The other reviews for this book seem to be very positive, and I don't know what it is, but it just didn't do it for me.
While some people are saying they found the book to be more self-help than biography, I found it to be very much the other way around. I guess now I know more about her life and the modeling industry than I did before, but I was hoping for more of the beauty/confidence/power front. The book was structured into chapters with subheadings that implied they would be full of advice about things (like "Don't fall into the trap of sacrificing your self-esteem for affection and acceptance. No matter what your size, you are a sexy goddess. Remember that." and "Every day is a new day and a new struggle. But with a little reflection, you can develop the tools to put that Snickers down or not care so much when you don't want to"). But after a chapter mostly filled with biographical content, I found myself more than once going back to the heading of the chapter to remind myself what the message was supposed to be.
I'm all for body positivity, but I found the messaging in this book to be very flat. Ashley did briefly mention a few times that plus-size models are usually just as proportionate and conventionally beautiful as straight-size models, but I was hoping for more of this type of nuanced discussion in all parts of the book. I find messaging like "No matter your size, you are a sexy goddess. Remember that" to be empty and not meaningful. Every woman is beautiful, but she won't feel that way simply by having someone/everyone say it to her instead of having it inspired within her. Similarly, Graham mentioned how her female family/friends/colleagues aren't allowed to have negative self-talk when they're around her. It doesn't do anyone any good to dwell on negative feelings, but I would find a friend who cuts me off and throws bland positivity back at me to be pretty dismissive and would more appreciate someone listening to how I feel. I guess what I'm trying to say is that body positivity and self-acceptance comes from the freedom of feeling like you need to look a certain way, and appreciating your body because of its quirks and differences instead of being told in a blanket statement that everyone is beautiful. It's only once women of all sizes are represented in the fashion world and designers aren't congratulated anymore for including plus-sized models that bigger women will feel like they are honestly allowed the same space to feel beauty and own their beauty as smaller women. Graham does mention that to do this, we need to ask for the sizes and styles that we want, but this was only a small section of the book.
All this being said, it's not a bad book. I feel like it was written more for the teen girl demographic and I would happily recommend this book to someone in that age group, who is just beginning to learn where her body fits in the world and the politics surrounding the female shape. However, for someone who is familiar with this type of discourse, I don't feel like it added much to the discussion aside from maybe some behind-the-scenes knowledge of the plus-size modelling industry.