The INTJ Female: How to Understand and Embrace Your Unique MBTI Personality as an INTJ Woman

by HowExpert, Caitlin Humbert

If you are an INTJ woman and want to learn how to live and thrive with the INTJ MBTI personality, then this is a fantastic guide will be extremely helpful guide to you. Some of the things you take away after reading this • What does it mean to be an INTJ female? How is this different from being an INTJ male? • Growing up a young INTJ girl can be difficult, but how do these experiences shape us and help us grow? • Understand why you felt like an outsider as a child, and might continue to feel this way into adulthood • Gain a more developed understanding of why making and sustaining friendships has been so difficult, due to your personality type • Develop an appreciation for your thirst for more why you’ve continually sought knowledge, took extra classes, and read shelf after shelf of books • Grasp a better understanding of why others may struggle with understanding and relating to you, viewing your personality, and handling your lack of stereotypical female responses and traits • Learn what is behind your enjoyment and ability to thrive on alone time; as well as why socialization and normal peer to peer interaction can be so draining • Explore what subjects may best interest you and what career paths could be your best fit • If you are currently employed, address the constant state of restlessness you feel at your job • Receive insight on the type of traits you need in a partner so you both have a healthy, thriving relationship, also explore some of your own traits as a INTJ female partner or spouse • Understand the common issues encountered by your personality type due to its inclusion of stereotypically male traits • Most walk away with an understanding that although your personality type is rare, there is nothing wrong with you and nothing about you needs to be changed. As an INTJ woman you are rare and wonderful just the way you are! About the Expert Caitlin Humbert is a writer who is part of the small subset of female INTJs. Having been an outcast much of her life due to her rare personality type, she chose to further research this small group of women with mainly unpopular characteristics for a female, and validate their traits and feelings. HowExpert publishes quick 'how to' guides on all topics from A to Z by everyday experts.

Genres: Nonfiction, Psychology

56 pages, Kindle Edition

Published September 20, 2017

Reviews

[Lynne · Rating 5 out of 5]

Talk about a non-money-making book choice! A book geared at a subset (female) of 1% of the population. But, I'm SO GLAD Caitlin Humbert wrote this. Being an INTJ, it's hard to not be blatantly aware of how different we are from what seems like the whole world...and, for sure, how differently we process information. But, and not surprisingly so, I hadn't given too much thought about the extra unique impact this personality type has on a female. Reading this, shed much light onto why, especially when young, I had many more guy friends than girl friends; why I am exceedingly selective about who I bring into my "inner circle"; and, especially, why, after having mostly gotten along with men, why I'm still single (at 47!). Now, of course this book isn't, and can't be, 100% indicative of all INTJ females -- there are environmental influencers that do affect and train all of us to behave differently or adapt to situations or social norms. For example, I'm an only child of divorced parents (when I was 6) and I went to 16 different schools. Thus, I was always off kilter and essentially in survival mode. Being as blunt as my inner dialogue would have me, I'd be nearly 100% alone in the world. So I adapted, and accepted people/situations for what was available. Additionally, I chose to go into a career (advertising) that was very collaborative and service oriented, thus again I adapted and modified my behavior. But, oh boy, was it at a great expense! No wonder when I burn out, I crash hard. I really do wish I had read this book (or rather, it even existed) earlier in life. As the book states, INTJs can learn (thus do) most anything, and quite competently. But, this doesn't mean that they should do so. This really should be required reading for all young female INTJs (and perhaps all, which typically is few, people in their lives). We mean well, really we do! Let us help!

[Mindy Clark · Rating 1 out of 5]

Wow. Truly underwhelmed.

I have a hard time believing this author is first an INTJ and second any kind of "expert" in typology. Bio at the conclusion gives only listed credential is an undergraduate degree in general psychology. On me for purchasing... I know better. This was the only book titling female INTJ. This sounds like the ramblings of a 20yo with no training in the specific field and likely inaccurately typing herself. We are rare. I suppose "we" are not programmed to author as there are no female INTJ experts available to relate with... so yet again I am left to realize my isolation. I will suggest any INTJ women seek a truly qualified expert to help understand functional stack and to learn Jungian theory. This book is just gobbledygook anecdotal inaccurate interpretation of the MBTI personality dichotomies. I declare inaccurate because for one, INTJs are actually dominant Perceivers as our dominant function is Ni... we are not quiet. We do not hide. We do certainly read! Final notes: this is a super short "pamphlet" at best and excessively over priced. If this was not a Kindle edition I would 100% return it. At your own risk... better and more in depth free stuff with a simple Google search. ~Just sayin'

[Rachel · Rating 3 out of 5]

A good look at myself and other women like me, this was truly a comfort to read at first. However, Caitlin's gratuitous use of colons and her reliance on stereotypes and her own self-knowledge did bother me somewhat. At times, I felt that she was overgeneralizing based purely on her own anecdotal knowledge and then I felt even more alone than I already am.

Regardless, I feel accomplished checking a book off my long to-read list. And yes, I know already what you're thinking... what an INTJ review! Oh well. Might as well embrace it, at this point.

[NoName · Rating 3 out of 5]

Made me understand myself (an INTJ female) a bit better. The book didn’t have that much new information about INTJs for me. Overall the book was all right.

[Claire · Rating 3 out of 5]

I found myself nodding along to a lot in this book but it makes quite a few generalisations and doesn't explore the complexities of cultural, socioeconomic and family backgrounds.

However, I respect that's not what Humbert set out to do and rather, gave a basic overview of the INTJ female. Although, I could have done without the use of "alpha female" and there were many typos in the book such as, "descent" when meaning "decent" and "thing" when meaning "think".

Still, an enjoyable book that gives insight into what INTJ women are like and how we operate.

[Ashley · Rating 4 out of 5]

"This leads many female INTJs to quit the 8-6 grind and start their own businesses. By becoming an
entrepreneur we eliminate the frustration associated with incapable coworkers and are able to do things our way/the right way without being told no. Eventually we get tired of working towards someone else’s dream and decide to start working towards our own dream."

[Christina Hull · Rating 5 out of 5]

I love to be alone

The biggest thing that others do not understand about me is that I love to be alone. I am married with 3 children and I just want my space......most of the time! Thank you for breaking the female INTJ personality down for me. Reading the INTJ girl gave me flashbacks of my childhood.....all I needed was a stack of books and I was 🙂

[Jennifer Paloulian · Rating 4 out of 5]

Insightful, but short.

[Rhonda Eller · Rating 5 out of 5]

Helps me understand why I’m different

Any INTJ female should read. It speaks to how life was as a girl and puts events in your life into perspective.

[Huang JingLin · Rating 4 out of 5]

Quick read

Needs better proofreading, but otherwise a short, sweet and easy summary of key INTJ characteristics. Useful for non-INTJs as well.

[Heather Freya · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is the user manual for INTJ women. If you are one (like me) or love one (wife, sister, mother, daughter, friend) you should read this. Very quick read. As an INTJ I would love more details 😊

[blob-num · Rating 1 out of 5]

caitlin is a pick me no doubt

[Mikaya Wallis · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book made me feel incredibly seen. There was nothing earth shattering about it. I wish there would’ve been more practical tips for how to deal with certain situations that occur but it didn’t.

[Christen Winters · Rating 2 out of 5]

Digestible and validating, but cursory and superficial, relying heavily of stereotypes. Easy read, but perhaps best suited for folks who approach typography like a horoscope column.

[Ali Reyes · Rating 1 out of 5]

Could have used a professional editor to catch all those mis-autocorrected words... seems a bit irresponsible for someone to write a book on a subject when they have Only first hand experiences and clearly state that they have never met another INTJ female...maybe interview a few as part of your research??
The insights were ok, but nothing I didn't already have on hand from purchasing the full 16 Personalities profile work up for the INTJ personality type.
Reads more like a blog than a book.