The Lord tells us that "the worth of souls is great" in His sight (Doctrine and Covenants 18:10). But how can we know that is true? How can we gain a greater sense of the worth of every soul—including our own?
In his latest book, Elder David A. Bednar offers a compelling look at a pattern the Lord uses to bless His people: He works with us on an individual basis, one by one. Demonstrating that pattern as it occurs throughout the scriptures, in the lives of many Church leaders, and in his own ministry, Elder Bednar opens our hearts to the Lord's love for us. He teaches that by ministering as the Savior does, one by one, we can be more powerful instruments in His hands to do His work.
From a "guided tour" through scriptural illustrations to an array of touching personal accounts, this important new book offers hope and guidance for anyone who has ever wondered, "Do I matter to the Lord?"
David A. Bednar was ordained and set apart as a member of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints on October 7, 2004.
Bednar was born on 15 June 1952, in Oakland, California. His mother came from a long line of Latter-day Saints, but Bednar's father did not join the church until Bednar was in his late twenties. He served as a full-time missionary in Southern Germany and then attended Brigham Young University, where he received a Bachelor of Arts degree in communication in 1976 and a Master of Arts degree in organizational communication in 1977. He then received a Doctorate in organizational behavior from Purdue University in 1980.
From 1980 to 1984, Bednar was the assistant professor of management in the Sam M. Walton College of Business (then College of Business Administration) at the University of Arkansas in Fayetteville, Arkansas. He became assistant professor of management at Texas Tech University from 1984 to 1986. He then moved back to the University of Arkansas as the Associate Dean for Graduate Studies in the Sam M. Walton College of Business from 1987 to 1992 and was then the director of the Management Decision-Making Lab from 1992 to 1997. In 1994, he was recognized as the outstanding teacher at the University of Arkansas and received the Burlington Northern Foundation Award for Excellence in Teaching. He has twice been the recipient of the Outstanding Teacher Award in the College of Business Administration.
Bednar then served as the president of Ricks College/Brigham Young University–Idaho from 1997 to 2004 in Rexburg, Idaho. There, he oversaw and managed the transition of the school from, what was at the time, the largest private junior college in the United States, Ricks College, to a four year university, Brigham Young University-Idaho. Bednar married Susan Kae Robinson in the Salt Lake Temple on 20 March 1975. They are the parents of three sons.
His publications have appeared in Labor and Industrial Relations Review, Academy of Management Review, Human Relations, Quality Progress, Quality Management Journal, Cornell Research Quarterly, National Productivity Review, The Journal of Retail Banking Services, The Journal of Business Communication, The Journal of Business Education, and other journals.
Great thoughts about each person being 'Great in the eyes of God'. The title, One by One, implies that every single person is important to God. That each soul has infinite worth. I listened to this audiobook a couple days ago and found that I couldn't turn it off or set it down. It was Sunday morning as I was getting read for church, our meeting time changed from 9 am to 1 pm so I had plenty of time to sit and ponder while everyone in my house was getting ready. As I was listening, several of my family members joined in and we would make comments about our thoughts from the stories Elder Bednar shared and his experiences. We loved it!
This book reminded me a lot of Thomas S. Monson's book, Consider the Blessings. Very similar for sure but from Elder Bednar's perspective instead. He did share a couple different experiences about President Monson which I found to be very touching, especially since his recent death. I loved how he showed that the Lord is mindful of each of His children. There are no coincidences. Talking about Christ as the good Shepherd, leaving his flock to seek for the one, he compares each of us to being the one. We all have needs and Heavenly Father is aware of those needs. He guides us and places us in those moments to help each other.
I love that knowledge that we aren't alone and that we are watched over and known, all that we feel, suffer, rejoice over, everything is known to God. The peace and comfort that brings is beautiful.
This book was a pretty fast one to listen to. I usually put my audiobook speed at the highest pace because I can read it faster than the narration so I listened to it in half the time, which was about 3-4 hours I believe. Definitely a good one to share with family and friends and remember that we have a great potential to do good in others lives by being open to inspiration and following those promptings.
Content: Religious
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Learned so much from this brief but powerful book. Contains many insights into faith, ministering, tender mercies, and how to come unto Christ more effectively each day.
Being able to really look at yourself and change is a powerful gift we are given on this earth but man it's hard. Soul searching has been a thing with me over the past couple years and when I pick up a new book I always look up and ask my wise Heavenly Father what it is I need to learn. Well I got taught some humbling things for myself threw this book. I love the way Bednar speaks and teaches and knew this would be a good one for me. I loved the many many examples of Christ and other prophets and apostles who have helped the One. I loved the reminder to me that helping one person is a very good and amazing thing, we always want to look out side and help the masses when looking in and just around us is normally all we are asked to do. I was in church years ago and we read the scripture "If ye should labor all your days and bring but one soul unto me, how great will be your joy" I clearly remember the spirit flooding me with the feeling I was the one person Heavenly Father wanted me to get back to Heaven. He wanted me to work on me and my testimony and be very solid in my foundation before I searched for anyone else to convert. I was 35 I thought I had a strong testimony:} I'm so glad I took that feeling and ran with it and worked on my testimony because it has spread to all my family. Who knew helping me would help so many. I feel like now as I read this it is time to share what I know:} I listened to this on CD and it was Elder Beldnar.
I’ve never been very “fatalistic” about people I encounter. What Elder Bednar accomplished in this book was to challenge me to search my feelings a little more often and consider how I might help any person I meet. Bit of a life altering viewpoint and I like the message.
Elder Bednar’s clear, organized writing ties together many of his previous conference talks to emphasize an important principle we each must understand: the worth of the individual soul. There were plenty of scriptural examples from the New Testament and the Book of Mormon, stories from his service in church leadership, and suggestions as to how we might better apply this principle in our own lives (as well as questions to consider so that we might receive our own revelation regarding the content). I taught a lesson at Church today, and this principle helped me set aside my nerves as I considered the students individually; as we minister one by one, we love and serve each other better.
“God does not have a list of favorites to which we must hope our names will someday be added. He does not limit ‘the chosen’ to a restricted few. Rather, it is our hearts and our aspirations and our obedience that definitively determine whether we are counted among God’s creation.” (p. 139)
The worth of souls is great in the sight of God. The Lord tailors our experiences because He knows who we are and He knows what we need. God is in the details of our lives.
Love, love, love this book! I listened to this on CD so it's possible a few of my quotes are not absolutely word for word correct, but I certainly tried to get them written down accurately.
I love how Elder Bednar goes through a number of scriptural stories and at the end of each he says that it is an example of Christ ministering to the one because the worth of souls is great in the sight of God. I love the personal examples he shares of how God is aware of each of us and he sends tender mercies to show His love and to minister to each of us. As Elder Bednar repeats, "I believe that in the work of the Lord there are no coincidences."
I love this: "The Savior knows, is concerned about and loves each one of us as individuals. Each one of us as a disciple has a responsibility to minister to others and should recognize that what we do truly matters even if what we do may seem small or inconsequential."
He shares this quote from Elder Maxwell: "The same God that placed that star in a precise orbit millenia before it appeared over Bethlehem in celebration of the birth of the Babe has given at least equal attention to placement of each of us is precise human orbits so that we may, if we will, illuminate the landscape of our individual lives, so that our light may not only lead others but warm them as well."
He said something like we often testify of Christ, but perhaps the more important question is do we believe what we know.
Elder Bednar shares this quote from Elder Ballard: "Brothers and sisters, I believe that if we could truly understand the Atonement of the Lord Jesus Christ, we would realize how precious is one son or daughter of God. I believe our Heavenly Father’s everlasting purpose for His children is generally achieved by the small and simple things we do for one another. At the heart of the English word atonement is the word one. If all mankind understood this, there would never be anyone with whom we would not be concerned, regardless of age, race, gender, religion, or social or economic standing. We would strive to emulate the Savior and would never be unkind, indifferent, disrespectful, or insensitive to others."
He also said that the Lord often depends on us to deliver his tender mercies to others. Sometimes we are aware of the role that we are playing in accomplishing God's work but many times, perhaps even most, we are not.
Elder Bednar encouraged us to pray before sacrament meeting to have the spiritual eyes to see who has a need. Then watch and listen as you are at church to the spiritual nudges you receive. Respond promptly to these nudges. Talk with or phone the person who is on your mind.
Finally, he shared an experience that Elder L. Tom Perry shared in a BYU devotional. His story shows the impact that one faithful member can have on future generations. Gustavus Adolphus Perry was the first member of his family to join the church. In 1997, the Perry family was holding a celebration to honor the 200th birthday of Gustavus. Elder Perry’s brother did extensive research to identify descendants of Gustavus. 200 years have passed since his birth…how many descendants do you think they found? His brother found over 10,000 descendants! That’s enough to create 3 stakes! That’s the potential impact of one person choosing to accept the gospel or one person choosing to come back into activity or one person working to become converted.
I want to do a better job of reaching out to the one and being an instrument in the Lord's hand to minister one by one.
I listened to most of the book on the way to and from the temple - about 2.5 hours total. So it's a short one.
This book helped me see the Lord's hand more clearly in my own life and increased my desire to watch for opportunities to lift, serve, and strengthen others. I shed a few tears of humble gratitude to think of God's mercy in reaching out to each individual.
I preferred chapters 1 and 5 where he gives examples from his own life and ministry of seeming-coincidences that show God's love for individuals in small and simple ways. They are a Monson-esque affirmation of how Jesus guides His apostles and average disciples to strengthen others. Chapters 2 and 3 are a serious of quotations from the New Testament and Book of Mormon (respectively) about Jesus ministering to individuals. There is no commentary per se other than the repeated refrain that this is evidence of God reaching out to the one because the worth of souls is great. Chapter 4 is a mix of the two styles, half quotations from the Doctrine and Covenants, and half instruction on how ministering one by one happens in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints today. It includes much of his recent General Conference address on how missionaries are called to serve and assigned to an area, and a reference to his address on tender mercies (but not as much as I expected).
A beautiful message about how the Savior, Heavenly Father, and the gospel ordinances are personal. I loved Bednar's personal experiences (and those of others) about being led to "the one" as he travels the world, or even while running errands ("you are the reason I am here"). Reading this book has inspired me to seek to do the same.
--"Was it merely a coincidence that this woman and I ended up seated next to each other on that flight? Or was this episode divinely orchestrated by a loving Redeemer who knew and responded to the apprehensions and fears of a faithful woman, a one? I believe that in the work of the Lord there is no such thing as a coincidence. The worth of souls is great in the sight of God."
--Take time at the end of the day to ponder how the hand of God touched your life, or your family's life, that day. God will help you see evidence of how He has reached out individually. --Neal A. Maxwell, "So it is, amid the vastness of His creations, God’s personal shaping influence is felt in the details of our lives—not only in the details of the galaxies and molecules but, much more importantly, in the details of our own lives...It is marvelous that He would attend to us so personally in the midst of those cosmic duties."
I love listening to him speak, reading his book was no different!! He is a great example and a great teacher.
I absolutely love how he ends each chapter with a "Questions to Consider" section where he asks questions that require seeking, pondering, and even prayer to answer and a section for our own scripture resources or questions and thoughts. It's pure genius, every teaching book should have this!
I love his stories and examples how each of us are a "one" to God. God knows and loves each one of us individually and knows what each one of us need to grow and progress.
Elder Bednar constantly reminds the reader that "The worth of souls is great in the sight of God". Don't we all need this reminder at times?!?
“The life and ministry of the Lord Jesus Christ are the greatest examples of the principle of one by one” “He was surrounded by multitudes and spoke to thousands, yet He always had concern for the one.” “ I believe in the work of the Lord there is no such thing as a coincidence.” “On a future day, every knee shall bow and every tongue confess that Jesus is the Christ. And on that blessed day, we will know He knows each of us by name. He knows each of us as a one-because the worth of souls is great in the sight of God.”
Recommended by husband. This was just the reminder I needed that when doing the work of God there is no such thing as coincidences and that the worth of souls is great in the eyes of God. The Savior sees us as a “one” we need to pray to have eyes to see each other the same way. I especially liked the last chapter. The ending made me cry.
Elder M. Russell Ballard taught: “Sadly, in today’s world, a person’s importance is often judged by the size of the audience before which he or she performs. That is how media and sports programs are rated, how corporate prominence is sometimes determined, and often how governmental rank is obtained. That may be why roles such as father, mother, and missionary seldom receive standing ovations. Fathers, mothers, and missionaries ‘play’ before very small audiences. Yet, in the eyes of the Lord, there may be only one size of audience that is of lasting importance—and that is just one, each one, you and me, and each one of the children of God. The irony of the Atonement is that it is infinite and eternal, yet it is applied individually, one person at a time”
“To be “encircled about eternally in the arms of his love” (2 Nephi 1:15) will be a real and not a virtual experience. On a future day, every knee shall bow and every tongue confess that Jesus is the Christ. And on that blessed day, we will know He knows each of us by name. He knows each of us as a one—because the worth of souls is great in the sight of God.”
Great book. I liked the categories for each of the chapters and how they were divided. The book was well thought out and I think could reach anyone in their own personal Christlike ministry to reach out to others and help them to feel of the Savior's love for them through others. This is an especially good book to read as someone in a church calling now where I can apply the skills that Elder David Bednar suggests and see some of the results that can happen. I took my time reading it so that I could soak it in and have time to really consider what was in the book. I recommend reading it slowly.
Long ago I heard the idea that if a reader gained only one good point - a thought, an idea, from reading a book, it would be worth the time spent. I would apply that adage to this book. Elder Bednar makes only one point but he does it over and over and over again using personal and scriptural stories. After reading the first chapter the reader knows the whole point of the book. After reading the last chapter, the reader is more likely to remember that point.
Such an amazing book! I think with all the changes happening in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints every one should read this! It reminds us that we are not here to help the church, but rather, the individuals on an individual level!
I really enjoyed the insights in this book. I would read it again. It's a wonderful reminder why we matter and our purpose in life, that we are loved and known, and that our smallest actions are meaningful.
Very quick read. Love the topic. Written in true Bednarian fashion, so lots of repetition for emphasis. The most interesting parts to me were the personal experiences told in the last quarter of the book, so I wish there had been more of those.
This is hands down one of my favorite church books I've read. I loved it and felt inspired in reaching out to everyone around me & within my callings. "Because the worth of souls is great in the sight of God"
This was a little slow and too scriptural for me at times. But I LOVED the stories. And feeling very inspired to look outside of myself and pray for guidance to see the “one” each day that could benefit from an act of love, service, or kind words.
A friend recommended this to me and I ended up enjoying it far more than I thought I would. Four stars, because I've liked other books on the topic more, but this was still wonderful.
Excellent book on the Christian topic of ministering to the one based upon the teachings and examples of Jesus Christ. Simple, accessible, and powerful.
This book came into my life at the perfect time for me and gave me so much comfort (particularly one line at the end went straight to my heart). I echo the words of Elder Bednar: I believe that in the work of the Lord there are no coincidences. Because the worth of souls is great in the sight of God.