He remembers it vividly. He writes you into the day, the hour, the min, when all such ticking’s of the clock froze, and in a muffled and concussive sound, he heard that his daughter was diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes. Everything changed. Time stopped. Then quickly it started again. But now in a hellish nightmare of the fright and finitude of human life. A father’s lament courses through these pages. She’s only seven years old. She’s just a little girl with big dreams, a life yet to be written on the countless blank pages we call, “day.” One would think, he’s a pastor, he’s built for this. He’s got all the right words, ready to be spoken at the precise moment they are needed to take all the pain and suffering away. But you would be wrong. Dead wrong. Like the suffering clerics of old, he wonders just as intently as to why, and for what purpose has this cruel disease inhabited the body of his daughter, torn his family’s heart out with a fierce and merciless grip, all under the guise of that mysterious yet often touted word, “allowance.”
So, this father takes to the pen to write his grievances to God. And as God has promised, He listens with all ears. He even listens to the cries of those He has yoked with His stole, put a staff in their hand to tend His sheep, and to love them with same reckless love. He reads between the lines, and though knowing exactly what to say, He waits for the perfect moment, the passage of time covered in the audibleness of His worded love, the movements and actions of His creatures, to show this brokenhearted father that He has and is piecing life back together perfectly in His Son.
So, this book isn’t just the sighing’s and groanings of an anxiety ridden father. It’s equally, if not more, the salving speech of God in His incarnational and visceral compassion to those whom life has taken an unexpected and tragic turn. This isn’t misery loves company. This is misery crying out for mercy, for hope. And getting it.
There is a refreshing simplicity yet fathomless depth to the begging of this father and his sessions with God. These sessions, like so many others, are not on therapist’s couch. They fall squarely on the crucible of life, unvarnished, void of human justification and it’s bumbling words, and chalk full of God’s justification in the midst of death by inches or numbers. A father’s honesty is met with God’s honest truth: His Son. And in this Son, God speaks, He nudges and hones in the ear of those deaf and consumed by the criminy of it all, that in the Son’s gifts life is wrestled from death. He uses a daughter to teach a father, and a father to teach a daughter the profound depth of grace and mercy. He uses a beloved sheep to crystalize the comforting and calming peace that the Gospel brings to harried and worn out shepherds. And He uses a family of God and their diabetic cross to teach the families of God, that they are holy people because they are surrounded by the holy things of God by which He obtained by the very cross He bore.
There are many “ah ha” moments in the book. Far too many to recount. But if you linger in this book, hearing this father’s lament, and even more hearing how this wise and compassionate God responds, you are likely to receive a peace you didn’t think possible. Where you once thought life was over, in the word God to this father, you are brought to the recognition that life is not merely a span of time, but rather a person. Life is the God who became flesh, and having died and rose again, you are dressed in His perfect body and are gifted eternity in the heavenly places. Given this gift, you might even find yourself rejoicing in your sufferings. And though in this broken life you see through a dark glass dimly, you nonetheless glimpse the works of God being displayed, even in a seven-year old girl diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes.
This book has changed me. As I read it, I inwardly noticed this happening, as my ears heard out loud the words my mouth was speaking. I am confident this is only the tip of the iceberg. So, as this father, his daughter, and their God talk, I remain an eager eavesdropper on their conversations. I invite you to pull up a chair next to me, a dram of whisky if you’re so inclined, and do some eavesdropping yourself. You won’t regret it.