouthier these days, and why that's actually a good thing, Wolf devotes chapters to important things like knowing when to shut up, how to get your teens to do things they don't want to do, how to talk about sex/drugs/alcohol, and how to set rules/enforce consequences. Explanations of what phrases like "I hate you" and "It's not fair" actually mean, and how to respond to them without completely freaking out, are incredibly helpful. The main take-away here seems to be, "Don't start none, won't be none": no matter how much your teen tries to get you to engage in the argument, you just say what you want to see happen, make it clear that that's what you expect, and don't let anything they say in return derail you. You need to remember, at all times, that you're the grown-up, and make sure your parenting is clear, firm, consistent, and level-headed. Teenagers secretly want that, even if currently they hate you and think it's not fair.
The tone is what really make Wolf's advice shine. There were times, in the many examples he used, where I put the book down just to crack up for a minute, because the scenarios were so tongue-in-cheek hilarious or blown-up satirical. When you describe this book for people, make sure you indicate that it's slightly dated, and should be read mainly for the communication principles, but DO talk up the principles, as they are useful/helpful. This is also a really good book for parents who don't do well in impromptu confrontations and need to rehearse scenarios before they happen. Just make sure to supplement with something a little more recent, and/or for parents of LGBTQ+ teens if your RA interview reveals that this is needed/warranted.
September 3, 2016
A great extension into teenagerisms from Wolf, whose model of "business parent" I am using with moderate success on my own kid. I hope my child does not grow up to be as foulmouthed and awful as the children in this book, but ... I'm not holding my breath.
May 22, 2019
My life partner and i are working on becoming foster parents, ideally to LGBTQA/GNC youth, which likely means teenagers. This terrifies me since i have so little experience with teens. Wolf's book has been really valuable in giving me what i hope are some practical skills and insight that will help parenting youth.
Biggest complaint: LGBTQA/GNC youth get about 2.5 pages, almost all of which is about gay boys. LBTQA teens are mostly or completely absent. This isn't really excusable, with as many challenges as queer and trans teens face. (The only excusable absence is asexual youth since ace identity wasn't widely known in 2011 -- and it's hardly well-known now.) If Wolf didn't want to delve into things any further, he could have offered some external resources for parents who wanted or needed to know more.
Still, a very excellent book -- at least for someone who isn't yet parenting teens.
Biggest complaint: LGBTQA/GNC youth get about 2.5 pages, almost all of which is about gay boys. LBTQA teens are mostly or completely absent. This isn't really excusable, with as many challenges as queer and trans teens face. (The only excusable absence is asexual youth since ace identity wasn't widely known in 2011 -- and it's hardly well-known now.) If Wolf didn't want to delve into things any further, he could have offered some external resources for parents who wanted or needed to know more.
Still, a very excellent book -- at least for someone who isn't yet parenting teens.
October 26, 2023
Ļoti praktiska un noderīga rokasgrāmata pusaudžu vecākiem, turklāt iesaku lasīt jau no bērna 8-9 gadu vecuma. Atšķirībā no citām līdzīga veida rokasgrāmatām, šajā nav banāļu frāžu, kādam jums, kā vecākam jābūt, bet ir ļoti praktiski piemēri ar dialogiem un vecāku ieteicamo rīcību/attieksmi konkrētās situācijās, lai vētraino ikdienu ar pusaudzi pārdzīvotu pēc iespējas mierīgāk (pavisam mierīgi nav iespējams, jo pusaudžiem ir "alerģija pret vecākiem", kas ir dabiska un pat ļoti nepieciešama attīstības fāze). Lasot, bieži šķita, ka autors ir noklausījies manas mājas sarunas, tāpēc kļuva mierīgāk ap sirdi, ka to piedzīvo miljoniem vecāku visā pasaulē :)
March 29, 2020
Pusaudžu gadi “salikti pa plauktiņiem”. Ļoti daudz dialogu un situāciju piemēru, pārskatītas visas iespējamās pusaudžu gadu problēmas, sākot ar pilnīgi normālo alerģiju pret vecākiem, beidzot ar apreibinošo vielu un moderno tehnoloģiju lietošanu.
Daudz noderīga šeit atradīs arī pedagogi, kas strādā ar pusaudžiem. Pamatdoma-pieņemt un piedot, uzklausīt un sadzirdēt. Un nepārmest.
Daudz noderīga šeit atradīs arī pedagogi, kas strādā ar pusaudžiem. Pamatdoma-pieņemt un piedot, uzklausīt un sadzirdēt. Un nepārmest.
February 6, 2022
Parenting teens requires a somewhat good sense of humor. I appreciated the practical sample teen-parent exchanges that Wolf lays out. If you are sensitive with a bit of strong language (swear words) this isn’t the book for you. He doesn’t paint a sunshine-unicorn portrait for parents, but does offer a hopeful and realistic view of what this season of parenting is like. I think parents tend to underestimate exactly who their children are/ how they behave when outside the watchful eye of parenting. As a teacher, I have seen this a lot, and I’m not naive to think that the parenting of my own children is the exception. This book offers some real perspective on that.
November 21, 2024
Cerams, atcerēšos šos padomus! Daudzi noder jau tagad. Nezinu, kā vērtēt šo grāmatu, tāpēc dodu 4. Laba. Vai izcila? Ja visi tie padomi nostrādās, tad jā. Vēl nezinu. :D
October 7, 2013
Lai gan man vēl nav sava pusaudža, katru lappusi tvēru ar lielu aizrautību. Grāmata, ko gribēšu pārlasīt. Ne visiem vecākiem patiks, jo vairāki padomi var tik vērtēti kā ieteikums "padoties", lai gan tā nebūt nav.
Par „mazo es” un „lielo es” – ne tikai pusaudži, bet arī pieaugušie mājās ir citādāki kā sabiedrībā. Mājās esam drošībā, varam atļauties atslābt un sagaidīt, ka beidzot varēsim parūpēties par sevi.
Universāls padoms par māku ieklausīties otrā un padomu sniegšanu -„Padomam ir jābūt kā māla figūriņai, kuru noliekat uz galda, - tas ir piedāvājums. To var ignorēt. To var nolamāt. To var mīdīt ar kājām, līdz tas pārvēršas putekļos. Bet to var arī pieņemt un norvērtēt. Ja sniedzat padomu, cilvēki ar to var rīkoties, kā paši vēlas. Nevajadzētu pieļaut, ka jūtaties aizvainots, ja jūsu padomu neizmanto – lai arī cik lielisks un labs tas būtu.”
Par „mazo es” un „lielo es” – ne tikai pusaudži, bet arī pieaugušie mājās ir citādāki kā sabiedrībā. Mājās esam drošībā, varam atļauties atslābt un sagaidīt, ka beidzot varēsim parūpēties par sevi.
Universāls padoms par māku ieklausīties otrā un padomu sniegšanu -„Padomam ir jābūt kā māla figūriņai, kuru noliekat uz galda, - tas ir piedāvājums. To var ignorēt. To var nolamāt. To var mīdīt ar kājām, līdz tas pārvēršas putekļos. Bet to var arī pieņemt un norvērtēt. Ja sniedzat padomu, cilvēki ar to var rīkoties, kā paši vēlas. Nevajadzētu pieļaut, ka jūtaties aizvainots, ja jūsu padomu neizmanto – lai arī cik lielisks un labs tas būtu.”
April 1, 2018
This was too funny, after skimming this quickly I grabbed my 15-year-old daughter and we each read out parts. We started with "I hate you" and ended up in tears laughing so hard. So much of this is spot on that each of our roles was perfect. There are some families that book will not appeal to or the methods would not work, not me. This was part how-to and part group therapy! Not for everyone but if the shoe fits....
July 17, 2023
Iesaku izlasīt visiem vecākiem, kam mājās ir pusaudzis vai topošais pusaudzis.
Galvenā tēze, kas vecākiem ir jāatceras ir tā ka "pusaudžu alerģija pret vecākiem" ir normāla un dabīga. Un par laimi tā ir pārejoša.
Grāmata ērti sadalīta par pa tēmām. Ja nevar visu izlasīt vienā piegājienā, tad var mierīgi izlasīt sākumu un tad pārlēkt pie aktuālās tēmas (komunikācija, atkarības, internets, alkohols, attieksme pret vecākiem utml.)
Galvenā tēze, kas vecākiem ir jāatceras ir tā ka "pusaudžu alerģija pret vecākiem" ir normāla un dabīga. Un par laimi tā ir pārejoša.
Grāmata ērti sadalīta par pa tēmām. Ja nevar visu izlasīt vienā piegājienā, tad var mierīgi izlasīt sākumu un tad pārlēkt pie aktuālās tēmas (komunikācija, atkarības, internets, alkohols, attieksme pret vecākiem utml.)
February 26, 2012
while i don't agree with everything the good doctor says, i do have to say that this book appeared at a very opportune time for us. his constant reminding to not let your teenager get your goat stuck in my head and helped me deal with some recent incidents without freaking out and/or blowing up.
we'll see how calm i can stay over the next few years... might have to re-read this a few times! :)
we'll see how calm i can stay over the next few years... might have to re-read this a few times! :)
January 29, 2013
Teenagers are fun. The author has some great strategies on what to say and NOT to say when dealing with your creativity verbal teenagers. I didn't agree with all of this philosophy and the teenagers in this book make mine seem like angels (especially in terms of language use) but some helpful methods.
November 9, 2021
Well i didn't read all of it, i just saw it in my parents shelve and read only what looked interesting to me. I actually cried, because i felt bad for the kids, because im a kid too. But the dialogues was pretty funny sometimes
October 2, 2013
Immediately changed my communications with my teen son. Compassionate, helpful, relevant advice. I live by his books!
July 21, 2025
Noderīgi un vērtīgi, tomēr dažkārt man likās, ka autors īsti neatbild līdz galam uz paša apskatītajiem tematiem un aprakstītajām iespējamajām diskusijām ar pusaudzi, vai apstājas pusceļā un nesniedz atbildi/padomu, kā tālāk risināt noteiktas situācijas un sarunas ar pusaudzi.
Domugraudi, padomi un citāti, kurus jo īpaši gribas atcerēties un neaizmirst:
Vecākiem jāatceras viena no svarīgākajām lietām - spēja apklust pareizajā brīdī.
Ja būsi labs un atsaucīgs vecāks, tavs bērns kļūs par labu un atsaucīgu pieaugušo. "Tas, ko būsiet sniedzis bērnam, kļūs par daļu no viņa."
"... Pusaudži nepievērš uzmanību vecāku eksistencei līdz brīdim, kad viņiem nepieciešama vecāku palīdzība. Citiem vārdiem sakot, viņi nedomā ne par vecāku jūtām, ne vajadzībām."
"Pastāvīga noslēgtība un izteikts negatīvisms atgrūž vecākus un tas sniedz pusaudzim drošības sajūtu."
" Paradoksāli, bet bieži vien lielāko gandarījumu vecākiem sniedz tieši tie bērni, kas pusaudžu gados sagādājuši raizes un satraukumu. Teicamas sekmes skolā un laba uzvedība nebūt negarantē lieliskas attiecības ar vecākiem turpmākajos gados. Jūsu bērns vienmēr paliks jūsu bērns. Vai viņš ir pelnījis mazāk mīlestības nekā čaklie un veiksmīgie?"
Ja bērns neatbilst gaidām, lasīt morāli drīkst tikai pāris reižu mēnesī, pārējā laikā sniedzot savu atbalstu un mīlestību!
Ja bērns jūtas nomākts vai nelaimīgs, svarīgas regulāras sarunas ar bērnu. "Esiet neatlaidīgs. Dažkārt bērns vispār neatbildēs, tomēr viņš būs uztvēris galveno domu: "Es par tevi uztraucos un rūpējos, un es vienmēr būšu tev līdzās." Šāda ziņa ir loti labs atbalsts."
""Interneta bērni" vairs nemāk izklaidēt paši sevi, proti, viņi nezina, kā aizpildīt laiku, ja izklaidi nepiedāvā kādi ārēji avoti."
"Visticamāk, ar jūsu pusaudzi viss būs kārtībā. Ja jūs viņu mīlat, arī viņš jūs mīlēs, pat ja šobrīd nekas par to neliecina. Gaidiet! Ar laiku viss notiks."
Domugraudi, padomi un citāti, kurus jo īpaši gribas atcerēties un neaizmirst:
Vecākiem jāatceras viena no svarīgākajām lietām - spēja apklust pareizajā brīdī.
Ja būsi labs un atsaucīgs vecāks, tavs bērns kļūs par labu un atsaucīgu pieaugušo. "Tas, ko būsiet sniedzis bērnam, kļūs par daļu no viņa."
"... Pusaudži nepievērš uzmanību vecāku eksistencei līdz brīdim, kad viņiem nepieciešama vecāku palīdzība. Citiem vārdiem sakot, viņi nedomā ne par vecāku jūtām, ne vajadzībām."
"Pastāvīga noslēgtība un izteikts negatīvisms atgrūž vecākus un tas sniedz pusaudzim drošības sajūtu."
" Paradoksāli, bet bieži vien lielāko gandarījumu vecākiem sniedz tieši tie bērni, kas pusaudžu gados sagādājuši raizes un satraukumu. Teicamas sekmes skolā un laba uzvedība nebūt negarantē lieliskas attiecības ar vecākiem turpmākajos gados. Jūsu bērns vienmēr paliks jūsu bērns. Vai viņš ir pelnījis mazāk mīlestības nekā čaklie un veiksmīgie?"
Ja bērns neatbilst gaidām, lasīt morāli drīkst tikai pāris reižu mēnesī, pārējā laikā sniedzot savu atbalstu un mīlestību!
Ja bērns jūtas nomākts vai nelaimīgs, svarīgas regulāras sarunas ar bērnu. "Esiet neatlaidīgs. Dažkārt bērns vispār neatbildēs, tomēr viņš būs uztvēris galveno domu: "Es par tevi uztraucos un rūpējos, un es vienmēr būšu tev līdzās." Šāda ziņa ir loti labs atbalsts."
""Interneta bērni" vairs nemāk izklaidēt paši sevi, proti, viņi nezina, kā aizpildīt laiku, ja izklaidi nepiedāvā kādi ārēji avoti."
"Visticamāk, ar jūsu pusaudzi viss būs kārtībā. Ja jūs viņu mīlat, arī viņš jūs mīlēs, pat ja šobrīd nekas par to neliecina. Gaidiet! Ar laiku viss notiks."
June 22, 2024
I bought this in anticipation of the coming of ages a few years ago. I read a chapter and thought, that sounds like solid common sense. I misjudged the coming of ages and now she is fourteen, am reading it like I'm clinging onto a life raft. Don't want to be bothering my friends and family with our nonsense, but need reassurance nonetheless. And here it is, solid guidance with little sketches in-between which sound harrowingly familiar. Very important read, whether you're dealing with atypical or neuro typical, all hormones, all neurotransmitters, all helpful support in parenting. Failing that, I'd highly recommend aunts and uncles, unfailingly. X
January 27, 2024
Varēja būt kompaktāka, varbūt tāpēc nelasījās viegli... Var arī just, ka nav rakstīta tagad. Piemēram, jaunieši šobrīd ir daudz advancētāki attiecībā uz ierobežojumu apiešanu tehnoloģijām, un , ja vien vecāks pats nav kiberdrošības speciālists, tad nekādi screen time nepalīdzēs. Bet patika autora reālistiskais skatījums, orientēts virzīt vecākus saprast, ka ir lietas, ko mēs varam mainīt un ir ko nevaram...
May 15, 2017
Great book on parenting teenagers. The layout of chapters and sections makes it very easy to either read cover to cover or jump around to the sections most pressing to you at the time. The sample conversations give real life examples to demonstrate a better way of responding to your teen in many situations.
Highly recommended to anyone that converses, or attempts to, with teens.
Highly recommended to anyone that converses, or attempts to, with teens.
April 26, 2018
Apmēram trešā daļa grāmatas bija saistoša un izmantojama ikdienā, pārējais neaizķērās, bet varbūt tas jau ir daudz, bet lai sāktu vairāk izmantot padomus, vajag piedomāt un pārlasīt.
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30% of the book was binding and usable in everyday life, the rest did not catch me, but maybe it's already a lot. To start using tips, you need to think more and read again.
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30% of the book was binding and usable in everyday life, the rest did not catch me, but maybe it's already a lot. To start using tips, you need to think more and read again.
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November 24, 2021Very sensible advice, clearly and thoughtfully presented.
The author repeated every point as dialogue between teen and parent, which was a bit overdone at times, e.g.
"... teens find everything about their parents aggravating.
'I find everything about my parents aggravating'
This allergy makes them not want to be wherever their parents are.
'I want to be wherever my parents aren't.'
"
etc.
The author repeated every point as dialogue between teen and parent, which was a bit overdone at times, e.g.
"... teens find everything about their parents aggravating.
'I find everything about my parents aggravating'
This allergy makes them not want to be wherever their parents are.
'I want to be wherever my parents aren't.'
"
etc.
April 5, 2024
Mans bērns vēl nav pusaudzis, bet, man šķiet, ka radās skaidrība, uz ko man jābūt gatavai. Lielākā daļa padomu likās pamatoti un saprotami, par dažu lietderību un izpildījumu šaubījos. Kopumā bija interesanti, jo īpaši tādēļ, ka tīņu uzvedību var novērot arī pieaugušo izpildījumā, kas liek domāt, ka daļa tās uzvedības, paliek un dzīvo mūsos.
October 23, 2021
Perfeito guia para pais de adolescentes! Impressionante como cita diálogos das mais diversas situações do nosso dia-a-dia. Dá dicas incríveis e esperança. E super agradável de ler e engraçado. Recomendo. Gostaria de ter lido antes.
December 10, 2021
This has become my parenting bible
I couldn’t be more happy with what I’ve learned from this book. It’s changed my approach to parenting and I’m seeing the results. I have purchased multiple copies to gift to my friends who are also struggling with raising a teen.
I couldn’t be more happy with what I’ve learned from this book. It’s changed my approach to parenting and I’m seeing the results. I have purchased multiple copies to gift to my friends who are also struggling with raising a teen.
July 31, 2018
Helped me see my teenager in a different light; gave me hope and a new perspective and taught me the power of disengaging.
December 5, 2019
Incredible! It made me laugh out loud. Also, very insightful and full of practical advice. Should be required reading for every parent of teens.
August 26, 2020
An entertaining parenting book full of practical advice for parenting teens. It is very dialogue based, and humorous dialogue too! I definitely recommend it.
December 13, 2020
Helpful and insightful advise to consider for a mom of a teenager!
July 15, 2021
“(..) pusaudži ienīst apskāvienus, bet tajā pašā laikā viņiem tie ļoti patīk. Patiesībā viņiem patīk nevis apskāvieni, bet gan ziņa, ko tā sniedz”.
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