Understanding and Loving a Person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Biblical and Practical Wisdom to Build Empathy, Preserve Boundaries, and Show Compassion

Arterburn Wellness

by Stephen F. Arterburn, Patricia A Kuhlman MRC

If you live or work with someone who has narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), you probably often feel put down. You feel ashamed of your own needs. Your relationship may feel so out of control that you wonder if you’ve lost your sanity.
 
As a clinical psychotherapist for nearly thirty years, Patricia Kuhlman has worked with many people who have been victimized by another’s NPD. She joins Stephen Arterburn to explore:
Practical tools to break the cycle of pain and find healing
What narcissism is and how people become narcissists
The most current research about NPD
How to define, express, and establish personal boundaries
A how-to, self-care program including sample responses to narcissistic behaviors
 
Most importantly, Kuhlman offers validation, understanding, and encouragement. Being in relationship with a narcissist can be lonely and confusing. Find stability and truth in this practical guide.
 

Genres: Psychology, Counselling, Self Help, Christian Non Fiction, Nonfiction, Christian, Marriage

192 pages, Paperback

Published August 1, 2018

About the author

Stephen Arterburn is the founder and chairman of New Life Ministries—the nation's largest faith-based broadcast, counseling, and treatment ministry—and is the host of the nationally syndicated New Life Live! daily radio program aired on over 180 radio stations nationwide, Sirius XM radio, and on television. Steve is also the founder of the Women of Faith conferences, attended by over 4 million women, and of HisMatchforMe.com.
Steve is a nationally known public speaker and has been featured in national media venues such as Oprah, Inside Edition, Good Morning America, CNN Live, the New York Times, USA Today, and US News & World Report.
In August 2000, Steve was inducted into the National Speakers Association's Hall of Fame. A bestselling author, Steve has written more than one hundred books, including the popular Every Man's series and his most recent book, Healing Is a Choice. He is a Gold Medallion–winning author and has been nominated for numerous other writing awards.
Steve has degrees from Baylor University and the University of North Texas as well as two honorary doctorate degrees. Steve is a teaching pastor at Northview Church in suburban Indianapolis and resides with his family in Indiana.

Reviews

[Sarah · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent initial resource for loved ones of a narcissist

I have one relative diagnosed with NPD, which led me to choose this book. After reading it, I have been able to identify several other narcissists in my life and past work history. I drank in the affirmation and practical help like water from this book. It is a good starting place filled with references to other helpful books and programs. I also appreciate the faith-based encouragement in this book.

[Linda Roberts · Rating 5 out of 5]

Unmet needs

This book gave me a better understanding of the men I have married & why I seemed to always be in pain. My needs have never been met in the relationships as I'm trying to make them understand what I needed. I now realize they were unable to meet my needs as they had too many of their own needs unmet.

[Steph Bolton · Rating 4 out of 5]

I thought this book has some good advice and really brings hope for changes in a person with this personality disorder (that is often described as unfixable). I do believe it could use an update as some of the examples given from modern society are now dated and there are some typos. But overall it's very helpful.

[Yiannis · Rating 5 out of 5]

A targeted Christian approach to NPD.

Very useful for those who seek information about a person with NPD. A very comprehensive to the point book with excessive suggested bibliography. A must read.

[Carol L · Rating 5 out of 5]

I am studying this personality disorder because members of my family fit that description. I am learning so much and especially like the suggestions in Stephen's book. It is possible to exist beside this addiction. Well, he didn't call it that, but anyone who does certain behavior over and over fits that description in my book. I am especially interested in seeing how its affected grown children in later years, how they may exhibit the same symptoms and "take after Mom or Dad". You have to learn about it to be able to understand the behavior of a Narcissist. I am so thankful for Stephen Arterburn for giving me the knowledge I need to cope with this problem. All who live with these people definitely need to read this book!