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Better Bondage for Every Body
Love getting tied up for fun? Just curious? This extraordinary celebration of rope bondage combines glorious full-color photos, groundbreaking research, and tips found nowhere else in one must-read book. You’ll get insightful writings by bondage experts worldwide on topics like pain processing, anatomy, and rope relationships—plus the stretching warm-up you’ve been waiting for. And if you’re a rope bottom who’s curvy, male, 40+, or gender-nonconforming, or you have a special physical condition like fibromyalgia, you’ll get helpful ideas tailored just for you, gathered from bondage lovers spanning the globe.
Those who love to tie haven’t been left out, either! You’ll learn ties for partners with limited range of motion, along with tips for guerrilla bondage (aka rope bombing) from one of its pioneers. And an entire chapter is devoted to self-tying, written by a professional international performer and longtime instructor.
As for that groundbreaking research, put your thinking cap on. For the first time publicly, a 15-year neuroscientist shares his insights developed over four years—including through his own case studies—as to why rope bondage makes us feel as amazing as it does.
Inspirational essays and a list of resources round out this remarkable volume, which comes on the heels of the popular Little Guide to Getting Tied Up. A heartfelt tribute to community and the beauty of rope bondage lovers in all their diversity, it belongs in the libraries of rope bondage lovers everywhere.
Those who love to tie haven’t been left out, either! You’ll learn ties for partners with limited range of motion, along with tips for guerrilla bondage (aka rope bombing) from one of its pioneers. And an entire chapter is devoted to self-tying, written by a professional international performer and longtime instructor.
As for that groundbreaking research, put your thinking cap on. For the first time publicly, a 15-year neuroscientist shares his insights developed over four years—including through his own case studies—as to why rope bondage makes us feel as amazing as it does.
Inspirational essays and a list of resources round out this remarkable volume, which comes on the heels of the popular Little Guide to Getting Tied Up. A heartfelt tribute to community and the beauty of rope bondage lovers in all their diversity, it belongs in the libraries of rope bondage lovers everywhere.
206 pages, Paperback
Published May 30, 2017
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Evie Vane
4 books50 followersEvie Vane is a rope performer, a bondage model, and an educator who has worked with some of the top rope artists worldwide. In addition to teaching and writing about bondage bottoming, Evie co-hosts bondage parties and other events in San Francisco. Find out more at RopeBottoming.com and RealLife50ShadesofGrey.com.
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April 27, 2018I just read the chapters on curvy bodies and on gender non-conforming bodies. The curvy bodies chapter was very thorough and useful. The gender non-conforming bodies chapter had few trans men and didn't have what I was looking for in terms of adapting chest harnesses for AFAB folks who do not want things accentuated.
Not rating the book, but done with it for now. Will come back to it later, probably. I'm very glad it exists.
Not rating the book, but done with it for now. Will come back to it later, probably. I'm very glad it exists.
July 6, 2017
I found this book to be different from other rope books. It's not a "how-to" for knots and patterns in rope. Many do this stuff for the "head space" and the lasting effects being tied has on our lives and relationships. The chapter on the mental and emotional effects of being tied resonated with me the most.
However, I suppose the overarching message of the book was one of inclusion: bondage for "every body". There's a chapter on larger folks, a chapter on trans/non-binary folks, and with models of all ages, colors, shapes, and sizes throughout.
The book starts with the usual safety overview, but goes much deeper than I've seen. There's a second chapter on the medical and pain side. All these chapters were written by people that are medically or psychologically trained, but that are also practicing kinksters.
Read this book if you want to understand the appeal of rope bottoming, want to do it safely, and want to understand WHY you want to do it ALL THE TIME! :-)
However, I suppose the overarching message of the book was one of inclusion: bondage for "every body". There's a chapter on larger folks, a chapter on trans/non-binary folks, and with models of all ages, colors, shapes, and sizes throughout.
The book starts with the usual safety overview, but goes much deeper than I've seen. There's a second chapter on the medical and pain side. All these chapters were written by people that are medically or psychologically trained, but that are also practicing kinksters.
Read this book if you want to understand the appeal of rope bottoming, want to do it safely, and want to understand WHY you want to do it ALL THE TIME! :-)
January 21, 2018
It's a great book. It touches on so many subjects in such a good way, I'm just left feeling amazed.
However, there is a lot of talk about flexibility and people reporting that they are scared of loosing their flexibility. And even though there are chapters that tell you that you can ropebottom with every body type etc etc, it still made me a little self-conscious. But that may just be me, because this was always a bit of a weak point of mine. I'd still recommend this book absolutely to everyone interested in ropeplay.
However, there is a lot of talk about flexibility and people reporting that they are scared of loosing their flexibility. And even though there are chapters that tell you that you can ropebottom with every body type etc etc, it still made me a little self-conscious. But that may just be me, because this was always a bit of a weak point of mine. I'd still recommend this book absolutely to everyone interested in ropeplay.
June 15, 2019
Excellent - compassionate & comprehensive, encompassing the science, psychology, and practical matters of rope. Inclusive and diverse in the use of the photo models as well as the various experienced authorities. A must have reference.
July 31, 2020
An essential read for bottoms
This book is so good and informative. It is never boring though it is sometimes technical. I’ve been trying to talk other bunnies into reading it.
My only regret was getting it as an ebook. It is such a beautiful book that I wish I had a physical copy. It is way more in-depth then The Little Guide to Getting Tied Up but I still recommend reading both.
This book is targeted at bottoms and switches but it is a good read for tops too. Especially the chapters on dealing with special conditions, limited range of motion etc.
This book is so good and informative. It is never boring though it is sometimes technical. I’ve been trying to talk other bunnies into reading it.
My only regret was getting it as an ebook. It is such a beautiful book that I wish I had a physical copy. It is way more in-depth then The Little Guide to Getting Tied Up but I still recommend reading both.
This book is targeted at bottoms and switches but it is a good read for tops too. Especially the chapters on dealing with special conditions, limited range of motion etc.
January 8, 2025
Great resource for all the adjacent stuff!
I don't know that I can say much that other folks haven't already said, but this is definitely a helpful book for anyone who is looking for information on improving their rope journey, especially if they are interested in expanding the view outside the "typical" practice.
Beware that you may come out of the book feeling a little raw if you are one of the "atypical" types of rope bottoms frequently featured in thr book, because while the book does give practical information about bondage for all bodies, it can be a little disheartening to read about just how upholl the journey is for so many. Overall, though, the message is positive and grounded in reality- a great resource.
I don't know that I can say much that other folks haven't already said, but this is definitely a helpful book for anyone who is looking for information on improving their rope journey, especially if they are interested in expanding the view outside the "typical" practice.
Beware that you may come out of the book feeling a little raw if you are one of the "atypical" types of rope bottoms frequently featured in thr book, because while the book does give practical information about bondage for all bodies, it can be a little disheartening to read about just how upholl the journey is for so many. Overall, though, the message is positive and grounded in reality- a great resource.
March 19, 2022
Ethical. Inclusive. Easy to follow guide on how to navigate the world of bondage. Covers much of the theory and FAQ but I recommend applying it in a hands-on experience to truly understand the deep dive into intense intimacy, pain, pleasure and rollercoaster of emotions that rope tie puts you through.
July 12, 2020
An inclusive look at bottoming in bondage, paying special attention to different body types, age, gender, physical conditions...as well as looking at safety basics, self-tying techniques, and overall beginning knowledge to the community.
February 28, 2024
Great intro to ropeplay, and definitely the most inclusive one I've come across. The section about nerves is so important, and the visual guide to them was inspired. If you only get one book, make it this one.
November 16, 2025
Pretty good overview! More of a discussion about the physical, emotional and psychological sides of rope bottoming, and inclusion in the community than a "how to" guide.
March 31, 2019
An absolutely gorgeous book that covers a topic few, if any, other books address: safe and specific bondage for specific body types and restrictions. While I think it would be even better if I was in a situation to have the print copy, the images in the electronic version are clear and well produced. The text is instructive and easy to follow.
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