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三毛集 #4
梦里花落知多少Never-flower in Never-dream
《梦里花落知多少》是三毛作品中极沉重的一部，荷西的突然离世给她的人生带来了巨大的打击。行文中平静的语调掩藏不了死别的伤痛，而哀恸过后的坚强，让这位深情女子更加美丽，她以深沉的笔，表达了走出阴霾的勇气。命运无常，却也让三毛懂得，一个人的爱有多深，牵挂和不舍便有多长。
Never-flower in Never-dream is one of the most serious works by San Mao. The sudden demise of José brought huge impact to her life. However peaceful the tone in the book seems, pains of being parted by death cannot be covered, while her strong will rising out of the grief makes this affectionate lady even more beautiful. With her seemingly profound pen, she expresses the courage to walk out of the sullen shadows. Nonetheless, fickleness of fate also makes San Mao understand that one can miss and cling to the other so long as he or she ever loves so deep.
Never-flower in Never-dream is one of the most serious works by San Mao. The sudden demise of José brought huge impact to her life. However peaceful the tone in the book seems, pains of being parted by death cannot be covered, while her strong will rising out of the grief makes this affectionate lady even more beautiful. With her seemingly profound pen, she expresses the courage to walk out of the sullen shadows. Nonetheless, fickleness of fate also makes San Mao understand that one can miss and cling to the other so long as he or she ever loves so deep.
315 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 1981
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Sanmao
35 books139 followersSanmao (Chinese: 三毛; March 26, 1943 – January 4, 1991) was a Taiwanese writer and translator. Her works range from autobiographical writing, travel writing, and reflective novels, to translations of Spanish-language comic strips. She studied philosophy and taught German before becoming a career writer.
Born as Chen Mao-ping (陳懋平), her pen name was adopted from the main character of Zhang Leping's most famous work, Sanmao. In English, she was also known as Echo or Echo Chan, the first name she used in Latin script, after the eponymous Greek nymph.
Sanmao was born in Chongqing to Chen Siqing, a lawyer, and Miao Jinlan. She had an older sister, Chen Tianxin. Her parents were devout Christians. Her family was from Zhejiang. After the Second Sino-Japanese War, the family moved to Nanjing. When she was six, her family moved to Taiwan because of the Communist takeover of mainland China. She disliked the lack of freedom in Taiwan's educational system, in which strict restrictions were placed on students.
As a child, she developed an early interest in literature and was exposed to famous Chinese writers, such as Lu Xun, Ba Jin, Bing Xin, Lao She, and Yu Dafu. She read works such as The Count of Monte Cristo, Don Quixote, and Gone with the Wind. She was particularly interested in Dream of the Red Chamber and read it as a Grade 5 student during class. When asked what she wanted to become when she was older, she responded that she wanted to marry a great artist, specifically Pablo Picasso.
Due to her preoccupation with reading, Sanmao's grades suffered in middle school, particularly in mathematics. After a distressing incident when a teacher drew black circles around her eyes and humiliated her in front of her classmates, Sanmao stopped attending school. Her father taught her English and classical literature at home and hired tutors to teach her piano and painting.
In 1962, at age 19, Sanmao published her first essay. Sanmao studied philosophy at the Chinese Culture University in Taiwan, with the goal of "[finding] the solution to problems in life." There, she dated a fellow student; however, becoming "disillusioned with romance," she moved to Madrid, Spain at age 20 and began studying at the University of Madrid.
Sanmao later moved to Germany, where she intensively studied the German language, sometimes up to 16 hours per day. Within nine months, she earned a qualification to teach German and began studying ceramics.
At age 26, Sanmao returned to Taiwan. She was engaged to a teacher from Germany, but he died from a heart attack before they could marry. Sanmao returned to Madrid and began teaching English at a primary school.
In 1976 she published the autobiographical The Stories of the Sahara, which was on her experiences living in the Sahara together with her Spanish husband Jose, who she first met in Madrid and later married in 1973 while living together in the then Spanish-controlled Western Sahara. Part travelog and part memoir, it was an account of life and love in the desert and established Sanmao as an autobiographical writer with a unique voice and perspective. Following the book's immense success in Taiwan, Hong Kong, and China, her early writings were collected into a book, published under the title Gone With the Rainy Season. She continued to write, and her experiences in the Sahara and the Canary Islands were published in several more books.
In 1979 Jose drowned while diving. In 1980 she returned to Taiwan, and in November 1981, she traveled to Central and South America on commission from Taiwanese publishers. These experiences were recorded in subsequent writings. From 1981 to 1984, she taught and lectured at her alma mater, Chinese Culture University, in Taiwan. After this point, she decided to dedicate herself fully to writing.
Sanmao's books deal mainly with her own experiences studying and living abroad. They were extremely well received not only in Taiwan, but also in China, and they remain
Born as Chen Mao-ping (陳懋平), her pen name was adopted from the main character of Zhang Leping's most famous work, Sanmao. In English, she was also known as Echo or Echo Chan, the first name she used in Latin script, after the eponymous Greek nymph.
Sanmao was born in Chongqing to Chen Siqing, a lawyer, and Miao Jinlan. She had an older sister, Chen Tianxin. Her parents were devout Christians. Her family was from Zhejiang. After the Second Sino-Japanese War, the family moved to Nanjing. When she was six, her family moved to Taiwan because of the Communist takeover of mainland China. She disliked the lack of freedom in Taiwan's educational system, in which strict restrictions were placed on students.
As a child, she developed an early interest in literature and was exposed to famous Chinese writers, such as Lu Xun, Ba Jin, Bing Xin, Lao She, and Yu Dafu. She read works such as The Count of Monte Cristo, Don Quixote, and Gone with the Wind. She was particularly interested in Dream of the Red Chamber and read it as a Grade 5 student during class. When asked what she wanted to become when she was older, she responded that she wanted to marry a great artist, specifically Pablo Picasso.
Due to her preoccupation with reading, Sanmao's grades suffered in middle school, particularly in mathematics. After a distressing incident when a teacher drew black circles around her eyes and humiliated her in front of her classmates, Sanmao stopped attending school. Her father taught her English and classical literature at home and hired tutors to teach her piano and painting.
In 1962, at age 19, Sanmao published her first essay. Sanmao studied philosophy at the Chinese Culture University in Taiwan, with the goal of "[finding] the solution to problems in life." There, she dated a fellow student; however, becoming "disillusioned with romance," she moved to Madrid, Spain at age 20 and began studying at the University of Madrid.
Sanmao later moved to Germany, where she intensively studied the German language, sometimes up to 16 hours per day. Within nine months, she earned a qualification to teach German and began studying ceramics.
At age 26, Sanmao returned to Taiwan. She was engaged to a teacher from Germany, but he died from a heart attack before they could marry. Sanmao returned to Madrid and began teaching English at a primary school.
In 1976 she published the autobiographical The Stories of the Sahara, which was on her experiences living in the Sahara together with her Spanish husband Jose, who she first met in Madrid and later married in 1973 while living together in the then Spanish-controlled Western Sahara. Part travelog and part memoir, it was an account of life and love in the desert and established Sanmao as an autobiographical writer with a unique voice and perspective. Following the book's immense success in Taiwan, Hong Kong, and China, her early writings were collected into a book, published under the title Gone With the Rainy Season. She continued to write, and her experiences in the Sahara and the Canary Islands were published in several more books.
In 1979 Jose drowned while diving. In 1980 she returned to Taiwan, and in November 1981, she traveled to Central and South America on commission from Taiwanese publishers. These experiences were recorded in subsequent writings. From 1981 to 1984, she taught and lectured at her alma mater, Chinese Culture University, in Taiwan. After this point, she decided to dedicate herself fully to writing.
Sanmao's books deal mainly with her own experiences studying and living abroad. They were extremely well received not only in Taiwan, but also in China, and they remain
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August 29, 2019
看过很多次 初中看时还哭了 三毛的每一本书都带给我感动
September 3, 2020
208-Meng li hua luo zhi duo shao-Sanmao-Essay-1981
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2020/06/18
- before marriage beard asked me a very strange words: "You want how much of a husband?" I said: "see not pleasing to the eye, then, millionaires do not marry; see Italian billionaire is also Marry." "Speaking of which, you always want to marry a rich man." "There are exceptions." I sighed. "What if you follow me?" he asked naturally. "Then just forget the money you have enough to eat . " He thought for a while, and then asked: "Do you eat more?" I answered very carefully: "Not much, not much. You can eat less in the future."
"How Much Do You Know About Flowers in Dreams" was first published in Taiwan in 1981. It mainly records San Mao's grief after Jose's death and the process of slowly walking out of the haze. The sentimental atmosphere lingers throughout the book is a representative of San Mao's later style.
Sanmao was born in Chongqing Huangjue (jué) Ya (yà) in 1943 and died in 1991. It used to be named Chen Mao (mào) Ping and later changed its name to Chen Ping. He studied at Taipei Cultural University, University of Madrid, and Goethe Institute in Germany. In 1948, he moved to Taiwan with his parents. In 1967, went to Spain to study. In 1973, he settled in the Spanish Sahara Desert and married Jose. In 1979, her husband Jose was killed in an accident during diving. On January 4, 1991, he hanged himself to death. Representative works: " Story of the Sahara ", "How much do you know about the flowers in your dream", "Crying Camel", "The Rainy Season Is Not Coming", etc.
Part of the catalog
1 Phoenix
2 Tomorrow
3 Clouds are in the green hills and the moon is in the sky
4 return
5 Dreams outside the dream
6 Flightless Angel
7 The Return of Deja Vu
8 How much do you know in the dream?
9 A boy's love
10 My writing life
I have friends of Jose San Mao Zhi Lian been discussed. It can be clearly seen that there are obvious differences between us.
DM: Sanmao and Jose are probably the most desperate and full encounter of all worldly love.
They showed me the Sahara Desert, which is blooming because of friendship, and also saw the unscrupulous and complementary nature of youth.
Probably the last time, it was Yu Ji who drew her sword on the banks of the Wujiang River...
In this long history, there has never been a lack of earth-shattering encounters, but only loss reminds the constant flow of people: friendship is never a simple matter, natural disasters cannot be avoided, not to mention man-made disasters where there are people.
You and me, you can only try to bless the world and try to be a good person. Don't touch what shouldn't be touched, don't be greedy for what shouldn't be. Perhaps that way, if history runs over, we will not become bad people who think we are good people.
Me: There are actually many examples of this, not just the overlord Yuji and Sanmao Jose. Lu You, Tang Wan, spring as old, empty and thin, tear-stained red sharks. Peach blossom falls, leisure pond pavilion. Although the mountain league is there, the Jinshu is hard to trust. Cangyang Gyatso and his unknown lover have both peace and harmony in the world.
Recently, I just finished reading "Love in the Time of Cholera", and I have thought a lot about the topic of love, and I feel it. What you mean here is falling in love without being together, and there are many, many types of love tragedies, such as unrequited love. For example, although it is not a parting, it is an objective obstacle in other aspects.
Secondly, these well-known examples are only a few of them. In fact, I think more of them happen to ordinary people. Does terminal illness count? Are natural disasters such as earthquakes and tsunamis counted? The countless ordinary people described in "Poor and uncertain riverside bones are still in the dreams of spring boudoirs", their feelings are not necessarily lighter than Jose Sanmao, and the life and death they suffer may not be lighter than that of the overlord Yuji. Anonymous is not known.
DM: You and Tang Wan, Tang Wan back Reproduction: the world situation thin, human evil, rain sent yellow dim easy to fall. Xiao air dried, tears left. I want to comment on my thoughts, and speak alone. Difficult, difficult, difficult! People become different, today is not yesterday, sick souls are often like swings. The sound of the horn is cold, and the night fades. Afraid of people asking questions, pretending to be happy with tears. Hide, hide, hide! But Lu You is Mabao. He listened to his mother's advice and believed that Tang Wan had delayed his future and failed Tang Wan first. Afterwards, I want to be a confidante. Not a lover. Cang Yang is even more outrageous, his poems are moving, but he always carries fairy qi, without red dust and smoke. Is his unknown lover a lover or a faith? Love is naturally poetry, pots and pans, love for concubines, and red land. If it's just swaying in the air, such as those two of Huadie, do you really think that if you don't have the unswerving friendship between you, there will be life and death together? Unrequited love is even more involved... People say that all love, one person is gone, and the other person has done her duty for her. But if there is no responsibility, there are really a few people in this world who are willing to prove this unswervingly with a dead end. I look down on the spring girl you mentioned. A love, a face of life and death, a dream of a spring girl, do you really think this is love? This is captivity, the naivety of one person using blood to keep another person in captivity. She has never seen those fighting in his eyes, has never seen the sea of swords and flames he walked barefoot, has never protected him comprehensively, why do you love him?
Me: When we talk about historical figures, we must combine the historical environment at that time and the historical limitations of the characters themselves. From today's perspective, yes, because mothers do not want their wives to be Mabao. But in a social environment where filial piety was a very important part of moral cultivation at that time, parents’ orders must not be violated. This is why Jin Yong would write that Xiaolongnv would leave Yang Guo on her own initiative after listening to Huang Rong's persuasion, because she knew that if she was with Yang Guo, the social vision at the time would inevitably ruin Yang Guo. Yang Guo doesn't care, but what if it is someone like Guo Jing who takes "the great man to serve the country and the people" as his mission? Therefore, Yang Guo can risk the world's bad faith, and Guo Jing, in order to keep his promise, will go far beyond the Great Wall to marry Princess Huazheng. Similarly, if Lu You broke with his mother because of Tang Wan, he might also be ruined. This might be more terrifying than killing him. The reason why ancient scholars value reputation is because official career is almost the only way for them to realize their ideals and ambitions of ruling the country and the world. I don't intend to excuse Lu You, but think that his inner suffering may not be weaker than Xiang Yu. To the death of a person who still remembers "the king's master will decide the Central Plains Day, the family sacrifice will never forget to tell Nai Weng", if his future is ruined, wouldn't it be more terrible than killing him? Jiao Zhongqing and Liu Lanzhi in "The Peacock Flies Southeast" are also tragedies similar to Lu You and Tang Wan, and they are only representative of how many such tragedies of the time.
As for Cangyang Gyatso, he should also be considered in the historical background. His identity is the reincarnation of the fifth Dalai Lama. This sixth Dalai does not mean that he is quite right and does not want to be inappropriate, but he has to be. How many believers in Tibet need him to teach them as a living Buddha? The name of his lover in his hometown is now unverifiable. It is said that even if he became a Dalai, he still took a huge risk to secretly leave the Potala Palace to meet his lover at night, and was finally discovered by other lamas. His lover ended up miserably. Isn't he painful? His body responsibility and burden are ordinary people can not body will. And because of his identity, he cannot have love. Isn't this cruel to him? When I went to Tibet before, I once went to a Tibetan teahouse in Lhasa where it is said that Cangyang Gyatso had secretly dated his lover. There are many legends about his love tragedy. It is not that he does not love, but that he cannot love. Lu You is faced with secular power, and Cangyang Gyatso is faced with religious power. The two are not separated from heaven and human, but are better than death.
As for the soldiers in the war, are they willing to abandon their families and children? How many people are forced into the army? Not to mention the past, the turbulent situation in China in the past 100 years, how many young people have lost their lives? Their fate was affected by the troubled times, Xiang Yu still has the possibility of making a comeback, but he gave up, and these people don't even have the right to choose. There is a saying, "Anti-Japanese war, anti-Japanese war, a bullet is a boy." The boy was in love. The girl was in the year of Huaichun. During the Battle of Songhu, the horror was so terrible. A Chinese regiment might be on board. The front lines were all dead within a few hours. These young people may be similar to ours or even younger. Could their lovers in their hometown feel like a knife? It's just that they don't have Sanmao's writing and the opportunity to express it. These pains can often only accompany them into the cemetery.
DM: Although we are much more civilized than that era, we are not less exposed to secular pressure or belief pressure, or other pressures. For example, material pressure is probably the secular pressure of this era. But do you really think that a couple separated under material pressure is true love? Suffering unspeakable pain? What you said about war...I admit it, but Hua Mulan can disguise herself as a man and join the army for her father. If she really can't let go, fighting side by side is not an impossible way. A lot of staying together is a hero's end, but even then, those who work hard at the end to prove love itself will become the benchmark. But those who give up their efforts on their own, let people be considerate of their difficulties, yes, I understand and be considerate. But I don't think it is worth praising, worth remembering.
That is all the discussion part. Different people have different opinions on things like love, and our views have a lot to do with our own worldview.
All living beings may have many, many ordinary loves. But since it is ordinary, it is natural that fate has given them good luck. With such a difficult journey, they have already taken up their luck, so don't think about the path of Qingshi's name. Between the lines of this collection of essays, San Mao expresses his deep nostalgia for Jose and his uninteresting interest in being alive.
Some people don't believe in love, some people believe in love; some people regard love as a necessity of life, and some people think that love can be met but not sought. Some people don't care when they have it, and some people can't help themselves after losing it.
I often wonder, what is love? This kind of feeling is more complicated than family and friendship . It often starts with friendship and eventually evolves into a special kind of acquired affection.
Maslow’s five-layer needs theory speaks: physiological needs, safety needs, social needs, respect needs and self-realization needs. The latter three are essentially inseparable from the three important human emotions of family, love and friendship. These three are also issues worthy of everyone's life thinking.
" More than a year ago, a journal asked me to write a manuscript, and the title had been specified: "If you only have a life span of three months, what will you do? "I thought for a long time, but I haven't answered this test paper. After hearing about this, Jose also asked me curiously-"What will you do?" "At that time, I was kneading dough in the kitchen, I raised my hand covered with white powder, touched his hair lightly, and said slowly: "Fool, I won't die because I have to make dumplings for you. Too! "After finishing this sentence, Jose's eyes suddenly dimmed, and his arms came up from behind me to hold me until the dumplings were on the table. "Are you nervous?" "I asked him with a smile, his eyes suddenly red, and he smiled, and then he sat down opposite me silently. Later, I thought about the draft, and my answer was still that simple and simple. Stubbornness: "I want to guard my home and protect my husband. A responsible person has no right to die. " "
A person lives in the world, there are people who love him, and those who love him. In fact , he didn't even have the right to choose to end his life. Because he is not alone in this world . He can't just think about himself. The more we get from this world. The more we have to bear. Did you choose to live a single life because of this? Or are you willing to start a family for the sake of family happiness ? I don't know which is better. let it go. When you are single, you can enjoy the unfettered free time, and when you have family bonds, you can enjoy the happiness of family.
" I am willing to be the last one to die in the circle of life of my father, mother, and husband. If I go first and leave this bitter cup that I have tasted to my parents in the world, then I will die because I I understand the love, and how deep my love is, how long my cares and dissatisfaction are. Therefore, I have no choice but to be a temporary phoenix, although my wings are broken and my feathers are off, I don’t have a partner to compare, but the broken heart is still a treasure for my parents. No matter how painful or hurt, if they refuse to let me die, I no longer have the idea of giving up on them. ”
From 1979, Jose died , 1991 San Mao himself . San Mao endured it for 12 years. But it is what makes her change her mind , finally decided to abandon the original promise, decided committed suicide it ? Or is it that in 1991, her parents had already passed away ? Or is it true that she committed suicide because of Jose?
" Father, mother, Jose, I love you more than my own life, and ask God to see my sincerity, give me a long time in the world, and protect the happiness and age of my parents. Then I, in this responsibility Under the circumstances, I no longer talk about disappearing and dying lightly. Jose, you promised, you have to wait for me over there. With your promise, I have one more hope. "
One can live in the world without being emotionally connected. We need love from others, also need to enjoy to love others fun .
January 5, 2019
Heartbreaking.
March 11, 2024
梦里花落知多少
其实在看之前，已经在网上看过一些别人对这本书的简短评价了。他们总是推荐这本书在读完三毛绝大多数的作品之后再读，因为这个时期的三毛是她“最脆弱，最绝望，最伤心”的。而每次吃中饭的时候，嘴里一边混杂着菜和米饭，眼中瞟着的却都是餐桌上另一旁的kindle，每次吃饭的时候看一篇。饭一顿顿的吃下来，而书也就这样一篇篇的看下来了。
不知道心里是否有想过，这样去看三毛的书，算不算是一种浪费呢？毕竟读完了她那么多本的书，早已树立起她在自己心目中的形象：一个追求自由的知识分子，浪漫而又洒脱，热情又有原则，待人处事又是那样的善良，每次看她的小故事，总是崇拜又崇拜，她的亲和力，总是让她走到哪里，就是被喜欢到哪里。更别提她的语言能力，能够口说中文，德文，西班牙语，日语，英语，周游世界。这般闯荡世界的生活，不是哪个渴望追求自由的年轻人的梦想，而这些都是三毛现实的一部分。
不过，也许正如三毛所说的，每个读者心中的三毛都是不一样的，我看重的不一定是别人看重的。
这次打星星的时候，也没有如往日对待她的书籍一样给五颗，其中大概是因为阅读的过程中心中曾产生的疙瘩，又或者说是一种不解。那样一个追求自由，灵魂不羁的她，怎么能这般一落千丈，坠入深渊，并且愿意一直停在深渊而不出来呢。这便是我看她前面几篇故事产生的感觉，也许这种停留的感觉，在她的眼里，是对逝去丈夫的深情，也许正是不被世人理解的独特感，更加加强了她的坚持。而她在最脆弱的时候，父母的陪伴，每每看到，都能湿润自己的双眼。
记得在看第一篇背影的时候，那时正好是清明节，上山去看四年前去世的外公，天下着毛毛细雨，我居然体验着和三毛一样的丧亲之痛，可我年纪未到，仍旧无法深深体会，仍是不懂。
在正处最好的青春年华的自己看来，那一句句“不想活了，不如就这样让上帝带走”，心里怎么能够不对她感到惋惜。不过说到底，这也是三毛的选择，是我这个还未体验到丧失挚爱之痛的人，目前所无法理解和感同身受的处境吧，也因此，我在心底里对她更多的是同情。
如果说开头几篇是低谷，中间则让我看到了希望。那也许是我最喜欢的“美国留学篇”，看她那样快乐的笔法，让我怀疑这是否是她年轻时候写的作品，先前的痛苦仿佛在此刻不再存在，外加上自身本来就对语言学习很喜欢，因此那几天吃的那几顿饭也变得特别香，甚至吃完之后还不想走，还想沉浸在那欢乐的课堂中。不得不说，三毛她身边总是凝聚着她最亲近的朋友，让我好生羡慕，那么多那么多国家的朋友。可遗憾的是，她总是在跟他们做告别。
走完了留学，是遗爱篇。对那刹那间重燃起的爱情火花的告别，对挚爱的屋子的告别，对另一个祖国和家的告别，离别真的是走到哪里，这个主题就跟随到哪里。不过对她来说，有舍才有得吧，失去了挚爱之后，人生最大的目的或许就是陪伴在父母身边。为此，她的决绝和果断，仿佛是过去三毛的一闪，只是换了对象。
然后是回到祖国，又讲起了她的“收集癖”，讲起了与朋友，最后与父母的故事。温情充满了字里行间，隐隐收起了对丈夫的思念，只是偶尔会提及，仿佛是遥远的记忆一般。可谁知道，在现实的她的心里，这份伤痛到底是隐去了呢，还是深深藏在了心底，我更相信后者，否则又如何解释她后来的自缢。可看完了这些故事，怎又能想到她会是这样的结局，怎么能先父母而去，怎么能丢弃心中仅剩的牵挂，我不是她，我无法理解。
当然，我更喜欢和希望看到的是，重新拾起生活的三毛。这或许也是绝大多数人的想法，但是，也许就如一个真实的人一样，她当然能够一直做着好事，但谁不想着偶尔做点坏事。好与坏，本来都是存在的。想必经历过这般大风大浪的三毛，她也肯定明白，但是仍旧选择了这样一条道路走下去吧。
其实在看之前，已经在网上看过一些别人对这本书的简短评价了。他们总是推荐这本书在读完三毛绝大多数的作品之后再读，因为这个时期的三毛是她“最脆弱，最绝望，最伤心”的。而每次吃中饭的时候，嘴里一边混杂着菜和米饭，眼中瞟着的却都是餐桌上另一旁的kindle，每次吃饭的时候看一篇。饭一顿顿的吃下来，而书也就这样一篇篇的看下来了。
不知道心里是否有想过，这样去看三毛的书，算不算是一种浪费呢？毕竟读完了她那么多本的书，早已树立起她在自己心目中的形象：一个追求自由的知识分子，浪漫而又洒脱，热情又有原则，待人处事又是那样的善良，每次看她的小故事，总是崇拜又崇拜，她的亲和力，总是让她走到哪里，就是被喜欢到哪里。更别提她的语言能力，能够口说中文，德文，西班牙语，日语，英语，周游世界。这般闯荡世界的生活，不是哪个渴望追求自由的年轻人的梦想，而这些都是三毛现实的一部分。
不过，也许正如三毛所说的，每个读者心中的三毛都是不一样的，我看重的不一定是别人看重的。
这次打星星的时候，也没有如往日对待她的书籍一样给五颗，其中大概是因为阅读的过程中心中曾产生的疙瘩，又或者说是一种不解。那样一个追求自由，灵魂不羁的她，怎么能这般一落千丈，坠入深渊，并且愿意一直停在深渊而不出来呢。这便是我看她前面几篇故事产生的感觉，也许这种停留的感觉，在她的眼里，是对逝去丈夫的深情，也许正是不被世人理解的独特感，更加加强了她的坚持。而她在最脆弱的时候，父母的陪伴，每每看到，都能湿润自己的双眼。
记得在看第一篇背影的时候，那时正好是清明节，上山去看四年前去世的外公，天下着毛毛细雨，我居然体验着和三毛一样的丧亲之痛，可我年纪未到，仍旧无法深深体会，仍是不懂。
在正处最好的青春年华的自己看来，那一句句“不想活了，不如就这样让上帝带走”，心里怎么能够不对她感到惋惜。不过说到底，这也是三毛的选择，是我这个还未体验到丧失挚爱之痛的人，目前所无法理解和感同身受的处境吧，也因此，我在心底里对她更多的是同情。
如果说开头几篇是低谷，中间则让我看到了希望。那也许是我最喜欢的“美国留学篇”，看她那样快乐的笔法，让我怀疑这是否是她年轻时候写的作品，先前的痛苦仿佛在此刻不再存在，外加上自身本来就对语言学习很喜欢，因此那几天吃的那几顿饭也变得特别香，甚至吃完之后还不想走，还想沉浸在那欢乐的课堂中。不得不说，三毛她身边总是凝聚着她最亲近的朋友，让我好生羡慕，那么多那么多国家的朋友。可遗憾的是，她总是在跟他们做告别。
走完了留学，是遗爱篇。对那刹那间重燃起的爱情火花的告别，对挚爱的屋子的告别，对另一个祖国和家的告别，离别真的是走到哪里，这个主题就跟随到哪里。不过对她来说，有舍才有得吧，失去了挚爱之后，人生最大的目的或许就是陪伴在父母身边。为此，她的决绝和果断，仿佛是过去三毛的一闪，只是换了对象。
然后是回到祖国，又讲起了她的“收集癖”，讲起了与朋友，最后与父母的故事。温情充满了字里行间，隐隐收起了对丈夫的思念，只是偶尔会提及，仿佛是遥远的记忆一般。可谁知道，在现实的她的心里，这份伤痛到底是隐去了呢，还是深深藏在了心底，我更相信后者，否则又如何解释她后来的自缢。可看完了这些故事，怎又能想到她会是这样的结局，怎么能先父母而去，怎么能丢弃心中仅剩的牵挂，我不是她，我无法理解。
当然，我更喜欢和希望看到的是，重新拾起生活的三毛。这或许也是绝大多数人的想法，但是，也许就如一个真实的人一样，她当然能够一直做着好事，但谁不想着偶尔做点坏事。好与坏，本来都是存在的。想必经历过这般大风大浪的三毛，她也肯定明白，但是仍旧选择了这样一条道路走下去吧。
August 7, 2017
I like her writing style - her honesty, use of words, sentence structure, and the way she depicts events. But more importantly, I admire the way she views her life and the fact that she lives to love. "我的写作生活，就是我的爱情生活；我的人生观，就是我的爱情观". I feel the same way at this exact moment.
September 4, 2019
“人生那么短，抢命似的活是唯一的方法，我不愿慢吞吞地老死。”
直击内心！
致敬三毛，集坚强、善良、洒脱于一体的有趣的灵魂。
直击内心！
致敬三毛，集坚强、善良、洒脱于一体的有趣的灵魂。
October 18, 2020
Echo Echo ……
November 13, 2020
这本书是哭着看完的，大概是年少太感伤。他俩的感情一度成为我的阴影，深爱一个人若是离去，人生该有多悲伤。
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August 13, 2023读的第二本三毛，但更喜欢撒哈拉的故事，可能因为那本书里的三毛充满着生机活力，而失去了荷西的三毛却像丢了魂一样，努力生活也变成了一种负担。好几篇文章读起来都能真切感受到三毛的痛。
November 12, 2023
很喜欢三毛的撒哈拉的故事，所以选择读梦里花落知多少作为第二本三毛的作品。和撒哈拉完全两种风格，撒哈拉里的三毛是灵动的，有意思的，但梦里花落里的三毛，悲从中来。 荷西的死毋庸置疑改变了三毛的创作风格，但梦里花落更像是随笔，写给自己，留给日后。每一篇于读者来说很难确定是在一种什么心态时写下的，当天发生了什么，离荷西离世过了多久，这些都无法从文字中获知，更多的是三毛的情感流露。
August 3, 2024
比较平淡的一本书，讲述了三毛在失去苛西后的生活。书中的前半段可以看出来三毛的情绪不稳定，但是后半段就正常许多了
September 3, 2025
看哭好几次 真诚是真正的必杀技 真的是至情至性的人
December 13, 2025
三毛，你真的好爱荷西。你说荷西死后你的作品才长出了血肉，但我觉得你其实已经跟他一起走了。
December 21, 2025
的确是充满悲伤的一本书，但是三毛依然给了读者很多勇气。她在丈夫去世之后，周游了各个地方，去重新寻找自己，直到最终选择了一个新的生活。她很爱自己的丈夫，她也在教会我们怎么爱这个世界。多么美好呀。
February 12, 2025
好浪漫好浪漫好浪漫的人啊
读的我心里暖暖的
出了学校以后反而更珍惜她的灵气
读的我心里暖暖的
出了学校以后反而更珍惜她的灵气
February 25, 2021
刚刚看完三毛和荷西在撒哈拉里的有趣甜蜜时光，再看这本真的太疼了。一边和三毛一起感受这样的绝望，一边又觉得这样的绝望也很幸运-因为证明她真正的饱满的活过，比所有藏着掖着自己的人都要活得值得。
（还有她这种想要抓住人生的感觉真的非常relatable 太有共鸣了)
（还有她这种想要抓住人生的感觉真的非常relatable 太有共鸣了)
August 11, 2018
三毛这名年我年小时听了多次， 终于在中年时看完了她的一本作品。
Artists of the 80 -90’s revel in the classics and worldliness yet value freedom and naturalism at the same time. These are movements I remember. Yet regretfully, they were not incorporated into the literature I read as a young adult.
Artists of the 80 -90’s revel in the classics and worldliness yet value freedom and naturalism at the same time. These are movements I remember. Yet regretfully, they were not incorporated into the literature I read as a young adult.
April 6, 2013
tears
November 18, 2021
2015-03-23 08:41:17
三毛与荷西的爱情透露着自己特色的风格，消沉的意志每一个拥有再失去的人都会明白都会理解都会知道是怎样的刻骨铭心，撒哈拉的炙热也比不过火热的红心，不知后来三毛如何，若是走不出来看不淡放不下，人生便终了，纪念这本朴实而华丽的爱情日记。
三毛与荷西的爱情透露着自己特色的风格，消沉的意志每一个拥有再失去的人都会明白都会理解都会知道是怎样的刻骨铭心，撒哈拉的炙热也比不过火热的红心，不知后来三毛如何，若是走不出来看不淡放不下，人生便终了，纪念这本朴实而华丽的爱情日记。
April 29, 2017
曾经读过三毛和荷西在沙漠里的浪漫故事，可这却是在悼念荷西死后的日子。我对你的爱与思念就像云在青山月在天，理所当然的飘在那里，当忙碌于手上的事情时或许可以间歇忽略它的存在，可是猛抬头却发现，啊它并没有消散啊，���是不声不响的遮住了山峰，遮住了星星。还有就是，世界那么大，人生有意思的事情那么多，婚姻就是找个人一起去看看，一起玩一辈子。
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