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Rejection Reset: Restore Social Confidence, Reshape Your Inferior Mindset, and Thrive In a Shame-Free Lifestyle
Do you feel like you’re always on the outside looking in — afraid to speak up, invisible in a room full of people, silently waiting to be rejected?
You’re not alone. And it doesn’t have to stay this way.
Rejection Reset is a complete, step-by-step program for anyone who has let the fear of rejection run their life — quietly sabotaging relationships, careers, and the very dreams they’re afraid to admit they have.
Millions of people carry the hidden weight of rejection sensitivity without knowing it. Every time someone cancels plans, gives critical feedback, or simply doesn’t respond, that internal alarm fires. You read rejection into neutral interactions. You hold back. You shrink. And the cycle deepens.
The real damage isn’t just the rejection itself. Psychologist Guy Winch has shown that rejection triggers the same brain regions as physical pain — and we often make it worse with a spiral of negative self-talk that becomes a form of self-rejection.
This book breaks that cycle.
In Rejection Reset, bestselling author Scott Allan delivers a shame-free, action-based framework built on 20 years of personal experience and research into mindset mastery. This isn’t therapy or abstract theory. It’s a practical playbook you can start using today.
Inside, you’ll learn how Take immediate action against the fear of rejection and feel genuinely confident againIdentify and disarm the specific triggers that keep you stuck in a cycle of self-defeatReverse disempowering beliefs and replace them with a mindset built for connectionOvercome jealousy, inferiority, and feelings of inadequacy — without pretending they don’t existStop measuring your worth by other people’s reactionsBuild real, lasting social confidence across all areas of your life — relationships, work, and daily interactionsMaster the 6-step process for permanent change so you don’t slip back into old patternsImplement the 12-habit reset strategy to lock in your progress for the long term
What makes Rejection Reset different?
Scott Allan isn’t a distant academic — he’s someone who has lived through the same shame spiral, the same quiet self-defeat, and found a real way out. This book was written from the inside, not the outside.
The result is a program that meets you exactly where you no judgment, no psychobabble, no overnight promises. Just clear, proven strategies that build on each other chapter by chapter — until living rejection-free feels like your natural state.
Whether you’re recovering from a painful breakup, rebuilding confidence after being passed over at work, or simply exhausted from spending your life on the edge of other people’s approval — Rejection Reset gives you the tools, the framework, and the courage to start over.
Book 1 of the Rejection Free for Life Series.
Ready to stop letting rejection write your story?
Scroll up and click Buy Now — your reset starts today.
You’re not alone. And it doesn’t have to stay this way.
Rejection Reset is a complete, step-by-step program for anyone who has let the fear of rejection run their life — quietly sabotaging relationships, careers, and the very dreams they’re afraid to admit they have.
Millions of people carry the hidden weight of rejection sensitivity without knowing it. Every time someone cancels plans, gives critical feedback, or simply doesn’t respond, that internal alarm fires. You read rejection into neutral interactions. You hold back. You shrink. And the cycle deepens.
The real damage isn’t just the rejection itself. Psychologist Guy Winch has shown that rejection triggers the same brain regions as physical pain — and we often make it worse with a spiral of negative self-talk that becomes a form of self-rejection.
This book breaks that cycle.
In Rejection Reset, bestselling author Scott Allan delivers a shame-free, action-based framework built on 20 years of personal experience and research into mindset mastery. This isn’t therapy or abstract theory. It’s a practical playbook you can start using today.
Inside, you’ll learn how Take immediate action against the fear of rejection and feel genuinely confident againIdentify and disarm the specific triggers that keep you stuck in a cycle of self-defeatReverse disempowering beliefs and replace them with a mindset built for connectionOvercome jealousy, inferiority, and feelings of inadequacy — without pretending they don’t existStop measuring your worth by other people’s reactionsBuild real, lasting social confidence across all areas of your life — relationships, work, and daily interactionsMaster the 6-step process for permanent change so you don’t slip back into old patternsImplement the 12-habit reset strategy to lock in your progress for the long term
What makes Rejection Reset different?
Scott Allan isn’t a distant academic — he’s someone who has lived through the same shame spiral, the same quiet self-defeat, and found a real way out. This book was written from the inside, not the outside.
The result is a program that meets you exactly where you no judgment, no psychobabble, no overnight promises. Just clear, proven strategies that build on each other chapter by chapter — until living rejection-free feels like your natural state.
Whether you’re recovering from a painful breakup, rebuilding confidence after being passed over at work, or simply exhausted from spending your life on the edge of other people’s approval — Rejection Reset gives you the tools, the framework, and the courage to start over.
Book 1 of the Rejection Free for Life Series.
Ready to stop letting rejection write your story?
Scroll up and click Buy Now — your reset starts today.
- GenresPsychology
174 pages, Kindle Edition
Published September 11, 2017
About the author
Scott Allan
34 books56 followersScott Allan is the creator of Do the Hard Things First, the international bestselling book on discipline and action, published in 16 languages and read in over 30 countries.
Through his books, courses, and the Do the Hard Things First Framework™, Scott has helped thousands of entrepreneurs, solo creators, and driven professionals stop overthinking, cut through scattered effort, and build daily action that turns momentum into real results.
A former corporate business trainer in Japan with over 10,000 hours invested in mindset mastery and performance coaching, Scott brings a direct, no-nonsense approach to personal development.
He doesn’t teach motivation—he teaches systems. His work is built on one core belief: the hard thing you’re avoiding is almost always the most important thing you could be doing. And you close the gap between where you are and where you want to be by facing that thing first, every single day.
His weekly newsletter, Hard Things First, reaches over 10,000 readers in twelve countries with practical strategies for building discipline without relying on willpower.
Whether you’re a founder avoiding a difficult conversation, a creator stuck in planning mode, or a professional who knows exactly what to do but can’t seem to start—Scott’s work gives you the framework to stop spinning and start moving. Today.
Through his books, courses, and the Do the Hard Things First Framework™, Scott has helped thousands of entrepreneurs, solo creators, and driven professionals stop overthinking, cut through scattered effort, and build daily action that turns momentum into real results.
A former corporate business trainer in Japan with over 10,000 hours invested in mindset mastery and performance coaching, Scott brings a direct, no-nonsense approach to personal development.
He doesn’t teach motivation—he teaches systems. His work is built on one core belief: the hard thing you’re avoiding is almost always the most important thing you could be doing. And you close the gap between where you are and where you want to be by facing that thing first, every single day.
His weekly newsletter, Hard Things First, reaches over 10,000 readers in twelve countries with practical strategies for building discipline without relying on willpower.
Whether you’re a founder avoiding a difficult conversation, a creator stuck in planning mode, or a professional who knows exactly what to do but can’t seem to start—Scott’s work gives you the framework to stop spinning and start moving. Today.
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September 12, 2017
Scott Allan has a gift for helping us understand our struggles in life. He explains how we think and why we act in repeating patterns. He writes as if he were sitting next to you on a sofa having a conversation and he shares his clarity of our inner dynamics in a compassionate manner that makes REJECTION RESET reader friendly.
I have read and enjoyed a number of Mr. Allan's books and each book takes on a little different focus. When I connect them all together, it builds a comprehensive plan for bringing change into my life.
I love the strategies and formulas he presents to help break old mindsets and self-imposed unrealistic standards of expectation. I try to keep them consistently swirling around in my consciousness so that I can be aware of opportunities to use them and by using them frequently I believe I will succeed at changing my self-defeating behaviors. This book is clearly organized and gets right to the point.
I have read and enjoyed a number of Mr. Allan's books and each book takes on a little different focus. When I connect them all together, it builds a comprehensive plan for bringing change into my life.
I love the strategies and formulas he presents to help break old mindsets and self-imposed unrealistic standards of expectation. I try to keep them consistently swirling around in my consciousness so that I can be aware of opportunities to use them and by using them frequently I believe I will succeed at changing my self-defeating behaviors. This book is clearly organized and gets right to the point.
October 9, 2017
If you are someone who reacts strongly to rejection, this book is sure to change that as you gain a deeper understanding of the mechanisms triggering you and learn better coping tools.
Scott B Allan leads from the front with lessons learned the hard way as he reshaped his own life into an empowered one, and he shares great insights that will help you achieve that in your own life.
"You can choose to engage in empowering thoughts and behaviors that serve you best. You can rise above the barriers of personal self-defeat and tap into that inner strength that you know is there."
I am now officially a Scott B Allan fan, and can highly recommend this book! Although it can be read in two or three hours, this is the kind of book you want to work through in baby steps, keeping your copy handy - underscoring and making notes as you work through it.
The worksheets and action guide are excellent resources for achieving a reset of your life.
Scott B Allan leads from the front with lessons learned the hard way as he reshaped his own life into an empowered one, and he shares great insights that will help you achieve that in your own life.
"You can choose to engage in empowering thoughts and behaviors that serve you best. You can rise above the barriers of personal self-defeat and tap into that inner strength that you know is there."
I am now officially a Scott B Allan fan, and can highly recommend this book! Although it can be read in two or three hours, this is the kind of book you want to work through in baby steps, keeping your copy handy - underscoring and making notes as you work through it.
The worksheets and action guide are excellent resources for achieving a reset of your life.
May 8, 2022
This book offers considered strategies to enable the management of 'rejection.' At times, it flips too far into 'believe and achieve' self help. But it does assist individuals in rethinking the challenges that emerge in life.
What it lacks is considered attention to the rationale and meaning of rejection, particularly in tough times. The environment - whether it be the workplace or personal relationships - is configured as neutral, ethical and logical.
Needless to say, that 'reality' is not real or true. So if readers want an understanding of nepotism, jealousy or bullying - then this is not the book.
This is about an individual managing a difficult situation, rather than understanding why the difficult situation emerged.
What it lacks is considered attention to the rationale and meaning of rejection, particularly in tough times. The environment - whether it be the workplace or personal relationships - is configured as neutral, ethical and logical.
Needless to say, that 'reality' is not real or true. So if readers want an understanding of nepotism, jealousy or bullying - then this is not the book.
This is about an individual managing a difficult situation, rather than understanding why the difficult situation emerged.
September 17, 2017
It is all about our choices!
Rejection Reset is a powerful book full of actionable information. I especially liked the discussion on how we handle "the gap" - the period of time between when something triggers us in a potentially negative way and how we react -it is up to us to chose our reaction wisely. This book goes beyond how best to deal with rejection and into how to improve our overall well being. Great read!
Rejection Reset is a powerful book full of actionable information. I especially liked the discussion on how we handle "the gap" - the period of time between when something triggers us in a potentially negative way and how we react -it is up to us to chose our reaction wisely. This book goes beyond how best to deal with rejection and into how to improve our overall well being. Great read!
September 17, 2017
This is a powerful book! I was drawn to it by my inner urge to change something in my life. I am so happy that the advice in this wonderful book resonated with me on so many levels. I found myself being more and more positive in my thoughts with each day. The conversation you have with yourself can truly make you or break you. Thank you!!!
May 4, 2022
amazing book!
Read this book through in 3 days and it has helped me so much. I didn’t realize how much negative thinking went on in my head. I am now more aware of what I need to do in order to stay in a winning attitude. I loved this book!
Read this book through in 3 days and it has helped me so much. I didn’t realize how much negative thinking went on in my head. I am now more aware of what I need to do in order to stay in a winning attitude. I loved this book!
September 28, 2020
Useful Advice
Book was good enough after a KU Read I bought it and the audio book. Good practical nuts and bolts action orientated steps.
Book was good enough after a KU Read I bought it and the audio book. Good practical nuts and bolts action orientated steps.
July 11, 2021
Excellent book, found his advice valuable.
January 9, 2023
Redefining rejection.
January 21, 2026
Genuinely helpful.
November 10, 2017
This book looks past the hurt of rejection, and encourages you to look for ways to use rejection to grow.
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