Ebeveynlerle Sohbet

by D.W. Winnicott, Neşe Hatiboğlu (Translator), Nilüfer Erdem (Editor)

The respected child psychologist presents a collection of insightful essays full of useful advice on how to understand the parent-infant process, offering liberating and reassuring guidance on helping children succeed.
"[Winnicott's] brilliant insights are based on a deep understanding of the parent-infant processes coupled with firm conviction that most parents want desperately to do well by their children."--T. Berry Brazelton, M.D.
"Here was a man who could be 'popular,' completely accessible, without every ceasing to be profound; a man who ranged audaciously far and wide in the realms of thought, but who always came back to home base, the psychology of the child. . . . [His] ideas, too 'premature' to be fully understood in his lifetime, have proved crucial in the exciting coming together of psychoanalysis and developmental biology that is occurring today."--Oliver Sacks, M.D.
"Winnicott helped to bridge the gap for me between pediatrics and the dynamics of child development."--Benjamin Spock, M.D.
"The gentleman wrote powerfully, and with sensitivity, intelligence, and the fruits of many years of experience."--Burton White, Ph.D.
"What I find most enjoyable is [Winnicott's] enthusiastic, optimistic tone, his appreciation of a mother's natural talents, and the real pleasure he finds available to parents in rearing their young."--Marshall Klaus, M.D.

Introduction by T. Berry Brazelton, M.D.

Genres: Parenting, Nonfiction, Psychology, Education, Childrens, Psychoanalysis

128 pages, Paperback

First published March 1, 1993

About the author

Donald Woods Winnicott was an English pediatrician, psychiatrist, sociologist and psychoanalyst.

Reviews

[Sergio Gomes]

Talking to parents is part of a radio program for the BBC in London in the 50s in which Winnicott answer questions from parents about the health and development of their children.

[Şengül · Rating 4 out of 5]

Ebeveyn olarak yaptığımız ve bizi rahatsız eden bazı hareketlerinizin doğal olduğunu anlatıyor. Kitapta annelerle yapılan söyleyişi çok hoşuma gitti . Demek ki o yıllarda da aynı sorunlar varmış diyorsunuz.

[Fatma Akyürek Aytekin · Rating 4 out of 5]

Bir psikanalist olan yazarın, 1950-60 yılları arasında, ebeveynlik üzerine radyo konuşmalarından hazırlanmış bir kitap. Daha o yıllarda bu konularda kafa yorulmuş olduğunu görmek, bana ne kadar geride olduğumuzu hatırlattı.

[michaelbern · Rating 5 out of 5]

It's a book for parents... I mean, the subject talked in this book is minor, but adult parents like me also share a bond, also have similar characteristics, to our little ones.

I thought hating my child is evil, but Winnicott said otherwise. That's where my interest spiked on this book.

[Aydan Isa · Rating 4 out of 5]

This a must read book for parents to understand parent baby emotional relations. You might be surprised by eye-opening power of the book.

[Bibia · Rating 4 out of 5]

esqueci de postar esse

[Priscila Morais Santos · Rating 2 out of 5]

Foi meu primeiro livro do Donald Winnicott e eu esperava muito mais. Achei pretencioso, ficava assumindo que eu pensava ou agia de determinadas formas como mãe que passavam longe da minha realidade e consequentemente suas observações não condiziam com minha realidade. Além disso, achei um pouco sexista, considerando que o livro é baseado em programas de rádio de 1955 a 1962 parece que Winnicott não conseguiu evitar de ser vítima de seu tempo em várias de suas falas, poucas vezes tratou pais e mães de forma mais igualitária. Por fim, achei as falas muito rasas, pareceu mais conselho de coach do que uma exposição de suasteorias, eram muito superficiais. Talvez não tenha sido o melhor livro para começar a ler suas teorias. Pesquisarei se há obra melor sua para a introdução à suas ideias.

[Sps · Rating 3 out of 5]

Highly reassuring and gentle talks delivered over the radio on the subject of childrearing.

Since this fellow did not resume his pediatrics practice after WWII, I wasn't surprised or particularly put off by his classic sexism: "In part fathers are like mothers and they can baby-sit and do all sorts of things like a woman..." (39).

I also liked his unsentimental approach to children: "They don't want to play with soft things all the time; they like stones and sticks and the hard floor, and they like to be told where to get off as well as being cuddled." (39) Or here, about nursery school: "Someone is always present to supervise your child's first experiments in social life, such as bashing the next child on the head with a spade." (114)
And unsentimentality about childrearing in general: "Bottled up resentment spoils the loving which is there at the back of it all. I suppose that's why we swear. A word at the right moment gathers together all the resentment and publicises it, after which we settle down to a new period of getting on with whatever we are doing." [Sic] (75)

Moreover his psychological training led him to interesting insights about the child's developing love for the caregiver: "Or the infant produces an excretion in a special way that implies that the excretion has gift meaning. And that it has value. The mother feels immensely built-up by these tiny things if they are spontaneous." (107)

Gift excretions! That's what everyone is getting for birthday presents this year.

[Yuliia Travina · Rating 4 out of 5]

Как и определено в названии, книга ориентирован на родителей, а не профессиональных психоаналитиков. Винникотт своим понятием "достаточно хороший родитель" вселяет спокойствие и уверенность. Родителям не нужно перелапачивать научные исследования о развитии ребёнка, чтобы заботиться о нём. Достаточно быть рядом, обеспечивать ему надёжное и предсказуемо окружение и быть собой, не супер-мамой или супер-папой, а собой настоящим со всеми неровностями и неидеальностью.

[Abraham Tsoukalidis · Rating 3 out of 5]

Ένα πολύ ενδιαφέρον βιβλίο με έμφαση στην μείωση των ενόχων της γονεικότητας. "Κανείς δεν μπορεί να πει σε κάποιους γονείς τι να κάνουν, απλώς καταλαβαίνει ότι στη συγκεκριμένη περίπτωση θα έκανε το ίδιο ή κάτι χειρότερο», έλεγε ο γιατρός με τη γλυκιά φύση και τη διάσημη θεωρία του ότι «καλή μητέρα είναι η αρκετά καλή μητέρα»."