Отговорът: Как да вземете съдбата си в ръце и да се превърнете в човека, когото искате да бъдете

by Allan Pease, Алън Пийз, Барбара Пийз

Как да открием това, което искаме от живота, и да го накараме да се случи?

Новата книга на международната сензация Алън и Барбара Пийз разбива границите, които до този момент сме били научени да си поставяме, и демонстрира как истинската промяна в живота е напълно възможна - ако си задаваме правилните въпроси. Книгата "Отговорът":

- Ви помага да направите първата стъпка към промяната и да разберете какво точно искате да постигнете;
- Ви дава увереността, нужна, за да смените работата си, връзката си или качеството си на живот;
- Разглежда научните подходи към способността на мозъка да Ви води към успеха;
- Ви разказва личните истории на Алън и Барбара, когато са се сблъсквали с пречки по пътя си.

Когато на пръв поглед невъзможна за превъзмогване греда се появява в живота на Алън и Барбара Пийз, те се обръщат към науката, за да разберат как да превърнат провала в бляскав успех. Те попадат на нови изследвания на мозъка, които ги учат как да препрограмират нагласата си, как да забележат възможностите пред себе си, как да отделят истински ценното от ненужното, как да се съсредоточат върху целта си, вместо върху трудностите. В "Отговорът" свръхуспешната двойка споделя преживяванията и съветите си с откровеност и неуморно чувство за хумор, като демонстрира от първа ръка как да превърнем живота си в това, което искаме да бъде.

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Personal Development, Psychology, Audiobook, Business, Personal Growth

Paperback

First published October 24, 2016

About the author

Allan Pease is an Australian author and motivational speaker. Despite having no education in psychology, neuroscience, or psychiatry, he has managed to establish himself as an "expert on relationships".

Originally a musician, he became a successful life insurance salesman, he started a career as a speaker and trainer in sales and latterly in body language. This resulted in a popular sideline of audio tapes, many of which feature his irreverent wit.

His best-selling book Body Language brought him international recognition. It has been followed by several others. He is quite well known in Australia and during the 1980s he was an occasional TV analyst for political debates where he would analyze the body language and overall performance of the contestants.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Allan_Pease

Reviews

[Asia · Rating 1 out of 5]

I got this book by mistake with my order. While reading the description I wasn’t convinced but at the same time I thought “hey, this may be universe trying to say me something, lets give it a try”. So I did. But if the universe was trying to tell me something the message was “don’t ever never read self-help book. You made this promise to yourself once before, remember? Well, now you will definitely remember”.
It started quite ok, although I had my first cringe at the page 3 - Why do you co-write book with your wife but write it from the 1st person perspective, your perspective, man perspective? (I got my answer in the end of the book, this amazing quote sums it up: “This was the time of the height of political correctness, when it was fashionable for people to pretend that men and women thought the same way”. )
Anyway, it only gets better and better. With quotes like “If you are depressed just put a deadline on your negative thoughts” or stories about refugees who decided to escape from their country and they DIDN’T DIE because they set up a GOAL in their mind. “Everybody is responsible for the situation they are in” unless you have “schizophrenia or autism” (wtf?)
You just had to set up your mind to a goal and It will happen. Even if you can get killed why achieving it, or your government forbids it, or if its against the law you will find a way to do it.
All in all, great useless read to practise your Zen skills and/or speed reading.

[Sara · Rating 1 out of 5]

همون طور که تو پروسه گفتم چون دست یکی از هم‌کلاسیام وسط مورنینگ ها بود گرفتم و خوندم، قدرت هرچه بخواهی تصور کن بنویس تا بهش برسی و.. بود.
مثل راز.
چیز جدیدی برا گفتن نداشت.

ولی در باب این تاکید یک جهته برا انرژی کائنات و فلان یکم عمومی تر حرص بخورم الان:
از کی به این نتیجه رسیدن بیاید تبلیغ کنیم ملت بشینن تصور کنن و هیچ تلاشی نکنن تا به نتیجه برسن؟
فاکتور های دیگه ی پیش روی تو هر مسئله ای رو انقدر کوچک کردن انگار مهم نیست.

بنیان اولیه این کتاب ها زیاد بد نبوده ولی الان دیگه خیلی به بی راهه دارن میرن.

چرا بشر دوست داره یه سری امید رو هی بشنوه و راه کوتاه رو که هیچوقت جواب شاید نده انتخاب کنه.

چرا انقدر بد شده که مثلن نباید بپذیریم که ببین من مغز ریاضی ندارم؛ هرچقدر تلاش کنم و کاینات رو به هم بدوزم و هی به خودم نگم نه من ریاضی نمی‌فهمم قرار نیست یک سری فکت رو عوض کنه. ( بحث اعتماد به نفس و امید تا اندازه معمولش به کنار ها.) خب وقتی این رو بپذیری تایم و انرژی بیشتری میتونی بذاری رو چیزی که واقعن خب تواناییشو داری.
حقیقت اینه که همه مغز ها مثل هم نیستن، و درنهایت هم مثل هم نمیشن.
حتا خمیر نان و شیرینی ها هم باهم فرق دارن و یه مدل بچینیون بپزیشون یه چیز نمیشن در نهایت و متفاوت میشن.

مشکل شاید از جایی شروع شد که معروف تر کردیم اونکه می‌ره مدرسه و درسش بهاره خفن‌تر از اونه که می‌ره هنرستان و معرقش بهتره مثلن.

[Geraldine Birtwistle · Rating 5 out of 5]

If you have read self-help books previously you will probably think there is nothing new in this one. What I did find in this one over others though, is that it goes on to explain how the brain processes the information to make it happen for you. I have read all about visualisation techniques before and have never been able to get them to work, the bit that I was missing was the having to write it down first and then visualise it to let the brain work out how to achieve it.
If you have never read a self-help book before on the subject of how to achieve in life everything you want then this is definitely the only book you should read. Alan and Barbara have such a way with words that explains things so simplistically that you can really see how you can achieve lifes successes.
I have read it through once to get a feel for the book and now I can't wait to put it all into practice. This is what I have been looking for....The Answer...to why I'm here in the first place.
Sit back, take it all in and enjoy the ride!!

[Sandra Koka (pielasit_sirdi)]

To, vai šī grāmata man palīdzēs sasniegt mērķus, es tev varēšu pateikt tikai vēlāk. Pēc nedēļas, mēneša vai gadiem. Tā kā tas ir sarežģīts un daudzslāņains process, kas nekad nebeidzas ( tāpat kā mūsu mērķi), arī tad nebūs iespējams skaidri noteikt, ka tieši šī grāmata ir bijusi pagrieziena punkts sasniegumiem.



No vienas puses var teikt, ka šī grāmata ir zināšanu atkārtošana vai viss labi zināms vecais, tikai citā iepakojumā. Populārais autoru pāris Barbara un Alans Pīzi raksta par veidu kā izvēlēties savu mērķi, vizualizēt to un rīkoties, lai to sasniegtu. Tomēr šī grāmata ir kas vairāk par afirmāciju spēku un skaidri norāda, cik svarīgi ir mērķtiecīgi un neatlaidīgi strādāt, lai kaut ko sasniegtu, par spīti neskaitāmiem kritizētājiem un neveiksmēm.

Patiesībā grāmata ir ļoti iedvesmojoša tieši brīdī, kad esi zemākajā punktā un liekas, ka nekas nesanāk un neizdodas. Šeit nesola brīnumu, bet dod tādu kā grūdienu, ka jāceļas augšā, jāsapurinās un jāturpina darboties. Katrā nodaļā ir konkrēti pieredzes stāsti, kas pierāda, cik milzu neatlaidīgas pūles prasījuši tie veiksmes stāsti, kuri no malas spīd un zaigo veiksmes mērcē. Zinu, zinu, tu visu to jau zini. Es arī. Bet, kāpēc tad mēs šeit sēžam un esam iesprūduši pelēkā posmā un nevaram izkustēties? 



Ir vairākas atziņas, ko man gribas paņemt no grāmatas par spīti tik daudz jau citur lasītiem piemēriem un frāzēm.



"Lielākā daļa cilvēku dzīvē neiegūst kāroto, jo koncentrējas uz to, kā varētu kaut ko sasniegt. Viņi vēro, ko citi sasnieguši, un domā: es nezinu, kā to panākt. Tā nu viņi nedara neko. Tā vietā viņiem vajadzētu izlemt, ko viņi grib sasniegt." (30.lpp.)



"Rīkojies tagad- beidz par to domāt." (59.lpp.)



"Sapnis ir tikai sapnis, pirms nosaki tam izpildes termiņu." (67.lpp.)



"Bailes nenovērš nāvi. Tās novērš dzīvi." (181.lpp.)



"Pieņem lēmumu vairs nekad neizvēlēties vainas, kauna, neērtības un aizvainojuma emocijas un nedusmoties par to, ko nav iespējams mainīt." (167.lpp.)





Piegāju grāmatai ar atvērtu prātu, tomēr paturēju daļu skepses. Jā, grāmatā ir daudz zināmā, bet kopējā sajūta ir motivējoša un iedvesmojoša. Tie, kuri tiek līdz galam, kā desertu saņem autoru neticamo IVF stāstu. Tik neatlaidīgus cilvēkus neesmu satikusi. Šis ir tāds neticami brīnumains stāsts, kā viņi tika pie diviem bērniem pēc tam, kad neskaitāmi ārsti bija atmetuši cerībai ar roku.



Grāmata tiem, kuri jūtas iestrēguši kādā dzīves posmā un vajadzīgs pamudinājumu uz rīcību. 

[Ivana Oltovska · Rating 5 out of 5]

Amazing inspirational book, very helpful! :)))

[Fahri Rasihan · Rating 4 out of 5]

Apa sebenarnya yang kita inginkan dalam hidup ini? Mungkin pertanyaan seperti ini kerap kali muncul dalam pikiran kita. Masih banyak orang yang ragu dan bingung dengan keinginan mereka selama ini. Seringkali kali kita lebih melakukan apa yang "diharapkan" orang lain ketimbang apa yang kita "inginkan". Jelas apa yang "diharapkan" dan yang "diinginkan" memiliki dampak yang berbeda terhadap diri kita. Tidak heran jika banyak dari kita yang merasa tidak bahagia akibat melakukan sesuatu yang "diharapkan" oleh orang lain. Padahal jika kita lebih berani untuk memilih melakukan sesuatu yang kita "inginkan" hidup akan jauh lebih bahagia. Selain itu terkadang kita bingung dan menganggap sepele sesuatu yang kita inginkan. Pada dasarnya kita memikirkan bagaimana untuk mencapai keinginan itu daripada apa sebenarnya yang kita inginkan. Semua jawaban yang kita inginkan dalam hidup dan bagaimana cara mewujudkannya akan dibahas secara lengkap oleh Allan dan Barbara Pease dalam buku ini.

Sebelum membahas lebih lanjut tentang jawaban dari apa yang kita inginkan dalam hidup dan bagaimana mewujudkannya, Allan dan Barbara terlebih dahulu menjelaskan mekanisme Sistem Pengaktifan Retikuler atau SPR yang ada dalam otak kita. SPR adalah tempat di mana pikiran, perasaan internal, dan pengaruh luar bertemu. SPR berfungsi seperti ruang sortir, mengevaluasi informasi yang masuk dan memprioritaskan informasi itu dalam bentuk pesan-pesan yang membutuhkan perhatian kita. Apapun hal yang kita pikirkan dengan kuat dan intens akan terprogram dalam SPR. Contohnya jika kita memikirkan tentang ingin bermain bulutangkis, maka SPR akan memunculkan berbagai informasi tentang bulutangkis. Respon kita akan lebih peka akan informasi bulutangkis dibandingkan yang lainnya. Saat kita menonton televisi, membaca koran, atau browsing di internet, bulutangkis akan selalu muncul. SPR juga berfungsi sebagai GPS dalam tubuh kita yang akan menuntun kepada apa yang kita inginkan lewat penyaringan informasi yang diproses oleh SPR. Maka dari itu peran SPR dalam mencapai apa yang kita inginkan sangatlah penting dan berpengaruh.

Untuk mencapai apa yang kita inginkan pertama kita harus menuliskannya terlebih dahulu dalam selembar kertas. Tuliskan apa saja yang kita inginkan sebanyak mungkin. Entah itu belajar bermain tenis, berhenti merokok, atau kembali kuliah. Dengan menuliskan apa yang kita inginkan dalam selembar kertas maka SPR akan bekerja untuk mencari langkah-langkah yang tepat mencapai tujuan kita. Setelah menuliskannya buatlah tindakan terhadap apa yang kita inginkan. Bagilah tujuan tersebut menjadi potongan-potongan kecil agar lebih mudah kita kerjakan. Jangan lupa juga untuk memberikan tenggat waktu yang wajar untuk mencapai tujuan tersebut. Dengan memberikan tenggat waktu kita akan lebih termotivasi untuk mengerjakan dan mencapai tujuan tersebut. Namun jika rencana kita untuk mencapai tujuan terganggu, sesuaikan tenggat waktu yang baru agar kita tetap termotivasi. Sisanya biarkan SPR yang menuntun dan bekerja untuk mencapai apa yang kita inginkan.

Pada bab-bab selanjutnya Allan dan Barbara menjelaskan hal-hal apa saja yang bisa menghambat kita dalam mencapai tujuan yang kita inginkan. Seperti stres, takut, dan cemas yang kerap kali muncul di dalam kehidupan. Bagaimana stres, takut, dan cemas biasanya muncul akibat orang-orang di sekitar kita. Bagaimana mereka biasanya berniat baik dengan mencegah dan mengkritik apa yang kita inginkan agar kita tidak sakit hati. Sebenarnya niat orang-orang di sekitar kita, seperti keluarga dan teman memang baik, tapi adakalanya kita tidak usah mendengarkan omongan orang lain. Cukup dengan percaya kepada niat dan apa yang kita inginkan dijamin kita akan bisa mencapainya. Tidak ketinggalan Allan dan Barbara juga menuliskan pengalaman mereka terhadap kekuatan SPR. Bagaimana kehidupan mereka yang bangkrut, mencoba merintis usaha, hingga ingin memiliki anak kembali di usia lanjut yang dipandang sebelah mata oleh orang-orang di sekitar mereka. Saya sendiri salut dengan perjuangan Allan dan Barbara yang pantang menyerah dan penuh rasa percaya diri dengan apa yang mereka inginkan. Alih-alih hanya berteori, Allan dan Barbara sendiri telah mengalami apa yang mereka tulis dalam buku ini.

Secara keseluruhan buku The Answer: Jawaban Atas Apa Yang Anda Inginkan memberikan petunjuk dan cara bagaimana seharusnya kita menikmati hidup ini. Terkadang kita memang seringkali hilang arah dan melupakan apa yang kita inginkan dalam hidup. Tuntutan orang-orang terdekat dan materi biasanya menjadi alasan bagi kita untuk melupakan apa yang kita inginkan. Pola pikir kita sudah dibangun oleh lingkungan sekitar di mana pendapat orang lain lebih penting daripada pendapat kita sendiri. Contohnya dulu saat remaja saya juga sempat berpikir untuk bekerja kantoran dan mendapatkan gaji yang tetap dan aman. Pandangan orang-orang akan pekerja kantoran biasanya selalu positif. Padahal di dalam lubuk hati saya tidak menginginkan itu, saya lebih ingin menjadi atlet bulutangkis. Namun, sekali lagi orang-orang di sekitar saya berpendapat jika menjadi atlet itu tidak memiliki masa depan yang jelas. Mulai sekarang jangan dengarkan apa pendapat orang, tapi ikuti kata hati dan terapkan langkah-langkah yang diberikan oleh buku ini. Saya selalu suka dengan penelitian yang dituliskan Allan dan Barbara dalam setiap bukunya. Mereka selalu membahas hal-hal yang sebenarnya menarik, tapi masih luput dari pikiran masyarakat. The Answer: Jawaban Atas Apa Yang Anda Inginkan menunjukan kekuatan SPR yang bisa menuntun kita menuju ke kehidupan positif dan bagaimana cara kita dalam menggunakannya. Sebuah bacaan yang menarik, menghibur, dan bermanfaat.

[Emms · Rating 4 out of 5]

I'm still reading this book (and generally I would read a book a week..) So far I am really enjoying The Answer but it is starting to frustrate me that I haven't yet finished reading it. This is a really insightful book that had me hooked from the very beginning. The way the authors explain the workings of the brain is fascinating and the fact that they use science and studies to back up their theories has made me want to read on to get more answers. At this point in time I must say that since starting this book I have felt like I have been provided with answers to questions I never asked but now feel like maybe I should have put more thought into previously. For example, when I purchased a new car it seemed that every other person on the road drove the same car as me and while i did wonder briefly why that was, i never seeked out an answer, i just accepted that it was just coincidence. The book explains the workings of our brain and why I was suddenly seeing more of this model car.
This book requires commitment and work from the reader. What has slowed my reading is that at the end of each chapter you need to go away and do something (for example make a list of things you want to do/become). Without following the directions of the author i'm not sure that you could read on and get any benefit from the book. My issue is that because the book is so insightful and it is quite obvious how much research has gone into writing this book, I feel that my work is not enough. I have had to walk away from the book, sometimes for days at a time to really think about my answers. I have always been someone who thought they knew what they wanted in life and I was certain I knew how to get there and for things that I wanted but realistically didn't think I could achieve I just shelved them. This book has made me think back to things I have wanted in the past but decided were out of my reach and I have now added them to my list. While I don't know how they will be achieved I have not totally disregarded them. I guess this book has given me enough reasons (or answers) to believe that anything I write on my list is possible.
In summary, this book is fascinating and addictive but unless you have nothing else to do and are totally organised you will not read this book in a weekend. Be prepared to question yourself on what exactly it is that you want. Once you have those answers, then this book will tell you how to achieve it!

[Koen · Rating 1 out of 5]

While I would never advocate for an old fashion book burning, 'The answer' is forcing me to revisit that opinion. Filled with harmful idea's and terribly shortsighted notions about the world. This book is to be considered harmful for your mental health.

The very notion that you could put a deadline on depression, that alcoholism is without a genetic influence, that being poor is purely your own fault is an insult to anyone struggling with depression, alcoholism or poverty.

Maybe next time the authors should put write a good book on their list.

[Dawn Kim · Rating 2 out of 5]

Frankly, I feel disappointed with the book. I grabbed this book because of the appealing cover and hopefully had found my 'answers'. What i disliked the most, was the near end chapter. That chapter mentioned that we should keep asking until we get the answer that we have been seeking. of course, it is not wrong to be determined and to keep asking and get your book published but for people who are introverts or suffer from social anxiety or any form of fear and suffering, what are the other alternatives?what are the more professional actions that we could take without seeming so desperate or pitiful? I don't think the Authors are low but I admire their strengths, determination and wisdom. But it feels lacking and unhelpful that these aren't the answers for diverse personality or community.

[Christine Casey · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was one of the easiest self help books I have read. It gives ideas that anyone can use not only in your working life but your everyday life as well without your colleagues or friends knowing you may have read 'one of those books'. The power of the mind is fascinating and it describes how beneficial a positive attitude towards life can be.
It certainly has changed some habits for me that I hope people around me including staff notice and appreciate.

[Zsófia Romvári · Rating 3 out of 5]

The Secret 2.0 from a psychological point of view. I'm not sure exactly how I feel about this book. It has some good tips about how to determine and visualize your goals, which is really helpful. What disappointed me is the ignorance of different aspects and the lack of depth. Maybe the positivity was too much for me, almost unauthentic.

[Eva Draviņa · Rating 4 out of 5]

…koncentrēties tikai uz to, ko tu vēlies, nevis uz to, ko negribi.

Tavas domas un idejas ir kā spageti kamols tavā galvā. Katra doma ir savijusies ar daudzām citām, tāpēc ir grūti atdalīt atsevišķu ideju un koncentrēties uz to. Ideju pierakstīšana uz papīra ir svarīga, jo rakstot izkristalizējas domas un kļūst iespējams tās aplūkot atsevišķi no citām.

Ja vēlies dzīvot laimīgu dzīvi, piesaisti to mērķim, nevis cilvēkiem vai lietām. / A. Einšteins

Dažreiz vismazākais solītis pareizajā virzienā var kļūt par tava mūža lielāko soli. Pat ja tev jātipina, sper šo soli.

Pārējie var izteikt tikai viedokli, kas balstās uz to, kā viņi rīkotos savos apstākļos. Nekad neizdari izvēles, pamatojoties uz padomiem, ko izsaka tie, kam nav jāsadzīvo ar iznākumu.

Tava dzīve ir tavu izvēļu rezultāts. Ja tev nepatīk tava dzīve, sāc izdarīt labākas izvēles.

Ir tikai divas izvēles – virzīties uz priekšu vai meklēt attaisnojumus.

Prokofeīnēšana (lietv.) – tieksme neko nesākt pirms kafijas tases izdzeršanas.

Pieņem lēmumu vairs nekad neizvēlēties vainas, kauna, neērtības un aizvainojuma emocijas un nedusmoties par to, ko nav iespējams mainīt.

Pētījumos pierādīts, ka lielākā daļa lietu, par kurām dzīvē raizējamies, nenotiks un ka tev tikpat kā nav kontroles pār tām dažām lietām, kas tomēr notiek.

Ja esi nomākts, tu dzīvo pagātnē. Ja esi noraizējies, tu dzīvo nākotnē. Ja esi mierīgs, tu dzīvo tagadnē. /Laodzi

Bailes nenovērš nāvi. Tās novērš dzīvi.

Upe izgraužas cauri akmenim, nevis pateicoties spēkam, bet neatlaidībai.

[Jona Novak]

Nejsem cílovka, četla jsem na doporučení a hodně se to minulo, protože já jsem se svým životem dost spokojená. Řekla bych, že jsem přesně tam, kde chci být, a pokud ne, tak proto, že tam zrovna směřuju. Tudíž pro mě návody, jak svůj život úplně překopat ku spokojenosti, nejsou zrovna užitečné. Pár let zpátky? Možná. Nicméně jsem ráda, že se mi dostala do ruky, umím si představit, že se z toho dá něco vytáhnout a může pomoct, jen teda autoři a jejich výroky typu "dám si deadline na rakovinu" a "od pátku čtyř odpoledne nebudu mít depresi" mi hodně nesedli. Nechávám bez hvězdiček, ať hodnotí ti, jichž se to týká.

[Christina · Rating 5 out of 5]

I was inspired so much and now I can’t wait to put all that advice to action.

There were some stories which contradicted my views and there was also a lot of repetition. Yes, Allan has warned about repetition claiming it to be intentional. It still felt more like adding words for volume.

Despite this, the book is worth reading. I would even read it from time to time for advice and inspiration.

[BBogiA · Rating 4 out of 5]

Az egyik legjobb motivációs könyv amit olvastam, sok személyes vonatkozással egy kerek egész kis sztorit fest le.

[Aliaksei Ivanou · Rating 4 out of 5]

Книга своим таким громким названием заинтриговала меня. В целом, она представляет собой систематизацию вполне известных вещей: сила мысли, аффирмации, визуализации, дедлайны, полезные привычки. Главная мысль - это думать позитивно и производить самовнушение, что все получится. Меня зацепили описания жизни самих авторов, но, честно говоря, когда я слышу такие истории, мне всегда хочется почитать истории людей, у которых не получилось в жизни и видеть статистику: сколько таких людей и сколько таких людей. А то получается некая история с "ошибкой выжившего". В общем, неоднозначная книга. Да, мы сами создаем и программируем свою жизнь. В книге много полезного и в целом правильного. И была для меня странная мысль в книге - что достаточно решить чего мы хотим, а как достичь этого - это уже ерунда, само в процессе придет. Что-то в этом есть, но все равно довольно-таки критично. Суммируя все это, могу сказать, что книга достаточно хорошая для прочтения, мысли верные, но все равно не единственная, если хочется стать на путь совершенствования себя, не смотря на название книги. Хотя вполне может стать первым шагом на этом пути.

[Bec · Rating 3 out of 5]

The Answer is more than a wishful thinking self help book. It outlines how the brain uses what we think and what we visualise to, in a way, direct us toward the life we want. It gives practical ideas to help reframe our thought processes.
However, what we get out of this well written book depends entirely on whether or not we are willing to take its advice, and do the hard work that's often needed to change our life.

[Jo Washington-King · Rating 2 out of 5]

Couldn't finish this as it is really a repeat of their other books but with a little more brain anatomy. I went into this book thinking I would get to read more about the financial issues they had and how the overcame them. But instead got small snippets here and there.

[Lama so]

كلٌ منّا يحتاج إلى الجواب في حياته، إذ انه يكمن في داخل الإنسان..
قد يكون الكاتب تعمق ببعض تفاصيل حياته التّي لا تهم القارئ، لكنه يظل كتاب جميل، إضافة جيدة إلى مكتبتي حيث انه ليس ككتب تطوير الذات الأخ��ى، ساهم في تحفيزي لتحقيق أهدافي بالشكل الصحيح.

[Ebtehal Al-Hamoudi · Rating 5 out of 5]

ياليت لو اقدر اعطيه ١٠٠ نجمه احلى كتاب قريته في حياتي ومن جد غيرلي حياتي بشكل ملحوظ 👍🏽

[Tommy Stark · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book went up to 5 best books i have read. It tells really well how our mind can be used as a tool to get what we want :) Brilliant book!

[Vendy · Rating 1 out of 5]

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This is super poor

[ANTONY · Rating 5 out of 5]

My take

Everyone is born with the fire in his/ her belly  to achieve  a successful life and self help books  offer tasty and nutritious  food in the form of tips and steps. The desire to  improve myself always is so strong that I feel delight at the very sight of books belong to this genre.Once I become a binger to them.


"THE ANSWER How to Take Charge of Your Life & Become the Person You Want To Be" gives us  practical   guidelines along with insightful perspectives to make us what we want to be.   This book reigns supreme over the bestseller charts as it stands tall  due to sharing of wit and the wisdom by Allan and Barbara Pease  so as to enable us to  achieve goals and realize our ambitions by reprogramming our mindset . The strong blurb of the book  declares such an assurance and reading the book I feel  enlightened.


Social and Historical context  

This is an accessible and practical guide that will help you take the first step and show you how to discover what you want from life, then make it happen. 

On the back side of the cover  we can read  the above sentence.  The book holds all the motivational, inspiring and effective steps to find the purpose of life and lead a happy , peaceful and successful life.

The title THE ANSWER itself  speaks about the optimistic outlook as we have got several questions in our mind in respect of our sufferings, failures and setbacks and there is a wide gap between what we are to what we want to be.I find the core theme of the book is Goal setting .

How to Take Charge of Your Life & Become the Person You Want  to Be is the question   and the book has got THE ANSWER.

There are 16 chapters beginning with an introduction and ending with a reference page.They carry a captain each and I give below some of them.


Revealing the Secret of the RAS

Decide what you want

 Set Clearly Defined Goals


The book tells about the functioning of our brain and  its influence on  our behavior and hows to  of altering  it  for achieving our goals . It carries the inspiring quotes from international  acclaimed authors  like Hunter S, Thompson Napoleon Hill , Thomas Edison Jim Carrey. and Sigmund Freud The  true stories  which give a clear picture  and  practical approach  give hope to all of us.There are drawings diagrams and pictures  to make the reader perceive  the concepts.There are also summaries which help us to get the whole chapter  in a nutshell .

The book describes the secret of RAS  (Reticular Activating System )Clearly defining goals , taking responsibility ,  the Art of visualization and other topics related to our development.

The book  is co authored by both of them it is written in the first person as Allan to make the reading easier.


The pro

Flipping through the book makes me feel motivated and charged with the highest degree of intensity .It  instigates  me to introspect myself  and come to a better self realization. The language of Allan and Babara Pease is direct ,  honest ,  and intelligent.They have highlighted important points . The narrative prose  is excellent  and it makes the reading a joyful and beneficial experience. The ideas are powerful  and informative . There are so many advices given in bold letters which would open our eyes.

I give below some of them

Your RAS can either work for you or against you ,   it depends entirely on what you think about .

Holding a grudge is like letting someone live rent-free in your head .

The darkest room often holds the greatest treasure .


The Authors stress some crucial  points which would boost your confidence and happiness.

1. Handwriting your list is so important.

2. Decide in advance that when tragedy strikes, you will pull yourself out of it

3. When you set your goal and create a plan with a deadline , take that first step and move forward -despite what others may think , say or do.


There are alarming, but adventurous stories giving testimonial  to the steps for improving our we can  attitude . These stories relate to Robert, a teenager living in Europe who dreams of helping the underprivileged  , Hank, who wants to climb Uluru as a goal  and W.Mitchell aged 27 who met an accident leaving him burned 65 percent of his body.


There are so many charts  which would serve as a tool for monitoring your progress and many lists for hobbies etc  for your ready reference and illustrative purpose . You can utilize them and follow up your goals.The pace is simply fast and you can have a comfortable read as the book is well organized.Cover design by Aaditya Rakheja is fantastic.


My favorite 

I like the chapters Play the numbers Game and Overcoming Fear and Worry. The true story of the Authors Allan and Barbara Pease  in which they described their goal  to have two new healthy children  and how they could achieve the same by proper planning and putting in sufficient efforts. Their poignant ordeals would melt our heart.


My version.

ALLAN and BARBARA PEASE  the internationally renowned best selling authors of The Definitive Book of Body language and Why men don't listen &Women can't Read Maps  have crafted this book with meticulous research and punctilious to details and this best seller  holds the nuggets of wisdom to make a great impact on your life . Their expertise coupled with hard work  in writing successful relationship books has made this one   a best seller as they have written a total of 16 best sellers, including 9 number ones and give seminars in 30 countries each year.


Readers who are in search of  the life changing mantra , would find this book a good lifetime companion as it proposes honest and effective  steps to reach our goals.  Bibliophiles would love this book for ornamenting their book shelves.


All youngsters should read this book and refurbish their life to seize  their  goals refocusing on their strength  instead of obstacles  .Parents should recommend this book to their children . Teachers and students would find the book a boon for changing their lives.


I highly  recommend this book to all .For full review please visit my blog https://talesandreviews.blogspot.in/?m=1

[nur'aini tri wahyuni · Rating 3 out of 5]

salah sangka, kirain bukunya kayak menjawab pertanyaanpertanyaan aneh macemmacem gitu, ternyata buku motivasi yang isinya lebih ke merancang tujuan hidup dengan baik dan benar.

bagus untuk umur 20an, masamasa mencari apa yg ingin dicapai dalam hidup, sayang pengemasannya kurang menarik.

[Natalia · Rating 5 out of 5]

Jedna z lepszych książek, które ostatnio czytałam. Porusza kwestie afirmacji, nastawienia i wyznaczania sobie celów, a co najważniejsze, motywuje do działania. Czuję, że ta książka naprawdę ma moc coś zmienić! ❤️

[Laura laura_lasa · Rating 3 out of 5]

"Atceries, ka jebkurš eksperts kādreiz bija iesācējs."

Es noteikti izmantošu autoru ieteikumus mērķu sasniegšanai un paradumu maiņai. Vai man sanāks? To man uzjautājiet pēc kāda laika.

[Laura · Rating 5 out of 5]

This one really spoke to me. I got this one from a friend and started it right away. It is so insightful and eye-opening you cant put it away. Almost marked every Page, i highly recommend it to everyone.

[Sarka B · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book deals with goals setting and goals achieving. It is very motivating and inspirational. I will surely return to this book in the future. It is worth reading.

[Cihan Akdere · Rating 5 out of 5]

I absolutely loved this book; it's already one of the best I've read this year and will definitely go on my list of all-time favorites. I learned so much and found it incredibly relatable across many areas of life. It’s insightful, inspiring, and practical. This is a book I’ll be recommending to others and even giving as a gift.

[Elena Zhukova · Rating 4 out of 5]

Ждала от книжки большего, тк мне ее ну очень рекомендовали. Оказалась, в целом, ещё одна неплохая книжка в духе поверь в себя, помоги себе сам. Авторы претендуют на научность, но человека, начитавшегося научпопа, не проведешь. Стоит ли читать? Если вы хотите вдохновиться и настроиться на упорную работу и успех, наверное, да

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