Doris Zagdanski talks to grieving people almost every day, and invariably they bring up the subject of what someone said that puzzled or upset them. Here, Doris enlists the help of grieving people to tell you what they need from you. She has adapted communication skills and counseling techniques to enable us to speak confidently with a grieving friend, relative, colleague, or client. Here you have countless strategies to respond with empathy, without falling into the trap of being stuck for words. Doris writes as if she is speaking to you, and shares her own experiences of crib death and breast cancer so that others may learn.
Excellent book both for those who want to support someone who is grieving. For the person who is grieving, this book might help explain why people say the (sometimes unhelpful) things that they do. It's easy to read and includes lots of examples.