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June 16, 2022
8/10.
Krauser has written a great introduction on how to simply approach women during the day and how to show them your value in such interactions. I will list my key takeaways below:
Fashion and Body Care:
All you need to look good is a decent body and tight clothes. You cannot beat fatness — you must take control of yourself, eat less, and exercise more. That's all it takes to get a good-looking body. Ask young, attractive women in clothes stores what to get. Ask the same demographic about what haircut would look good on you. Match your belt with your footwear, which should ideally be boots. Blazers and leather jackets are great second-layer upper body options. Get tight t-shirts, a smaller size than you would usually get. You don't need fancy brands. You only need good-fitting clothes.
Simple hygiene and fashion go a long way for your confidence. Shave and shower regularly, and brush your teeth twice per day. Have gum or mints in your pocket for your breath. Put deodorant on.
Build muscle. The ideal male physique is the V-shape. Women notice your arms, shoulders, and chest the most when you approach them.
Body Language and Voice:
Whenever you approach a girl, you need to smile. If you don't, she will think you are a creep. You must radiate positivity in your body language and voice, for male energy is contagious for women. Have a wide stance. The more straight-on you are facing her, the more clear it is what you are doing. Have your shoulders back and your back straight. Don't twiddle your hands.
When approaching, stop around an arm's length away from her. If she is walking, you have to stop her straight-forwards (with a smile).
You will always talk faster than you think you do. Slow your voice down 1/3 more than you think you have to. Lower your voice by speaking through your chest instead of through your throat. Do not inflect your words upwards, as if you are trying to get her attention. Make sure to pause in the conversation and digest what she is saying. The more you talk, the faster you talk, the more you will dig yourself into a hole.
Warming Up:
Approach men and women on the street and ask them for directions to a place nearby (coffee shop, specialty store, good place to eat). Approach 40+ women and compliment them on their appearance or on an article of clothing they are wearing. Then approach attractive women and ask them for directions to a random place. Then compliment attractive women and immediately wish them a good day. You are cheering up their day and ramping up your sociability by doing this. No pressure — just walk up to people and talk.
The Actual Approach:
Walk straight up to a girl, while smiling and making strong eye-contact. You should have a grin on your face. Say “Hey, I know this is random, but I saw you walking past and I wanted to say you look really nice”. Now you must make the conversation flirtatious. Flirting is essentially teasing, which means that you must not be the Nice Guy and have zero conflict with her. She needs to emotionally connect with you. She needs excitement.
Thus, immediately after you compliment her, you say "I love how focused you are there. You must be the most serious person in the whole world. Your mum would be proud"; or "I love how dreamy you are. Either you’ve just done some meditation or you’ve smoked some weed."; or "I love how busy you are, like a squirrel collecting nuts for winter". The key thing is to make a positive compliment combined with a more negative joke. This is called a push-pull and is the essence of flirtation. You are signaling that you like her, but you are also qualifying her. Thus, you are the prize. You are the selector and she is the selected.
She probably laughs. If not, she doesn't like you. You will immediately know if she doesn't like you if she looks away from you, goes back to what she was doing, or anything of the sort. If this happens, wish her a good day and leave. You have done the most you can.
Middle Stage:
Make some observation about her in relation to your surroundings and create a mythology of her backstory. For example: "It’s funny because everybody in this mall is walking around with their head in the clouds window shopping but you sped past like you were on some secret mission. I’m guessing you’re not from here...”; or “It’s funny because everybody else in New York walks so quickly on ridiculous make-believe missions but you were ambling down the street like you were in an English summer meadow. I’m guessing you’re not from here...”. This is an implicit question about what she is doing or where she is from.
If she gives you this info, you can use it. You must listen. Let's say she tells you she is from Germany or that she is running late to a meeting. Then you make a tease: “Oh, good (mock sigh). So you are not a weirdo haha. My mum warned me about girls from New York / [busy office workers etc]”.
You can further use where she is from to make a push-pull about people from that area. Using a friend, you can say things like "It’s funny, my friend is from Germany and he said that the streets are really clean and everything is really efficient [pull] but when the sun goes down, Germans don’t half drink [push]”; or “It’s funny, my friend works in an office and he said that everybody there’s really smart, they dress really sharply because it’s London [pull] but the stuff you see on the computer screens when they aren’t looking is shocking, oh my god [push]”.
You do this stuff until one of two things happens. Either she looks away and gets uninterested in you; or she asks a question about you. If she asks a question, that is the golden bell that she is interested in you. From there, you can go into normal rapport, asking her where she is from, what she is doing, what she is studying/working on, etc.
But one thing is key! While you are talking and building rapport, you must spike the conversation every minute. You must add some spice and excitement to tedious, everyday rapport. How so? Say things like “we’re never going to get along" (in a playful tone), “don’t worry, I still like you” (after she tells you something), “oh my God, when you smile you look like a squirrel. It’s really cute" (after she laughs or smiles), “my grandmother warned me about..... [something she is into/doing, e.g. modern art]”, “I like you; you’re fun, but don’t get a big head" (before you get her number). These should all be said in a playful tone. Once again: push-pull. You push with your manner of saying these spikes, but you pull with your body language and intonation. Don't laugh at your jokes.
Close:
You must be the one to end the conversation. Tell her that you need to go somewhere or get back to work. But spike the conversation thuswise: "Listen, I’ve got to get going with my shopping [or whatever], but let me tell you a quick secret." "Yes?" "I think you’re pretty and I would like to take you out". If she says yes or nods, say "great", whip your phone out and tell her to enter in her digits. Send her your name and you've got a date.
If she says no, keep up the conversation for a minute more on a high note. You're not fazed. You've just made a girl's day. There's nothing wrong with that! Leave her on a positive note, wish her a great day, and be gone to the next one.
Psychological Notes:
The first approach will always be the hardest. If you get one success, you will be gaining momentum like a snowball rolling down a hill. But sometimes, to make that first approach you need mantras. Some good mantras include: "rejection is better than regret", "hesitation is like masturbation: in the end, you're only screwing yourself", "every no takes you closer to a yes", and "go and make her day". Or just do a three count and Go!
Women will shit-test you, asking you qualifying questions. They are meant to sniff out reactive, supplicative men. The key thing about shit-tests is that you must be non-reactive, replying in a funny manner. You can agree and amplify the shit-test to absurdity. You can twist it around and make it a positive thing. You can twist around the shit-test and put it on her. You, most definitely, should laugh it off. Some common shit-tests and their replies:
"1) Do you do this all the time?
I’m the kind of guy who goes for what he wants. Life’s too short not to go for opportunities don’t you think?
2) How old are you?
Too old for you ;) I’m 85 but I had plastic surgery.
3) Are you trying to pick me up?
Whoa, slow down, first you need to buy me dinner before we take things to the next level.
4) Why did you stop me again?
I’m a guy, you’re a girl, I saw you and was attracted to I came to see if you’re interesting as well as cute.
5) How about you give me your number...do you have a card?
Whoa, I stopped you so it’s my job to take your number, no woman in the history of the world has called a guy after getting his number. You can say no, I’m a big boy ;)
6) I have a boyfriend
I don’t want to be your boyfriend ;)"
Conclusion:
Clearly, this whole process is not needed, although it gives you a model for your interactions with women. You need options to be able to judge the quality of women. If you only date two women, then your scale of value will be much diminished. But if you have gone out with fifteen, then you understand what bitchy women are and what nice ones are. You can also get more attractive women, which is also nice for having healthy children. But to get women, what must you do? Approach them! That's the first step in this process. You can either fail at it for years, or you can learn the techniques that work and apply them. The latter sounds much smarter to me.
Krauser has written a great introduction on how to simply approach women during the day and how to show them your value in such interactions. I will list my key takeaways below:
Fashion and Body Care:
All you need to look good is a decent body and tight clothes. You cannot beat fatness — you must take control of yourself, eat less, and exercise more. That's all it takes to get a good-looking body. Ask young, attractive women in clothes stores what to get. Ask the same demographic about what haircut would look good on you. Match your belt with your footwear, which should ideally be boots. Blazers and leather jackets are great second-layer upper body options. Get tight t-shirts, a smaller size than you would usually get. You don't need fancy brands. You only need good-fitting clothes.
Simple hygiene and fashion go a long way for your confidence. Shave and shower regularly, and brush your teeth twice per day. Have gum or mints in your pocket for your breath. Put deodorant on.
Build muscle. The ideal male physique is the V-shape. Women notice your arms, shoulders, and chest the most when you approach them.
Body Language and Voice:
Whenever you approach a girl, you need to smile. If you don't, she will think you are a creep. You must radiate positivity in your body language and voice, for male energy is contagious for women. Have a wide stance. The more straight-on you are facing her, the more clear it is what you are doing. Have your shoulders back and your back straight. Don't twiddle your hands.
When approaching, stop around an arm's length away from her. If she is walking, you have to stop her straight-forwards (with a smile).
You will always talk faster than you think you do. Slow your voice down 1/3 more than you think you have to. Lower your voice by speaking through your chest instead of through your throat. Do not inflect your words upwards, as if you are trying to get her attention. Make sure to pause in the conversation and digest what she is saying. The more you talk, the faster you talk, the more you will dig yourself into a hole.
Warming Up:
Approach men and women on the street and ask them for directions to a place nearby (coffee shop, specialty store, good place to eat). Approach 40+ women and compliment them on their appearance or on an article of clothing they are wearing. Then approach attractive women and ask them for directions to a random place. Then compliment attractive women and immediately wish them a good day. You are cheering up their day and ramping up your sociability by doing this. No pressure — just walk up to people and talk.
The Actual Approach:
Walk straight up to a girl, while smiling and making strong eye-contact. You should have a grin on your face. Say “Hey, I know this is random, but I saw you walking past and I wanted to say you look really nice”. Now you must make the conversation flirtatious. Flirting is essentially teasing, which means that you must not be the Nice Guy and have zero conflict with her. She needs to emotionally connect with you. She needs excitement.
Thus, immediately after you compliment her, you say "I love how focused you are there. You must be the most serious person in the whole world. Your mum would be proud"; or "I love how dreamy you are. Either you’ve just done some meditation or you’ve smoked some weed."; or "I love how busy you are, like a squirrel collecting nuts for winter". The key thing is to make a positive compliment combined with a more negative joke. This is called a push-pull and is the essence of flirtation. You are signaling that you like her, but you are also qualifying her. Thus, you are the prize. You are the selector and she is the selected.
She probably laughs. If not, she doesn't like you. You will immediately know if she doesn't like you if she looks away from you, goes back to what she was doing, or anything of the sort. If this happens, wish her a good day and leave. You have done the most you can.
Middle Stage:
Make some observation about her in relation to your surroundings and create a mythology of her backstory. For example: "It’s funny because everybody in this mall is walking around with their head in the clouds window shopping but you sped past like you were on some secret mission. I’m guessing you’re not from here...”; or “It’s funny because everybody else in New York walks so quickly on ridiculous make-believe missions but you were ambling down the street like you were in an English summer meadow. I’m guessing you’re not from here...”. This is an implicit question about what she is doing or where she is from.
If she gives you this info, you can use it. You must listen. Let's say she tells you she is from Germany or that she is running late to a meeting. Then you make a tease: “Oh, good (mock sigh). So you are not a weirdo haha. My mum warned me about girls from New York / [busy office workers etc]”.
You can further use where she is from to make a push-pull about people from that area. Using a friend, you can say things like "It’s funny, my friend is from Germany and he said that the streets are really clean and everything is really efficient [pull] but when the sun goes down, Germans don’t half drink [push]”; or “It’s funny, my friend works in an office and he said that everybody there’s really smart, they dress really sharply because it’s London [pull] but the stuff you see on the computer screens when they aren’t looking is shocking, oh my god [push]”.
You do this stuff until one of two things happens. Either she looks away and gets uninterested in you; or she asks a question about you. If she asks a question, that is the golden bell that she is interested in you. From there, you can go into normal rapport, asking her where she is from, what she is doing, what she is studying/working on, etc.
But one thing is key! While you are talking and building rapport, you must spike the conversation every minute. You must add some spice and excitement to tedious, everyday rapport. How so? Say things like “we’re never going to get along" (in a playful tone), “don’t worry, I still like you” (after she tells you something), “oh my God, when you smile you look like a squirrel. It’s really cute" (after she laughs or smiles), “my grandmother warned me about..... [something she is into/doing, e.g. modern art]”, “I like you; you’re fun, but don’t get a big head" (before you get her number). These should all be said in a playful tone. Once again: push-pull. You push with your manner of saying these spikes, but you pull with your body language and intonation. Don't laugh at your jokes.
Close:
You must be the one to end the conversation. Tell her that you need to go somewhere or get back to work. But spike the conversation thuswise: "Listen, I’ve got to get going with my shopping [or whatever], but let me tell you a quick secret." "Yes?" "I think you’re pretty and I would like to take you out". If she says yes or nods, say "great", whip your phone out and tell her to enter in her digits. Send her your name and you've got a date.
If she says no, keep up the conversation for a minute more on a high note. You're not fazed. You've just made a girl's day. There's nothing wrong with that! Leave her on a positive note, wish her a great day, and be gone to the next one.
Psychological Notes:
The first approach will always be the hardest. If you get one success, you will be gaining momentum like a snowball rolling down a hill. But sometimes, to make that first approach you need mantras. Some good mantras include: "rejection is better than regret", "hesitation is like masturbation: in the end, you're only screwing yourself", "every no takes you closer to a yes", and "go and make her day". Or just do a three count and Go!
Women will shit-test you, asking you qualifying questions. They are meant to sniff out reactive, supplicative men. The key thing about shit-tests is that you must be non-reactive, replying in a funny manner. You can agree and amplify the shit-test to absurdity. You can twist it around and make it a positive thing. You can twist around the shit-test and put it on her. You, most definitely, should laugh it off. Some common shit-tests and their replies:
"1) Do you do this all the time?
I’m the kind of guy who goes for what he wants. Life’s too short not to go for opportunities don’t you think?
2) How old are you?
Too old for you ;) I’m 85 but I had plastic surgery.
3) Are you trying to pick me up?
Whoa, slow down, first you need to buy me dinner before we take things to the next level.
4) Why did you stop me again?
I’m a guy, you’re a girl, I saw you and was attracted to I came to see if you’re interesting as well as cute.
5) How about you give me your number...do you have a card?
Whoa, I stopped you so it’s my job to take your number, no woman in the history of the world has called a guy after getting his number. You can say no, I’m a big boy ;)
6) I have a boyfriend
I don’t want to be your boyfriend ;)"
Conclusion:
Clearly, this whole process is not needed, although it gives you a model for your interactions with women. You need options to be able to judge the quality of women. If you only date two women, then your scale of value will be much diminished. But if you have gone out with fifteen, then you understand what bitchy women are and what nice ones are. You can also get more attractive women, which is also nice for having healthy children. But to get women, what must you do? Approach them! That's the first step in this process. You can either fail at it for years, or you can learn the techniques that work and apply them. The latter sounds much smarter to me.
May 7, 2019
Short and to the point this book is a great start to your Daygaming journey. Nick & Tom lay down the basics, starting from how to dress to what to say to make it easy for you to start off and practice your daygame without thinking too much.
June 28, 2020
Excellent reading
September 16, 2024
Solid introduction to the world of daygame.
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