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INFJ: Understand And Break Free From Your Own Limitations
The INFJ personality makes up just a small percentage of the population. Less than 1% in fact. Always seeking the good in situations, people, and circumstances, life as an INFJ is primarily one with a positive outlook .There are however, some weaknesses that when addressed can rapidly transform your INFJ world, allowing you to flourish and become the best version of yourself. To conquer life as an INFJ, you must make the most of their great powers, but be aware of the limitations too. This involves an awareness as to what those limitations are. Fortunately, we share them all with you here, in this book. You'll learn how to improve the 1. Learn to thrive at work 2. Learn to have a healthy relationship 3. Understanding and dealing with loneliness 4. Learn to fight other people’s emotions 5. Learn to meet your needs first 6. Learn to achieve harmony You'll learn how to overcome some of the most common weaknesses that exist in your personality type. I will then give you some simple, yet practical ideas to begin to transform those weaknesses into very achievable strengths. Let your weaknesses inspire you to break free from your own limitations, and master your INFJ personality.
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53 pages, Kindle Edition
Published July 23, 2017
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November 25, 2021
I love books that help me to better understand myself as an INFJ. Sadly, this was not one of them.
Aside from the grammar errors and mistakes, I simply did not agree with a majority of the book. It was much too heavily focused on "changing the world" and how we *always* accomplish our goals. This pamphlet hit so many of my biggest pet peeves by pushing the idea that we *need* to have a massive positive impact on the world, and that we need to be public speakers, while barely touching on the fact that INFJs typically hate public speaking. And I hate motivational speakers too. They always so seem fake, don't they?
Yes, I'll be the first in line to help a person in need. However, it almost has to be done one-on-one, or else it will exhaust me. Often to the point where it makes me ill.
Remember...
- It's NOT your job to give your whole heart and soul, until you've been drained dry by the world.
- You and I CANNOT fix other people.
- You and I do NOT need to achieve every goal we set for ourselves.
- You and I definitely do NOT need to be public speakers to have a positive impact.
Instead...
- Slow down.
- Love your family.
- Share with your friends, neighbors, or co-workers.
- Remember that it is enough, and you are enough.
- You may not be out protesting on the streets, but you do recycle.
- Give yourself a little credit for what you do, even when others do not.
And please, please, stop claiming that people like Adolf Hitler were INFJs. I've studied it, and he was not. Bin Laden too? Really? No. People with psychological problems may seem to be INFJ on the surface, but they were not stable or highly developed people. Trying to type them is thus very flawed.
Likewise, typing anyone else - without knowing or interviewing them - is flawed. You do not know when they developed their traits, nor which traits are strongest in their day-to-day lives.
ENFJs are also Introverted Intuition, Extraverted Feeling, Extraverted Sensing, and Introverted Thinking, just like us INFJs!! Only in a different order. The order matters. Your Dom trait develops first, and your Aux is second. Meaning it develops later in life, but likely when you're still a pre-teen. Thus if you're trying to type a 30+ year old, without even talking to them, you are not going to accurately guess which function is Dominant and which is Auxiliary. You simply don't know which came first.
Here's an example of the other incorrect information found in this book: "NF types find the greatest relationship satisfaction dating NFs... The two most compatible matches for INFJs are ENTPs and ENFPs."
First, ENTPs are not NFs. The NFs are INFJs, ENFJs, INFPs, and ENFPs, or in other words, the types with "NF" in the middle.
Second, that's a terrible way to try and pick your best match. It shows no understanding of the four personality functions nor how they work together. INFJs use Introvert Intuition; INFPs use Extrovert Intuition. These are not the same, and while I love talking to INFPs {sometimes}, we don't think the same or value the same things.
If you are interested in someone who has the same four functions as you, you are looking for other INFJs and for ENFJs. Since these are the rarest types, it will not be easy to find one, at least not that you are interested in dating.
If you want Intuitive-Feelers (NFs), then you can add INFPs and ENFPs. But do you even want to date yourself? I don't. I married an ISTP and we celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary this year (2021).
Imo, it is much more important to be a well-balanced person yourself, and to date someone with a highly developed personality, than to have any specific personality type matched with yours.
Aside from the grammar errors and mistakes, I simply did not agree with a majority of the book. It was much too heavily focused on "changing the world" and how we *always* accomplish our goals. This pamphlet hit so many of my biggest pet peeves by pushing the idea that we *need* to have a massive positive impact on the world, and that we need to be public speakers, while barely touching on the fact that INFJs typically hate public speaking. And I hate motivational speakers too. They always so seem fake, don't they?
Yes, I'll be the first in line to help a person in need. However, it almost has to be done one-on-one, or else it will exhaust me. Often to the point where it makes me ill.
Remember...
- It's NOT your job to give your whole heart and soul, until you've been drained dry by the world.
- You and I CANNOT fix other people.
- You and I do NOT need to achieve every goal we set for ourselves.
- You and I definitely do NOT need to be public speakers to have a positive impact.
Instead...
- Slow down.
- Love your family.
- Share with your friends, neighbors, or co-workers.
- Remember that it is enough, and you are enough.
- You may not be out protesting on the streets, but you do recycle.
- Give yourself a little credit for what you do, even when others do not.
And please, please, stop claiming that people like Adolf Hitler were INFJs. I've studied it, and he was not. Bin Laden too? Really? No. People with psychological problems may seem to be INFJ on the surface, but they were not stable or highly developed people. Trying to type them is thus very flawed.
Likewise, typing anyone else - without knowing or interviewing them - is flawed. You do not know when they developed their traits, nor which traits are strongest in their day-to-day lives.
ENFJs are also Introverted Intuition, Extraverted Feeling, Extraverted Sensing, and Introverted Thinking, just like us INFJs!! Only in a different order. The order matters. Your Dom trait develops first, and your Aux is second. Meaning it develops later in life, but likely when you're still a pre-teen. Thus if you're trying to type a 30+ year old, without even talking to them, you are not going to accurately guess which function is Dominant and which is Auxiliary. You simply don't know which came first.
Here's an example of the other incorrect information found in this book: "NF types find the greatest relationship satisfaction dating NFs... The two most compatible matches for INFJs are ENTPs and ENFPs."
First, ENTPs are not NFs. The NFs are INFJs, ENFJs, INFPs, and ENFPs, or in other words, the types with "NF" in the middle.
Second, that's a terrible way to try and pick your best match. It shows no understanding of the four personality functions nor how they work together. INFJs use Introvert Intuition; INFPs use Extrovert Intuition. These are not the same, and while I love talking to INFPs {sometimes}, we don't think the same or value the same things.
If you are interested in someone who has the same four functions as you, you are looking for other INFJs and for ENFJs. Since these are the rarest types, it will not be easy to find one, at least not that you are interested in dating.
If you want Intuitive-Feelers (NFs), then you can add INFPs and ENFPs. But do you even want to date yourself? I don't. I married an ISTP and we celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary this year (2021).
Imo, it is much more important to be a well-balanced person yourself, and to date someone with a highly developed personality, than to have any specific personality type matched with yours.
August 24, 2018
"We are all familar with the process by which a caterpillar morphs into a butterfly, but if we were to imagine an amorphous creature that continually shifts back and forth from caterpillar to butterfly depending on the requirements of the seasons, we might have an equivalalent metaphor for the way INFJs ar able to move from theoretical to the practical and back again as needed". This was my favourite concept from Brightouse's book, having worked with the butterfly metaphor with respect to myself for several years but having been so hard on myself for the fact I seldom seem to be able to sustain the wings unfurled "flight" part of my life before becoming overwhelmed or even ill again. Allowing that INFJs are different...we require these seasons of pulling back in order to go back out and do stuff again; which happens repeatedly, in a way that can seem backtracking to other personality types...has been important for me. Perhaps this is because we think so big, frequently exhausting ourselves before we seem to have done very much: "Vast, expansive and unchained: this describes the creative thought process of the INFJ." Perhaps this book on INFJs hit a little deeper on the emotional aspects than the other books I have read on the topic (see my other reviews) and for that it is worth adding to the mix; even though some of the practical details can get repetative once you have read several (which is not a reflection on this book so much as the order in which I read them).
June 29, 2019
Insightful read
An awesome, quick read giving applicable insight into the personality of an INFJ. Lots of value for learning more about this personality type. I wish it was longer!!!
An awesome, quick read giving applicable insight into the personality of an INFJ. Lots of value for learning more about this personality type. I wish it was longer!!!
January 7, 2018
Some good tips! Grammatical errors were distracting.
August 29, 2019
Short good read
It enriched my knowledge in understanding how to deal with my weaknesses as a INFJ and provided some good tips.
It enriched my knowledge in understanding how to deal with my weaknesses as a INFJ and provided some good tips.
July 23, 2022
2.5 insightful.
November 10, 2022
This book is like: INFJs are amazing incredible softies oh btw Hitler was an INFJ
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