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Declare War on Yourself: How to Get Your Act Together and Fix Your Life
In Declare War on Yourself, you'll learn:
- What it means to actually “have your act together” and how it helps you get the life you actually want
- Why only 3% of us actually have our life together and the rest of us can’t figure it out
- Why society’s definition of “having your act together” leads you in the wrong direction
- Why we’re consciously choosing not to have our act together
- The things giving us a false sense of having our act together
- Signs you don’t have your act together and have work to do
- The real and simple definition of being successful
- The one thing about your personality keeping you from having your life together
- The part of your brain that is constantly sabotaging you and doesn’t want you to improve
- Things you’re not doing that you should be doing
- Things you’re not focused on that you should be focused on
- Very important things you’re ignoring and not making a priority
- Reasons we’re lazy, we don’t push ourselves as hard as we should, and we keep giving up
- The things happening in and around your life that you shouldn’t be “OK” with but you are
- How it’s easier than you think to accomplish anything you want or that needs to be done
- 3 things that will change your life forever if you do them on a regular basis
- What it actually takes to change yourself and get your life together for good
- The people and situations that are actually holding you back from getting your act together
- What actually matters and doesn’t matter when you want to get your act and life together
- Two types of people you can be and what makes them successful and unsuccessful
- Where you stand in your life, which level you’re on, and how to move forward from it
- How what you’re programming your mind with each minute of each day is helping you or hurting you
- What change you’re looking for, who you’re aiming to become, and who the ideal you is
- How much time you’re actually wasting each day on useless thoughts and activities
- The things that are really stopping you from moving in the right direction with your life
- What thoughts, emotions, feelings, people, places, and things are getting in your way
- Which thoughts are worth your time and a waste of your time
- Which emotions are actually holding you back and causing you to move backwards
- How to eliminate “chaos” from your mind, daily routine, and your life
- How to eliminate the distractions and prevent them from killing your focus
- How to identify the 80% of thoughts, feelings, activities, people, and things are a waste of your time
- How to replace your trash habits without having to focus on them too much
- How to find out what you don’t need in your life and how to get rid of it
- What you need to accept about yourself and your life in order to move forward
- 3 things you need to be absolutely clear with yourself about so you don’t keep making these mistakes
- Boundaries and rules you should establish with yourself so you stay on track and make things happen
- Things you’re consciously doing that are making you unhappy
- What it means to actually “have your act together” and how it helps you get the life you actually want
- Why only 3% of us actually have our life together and the rest of us can’t figure it out
- Why society’s definition of “having your act together” leads you in the wrong direction
- Why we’re consciously choosing not to have our act together
- The things giving us a false sense of having our act together
- Signs you don’t have your act together and have work to do
- The real and simple definition of being successful
- The one thing about your personality keeping you from having your life together
- The part of your brain that is constantly sabotaging you and doesn’t want you to improve
- Things you’re not doing that you should be doing
- Things you’re not focused on that you should be focused on
- Very important things you’re ignoring and not making a priority
- Reasons we’re lazy, we don’t push ourselves as hard as we should, and we keep giving up
- The things happening in and around your life that you shouldn’t be “OK” with but you are
- How it’s easier than you think to accomplish anything you want or that needs to be done
- 3 things that will change your life forever if you do them on a regular basis
- What it actually takes to change yourself and get your life together for good
- The people and situations that are actually holding you back from getting your act together
- What actually matters and doesn’t matter when you want to get your act and life together
- Two types of people you can be and what makes them successful and unsuccessful
- Where you stand in your life, which level you’re on, and how to move forward from it
- How what you’re programming your mind with each minute of each day is helping you or hurting you
- What change you’re looking for, who you’re aiming to become, and who the ideal you is
- How much time you’re actually wasting each day on useless thoughts and activities
- The things that are really stopping you from moving in the right direction with your life
- What thoughts, emotions, feelings, people, places, and things are getting in your way
- Which thoughts are worth your time and a waste of your time
- Which emotions are actually holding you back and causing you to move backwards
- How to eliminate “chaos” from your mind, daily routine, and your life
- How to eliminate the distractions and prevent them from killing your focus
- How to identify the 80% of thoughts, feelings, activities, people, and things are a waste of your time
- How to replace your trash habits without having to focus on them too much
- How to find out what you don’t need in your life and how to get rid of it
- What you need to accept about yourself and your life in order to move forward
- 3 things you need to be absolutely clear with yourself about so you don’t keep making these mistakes
- Boundaries and rules you should establish with yourself so you stay on track and make things happen
- Things you’re consciously doing that are making you unhappy
294 pages, Kindle Edition
First published August 14, 2017
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October 16, 2022
This is a pretty generic, but heavy-handed self-help book. Readers won’t recognize much new here. There were moments I thoroughly enjoyed the straightforward nature of the book, but far more moments where I simply had to roll my eyes. The author spends a lot of time throwing random percentages around, with no real basis in reality. (If I had to estimate, 96.75% of his percentages are totally made up.) The book is basically a shrine to himself. The author spends a great deal of time using himself as an example of someone who doesn’t whine or bitch…oblivious to the fact that boasting is even more obnoxious. A good percentage of the book goes off into his personal preferences, ones which have no real-world bearing on success, such as never showing your emotions, practicing minimalism to the extreme, never watching shows or engaging in time-wasters (despite the fact that the author quotes Game of Thrones and Fight Club several times, in typical bro fashion). The whole thing feels like a brash lecture from “small-man” syndrome personified.
That said, there were still some gems in this book to be found. I didn’t dislike it entirely. He offers common sense advice to live by ranging from business, to health/hygiene, budgets, and more. But at the end of the day, this guy comes across as more conceited than genuinely successful, and the whole thing feels pretty obnoxious. People who are really down the drain and need a solid kick in the ass might find something valuable here. 2/5.
That said, there were still some gems in this book to be found. I didn’t dislike it entirely. He offers common sense advice to live by ranging from business, to health/hygiene, budgets, and more. But at the end of the day, this guy comes across as more conceited than genuinely successful, and the whole thing feels pretty obnoxious. People who are really down the drain and need a solid kick in the ass might find something valuable here. 2/5.
June 27, 2024
Pretty basic advice; reading this book feels like you’re stranded in a remote cabin with your non-existent older brother who just read 20 self-help books right before the trip. He can’t stop beating all of it into you the whole weekend, 24 hours a day. Eventually, the trip wears off, and you realize you just accidentally overdosed yourself while slowly returning to the office bathroom where you had locked yourself before this whole microdose experiment went horribly wrong.
October 22, 2018
Pulling data from apocryphal sources
Hey kids, do you want to be shamed into being less than what your maker or successful people need you to be? Are you a fat slob that has feelings and is actually a human? Do you know how uncool it is to feel? Do you know how cool it is to achieve? This book it totes for you because this author hates humanity, imperfection, and anything other than achievement (and investing in his courses).
Really, the title and cover says it all. You want to do more? Stop being so damned human and give him your money already. That is what successful people want, right?
If I could give negative stars, I would. Stat away from this book as if it had the success plague, which it does!
Hey kids, do you want to be shamed into being less than what your maker or successful people need you to be? Are you a fat slob that has feelings and is actually a human? Do you know how uncool it is to feel? Do you know how cool it is to achieve? This book it totes for you because this author hates humanity, imperfection, and anything other than achievement (and investing in his courses).
Really, the title and cover says it all. You want to do more? Stop being so damned human and give him your money already. That is what successful people want, right?
If I could give negative stars, I would. Stat away from this book as if it had the success plague, which it does!
November 28, 2018
Very nice book to read about methods, ways towards improving yourself.
I already have read a whole lot of books about how to improve yourself, but this stands out not because of new ways of solving your problems, but because how the author was able to present and lay down the ideas to get on your feet and hit the ground running.
I recommend this book if you are really decided to get on top of yourself, and thanks again for the author who knows what are the best enlightenment to bring on the table to help us to move forward.
I already have read a whole lot of books about how to improve yourself, but this stands out not because of new ways of solving your problems, but because how the author was able to present and lay down the ideas to get on your feet and hit the ground running.
I recommend this book if you are really decided to get on top of yourself, and thanks again for the author who knows what are the best enlightenment to bring on the table to help us to move forward.
July 23, 2021
This book felt like I had written it myself xD Definitely not everyone's cup of tea.
I like that it was rough and to the point - it delivers the brutal truth, no fluff. Cool stuff.
Some days when I felt down it was like a nice slap reminding me to get back on track.
Would definitely re-read. Thank you, Marc.
I like that it was rough and to the point - it delivers the brutal truth, no fluff. Cool stuff.
Some days when I felt down it was like a nice slap reminding me to get back on track.
Would definitely re-read. Thank you, Marc.
September 13, 2023
Masterpiece
This is hands down one of the greatest books created on getting your life together. I recommend this to all people from all walks of life and no matter what they have going this book can literally help you improve your life. Anyone looking to improve I highly recommend you read this book
This is hands down one of the greatest books created on getting your life together. I recommend this to all people from all walks of life and no matter what they have going this book can literally help you improve your life. Anyone looking to improve I highly recommend you read this book
December 10, 2019
Only motivational book anyone needs
Best book ever, excellently covers every aspect of life...
Must read for everyone trying to change their life.
Follow this book ..this is everything we need.
Best book ever, excellently covers every aspect of life...
Must read for everyone trying to change their life.
Follow this book ..this is everything we need.
October 29, 2018
Great book!
Definitely worth the read if you're trying to get your life together. Boehner, you have to implement what you're reading as well!
Definitely worth the read if you're trying to get your life together. Boehner, you have to implement what you're reading as well!
November 10, 2018
Awesome stuff , declare war on yourself now!
November 25, 2020
This is just what I needed.
I would recommend this book to my nephew who is about to become a father. I would also recommend this book to some of my coworkers.
I would recommend this book to my nephew who is about to become a father. I would also recommend this book to some of my coworkers.
January 9, 2021
This book is great
November 21, 2022
Life is a War against our minds emotions and each other.
July 14, 2025
Good Book Not To Read All At Once
I read one chapter a day.
Now, having finished the book open up a random mini chapter to read like a thought of the day to focus on. The chapters are very short and can be ready in under five minutes.
The book is an aggregator of ideas from different sources packed into one book pulling from the likes of Eric Thomas, David Goggins, Les Brown to name a few. Some like using and embacing your pain is from Star Wars Sith philosophy. A few mini chapters are repetitive and overwritten - minutes into hours, hours into days, days into weeks, weeks into months... I get it...last couple mini chapters were harder to read and didn't flow like the others. There were a couple deja vu moments. Some ideas can be contested like not complaining on pg 233.
There's a time and place to complain but not saying anything at all was the wrong message. It should be case by case if the feedback helps. Another strange one is pg248 getting rid of bills. Sounds good on the surface but people need shelter and saying you don't need to pay $1800 apartment rent was the wrong answer. In California and other areas, you're lucky to find a studio apartment for that amount. To say you don't have to pay it...okay, if you want to live on the streets...no.
Take each thought and idea with a grain of salt and apply it only if it fits your needs and tossing the rest.
I read one chapter a day.
Now, having finished the book open up a random mini chapter to read like a thought of the day to focus on. The chapters are very short and can be ready in under five minutes.
The book is an aggregator of ideas from different sources packed into one book pulling from the likes of Eric Thomas, David Goggins, Les Brown to name a few. Some like using and embacing your pain is from Star Wars Sith philosophy. A few mini chapters are repetitive and overwritten - minutes into hours, hours into days, days into weeks, weeks into months... I get it...last couple mini chapters were harder to read and didn't flow like the others. There were a couple deja vu moments. Some ideas can be contested like not complaining on pg 233.
There's a time and place to complain but not saying anything at all was the wrong message. It should be case by case if the feedback helps. Another strange one is pg248 getting rid of bills. Sounds good on the surface but people need shelter and saying you don't need to pay $1800 apartment rent was the wrong answer. In California and other areas, you're lucky to find a studio apartment for that amount. To say you don't have to pay it...okay, if you want to live on the streets...no.
Take each thought and idea with a grain of salt and apply it only if it fits your needs and tossing the rest.
January 7, 2025
I can't get past how this guy talks down to his audience while repeatedly praising himself as a model of what he thinks you should strive to become. He dismisses emotions as something to ignore and not human nature, belittling those who feel as "weak" and "losers". He dismisses people who aren't high quality as a waste of time. If you have the audio book, he does it all with a pseudo-alpha male tone.
If you're looking for a book on fulfillment, strong relationships, and rewarding experiences, this isn't it. This is primarily for someone willing to sacrifice those things for success and to be better than everyone else.
That said, the book is actually filled with a lot of good, common-sense life advice that you can easily find elsewhere. For some, the tone might be the kick in the butt that they need.
If you're looking for a book on fulfillment, strong relationships, and rewarding experiences, this isn't it. This is primarily for someone willing to sacrifice those things for success and to be better than everyone else.
That said, the book is actually filled with a lot of good, common-sense life advice that you can easily find elsewhere. For some, the tone might be the kick in the butt that they need.
March 2, 2025
Comedy of Errors
It’s hard to take this author seriously when the book is filled with grammatical errors that end up contradicting the message of giving one’s absolute best all the time. It is evident there was a lack of proofreading before publication. As far as content is concerned the book reads like a series of middle school one-page essays with a lot of filler sentences. Unless you’re an insecure pubescent male I’d recommend skipping this book for something with more substance.
It’s hard to take this author seriously when the book is filled with grammatical errors that end up contradicting the message of giving one’s absolute best all the time. It is evident there was a lack of proofreading before publication. As far as content is concerned the book reads like a series of middle school one-page essays with a lot of filler sentences. Unless you’re an insecure pubescent male I’d recommend skipping this book for something with more substance.
December 22, 2025
Kicked my butt in a good way.
Marc Summers is the friend you need, but sometimes don’t want to hear what he has to say. Because deep down you know he’s right and it’s for your own good. His style is almost like the character Johnny Lawrence in Cobra Kai. You either want it or you don’t. EVERYONE needs to read this book. You will have no more excuses after finishing this… and you’ll be a better you no doubt.
Marc Summers is the friend you need, but sometimes don’t want to hear what he has to say. Because deep down you know he’s right and it’s for your own good. His style is almost like the character Johnny Lawrence in Cobra Kai. You either want it or you don’t. EVERYONE needs to read this book. You will have no more excuses after finishing this… and you’ll be a better you no doubt.
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June 23, 2025Haven't read, just ran across while searching for Get Your Way On strips, which are freshly relevant.
But holy crap, I thought this was satire! What a hilarious title! Men are so broken, smdh...
Also, I thought this was written by the host of Double Dare but alas it appears to be a different guy.
But holy crap, I thought this was satire! What a hilarious title! Men are so broken, smdh...
Also, I thought this was written by the host of Double Dare but alas it appears to be a different guy.
May 2, 2020
Motivational if you admit
Inspirational craps won't get you there if you are not willing to go. If you hungry to be there you didn't need these stuff. It's all about your desire. All the best
Inspirational craps won't get you there if you are not willing to go. If you hungry to be there you didn't need these stuff. It's all about your desire. All the best
January 7, 2020
Common sense information but great reminders.
January 12, 2020
Covered all aspects
This book didn’t miss much aspects of life. The author picked most of them stated the problem and provided a solution. Good read!
This book didn’t miss much aspects of life. The author picked most of them stated the problem and provided a solution. Good read!
August 20, 2020
I had to stop at chapter 2.Not for me
September 20, 2020
He summarizes a number of my beliefs, but his editor missed some spelling issues.
July 19, 2021
This a great book and presented well ,
lots of the information is common knowledge.
However it is a good reminder of what hard work self respect for yourself and others will accomplish.
lots of the information is common knowledge.
However it is a good reminder of what hard work self respect for yourself and others will accomplish.
March 28, 2024
Sometimes you just need a mental slap across the back of your head to keep your mind in the game and this book does that. It's a good refresher and worth going back to when you need it.
August 29, 2024
This beautiful book on how to get your life together.
December 21, 2024
This book is garbage
Copy and paste from other books. No new ideas. Better books out there. No real thought on the book and a waste of time.
Copy and paste from other books. No new ideas. Better books out there. No real thought on the book and a waste of time.
December 26, 2024
Very good
March 4, 2025
Happiness is an inside production.
Excellent work. Worth the time as a starter or review. Thanks. The personal experience makes it more than just words. It is a growth process.
Excellent work. Worth the time as a starter or review. Thanks. The personal experience makes it more than just words. It is a growth process.
March 28, 2025
getting it together
Book is great his words of wisdom inspired me to get out of my comfort zone and move toward my goals.
Book is great his words of wisdom inspired me to get out of my comfort zone and move toward my goals.
May 25, 2025
Excellent book
Excellent, easy to read book. With a lot of great information. Divided into many chapters that are super simple to read and follow. Highly recommended
Excellent, easy to read book. With a lot of great information. Divided into many chapters that are super simple to read and follow. Highly recommended
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