The Christian's Guide to No Contact: How to End Your Relationships With Narcissistic, Psychopathic, and Abusive Family and Friends, and Still be a Good Christian

by Renee Pittelli

Does God really expect us to put up with a lifetime of abuse from the bullies, liars, manipulators, abusers and users we know, just because we were born into a toxic family or were deceived into befriending a narcissist who hid his true self from us at first? Christians often feel stuck in abusive relationships with narcissistic or psychopathic friends or family, either haunted by guilt or plagued by Holier-Than-Thous who think they have the right to judge us for finally getting away and staying away. In this book, you will learn about going No Contact from a biblical perspective. You will find effective, step-by-step strategies for deciding when it’s time to go No Contact, how to go No Contact, how to stay No Contact, how to deal with estranged friends and relatives, their Flying Monkeys, and even strangers who have the nerve to criticize you for going No Contact, how to resist attempts to Hoover you back in, and how to begin recovering from the loss of your relationship and healing from your abuse. Loaded with scriptural references that will support you and may even surprise you, The Christian’s Guide to No Contact will teach you that the Lord does not want his children to be in bondage to the wicked, and will help you to end unhealthy friendships and family relationships while staying true to what the Bible teaches. You will find everything a Christian needs to know about No Contact in one enlightening and accessible resource.

Genres: Self Help

219 pages, Kindle Edition

Published June 28, 2017

About the author

Sister Renee Pittelli is a married mother of two grown sons, and co-founder of Luke 17:3 Ministries.

Reviews

[Susan Anderson Misey · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was EXACTLY what I needed to read. Pittelli provides a thorough examination of what it is like to be in the family with a manipulative narcissist (or other types of abusers). She further provides a Bible-based argument for walking away--including that old tricky one about how Christians are supposed to forgive everyone or else they can't call themselves Christians. One chapter provides 102 questions that will help you confirm that you're not crazy--you are being abused and you should end the relationship w/your family member. You will learn about common tactics manipulators use to keep you in their service and how to move on now and in the future. It even goes into future concerns about sickness, death, and what you might owe your family member. As the title suggests, there's plenty here on how to go No Contact, which the author wholeheartedly recommends and supports with Scripture. If you're a Christian who believes you must always keep the family in tact no matter what a member does to you--if you're a Christian who believes you must walk on eggshells the rest of your life and suffer abuse, then this book is for you. It is chock full of relevant Bible teaching and passages. What a comfort!

[Melissa Bishop · Rating 5 out of 5]

It's okay for Christians to walk away from their wicked families

Finally a Christian book backed by scripture that tells the truth about forgiveness, and if it is okay for hristians to walk away from wicked, evil, abusive family? Spoiler alert... it IS okay to walk away from unrepentant, repeat abusers who have no intention of changing. One of the most profound things I read was that the Bible is our instruction as Christians on how to live harmoniously with OTHER Christians... NOT the wicked. The Bible has very specific instructions on how the wicked are to be dealt with by Christians. Guess what? We have been doing it wrong, and teaching the wrong things about; forgiveness, the wicked, abusers, our identity in Christ and what it means to be honorable, loving Christians. I am so thankful for Sister Renee's book. I hope you will read it even if you have never been abused. Why? You will encounter people who have been abused and might need the Information you'll read in this book. Being able to give good, rounded advice instead of repeating misinterpreted scripture will make you a better friend and Christian.

[Jackie Burlingame · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book offers a unique perspective on how to deal with difficult people from a biblical viewpoint. Peppered with scripture, Pittelli holds the reader's hand and guides through her personal journey from abusive relationships into freedom and joy. There are many concrete examples and practical advice, while not being judgey about whichever choice the reader makes. I found this book refreshing, and it was easy to take what applies and leave the rest to other readers.

[Kiki · Rating 5 out of 5]

You actually don't need to be a Christian to enjoy that book. I skipped all the scripture for example and still enjoyed it tremendously. It's probably the best book on the subject from someone who actually went no contact and who has researched on the subject a lot. She absolutely covers everything from coming from an abusive family to cutting ties. She also gives tips on how to cope with the loss of the narcissists and explain how the grieving process works. A must read!

[Tracy Lawhorn · Rating 5 out of 5]

Clarifying

So many things that she explains helped me to understand that I am not crazy. Also, that others who are perfectly normal have gone through this with a similar appetite for peace.

[Jami · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very helpful with great biblical perspective.

Very helpful with great biblical perspective. I recommend for anyone who's struggling in a similar situation. Filled with encouragement through scripture as well.

[Kristina Tilley · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book helped both me and my husband understand that as Christians it is ok for us to love toxic relatives from a distance. We no longer feel guilty for having to avoid contact with them.

[Ashley Baker · Rating 3 out of 5]

Is this well written? No. Is it helpful? Absolutely Yes!

[Sarah · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is an extremely helpful book if you need to set a no-contact boundary, or if you have already set one. I have several in place, and this book helps me stand my ground. The teaching is solidly based on scripture. I am thankful the author speaks the truth in love as she advocates for abuse victims like myself.

[HelenA33 · Rating 3 out of 5]

Whilst I am not entirely sure that I agree with all of the ideas in this book, there is no doubt that the scriptures the author quotes are extremely helpful when dealing with a toxic relative who has caused a lifetime of emotional manipulation.

[Tammy · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very good, thought provoking book. Reiterated what I already knew, and gave some Godly counsel as well. Good to know a Christian perspective on some of my struggles.

[Anne Jisca · Rating 5 out of 5]

If you’re a christian and need a Bible-based book for going No Contact with toxic folks, this is the book for you.