Sve što ti treba već imaš

by Gerad Kite

Gerard Kite, utemeljitelj poznate Klinike Kite u Londonu, vjeruje da nas suvremeni način života čini bolesnima. Bez obzira na izbore koji su nam na raspolaganju i poboljšanja životnog stila u materijalnom smislu, ljudi su zbog gubitka sposobnosti pristupa svom unutarnjem jastvu nesretniji nego ikad.

U ovoj nadahnutoj knjizi koja donosi važna otkrića, Kite nam pokazuje kako stvari sagledati iz drukčije perspektive i kako otkriti istinu: sve što nam treba da bismo bili sretni i zadovoljni već imamo u sebi.

Oslanjajući se na načela drevene kineske filozofije i veliko iskustvo u radu s pacijentima svih dobi i iz raznolikih društvenih slojeva, Kite nudi obećanje velike promjene - put do stanja koje je izvornije, daje veću širinu i slobodu od bilo čega što većina ljudi trenutačno može naći u svojim mislima ili u svijetu koji ih okružuje.

Genres: Nonfiction, Self Help, Psychology, Personal Development, Spirituality, Philosophy, Mental Health

207 pages, Paperback

Published January 1, 2017

Reviews

[Vanessa · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book was really really not what I thought it would be.

I was looking for your typical kind of self-improvement book with practical tips on how to be comfortable with yourself and improve happiness through simplicity, etc etc etc yadda yadda yadda. Unfortunately, this book started slowly to descend into spiritualism (despite not being a religious book), and I found it harder and harder to connect.

I also found Kite's ideas to be a little far-fetched, and not particularly practical. He included a great deal of case studies to enhance his ideas, but I didn't find they added to anything - rather than see the positive effect he himself and his teachings had on his patients, instead it seemed to me like they seemed to discover things for themselves rather than because of what he was telling them.

I also found the inclusion of the five elements a little confusing as I couldn't really relate them to what he was trying to paint as their influence. I just found the whole book a little airy fairy. However, I did like the idea of our lives being like a pendulum, and trying to ascend the pendulum in order to find some stillness in life. The image appeals to me, but ultimately this book feel flat in any sort of practical help whatsoever.

[Stuart · Rating 3 out of 5]

Gerad Kite has set out to try and answer a few key and relevant questions we ask ourselves, what is a successful life? what is life supposed to be? How often do you relish the joy of now? Kite doesn't have all the answers, but he has been working on a solution to these sorts of questions for his entire working career. Using many different ideas and techniques that are available to us in modern life, Kite has created a 10 step program to finding your way to inner-calm or 'Home' as he refers to it over the course of the book.

Incorporating Chinese philosophy, spiritual teachings, psychotherapy, the law of the five elements and a pendulum technique to set emotional boundaries to guide you back to a calm state, Kite wants to lead the reader 'home'. Creating a place of security and stability will help us deal with the ups and downs of life with a clearer head and a calmer heart. Gerad Kite sets out 10 steps to creating a map to 'Home' and these steps guide us and help us navigate the treacherous terrains of our minds, bodies and outside influences. Kite shows us how to be aware of our true 'self', how to turn off auto-pilot, enjoy relationships and forget about organising our lives into various successes and failures.

Gerad Kite's writing style is brief, semi-informal and well formatted. The text is broken up into 3 acts, Mind, Body and Home, and each act deals several of the 10 steps. Drawing from personal experience, career experience in the fields of psychology and acupuncture and various case studies, Kite paints a clear picture of how we need to let get of certain practices and brace smaller elements of our life. I thought Kite was informative, emotionally invested and he genuinely wants people to adapt their outlook on life and live easier lives.

I have given this book 3/5 stars as though I personally enjoyed it, I do not think this will suit everyone's tastes. Those who enjoy mindfulness and meditation may appreciate where Kite is coming from but he is really trying to bypass all the other practices and get people to focus on their 'self' and obtain a sense of inner-calm. The writing evolves throughout the duration of the book, going from professional and objective and changes as the steps progress.

As we get closer to 'home', Kite seems to change his writing to meet the tone of the subject matter, becoming calmer and more informal. I appreciated Kite including the law of the five elements and some information on Taoism which allowed me to learn some new perspectives when it came to calmness and tuning in to the present. Overall I would recommend this book to those who face constant existential problems daily and want to figure out a way of getting out of their heads. Finding a calm place in yourself may give you the rest you need to figure out where you are and how you could progress day to day to achieve what is important to you.

[Whitney · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book was on clearance when I got it and now I understand why. The only part of this book that is at all relevant or helpful is the concept of the pendulum in order to find stillness in your life. Overall this book was confusing to follow, the chapters are unclear. Kite argues that we need to strip ourselves of labels yet he continues to label us by using the Law of Five Elements and other concepts through his writing. I found him to be very contradictory and it makes reading this book agonizing.

[Aaron Mikulsky · Rating 3 out of 5]

This was worth the $5 Barnes & Noble discount price. It was good but not great. Here are a few memorable take-aways: Environmentalist David Suzuki said, “We are in a giant car heading towards a brick wall and everyone’s arguing over where they’re going to sit.”

The gift of life is a miracle but it comes with complications and setbacks. Life is challenging a lot of the time and many of us simply don’t know how to navigate our way through it.

Andy Puddicombe wrote, “Like the light from the sun, awareness illustrates our life, allowing us to see clearly, with a sense of confidence, ease and perspective; and like the warmth from the sun, compassion enriches our life, allowing us to embrace this shared human condition, with empathy, kindness and love. Ultimately, this sunlight and warmth are not separate, they are one and the same thing.” Having objectivity on how you see yourself is critical. It begins with curiosity and becoming aware of how you are. Kite discusses how we must learn how to step back from our mind, our emotions, opinions and beliefs and realize that the depth of our existence is found inside. “We will have become the observer rather than the observed.”

In our fast-paced, aspirational culture it’s accepted as normal for us to look endlessly outside ourselves for meaning and purpose. We’ve forgotten how to retreat from our thinking minds and take pleasure in the bliss of simply being alive – to “be”; and to know that one’s existence is so much more than a mere sequence of events that plays out before us, confirming we’re “somebody” with a “life.”

Only when we focus on the happiness of others will we find happiness in our own life. When we meet each moment with compassion, we are released from the notion of self, no longer chasing happiness solely for our own benefit.

Kite defines “Home” as the permanent place inside yourself where you are always OK and at peace. To help you find the route home - to the inner “you,” you need a roadmap or path to “calm.”

Kite uses the metaphor of a pendulum where you see a weight swinging from side to side, trying to find a still resting point, or position of equilibrium, in the middle. All our attention is drawn to this movement. But look up at the top of the pendulum shaft where there is no movement at all - it is a fixed point. The pendulum is an illustration of your emotional life and world of the mind and its natural movement which mirrors your thoughts and feelings. All swings of the weight to the right represent the “high” (joy, euphoria, jubilation) and all the swings to the left represent the “low” (sadness, anger, and depression.) The midpoint between the high and the low is the domain of relative “calm.“ It is only as we move up the shaft of the pendulum that the swings become gradually less volatile. From a calm and detached perspective, every thought and feeling can be observed with objectivity and compassion. Yet, many of us are living at the extreme ends of the pendulum in a chaotic state. Almost everything around us is designed to keep us swinging back and forth. TV and social media use manipulative tools to keep us dependent and lost. Kite proposes that choices or decisions must only be made when you are in the safety of the “calm.”

The Cult of “I” - as we grow up in the culture of “I,” the primary message we are given is that we are all separate from each other - “individuals” – and that our existence is totally dependent on the many labels that we as individuals must create and maintain for ourselves. The truth of who you are is not the same as who you “think” you are. Kite wirtes, “In our search for real meaning and understanding of our self, we end up constructing a whole new layer of narrative, foraging around for evidence that either confirms or denies the message being delivered by our mind.” When all the labels have been taken away everyone is just “a person” and at core we are all the same. Finding your way back Home is not only about finding freedom and peace, but a way to help understand your confused identity and see through the “story” of your mind and its labels. Sadly, Kite continues, “Our attention has shifted away from the freshness of the present and fixated on our memories of the past and the fantasy of future hopes and dreams. We’re lost in our minds; we’ve strayed far from Home.” The goal is for you to have the ability and agility to step back from the mental drama of your life and observe your self through the safety and permanence of Home.

One of the greatest traps set by our culture is our obsession with the idea of success. “Success” is an idea and is subjective. As Winston Churchill said, “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”

We continuously are changing the past and recalibrating the future as we juggle our thoughts and memories and reset them to our current way of thinking. The mind lays down patterns that are familiar and therefore compelling. Our mind naturally defaults back to our projections and patterns for familiarity’s sake. “Free will” is the freedom to choose our point of perception and choose where we put our attention. How we choose to perceive the natural flow of life from the vantage point of our minds is called “free will.“ We are a composite of many influences. As we grow and respond to the world around us we develop an idea of who we think we are and what we believe to be true. This construct gives us a personal viewpoint and framework from which to live our lives, but if we are not open to reviewing these ideas and actions they can equally become a trap and restrict our perspective and movement. We take things from our experiences and turn them into the “story” we tell about ourselves. As Leonard Cohen said, “There’s a crack in everything – that’s how the light gets in.”

Examine yourself through your relationships with others. Often our attention is overly focused on the people around us. Our primary Love must be our Self. Be clear about what constitutes a healthy relationship and whether it serves us. Our relationships act as a mirror to show us how we project ourselves into the world. “Perception in projection” is the philosophical theory that whatever we perceive externally is a direct projection of our self. When we are triggered emotionally we abandon the calm. We project our self-created thoughts and emotions onto each other and we force our fantasies onto each other and label them as truth. We react and bounce off each other all day long.

Ernest Hemingway wrote, “The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.”

Be in the moment
Eckhart Tolle wrote, “Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have. Make the Now the primary focus of your life.” It’s very difficult to be “in the moment” if we are carrying around a load of unresolved psychological baggage. It’s impossible to root yourself in the present when you’re drunk with thoughts and emotions from the past or longing for something in the future. The ancient Chinese philosophy of Taoism tells us our natural state (here and now) is one of contentment and peace and is permanent and indestructible. This state is the essence of humanity in that some people call it the “God within.” Yet, our culture is playing the “if only” game. This gives us a false “experience” which brings more pain and keeps us further from being true to our Self.

Spirit - The difficulty with defining what the Spirit is, is that it lies beyond thoughts and words, and so paradoxically the key to understanding it mentally is accepting that you can’t. It’s a “feeling” thing. The ancient Chinese understood the “Oneness” and interconnectedness of all life, and how Spirit is the conduit between our inner and outer world. “As within – so without.” Think of music as a metaphor. When we listen to a piece of music the enjoyment and qualitative experience comes from our Spirit.

Remember: the past and the future are there by virtue of memory and fantasy – courtesy of the mind – and neither are real in the “now.” We only use a fraction of our five senses.

Surrender - The body sits between our mind and our Self. Consciousness is considered to be “the state of being aware of and responsive to one’s surroundings.” In the ancient Chinese tradition the brain and the mind were not linked. The “mind” was considered to be the sum total of the activities of all the organs that direct our inner life. Breath is the key to presence. The in-breath is our connection with the formless (heaven) and is pure, whereas the out-breath is our celebration of life and death, and the connection with form (earth), the breath having made contact with every cell of our physical being. When you seek to shift attention away from the mind, the practice of focusing on the breath will draw your attention back to your physical Being and beyond. “Our body is the physical realization of Grace and provides a space for the celebration of life. The quality of our human experience is dependent on the temple that is our body.”

We identify as individuals (the “I“), with unique patterns of thought (those mind games) and behavior (the things we do) – and that from this place we form relationships with other people. Most importantly we recognize that we primarily live in our heads and rarely visit the Now. “Natural Law” is where our thinking blends and merges with the laws of nature and where we learn about our strengths and weaknesses. 5,000 years ago in ancient China, Taoist scholars and mystics developed a profound understanding of life based on a close study of nature. The Tao is formless “space" - pure awareness. The source of life (the Tao) is perfect, formless and eternal. The emergence (consummation) of life is explained in the principles of Yin and Yang - the law of opposites. They are the building blocks of the Universe. They observed five distinct patterns in the seasons and elements.

The five elements work together as a team. The five elements teach us that none of us is quite as substantial as we think. We are all, in the end, just a collection of movements. It is only through the dismantling of who we “think” we are that we can get clarity. It is the illusory self (our thinking mind) which keeps us handcuffed. We are often better at reading other people’s emotional states than our own. Once you have awareness, this shift in your point of perception, you will naturally relax and start to live in the present moment, accepting the variety of your life without judgment, avoiding the dramas and developing compassion for everyone and everything.

Nature has designed us in such a way that every part of us will function at its best when we are in sync with our environment. In each of the two-hour periods of the 12-hour cycle, one of your 10 organs and two functions benefit from an increased supply of energy and peak flow. The clock works on a cycle and it operates similarly to the tides of the ocean. For example, from 11 PM to 3 AM (Wood) starts with the gallbladder that takes us to a place of deep rest, then from 1 AM to 3 AM is the liver’s peak time that it receives and detoxifies the blood. The liver presides over sleep and is the dream state where our unconscious mind explores and plans for the next day.

The Tao is Love. It is formless and indestructible and becomes conscious of itself as it manifests as the five elements (our physical form), each one producing the next in an endless creative cycle. The wood demonstrates benevolence through its generous acts of birth and rebirth, the fire maintains propriety and order through its maturing nature and the earth demonstrates integrity by giving form and stability. Metal’s righteousness maintains the quality of the connection to the Source, and water provides wisdom through its capacity to absorb Love and stimulate the next cycle through the benevolence of wood.

By observing how nature creates a cycle, we understand that what occurs within us occurs not because of us, but in spite of us. If we are unloving, we feel unloved.

Choice is all about where you put your attention. With every “thought” we create our world.
“Miracles occur naturally as expressions of love.”

Carl Jung said, “Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens."
As long as you believe your thoughts to be the only reality, you carry them on your back like precious and valuable possessions. But acquired and stored knowledge is a burden. “Know your Self as Love.”

Meditation, prayer or any form of “surrender” ritual acts as “spiritual keys,” or pointers to a more humble state – ways to enter the door of Home. Meditation or prayer is a vehicle to shift our attention from the thinking mind to the Being Self. “When we’re successful at meditation, we experience ‘Bliss’.” Meditation and prayer are an acknowledgment that there is something greater than us. As the Zen parable states, “Before enlightenment, chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment, chop wood, carry water.” This parable, so beautiful in its simplicity, tells us that enlightenment has nothing to do with changing anything. Enlightenment is beyond the mundane tasks of life but is found within them.

“Finding your way Home is really just a good old-fashioned love story. It’s about falling head over heels in love with your Self.” View your world with curiosity and the possibility of experiencing everything from innocence and awe.

Eva Kor, a Holocaust survivor, found it possible to forgive. “My recipe for everyone who has survived trauma is to forgive. The only way you can heal yourself is to forgive those who have harmed you. I call forgiveness the best revenge. Because from the time you forgive, the perpetrator no longer has the power to control you. Or we could call it the greatest gift one can give oneself: the gift of healing, freedom, and self-empowerment.”

[MJ · Rating 4 out of 5]

I love a good self-help book with great insight, don't you? Everything You Need You Have by Gerad Kite draws on his experience as a therapist, as well as his experience, and combines Chinese philosophy (Taoism), Universal Laws, Ego, Behavior, Etc. into 10 steps to easily achieving "home balance" within yourself. It was fascinating read with "case studies", applications, and insights. If you know most of these key concepts, then perhaps Gerad Kite's perspective my interest you. I loved the format of this book with case studies and insights at the end of sections. This book was also comfortable read and flew by at 206 pages! Trust me, the 206 pages are crammed full of concepts and applications. I enjoyed his book and would recommend and or gift it to friends and family.

FTC Disclaimer: I received this book from Blogging for Books for this review.

[L · Rating 4 out of 5]

A lot of the bad reviews here focus on how this was misleading and too spiritual. Through that lens I can see how those ratings justify themselves. However, if you are spiritual, this is a great book for you full of wisdom and warmth.

[Jackie Paulson · Rating 5 out of 5]

Is it true that everything you need, you have? While reading Gerad Kite’s book you will learn how to look at things in a different perspective as well as living in the present moment. It’s not about doing more it’s about being more. Home is where you feel at peace it’s a permanent place inside yourself. This book gives you a ten-step program to find your “calm.”
“Wanting thigs to be a certain way is NOT freedom.”
“Achieving what you set out to do is NOT freedom.”
“Being the person you want to be is NOT freedom.” (Kite, 2016, page 20).

The journey the author takes the reader on beings with admitting you are lost. You will learn how to use a pendulum. What is a Pendulum? A pendulum is a weight suspended from a pivot so that it can swing freely. To find your true rest means getting your thoughts and actions away from chaos in the physical world and even your thoughts in your mind. One way to get back to calm is to make a list of the activities you know will bring you back to a happy state of mind. Extreme highs and lows are what you choose to do with your state of mind which is a manifestation of a mood or thought at a particular time in a particular place but they have little to do with “you.” When you take away all the labels we have been programmed to be, we are all the same, “a person.” What we all learn from Mr. Kite is the ten steps to find your natural rhythms, view your emotions from a different perspective, and finally experience a state of bliss that you can return over and over. “I received this book from Blogging for Books for this review." @ 2016 Jackie Paulson

[Curtis · Rating 3 out of 5]

In today's so society, too often we find ourself looking for fulfillment and validation through external sources. We look to other people. We look to material success. We are always looking out and rarely ever taking the time to stop and focus on what is within ourselves. In this book, Gerad Kite provides a framework he has developed from personal experience and working with clients for a number of years. According to Kite, if we learn to find the Home that exists within, we will not only feel more fulfilled but we will also minimize the swings that we so often feel between positive and negative extremes.

Kite's model is interesting. I have no doubt that there are people who might find it to be profound and incredibly enlightening. Personally, I had trouble feeling like it resonated with me, but I appreciated the values of becoming more attuned to your own mind and body and letting that be more of a guide to happiness and calm that the world around you. So while I don't foresee myself following his ten-step process, there are elements that I will certainly be making a focus of my own reflection over time.

[Disclaimer: I received a copy of this book from the publisher via Blogging for Books in exchange for an honest review.]

[Robin · Rating 4 out of 5]

Fascinating, the main insight I get out of it, I guess you could say is so simple - we have ups and downs in our lives, but we don't have to totally identify with those. We can realize that there is an aspect of ourselves within that is always the same, always ok. That doesn't mean we don't take action or have feelings, but that we can deal with things better if we don't totally identify w. them as being "us."
The author is what is called a five-element acupuncturist.

"As we get older, we often accept low-grade health as a norm. We feel tired all the time but don't connect it to not eating properly or not getting enough exercise. We get used to being stressed and anxious as the little vices accumulate...But what these symptoms are actually telling us is that our natural body 'clock' is running out of sync. And there comes a point where nature will not allow us to continue pushing ourselves in this way. Certain physical or emotional symptoms tell us that we have to stop and look at what is going on in our life."

[Joe · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was absolutely amazing and does not deserve only a three star rating, Gerad kite was so clear and eloquent when explains the steps of mental health and feeling like one whole person. It's very funny, I always say that books come into our lives when we when we need them too. I felt as though I found my way home only days before I started reading this book and it totally resonated with me.

[Rachael · Rating 1 out of 5]

The concept of the book is beautiful, and essentially could be summed up in a well crafted essay. The book however, rambles on about the different elements, and jumps from theory to theory without ever giving practical relevant advice to achieve the concept of the book. DNF @70%

[Daisy Harakis · Rating 3 out of 5]

A few key messages, danced around the subject a bit, didn't flow well at all

[Valerie Wicks · Rating 1 out of 5]

Psychobabble.

[Aruna Green · Rating 4 out of 5]

I bought this book when I was having a bad day and in a way it was like a friend telling me things would be ok and that I just needed to adjust how I thought ( I thought of ringing a friend to talk to but didn't want to bother them!). Some very reassuring insights about how we are manipulated by world media, social expectations, upbringing into having unrealistic expectations. I would have given 5 stars but it was a very short read and I found it simplistic is some places. For example the pendulum idea sounds good in theory but I think if you are in a very bad place and have deep seated issues it is too simplistic ( but then you would probably need a professional counsellour then anyway). I liked the Chinese Tao philosophy part of the book - I thought that was the best and most informative bit. Overall Very well written - I really enjoyed reading it. Also I would have given 5 stars if there weren't the celebrity endorsements on the cover; the last thing I need on a bad day is Chris Evans telling me that I have everything I need!

[Hevs Bell · Rating 3 out of 5]

Hmm… this book has me very conflicted!
It says it’s not prescriptive but the wording felt demanding especially the first 100~ pages. I find it ironic the spiritual self, the self that words do not do justice for the most part, is described with a step by step program. Yet, writing down the spiritual life is an achievement itself. So, I read it through a critical lens, yet, it was still reassuring the path I’m on is similar elsewhere. Would I say it’s a holy grail book on the spiritual self? Absolutely not. It is a quick flick through / useful reminder nonetheless. I enjoyed the imagery, but I didn’t get a sense of inviting the reader to find their own Home imagery. I’m glad I finished this book and I might reach for it for reference or reassurance but it feels I’ve had to remind myself my Self is not his. Which may be the point!
From “Step 6” onwards I engaged more with it and enjoyed the descriptions of natural law and the like. Descriptions of Taoist thought felt very simplified but I feel this may also be an invitation for the reader to delve deeper.

[michael baker · Rating 5 out of 5]

I thought I would read this book a second time, just to see if I would enjoy it as much as the first time. I can honestly say that I got more from it this time. I now realise how far I have come to finding inner peace and happiness. The pendulum and case studies, along with references to statements made by profits and philosophers alike really do help to visualise where I see myself. This is not a religious book in any shape or form, it is a self realisation of your own self, good or bad. If you struggle finding that calm within, then this is a must read.
For myself it’s been many years since I read it the first time, I have searched all manor of self books for the one thing I have always had, knowledge of myself and true happiness.

[Ginae B. · Rating 5 out of 5]

The title of this book resonates for us. The concept for the book is a personal agenda that we have had ever since counseling. We still haven't pulled the concept into our heart. It is still in our head. When we see it in others, we tell them, You are enough.

We regret that the copy of the book that we are reading doesn't allow quoting. This is unfortunate. However, we press on.

Kite doesn't mess around. The depth begins right there in the first chapter. Wow.

Everything You Need You Have is based on cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). It's not simple. Yet, it is. You will get out of it just what you need.

[Josh · Rating 2 out of 5]

Nothing you can know from your mind will ever be the whole truth – and come the day that we all wake up to our self and home, there will be no need for right or wrong. Page 188 everything you need you have.

Our body knows what it needs. It’s gifts and limitations, and it will tell us if we listen. Health doesn’t always have to be healthy. Page 147 everything you need to have.

We’ve forgotten how to retreat from our thinking minds, and take pleasure in the bliss of simply being alive — to “be”; and to know, that one’s existence is so much more than a mere sequence of events that plays out before us, confirming we’re “somebody” with a “life.” p 15 everything you need to have

[Niall Flanagan · Rating 4 out of 5]

Excellent book that has taught me so much. It is definitely not for everyone though. If you’re open minded and quite spiritual you will enjoy this. If you are looking to get a science, factual based approach buy something else. This book is all about what is natural and involves the reader throughout as you’re forced to apply everything to yourself to get a better understanding. The only issue was that it was hard to follow at times with the use of case studies - I skipped some of them but the overall message is a beautiful one.

[Katie · Rating 2 out of 5]

Some of the advice was sensible (tuning into your senses and staying in the moment), but it soon delved into more nebulous mysticism that didn't fit what I was looking for. Perhaps it makes sense to and fulfills another, but I found it hard to relate to. There also weren't very many concrete suggestions for things to do or change in your life, just a change of perspective that I find hard to force. I did enjoy the overarching message, just found it hard to implement. I think the things I did enjoy are probably available in much more accessible books than from the narrative in this one.

[Stacey M · Rating 3 out of 5]

This was a pretty interesting book. I thought it dragged a bit. But if you are looking for a book that helps you find inner peace and way to center yourself this is an easy read that can give you some interesting ideas. I really liked the first half but, like I said it got a bit slow for me near the middle. He also gives case studies with examples of people following what he is suggesting. Overall I liked this book.

I was given a copy of the book to read through blogging for books.

[Audrey Chapman · Rating 4 out of 5]

I found the approach refreshing. I listened to the audio book. I will definitely visit it again with the book version. Most of the insights are to practices that are widely known and make common sense. He also gives case studies for each step.

[Emkoshka · Rating 3 out of 5]

I like the idea of the pendulum as a mood tracker and stabiliser but some of the other concepts like 'Home' I found a bit too metaphysical hence I occasionally vagued out. Still, I did get some wisdom out of it.

[Jamit K · Rating 4 out of 5]

Hard to follow if you’re not familiar with his line of work/this form of therapy, however if you are I can imagine this to be very beneficial having it to hand
I think you have to be invested in the message to be truly invested in what Gerard Kite has to say, nonetheless very interesting

[Aminah · Rating 4 out of 5]

Definitely an eye opener on the way we way we behave and view things.

However this book was more informative rather than giving you ways to change your mindset. It tells you what you should do but not how.

[Lydia Dickson · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is truly the secrecy to feeling at home! One of the many books I needed to read to start my self help journey! It truly made me realize I didn’t need therapy, mediation or any other method but that it truly was me I was the answer to what I was looking for.

[Channing Porter · Rating 3 out of 5]

There were some powerful lessons and quotes in here. I like the idea of the pendulum and way Home. I think the stories and anecdotes could’ve been stronger and more drawn out or more examples to have it land in me.

[Em · Rating 1 out of 5]

I don't remember how I ended up with this book. I usually love self-improvement books but this one was rambling and new-agey. I could not relate to the tone at all, so I gave up.

[Rachel Beverley · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book has made me think about things differently.

[Gina · Rating 4 out of 5]

A helpful book that uses Taoism to discuss ways to find Peace in your life by finding your way back to your essential Self.