The plot of The Bad Mother is pretty simple: Lucy, an artist, is married to Adam and they are expecting their first child. But all is increasingly not as it should be - Lucy’s forgetting things, a lot of things, and she can’t put it all down to “baby brain”. Things get worse fast and it’s not long before Lucy’s confidence is completely destroyed.
It’s obvious almost from the start that Adam is a gaslighting bad ‘un and I was frustrated that Lucy couldn’t see how he was constantly undermining and manipulating her - even convincing her she is capable of terrible things. He’s really not that subtle; even when he’s being “nice”, the way Adam speaks to Lucy is intolerable and I wouldn’t put up with it for five minutes. Having said that, she’s pregnant, vulnerable, relatively young (late 20s) and naturally enough, heavily invested in the relationship with her new husband. It would take a lot for her to walk away and Adam wraps his emotionally abusive behaviour up in the guise of care and concern. Still, he’s a textbook abuser in many ways - discouraging her from working and seeing friends, continually undermining her confidence and causing her to doubt her own perceptions.
Angry as I felt at Adam’s behaviour I felt almost as angry with Lucy at times, willing her to wake up, stop the grovelling apologies for things that aren’t her fault, and grow a backbone. She seems almost wilfully determined not to see what’s under her nose and there’s nothing he can do which she won’t make excuses for and blame on herself. The longer this went on (and it’s quite a long book), the more annoyed I got. I carried on reading largely in anticipation of a point at which Lucy would finally discover some agency and stand up for herself. I was desperate for this to happen.
The Bad Mother is a good read and strong on the mother/daughter bond (thank goodness for Lucy’s mum Christine, who was great). However I did find it unrealistic that Lucy, who considered herself a “strong, confident woman”, was quite so easily manipulated and reduced. Adam’s motivations, and the reasons why he is the way he is, are never really clear. I did enjoy reading it though and looked forward to getting back to it every time, so four stars from me.